THe rage McLaren described I think accurately describes the feelings of most women at least at some point in their early motherhood years.  Since we are talking about gender differences here (taboo in some circles) A tip for the guys here I learned in one of those kind of books:  men and women tend to "weight" things differently in an emotional sense.  You may feel working your butt off at a job to support your family is a big thing but she may feel in the moment it's just one thing.  Like your salary is one thing, changing the sheets every two weeks is one thing.  You might feel your salary is like 1000 x the work of changing the sheets, she doesn't.  Simple solution is do a few more small things.  P.S. If your partner is good looking and used to being showered with attention in her youth the rage will be 10x as bad.