I am putting no words in your mouth.

In the "Can Fr. James Martin's bridge hold up?" thread, you makes statements such as "For men, sex is a purely selfish act." and "Love-making,' another liberal term to whitewash what is often an act of total self-gratification." and "when I have sex with my wife, I only care whether she is a willing participant, To the extent that she enjoys it just increases my pleasure, but that is an ego thing more than it is an unselfish loving act on my part. ... The unifying aspect of sex, imo, is the pleasure given to the man makes him less likely to go looking for sex from another woman and for both parties to threaten the end of sex if the other is caught with another."

Your "I do not have sex with her to express my love for her ... and, yes, sometimes she enjoys it and sometimes she does not but does it because it relieves my sexual urge." shows that you actually agree with what I say

Your stated attitude towards sex is simply selfish, and not loving.