(2 )Once a young man or woman begins to live a duplicitous life, it is not unusual that the "bad" self begins to yield to a self-fulfilling prophecy which begins to take more self-indulgent liberties.  And from there the spiral of behavior is downward with the person caught in a double secret life.  If you can connect the dots you can see that this is classic behavior in clergy sexual abuse cases.  This is just one of the situations in which Church teachings on sexuality inadvertently becomes one of the causes of abhorrent sexual behavior.  All of this is based on a 2000-year-old concept that each sperm contains a tiny human being that is waiting to be planted in a female who acts only as a garden in which the already complete human seed can take root.  Any deposit of this seed outside the female “garden” is gravely evil.  Now through science, we know better and the resulting shame and guilt in perpetuating such teachings is just plain wrong headed and can lead to disastrous results.