Exactly! What he calls the husband to is a Servant-Leader....the one to lead by example and take the first punches....protecting the family.  He is supposed to lay down his life for his wife as Jesus did for the church. That cannot be done if the wife keeps trying to take his job and manliness away from him. Any team that works well is a team where all the members know their strengths and duties and do not encroach on the other member's terrain. This is exactly how marriage works; we cannot fight over roles and be expected to enjoy the journey. It will be exhausting, frustrating and this is exactly where we stand with divorce rates today....