You overstate your case, I believe, ThePapalStormtrooper (what a provocative name to choose).  You operate from the assumption that most Catholics do not engage in open discussion with the Church.  Wrong.  They operate from the experiences of the Church hierarchy NOT responding at all except with a regurgitation of the rules.  Pastors and priest and bishops for the most part do not teach - they lecture and that drives a whole lot of folks out of and away from the Church.  People have been marginalized, neglected, pushed aside and abused in various ways, and told to follow teachings that are downright wrong and foolish (Humanae Vitae is the best, recent example).  I like your approach to dialogue, but I believe you are mistakenly of the belief that the Catholic Church has been open to that sort of process.  A glaring example of such failure is pointed out well in MSW's essay here that we are commenting on.