Situations like this are why marriages should be renewable contracts with solid exit rights for men... but of course marriage is only a one-way street these days to punish the male and hand all his past, present, and future earnings over to her. Even if, as has happened, she parks herself on the couch the day after the wedding and goes to town on the Rocky Road, hey, it's all his fault. All this lovey-dovey stuff in marriage is crap, if she is not holding up her end of the bargain to be a desirable wife then husband has every right to show her the door. Feelings be damned. Expectations should be known before going in, though - even better just don't get married, it's the worst possible contract for a male to have ever existed.