Girl I hope you read this, I know, I know, I'm different, he is not like that, you're not and he is. When I read your story I could almost finish your sentences, oh just wait a little longer, we are only living together for the kids, really? Ever watched a lifetime movie? Look any time a male, says don't worry I will divorce my wife  for you I jutst need more time he is either lying to you or himslef or both. Think , think, they have been separated for years? Really how? For gods sake get back your dignity it is more important than a guy who lives with the mother of his kids and tells promise to the  other.