When I was a teenager in the mid to late 1950s the church could have used Martin Buber's message of relationships being I-Thou rather than I-It, person to person rather than person to object.   The church taught that certain things were wrong.  Period.  That perhaps helped me not think of girls as sexual objects, a term we guys did not use back then.  But it taught me to think of them as occasions of sin. No positive message about relationships, about how to relate in a Christian manner.