No doubt that last line is exactly what works in the military.  I'm not simply talking orders...I'm talking true leadership.  There were guys in command of me who I'd gladly obey, and there were a few in command...well, like the NCOIC of my shop said, "they'd be the friendly fire casualties".

I'd be curious to hear her story...how she felt back when she was in the service, how the change decision came about.  It's completely foreign to me.  It'd be like someone telling me to simply make the choice not to be heterosexual.  Uh, can't do that.  It's how I'm wound.