I think the columnist was addressing a rather different issue than the specific case you mention here. I have also observed this  over-praising fathers. One of my colleagues often complains when he has to care for his two children on the weekends when his wife who is a nurse works. Another male colleague complains about being a sandwich generation, caring for children and aging parents. While I applaud their efforts, many women of my generation worked full time, cared for elderly parents, and children and every one took it for granted. Moreover, the workplace now gives them far more support and flexibility than many older women like me  had. I'm sorry, Kim, that your situation was so dire. However, I think the snowflake point is valid.