Maybe the lesson is to choose a partner who shares your values.  Sixty years ago my dad who worked  up to 60 hours a week had no problem rolling up his sleeves and doing dishes or cooking, even though my mother didn't work.  My brothers learned from him and as a result they are great cooks and dishwashers especially when a big family get together calls for all hands on deck.   My sister-in-laws Italian father was horrified that my dad helped out in the kitchen, especially clean up, but my dad just simply said that many hands made for light work as well as fun in the kitchen.  Most men I know help out, but maybe it's a family culture thing since I certainly worked with women who griped about doing it all.