Yes, there must be compassion for pedophile priests, and in that respect, the Church has done a stellar job, compassionately protecting some of them for decades while they raped children, moving from parish to parish, even country to country.  And you are completely correct, once a victim of clerical rape has become an adult, it is incumbent upon them to forgive the rapists, even if they do not ask forgiveness.  And, naturally, the unrepentant Church that aided and abetted the rapists, and deified the pope who led the efforts to aid and abet the rapists, would be deserving of forgiveness, except that, as the One True Church, it never needs forgiveness.