Dear anniec.  I agree that it is helpful, even necessary, to understand the context as it would have been appreciated by those to whom Jesus spoke.  And I agree that "hardliner literalists" on indissolubility have put on blinders that largely miss what Jesus was saying.  However, I think you may undervalue the continuing presence of the Spirit in what has been handed down.  It would help to add to the telephone game metaphor the presence of the Spirit in the hearts of those who listen.  It is the stories that resonate in the heart that get repeated, by and large, even if there are some literalists among those who listen.  As Karl Rahner noted (TI, v22, c13) revelation is continuing as the Spirit resonates through the hearts of those who listen.  Your very reaction against "hardliner literalists" is a reflection of the Spirit who resonates within you.  At least that seems a good possibility.  Only time and further listening will tell.  I remain hopeful that the church will come around.