a bit more temperance, self-restraint, small delays, learning not to slake pains with a slurry of common or prescription medicines.

Oxy given for a serious operation with the instructions "take as needed" becomes an opportunity to talk with God about the pain He is letting her experience....Lord, I can't listen well to what my daughter is asking of me, I'll take half a pill and not a whole pill,, help me love my daughter and You more.

She learns "to deal" with pain with God, not feigning to be a superwoman, but a capable and mature child of God, seeking opportunities to grow in intimacy with Our Lord through her recovery from surgery.

This is Christian maturity; this is a loving relationship with Jesus Christ, dealing well with the realities of illness, sanctifying every moment.

This is my wife.