My family history/genealogy can be traced for 500 years is some detail. During the late Reformation era in southern Europe the Catholic Prince Bishop who ruled our region decided to expell all non-Catholic citizens of his state. Our tribe being considered heretics ( Lutheran ) were forced to abandon their estates and trek approx. 1000 miles to north eastern Europe, during which experience about half of them died.  Never mind later wars, Napoleon, Hitler and Stalin ....

We revisited this ancestral region some years ago and I found the particular gentlman's crypt in the Cathedral of his capital city. Being a concientious objector and not prepared to whine I had my better half take a picture of me in front of his marble plaque with an explicit digital communication to him and history .-)

Made me feel better  .-)
Then we returned to Canada - and I have never whinged about an irevocably fixed past but worked, paid taxes ..
I suggest this psychologically satisfying protocol to all whiners.