Thank you for this nicely written personal testimony/apologia.  Many of us have been putting what begins as an intensely personal "feeling" under pressure and seeing the same results. That a large number of thoughtful, self-aware, well educated, and well-lived Adventists whose families have been part of the church for decades—over a century, for some of us —reach similar conclusions brings up nagging questions:  Who gets to tell us what an Adventist is, to begin with?  To what degree is this an issue of self-identification? What process, politically, or culturally, has been at work when leadership loses sight of outcomes and privileges the means to get there?  What do we mean by "inclusiveness," and what is at stake, really, when we allow boundaries to shift?  Also: What has happened, here, when a thoughtful, intelligent person is obliged to write anonymously, lest social and family support—never mind a paycheck— seem to be at risk?