You know, Dennis, I understand some people are shy, etc., but it seems to me that in a Christian community, people ought to show their caring for one another.  We are, after all, human beings, and we need to have a way to communicate with each other.  

A woman once told me that when she mentioned to one of the parish staff that no one had noticed that she had been absent for a good while from the reception desk (where she volunteered), he replied that the parish was large, and not a village in Italy where everyone knew each other!  Not exactly warm, Christian behavior, is it?