Nothing uncivil here.  A diverse viewpoint.

One small group of people need to give up on the idea that words, ceremonies, events, apologies can re-write history "and take their pain away". They need to face the harder realities, and seek the beautiful grace God wants them to receive.

Life is more than emotion.

The way to peace is through the Sacrament of Reconciliation, particularly the 'purpose of amendment' that should accompany every trip to the box.

The will - aided by the intellect and grace - needs to form a decision: I can no longer harbor or nurse resentments. I can no longer let injuries and resentments "take up room" in my interior life, room that crowds God out.

Catholics need to realize that secular psychology of the 1970s can't help them. The overused concept of "closure" a manifestation of pride, a desire to re-work events to one's own desire and intentions.