I like being a man. I try to be a good one but reading the discourse around #menaretrash I don't know if I qualify. I like being physically strong. I seldom feel afraid for my physical safety. I am physically large and I know how to use my body to be intimidating; to ward off threat. I have been in two fist fights as an adult, both in response to criminal activity aimed at me and my family. I like that I responded with aggression to these incidents. It was appropriate and I regard it as part of my responsibility to protect. I have never physically confronted a woman although there have been several times when I have felt that anger rise in me.

I am a father to a daughter. I sometimes tell her to change what she is wearing. When I do so I hear the voice of some of my friends telling me that I have no right to do this. I won't let her walk to the shops alone after dark. I cross my fingers every time I let her walk to the shops alone in daylight. I'm also long winded 'cos I've run out of