Never read Havelock's work, but consent can be a little murky. Someone can be darn drunk, and still have another shot (of tea).

Crimes are relative to the circumstances.  If someone breaks into a house to steal, it's a little different than stealing from someone stumbling down the street, drunk, with a handful of 20's at 2 am.  Both are stealing, yes, but that's why there are degrees of crimes.

I wonder how the sale of rosy palms compares to vibrators. Females are the choosey ones, and males spread seed.  Pretty basic stuff, been that way through history and across cultures; even species. That is why there are many more female prostitutes than male ones.  

And women wear cloths that accentuate their looks for themselves?  Tube shirts, tight pants just for the comfort.  And hair and make up just for fun in the mirror, and maybe their girlfriends.

Of course, none of this justifies poor action.  And the Hillary joke, not funny; have to wash the eyes out with bleach after reading that.