It isn't just a "religious" thing - you would probably consider me to be "religious" even if I don't, as a Christian - I don't care if anyone uses birth control and used it for many years, before I got a more permanent birth control solution, as I didn't want kids in my 40's and beyond... Abortion on the other hand, seems to me to be barbaric.

I recommend that you watch Monty Python's "The Meaning of Life" and pay attention to the musical number early on "Every Sperm is Sacred." I don't know if that will lend some perspective, but it will probably make you laugh.