The United Church of Christ has solved all the ecclesiological  problems you raise. I've decided it's easier to be a part of a Church which has room to move with the Holy Spirit rather than wait for the Roman Church to listen to its best theologians and stop hating Pope Francis. I experience the presence of Jesus in the simple monthly communion (which I receive from a woman) as much as I did in the daily, elaborate Mass. It's not that one is better than the other, but if, after reading the ecclesiology of Schillebeeckx, Kung, and Rahner, why keep beating my head against the cathedral walls? The elements of salvation exist in all Christian communities, so I trust Jesus to find me and save me in the UCC.