I respectfully disagree. Can't argue with your experience though. And apparently every church choir, with whose beautiful help we "pray twice", occasionally is prone to unChristian relations (does anyone know of an exception?)
Yet Pope Francis has proposed, particularly to young people, that we should make a mess. There is no way to rejuvenate the church without getting more people to take responsibility. Clearly, the people won't take more responsibility without being given more freedom to take part in theological and governance decisions. That would lead to lots of errors and disturb the comfortable pew, igniting confusion and disunity. That's an unavoidable cost of change and progress.
If we're too scared to unleash the people, the tsunami of secularism will continue to destroy the church.
We must have faith that the Holy Spirit will help bring new success to the church over and above some chaos and mistakes along the way, if we're willing to try to get out of the comfortable pews.