You are so right.  I planned to take my secret of repeated rape by a priest as an altar boy to the grave. I stuffed down the emotions for years but things like smells would trigger horrible panic attacks. Once in a while I had bad nightmares/terrors. I was lured into the Milwaukee Archdiocese bankruptcy, the archbishop asked all abused to come forward and promised resolution and healing that I knew I needed. It took me months to find the courage to come forward. 
The archbishop lied and spent five years and millions on demeaning legal efforts to throw every victims case out.  We all were emotionally devastated.  This betrayal was more than I could take. I have frequent severe panic attacks and night terrors so often that I am afraid to go to sleep. I truly do not know how long I can hold on.  
It was too much to ask for a church to reach out with loving concern.
Unfortunately, I learned that most of my fellow Catholics want victims to be treated well.
Just not the ones in their diocese