None of this emotion-driven pseudo-"progressive" psychobabble addresses the biological REALITY that if you're constructed on a "template" incorporating an XY chromosomal pair, YOU.ARE.MALE.  If your template incorporates a pair of X chromosomes, YOU.ARE.FEMALE.  Like it or not.

The fact that your RNA and the organs and tissues derived therefrom don't conform to some imaginary "configuration" you find preferable doesn't qualify you for sympathy or special treatment.  I want to be six inches taller than I am, look like Antonio Banderas and have muscles like the Incredible Hulk.  But I'm not and I don't.  I-I-I'll just have to try and get over it and face reality.  If you can't do the same, that's your problem, not mine.