And yet if I used a sperm donor the rights of the child to benefit from the incomes of both parents no longer seems to matter. In that case what the woman wants trumps the well being of the child. And if a woman gets custody of the children and then decides to move to a different continent the children's right to have two parents active and present in their lives takes a back seat again. And if a woman repeatedly frustrates access orders nothing ever happens to her and the children's right to see the father takes a back seat again. It is no wonder men feel the system is rigged against them.