If women become successful, and call themselves feminists, they would be middle class. If they don't make it, even though they may have once thought of themselves as becoming feminist, they are no longer. They are nobody. Or they may be activists. But feminists are those women who learn and study and teach feminism - academic feminists. Some women may perceive themselves to be feminist, but often have only rudimentary knowledge of feminism. Feminists - the kind you never hear from in places like this discussion, are too busy with their careers to take part.  No, I do't think too many young women would be feminists, though some might call themselves that.

And now you are addressing the problem of how this situation, of female invasion of non-traditional careers for women should be handled. The men who do get coddled, as it happens, are the middle class counterparts of female feminist academics.  They get to keep their careers - and probably get a whole lot more that makes them happy.