Most of the people whinging about how wicked, evil, mean and nasty the letter-writer is would be cheering him on if he were a woman. "You go girl!" "Don't settle!" "You deserve a man who respects himself enough to take care of himself!" If you really think this guy is so bad just fire up your limited imaginations for a second (as David Eddie thankfully manages to) and reverse the genders in this situation. You'll realize what hypocrites you are. I've bounced back and forth between being svelte/muscular and a being a tub of lard. The difference in the energy and interest that comes my way from women in the two states is gargantuan. We're all shallow. (Even [especially] the holier-than-thou on this thread demonizing the letter writer.) The grown ups among us figure that out and deal with it. There has never been a human culture where all members had equal status in the eyes of the opposite sex.