LW1 - I agree with the below, your husband was all for a parent caring for your child and children until it was him.  This is about his insecurities and issues around not being the breadwinner and it being obvious to everyone that he isn't...while you are both working he can ignore it.  This is not unique. It takes a confident male to overcome this and he is obviously not; is he proud of you? Its shame that despite how busy it will be that he does not see this as an opportunity to re-skill or go back to school or explore an at home job if he has interests in that direction, or take a hobby and make it something more.    There are lots of great nannies and babysitters so be open to exploring that as well..good luck.