I completely disagree with you Amy that the woman does not have her family as a priority. First off, not everyone thinks that birthdays are "monumental". Second, why shouldn't she be able to do what she wants for her birthday? My SIL gave my brother a once in a lifetime trip to a private golf course that they only let so many non members in a year for his birthday because she knew it would make him happy. That is unconditional love, when you want the person you love to be happy. Just because a person gets married and has kids does not mean that they give up their wants and likes. And it sure as heck does not mean that she does not love her family or that she is cheating or mentally checked out. If it was reversed and the man went on a fishing trip with his buddies, no one would care. Give women a break already.