When you act cheap, you will be treated cheap.  its amazing to me how such modern, progressive and  so  socially evolved people become such basket cases when their have a broken heart. They still have the emotional fragility of  Victorian maidens swooning on the  couch  when a man is unfaithful. The human condition is today as it was for your grandparents who you no  doubt consider so terribly old fashioned.  No matter how you  delude yourself, you can't escape the fact: you cheated to get him so don't pretend to be all innocent when he cheats on you to get somebody (some body) else. No amount of feminism can change that.

There is another old saying " Sadder but wiser".  Are you?