I hear you. That kind of thing can be annoying. But I can't see any ethical way to use  the necessities of life as leverage to compel people with whom we disagree to change their views and behavior. And were we to try, I can't see how we could carve cases like Simcha's out for special treatment, because the objections are so subjective. Another person would look elsewhere for examples of unconscionable free-loading. The most I can see such efforts accomplishing is a kind of punishment, which would be more likely to harm children than to have its desired effect. Given that, it seems safest to try to see that all children get what they need, regardless of how ill conceived we may think they were. 

(I used to read Simcha's column at the other NCR, but it's been a few years, so I went back to check her out, and learned that they sacked her last year. Apparently off-color language and criticism of Trump-supporting Catholics were her downfall. But maybe you knew all that. )