I agree with respect to the language. I would think it more appropriate to speak in educational rather than command terms. Speaking from the male viewpoint, I would have greatly appreciated it if the women with whom I have been physically intimate had made the effort to educate me about their particular preferences and responses. A man in bed with a woman who won't do that, which in my experience is most women, spends a great deal of time thinking "I wonder if she will like this". 

A woman who simply demanded that I do what she wanted would not have a long relationship with me. On the other hand, a woman who took the trouble to educate me would find that I would become a much better lover.