in Hilo

I think that you are playing with words, using the word "male" in two different ways.

The traditional meaning of "male" is biological and this does not change.
From this point of view, surgery etc. makes you an altered male, not a female.

There is also this concept of "maleness" which results from personal disposition, personal history, culture and the biological environment of the body itself.
It is an abstract word  used to describe a certain set of shared personal characteristics.
It is known by examples, which can be quite different from each other.

Perhaps we need some new words.
One of the traditional ones is "tomboy", which recognizes the occurrence of maleness (or boyness)  while at the same time recognizing the very real distinction between a biological male and a female.