and how is that done exactly ? It's no wonder boys today go crazy, high divorce rate, absent fathers because some are just bad people others are crushed by the system and society.  On one hand we say be a man do this list of things to be a man, then the public says you can be a man but don't be too manly or opinionated because then you are a sexist. Step in and help the helpless and protect the innocent etc BUT you better not fully act like a man and try to change things because that is somehow crushing someone's free choice. Boys today are given so many mixed signals from society its sickening. They need to be taught women are to be respect and they are the farer of the species, old school man growing up stuff that isn't popular. Instead we them down with weight and garbage from the start. No excuse for rape or being a weak willed man.