What is the ideal? Male head-of-household, woman obeying her man, two children, a house in the suburbs with a white picket fence and a dog - a golden retriever that sleeps in the back yard? My ideal is for every child who is born to be wanted and loved and have a car in g adult to read to him/her and someone to take the time to ask his/her opinion and someone to take him/her on grand adventures to the museum or hiking and make a big deal out of a chunk of obsidian, to instill wonder and "love them to learning" (Maya Angelou) I don't have children Bill, but I guarantee you I'd make a better parent than at least half of the people who do.