"He gives gifts to whomever He wants regardless of gender."

That's true, but He does not go contrary to what He has inspired "holy men of God" to write in His holy Word.  It is obvious that the Holy Spirit will fill anyone who surrenders themselves fully to God, as He did at Pentecost.  But, it is equally clear that He has not given women leadership authority in the church.  The only way to get around the plain statements of Scripture is to call Paul a culturally conditioned chauvinist, ignoring the fact the even if that were true, he would not write contrary to what the Spirit inspired him to write.