No, we must be Christians that are "first to forgive."

"Think nothing of it..how was your day?"  Just that quick and natural. 

We should be so quick, practiced and refined in our forgiving that the other person doesn't even realize we're helping them!!

The reason we make such a big deal of "offenses" is, of course, because we think we're a big deal!!

We lack humility.   We say that we appreciate the virtue of humiliation, at a distance, but we abhor humiliation.  We violently retreat from it.  

It's the sting we hate, the injury to our reputation.   That's why pride is behind every sin & most defects.

Take plagiarism.  It's a form of lying...but it's often done for vanity purposes, and in the end, at its root, vanity is an issue of pride, wanting to control how things go, in this case with our reputation. 

If we had true humility, we'd be able to forgive far more easily (and far far more quickly). 

And we wouldn't keep bringing up offenses from years ago, or even minutes ago!