Paul, thank you for your comment.   Note that others brought gender into the issue, not me.  Note also that I said regardless of gender stabbers generally try to blame the stabee.  The gender differentiation was introduced by the other commenters.  I fully agree that people must be considered innocent until proven guilty and that is especially true when the stereotype says they are guilty as is the case here.

You see commenters here jump to conclusions and project their personal beliefs especially when they encounter opinions that differ from their own (which I view as knee jerk, thought free responses).  

How men and women relate is vital to societal success.  On these pages, women are universal powerless victims who have no means to alter the treatment inflicted on them by men.  Thoughtful people know that this is not true.  Relations between the sexes will only achieve peaceful tranquility (IMHO) when all humans involved assiduously work to defuse situations.  All are responsible.