Thank you Elizabeth.  Yes... God in the face-to-face somehow corresponds to the chasm of the broken bread in the Mass and esp. in the distribution.  Even beyond the symbolic!  It is a special moment of Eucharist in my opinion [and many others’ too].  I’m old-fashioned in some ways [I consider myself to be progressive, even Leftist] but if someone wants to remember someone at mass and money is stipended and given to the poor [and we skip all the purgatory fears] then Jesus [in the poor] has been served again in the name [soul] of the deceased and a good thing has been done.  It won’t alleviate troubled consciences [afterall—we live out the purgatory into which we’ve put deceased members] but it might help the grieving and strengthen us to do more service for the Kin-dom.  Thanks for your remarks and ministry.