That is the right question.  I speak from experience when I say it was much harder for me to have sex as a young man than it is for men now.  And that was in the 1980s/1990s.  I remained a virgin way later than most kids are today, and it wasn't for a lack of trying.

So I agree with you, and it supports my point that the Church's position on sex is a good one.  What good did premarital sex do for me?  Fun, I suppose.  And I was too young to realize how my one-night-stands made women feel cheap and used.  I wonder whether that feeling of being used still exists with women who lose their boyfriends after a few nights in bed with the guy they think is "the one?"