I have little sympathy.  

Those women (men) who are driven to the same extent as men (women) to achieve something or to express themselves in what must be, at certain times of most days and nights, one of the most high-pressure businesses, are going to endure it.  Their choice.  Those who can't or won't, will leave. For another restaurant at the very least, another occupation perhaps at best. In such a race-against-the-clock environment, tempers fray.  Patience is veneer thin.  Like it or leave it. 

Beyond that, sexism is built into an industry where men can dominate a traditional "woman's place." ("Get out in that kitchen and rattle those pots and pans.  Roll my breakfast, 'cuz I'm a hungry man...")

Don't want to carp, but when I see a phrase such as "...from cooks so unwoke they are in a coma."  "unwoke"? (Try, "from gender-numb cooks."  Question: 1. Where's the editor?  2. Suggestion: now you've been a guest columnist, back where you belong...er..are happiest.