You haven't answered the question so I will put it another way.
You or I are divorced and remarried. Bear in mind that a civil marriage contracted by a Catholic is invalid. We go to a priest in Poland and he tells us that under no circumstances whatsoever are we to be admitted to the Sacraments nor can we take part in the life of the Church unless we live together as brother and sister.
We cross the border into Germany and the priest welcomes us with open arms and says we can go to Confession and need not repent of our adultery, receive Holy Communion and take part in the life of the Church like anyone else and continue in our adulterous relationship.
Two similar cases, two dissimilar outcomes. Now, one outcome must be right and one wrong; which is it?
If you are going to say that both bishops' conferences are right, what does the Catholic Church teach on this issue? Lucky in Germany, tough in Poland? In Poland you will go to hell, in Germany you won't.