The "huge distance between women and church" is also true with respect to young men (and older men). The problem is manifold, much of which has to do with rejection of the blatant sexism that has been made part of a theological tradition built on the Garden of Eden myth of femaleness (Eve) biologically secondary to and derived from The Male.
Evolutionary science does not support this premise, realizing that femaleness is the ground-state of "Mother" Nature, from which comes maleness.
This cultured deception of theological tradition, of dominant male sexism, is profoundly damaging to the human psyche for it radically endorses the violent bases, not just of the over-reach of females by males, but also for males to exert competitive over-reach of nature in interests of self-advantage.
Church cannot in good faith abide the radical self-alienation of males from female dependency, and of Church from being one with and modeled on the Sacrament of Natural Order (Naturalis Sacramentum Ordinis).