This wasn't a school matter until the boy shared the video at school.  Then it became a school matter.   At that point for the school not to address it would be negligence.   The girl had every right to be upset and to press charges as most people whose privacy had been violated would.   Making out has been going on for even before Allie's time, the problem is the phone that makes these boys amateur pornographers, their low maturity level and the apparent lack of morality in recording and sharing the act without the consent of the other person.  The girl should not be made to feel bad about speaking up about this, nor should she feel guilt about the boy's suicide.   Everyone has choices and everything he did was wrong.