ericnorstog, yes, your holding women on a pedestal is one way to view the world.  But today, women demand equality which means equal rights and equal responsibility.  The stereotype of defenseless women can no longer be the excuse.

So I don't know what happened in the murders.  I think you do not either (I geuss).  Projecting obsession on the part of the dude does not fact make.  I do think that the woman likely hurt the dude.  Whether that was offensive solely because of his deviant nature or because she really shafted him as only a woman can, I don't know.  But I do believe that the first questions should be directed to determining why the two were in conflict, and attempting to learn from specifically what happened how to prevent the conflict in the future.  Not all humans are as sanguine as you.  Women and Men will get violent.  It is best to respect limits and for all parties to give the golden rule a try.   Ignore cause, one is stuck with effect.