"...we seem to differ on is how to best preach and teach the Gospel message..."
We may not disagree.  
Preaching and living the Gospel are different from attending the public prayer (though one may argue that attendance is part of the latter).  I'm in full agreement with the sentiment that, many times, homilies often seem to be simply "phoned in", with little thought about how we should take the message into our own lives; much of the time the message isn't even the hard lesson we need but simply a platitude about the Golden Rule - and there's no accounting for musical tastes.
These aren't the substance of the mass, however.  
I guess my point to Matt is that it is not incumbent on God or the Church to make us feel loved or challenged or whatever; that is a childish understanding of religion.  On the contrary, we have a duty to God and one another to participate in the act of public worship, regardless of our feelings about it.