You can't violate a restraining order because someone "treated you like dirt".  Seeing a person against whom you have a restraining order, three times in one week in places you regularly frequent - grocery store, post office, gas station - is evidence that you are being stalked.

Do you think it is likely that this woman slashed her own tires, or spent considerable money to have a GPS put on her car, in order to incriminate her ex?  It's possible but doesn't seem at all likely, especially since the man's name was on the GPS contract. 

Stalkers are by nature obsessive, and also compulsive blamers who hate those they blame.  They often kill their targets.

I respect your dedication to looking at both sides, but with his name on the contract, I don't see how he could possibly be innocent here.