Y'know, I'm sorry that you were sexually assaulted and by someone you trusted. If it helps, I'm married to a woman who was raped when she was 6 and also at 12 years old. I listen very sympathetically to her vent about it even to this day, 40 years later. So though I can never understand how sexual assault feels, I can honestly say that I sympathize. But as I do with my own wife, rather than encourage a victim's mentality, I try to encourage her to move on rather than dwell on things that can't be changed. "Don't let one's past ruin one's future" is one of my own life tenets.

That being said, no where in my scenario did I refer to a man walking in on a woman already drunk. Rather, I expressly state two people agreeing to going out and having drinks TOGETHER. You're letting your own anger cloud your objectiveness by attempting to change my words to relate to your unrelated personal situation.