I find all things sexual to be of much less importance than some.  I find the worst aspect of rape to be the chance of disease, pregnancy, or other physical impact which is very serious indeed.  Violence associated with sex is also a very serious matter.  The sexuality itself is obsessed over by many, but in an objective quantifiable sense it is much ado about nothing.  Somebody who swings and breaks someone's jaw does very serious objective damage but would typically receive a substantially lighter criminal sanction than someone who touched something or did something regarded by another as sexual even though the only consequence was to provoke anger.  The obsession with "sexual" misconduct is an oddity of our time and culture.  Some would say it stems from American puritanism.  It was not always so, however, with many aspects of sexuality far more tolerated years back and no it was not out of disrespect for women.  All had better perspective both men and women.