I am disappointed to see that you know so many poorly catechized catholics.  Using modern definitions of "love" "conscience" "mercy" etc., with all the touchy-feely connotations prevents us from fully appreciating how the teachings of the church have lifted us above such distressing emotional ties.  One may love one's neighbor, in a church manner, while cordially despising him, emotionally.  We need only look to our bishops for guidance, as God's chosen teachers of the faith we can rest assured their actions reflect Jesus' teachings, provided, of course, their actions comport with the ancient traditions of the church and the entirety of canon law and the catechism.