I have come to the same conclusion, Littleway.  On the one hand, the inability of so many pro-lifers to have a more comprehensive vision of embracing life (e.g., supporting child care) makes me wonder at their image of male-female equality.  Then, there is, as you note, the practical impossibility of outlawing abortion outright in the civil sphere.  I have begun to urge a dialogue between both sides of this issue.  I believe that if late term abortions were either outlawed or made highly restricted while first trimester abortions permitted, we could arrive at a workable compromise.