It is disheartening to see a believer trying to conform with worldly ideas that run counter to the Gospel.  Jesus described an ideal in which a man and a woman abstain until they are joined as one flesh before their entire community, then selflessly support each other for life, and bring children into this loving atmosphere and instill a yearning for this same ideal into them so that one day they do the same.  An unwanted child would never enter into the picture.  For a Christian, or anyone, to fall short of this ideal and take the consequences of that choice out on the unborn is wrong.   We are to accept the consequences of our sin, of which I have plenty of my own.  If you look through scripture, you will never find a straight definition of when life is considered to start.  The point of the Gospel is not to lay down the law as some of the Old Testament did for the Jews.  But does anyone really think abortion gives human life the dignity Jesus expects us to give it? .......