You indeed chose wisely, my friend.  AnonAJ possesses a level of insight and understanding and compassion that is truly rare.  She is a gift for all who see with the heart and mind as well as the eye.  
There is one thing I wish to remind you of from an exchange you and I had several years ago as well, and perhaps AAJ recalls this as well.  It seems that a far safer place for you is as far from the Catholic Church as you can get.  To stay so involved, especially when the possibility of change in the culture of abuse grows more remote each month, only keeps the deep wounds open and unable to be healed.  I say this with some objectivity and also a true lack of knowing your full situation, so please take it as being as much of an observation as it is an offer of advice.  As you discovered with AnonAJ those few years ago, the love and support you have so hoped for comes not from the institution or its hierarchy, but from the members who practice the faith in the ways we are supposed to.