Ignore the provocateur 
MOST men are decent, far too many are not...but they are still a minority.
Said as an old woman who worked in the trades for 40 years with mostly decent men , who was raised by a decent man, and raised one herself.
Goofs like the provocateur here stand out so don't worry about being able to spot them, pretty much like Mr Trump.
And should we accept this side of Mr Trump as engaging in  "banter" ?No, 
Showboating, strutting, swashbuckling, ... and those are the nicest things I can think of to call it before even getting to the disgusting stuff.