Don't be too hard on the clergy, especially the hierarchy. They are largely made up of unformed Asexuals who believe they are speaking for God rather than with their unconcious sexuality. We need to teach them about themselves so the fact of asexuality in the clergy becomes "a thing." Only that will change the debate, as well as the assumption that Jesus had to be single, as if having an attraction disorder was possible for the perfect man. Like any Rabbi, he was married and we know to who.