Are you a Catholic? If you are, what on earth does that mean to you if you're ashamed of its history, reject one of it most central tenets (changelessness), and probably much of its teachings ("rules"). If you want to make a religion of feminist buzzwords and "Jesus loves me" emotionalism, go be a Protestant (I was) -- plenty of likeminded people among them. Just leave the Church intact for those of us that love it -- ALL of it, including the "rules" and "outdated" Theology.

Look, I love Catholics -- even laps-y cafeteria Catholics -- but I simply do not understand why Catholics who don't believe in some/most of Catholicism always want to change a 2000 year old Faith for everyone to suit your preference, rather than just privately ignoring  whatever you don't like or finding a Protestant sect that shares your beliefs. It is amazingly selfish, and utterly pointless -- and yet It's practically a cliche for "I-Was-Raised-Catholic" types to have their own private laundry list of changes.