Domestic abuse  was a part of life since man lived in caves.  It was present in my time, in my family...but not in my home.  And that was because the man in my house was respected, honored, and loved.  I took the role of provider when times called for it.  But, never did I take his place as head of our family.  He washed, he cleaned, he cooked, when it became necessary.  But he never lost our respect!  The American culture has redefined who and what we are.