The basic problem is not who we are ordaining or not ordaining but a deeper issue of what we expect with ordination.  That issue is Continence - the rule that you cannot have marital intercourse and celebrate Mass that day or the prior evening.  This practice is misogynistic and it reflects the rot in Catholic sexual teaching.  Being with a woman (or  a man) or being gay or a woman does not render one impure to offer Mass.  There I nothing intrinsically impure about sex.  Once we get this one corrected, everything else falls in line.