"he made it clear his two teenage daughters, of whom he has custody, were top priority and that his job as an air force pilot was his next priority". Women complain that we men lead them on and are not honest with them and yet here is a man who was completely honest and up-front and she expected him to change. He made it clear - as you say - so what is your problem. Stop trying to change him. Stop being "hurt". Stop expecting him to change. You are, at best, third on his list. So why have you stayed with him for a year if this is not what you want? I think that you have not been honest with him. You signalled agreement and understanding but you had your own agenda. I'm glad that he's not giving in to your devious attempts to change him. I'm glad he's sticking to his priorities which he made perfectly clear to you.