You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Abraham Lincoln
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Many on this post; are playing the very games that abusers play to "work" someone "up".  Deceiving, being "oblique", trolling, are verbal methods frequently used by abusers to put their victims "in their place"...I think we all did a very fine job, in playing our roles of modeling just what that scenario looks like.  Thank you to all of you, for your contributing comments.  You all had me going for quite a bit there.  I am a pretty straightforward woman...so I guess my role was that of the victim.  Touche for proving Ms. Williams point to the tee!  It sure showed me how easily women fall into this role...and some men as well.