Guess what, when I was 14 I got blind drunk with my older sister, was kicked out of a school dance and stumbled alone to a friends house to find his 18 year old brother alone in his basement bedroom. Even though I tried to fall asleep in his bed  he called my parents.  Several incidents like this followed in university as I explored my tolerance to alcohol and my sexuality in bars and at parties. Luckily I was never raped and multiple men protected and took care of me. There is no rape if there is no rapist.