Seems to me I read about a woman who was in the position of being faced with death after several failed pregnancies, I think 3 or 4.  She went ahead anyway and she died.  They made her a saint.  I have always thought that the church put more stock in the baby than in the health and life of the mother.  Just look at South America.  Women continue to have children she can not feed and they die of hunger and disease or are abandoned to the street.  I can not agree that a loving God can countenance this behavior.    Every family must have the right to decide for themselves how many children are safe or how many they can feed and clothe.  I see a member of our parish that has had 6 pregnancies in 6 years.  She is exhausted, pale and lethargic and she is pregnant again!  Only men who have never had to decide on the health of a wife with another pregnancy entail would say it is God's will.  Sounds like Pilate washing his hands of the consequences.