Secondly, the author should be questioning the morals of her family before using them as a proxy for society.  
thirdly, the comment that we are taught that it is acceptable for a man to see women as desirable completely ignores the role of "nature" and biology.  It is natural to view others as desirable, the question is how does one respond in away that is righteous (and lawful).  In closing, I'm glad that the author put her version of the truth out there, but I would encourage her to let her version of the truth expand to include others' version and to arrive at a greater truth.