You also did not follow the last part of my statement where I was pushing for an ideal.  I do not want the 8 babies by 8 daddys.  That gets into my statement about where we are and we are going as a society.  We are promoting our own sexual gratification no matter what the cost.  Abortion is a way to limit the consequences of our acts.  I also realize men of any stripe do not have abortions.  They may, however, lose children that they want because the woman they were with chooses to have an abortion.
Men and women also have different roles to play in the life of a child.  The father shows how to treat women and the mother shows how to treat women.   I also realize that this is not always done right.  Does it make it wrong to promote and encourage the ideal?