I know what you mean. Trump intentionally made this call to insult the woman's husband. Here's another one of his inconsiderate phone calls!  Please watch it so you know the truth about this lousy man.

http://www.cnn.com/videos/politics/2017/10/20/gold-star-widow-phone-call-trump-alencar-jnd-full.cnn

Then after watching it explain the difference in the "alleged" call and one you can hear for yourself.