I think it's more the blurry definitions of rape and sexual assault.  It's more like when someone gets drugged and sexually assaulted people tell the woman "don't make excuses".  When women get sexually assaulted people ask what they were wearing, what THEY were doing.  The fact that one in three women is sexually assaulted is an indicator it's widespread and a part of our culture.

So no, I don't think it's made up to make men look bad - I think it's an attempt to acknowledge that sexual and assault and rape aren't the womens' fault.

Like just the fact that people are arguing in this thread about whether or not women are to blame for this is an indicator.