But we can't be quite like Him. If someone grabs our throat we struggle.  If someone attacks our spouse with us present, we counter attack.

And we should.  God gives us our intellect, our body, our will, our conscience to protect the common good. 

It's a duty, not an option. 

We don't know that Jesus never physically intervened against a bully or a vandal, etc.  

He lived many teen and adult years beyond our view of Him.

We do know that He possessed all the human virtues...justice and fortitude and charity...in their perfect state.  He was manly, Perfect man. 

Justice is giving one their due and preserving the good.   It's highly likely in those days that He intervened to stop some heinous act in progresss.  It stands to reason that over those hidden years such an instance took place in his view.   And He used his human nature to bring about the good.  Not using an ounce more of his manly virtue than needed, and using it in a perfect way to bring about the good.