I'm discussing the comments above where men are citing that men experience more violence (physical assaults)  than women (rapes) and that somehow rape isn't as serious. I'm arguing that men, statistically, encounter violence in more areas of choice: such as the army, gangs, bar fights, police work etc.. versus privacy of home, work, walking home. Assaults on women are outside the "rules of engagement" and way less predictable hence the hypervigilance. Most men can let their guards down at home, church, work etc..There is such a thing as expected risks and to understand the psychological impact of an assault when not expected ie sleeping in your own bed in a peaceful city versus violence in a war that you trained and deployed to is very different.  No twisted logic here.. just someone who has survived several attacks by men and who spends a lot of time trying to communicate the impacts to people who think we "have nothing to complain about".