Sharonreinbott,

I completely understand your point of view. I also am aware that when you're immersed in something so emotionally powerful as your work it is easy to think that is the total view of the issue. My viewpoint comes from the cops on the street and situations I have seen while riding with them. 

Men and women are wired differently by biology and hormones so they each respond to violence differently. Women are far more likely to report domestic abuse and seek help and society has developed structures to support them. The reasons statistics don't show what I describe is because a woman beating-up on a man is more likely to be charged with assault instead of domestic violence because the laws often assume the victim of domestic abuse is female. A male victim is more likely to try and break-off the relationship where a woman very often tries to salvage the relationship, thus ending-up as a repeat victim.