Your point 1: I find this to some extent in my Church too, though not at my current parish. The Church has largely ignored single people and has treated the single state as a toll road to the real destination: marriage. You don't know how annoying this is. It's one reason why a lot of young people don't show up or don't get involved. Yes, I have heard of parishes that have actively recruited young people to talk about the vocation of singlehood, but they are few and far between. What that young woman from Michigan was putting her finger on was not just being a young adult, but also being unmarried. Unfortunately, since more young people are staying unmarried than ever before, this can result in a serious disconnect at the parish level. More unfortunately, the pope's response is "Get married." Needs some profound rethinking. Stop thinking about men and women as "complementary"; start thinking of them as sharing common ground thru non-romantic friendships . . .