A lot of women could be defined as feminists...but they never rant.  They never march.  They rarely complain about being discriminated against.  They're too busy LIVING as feminists to squander their energy in anger and outrage.  Or even to read the latest edition of "O" magazine.   They're too busy succeeding in the work world, succeeding as mothers and as wives, and chances are, they've married men who appreciate the kind of feminists they are.