JBob, you reference the Last Judgment in Mt 25.31ff. 

May I invite you to assist me in a little experiment here? I think everyone in our society, whether Christian or not, has a vivid image of the Last Judgement scene (Jesus sitting on his throne, sorting out the good on his right and the bad on his left) but we tend to mis-remember what Jesus said, what virtues and vices Jesus ascribed to the good and to the bad. Its not that we don't remember, but rather we tend to substitute our own morality into the mouth of Jesus. 

If you are willing to be a data point in my ongoing survey, first please pause and write down the kind of activity you think Jesus lists as worthy of heaven and worthy of hell; and then go read the passage. 

Was I right about our tendency to read our morality into the scene? 

Then reread your last message..."its not about someone else"... ironically, it is entirely about others.  ;-}