I agree with you that the wise person listens to those with different life experience. So why doesn't the institutional Catholic Church practice it? In the institutional Church, not having any experience with a subject is no bar to making pronouncements on it. We have synods on the family with no married people in attendance, male-only meetings about women, an encyclical on contraception issued by a man who was very likely a virgin. The statement "you don't actually know what you are talking about" does not resonate with those making Church policy.