I developed a 2 part question in my university years.
Question 1 - If your boyfriend gets you pregnant, is he equally responsible?
Question 2 - If you decide to abort, can he challenge/veto it?
When asked separately the typical response was Yes for 1 (it takes 2 to tango), and No for 2 (it's my body).
When asked together it becomes apparent that in the first case a man has an obligation for which he has no rights.
My point is that half the women I asked would get angry and the other half would say, I see your point.
This is much the same. You can have an honest discussion with half of men and women but not the other half.
I also seem to remember something about "equal, but not the same."
Social justice is an admirable goal while being difficult to achieve under such conditions.
Self interest being what it is.