As a therapist who works with female survivors of abuse and runs a support group for Adventist women who have been abused, I can tell you that some Adventist men (probably more that we think) ARE bashing their wives. And Adventist fathers and uncles are molesting their young daughters. And divorce isn't such an easy solution when one is part of an organization that does everything possible to prevent it. In fact, pastors, who are usually men, often do not believe the victim and if they do they still encourage them not to leave the marriage. This is another great argument for more female pastors and elders.