Just to be clear, Ms Soh has a PhD but is not a research scientist. She now writes popular culture op eds and articles. Her mission is to provoke with opinion rather than discover. 

That being said, your question is a good one. Alas,there is no answer.  If you review the academic literature, there are a variety of 'camps'. One 'camp' says there are male and female brains and that such differences can be ascribed to attitudes, aptitudes and behaviours. This particular camp is very popular with the media because they produce great headlines. Another camp suggests variation is too significant to say there is a male and female brain (the mosaic camp). Yet another camp says there might structural differences between male and female brains (but wide variation), yet we do not know enough about the brain to begin to infer attitudes, aptitudes and behaviours.  

The latter two camps continue to question and discover and probably represent the largest group of academic neuroscientists.