There are a lot of things wrong with this letter-writer. I suspect his wife is eating to stuff down the feeling of being 'not good enough' and to avoid realizing that she married a jerk who only likes her if she looks like an athlete. If he can't even write in a letter that he loves her, you can be sure he doesn't express it to her, either. What a miserable way to live. Dave is right, he should set her free to find a man who will truly love her.