Maybe Merchant Marine personnel weren't technically part of the armed forces of this country, but a lot of them died after their ships were sunk by German U-boat in WWII. No war materiel, no war-fighting.
Maybe Army female nurses didn't carry guns, but a lot of them died protecting soldiers on the Bataan Death March and in the hellholes that were Japanese-run POW camps.
I believe there were women pilots ferrying planes to various WWII theaters of operation, to free up men for combat flying, who were shot down. 
You are right, sometimes we spread the net too broadly,  but people who died in service to this country under hostile fire, deserve to be honored.