Is thiswhat you mean...when I see an "important" Catholic Mass being televised and note how the clergy always merge in the front of the church and how there are precious few women involved in this liturgy, then I am turned off by the organizational Catholic Church.  But when I am in my parish and surrounded by caring people (particularly women who are doing the work of the scarce deacons and priests) then I am" at home" in a community and feeling a divine presence.