Thank you Carolyn for your thoughts and deep clarity. If I may...

"They stay silent..." because going to some ill trained pastor with the abuse he says "Don't go to the police, I'll handle it." And from there, the story gets worse. Much worse. So I better stop writing, because what a conference president suggests years later, when another young women is abused, based on the first unqualified inaction of the first pastor, another ill trained man, in a higher church office, once again says an even more detestable thing. And so it goes. The silence and inaction is disturbing.