jane, that may be part of the problem. women and children dont need protectors since time began, men decided they are the protectors (dictators) of the house, not an equal partner in it. their word is law, right or wrong. its 2016 and that just isn't how it is anymore. most single moms know, that at least one, man couldn't cope. exceptions are rare and, yes, there are single dads that know the same of one woman, but statistics support deadbeat dads over deadbeat moms.