I agree, John, as that has been my experience too, even though my sons were immersed in Catholic school and parish activities as kids.  Their cynicism began with the pastor's emphasis on incessant fund raising and solidified with the child sexual abuse horror.  Their children neither understand nor respect the institutional Church's positions on women and LGBT persons, even though they have all attended Catholic schools through high school, and one has chosen to continue her education at a Catholic university.  

Your final sentence is absolutely true for me and my family.