"...you want to ... complain that other people are less Catholic than you."
Not at all.  I don't judge that anyone is less than I, let alone less Catholic; I am well aware of my faults - my wife ensures that.  I'm merely commenting that if the Mass is build around "hospitality, homily, and music" as is stated,  it is missing the "source and summit of the faith" and focused on the ephemeral, unnecessary parts of the Liturgy.   I am not saying "get rid of 'em", only add the one greatest element around which the others must congregate.  Otherwise, protestations to the contrary notwithstanding, the Catholic Community does become a social club that rises or falls with a change in pastor.