Hi Jacob. I appreciate the point you make here. It is more academic and nuanced than my 1,000 word article / column has space for. As it is, space considerations and focus required me to leave out a lot of worthy material and points. This topic is important and there are so many different ways to approach conversations about it. I do think there is flexibility for common ground between the points you raise and the point of my column. When you have the opportunity to mentor / influence a child / son / brother / friend it is your opening to have the conversation, share information, and develop a proactive answer to your question - "Now, what do we men do about us?" The reality is that anyone - girl, boy, man, woman - can be the one who hurts or the one who gets hurt. I would also add that   the criminal justice system does make the distinction between sex and violence: Sexual assault is a violent crime. Consensual sex is not.