Ah, "Buster" you do know that stats from RC sources claim most fallen away RC become either "nothings" or (here in the USA) evangelical mega church attendees. Only a few join us in the mainline churches where they are most welcome. I firmly believe it has nothing to do with dogma and everything to do with parish RC culture. At the evo-fundie mega space, anonymity is allowed in such a big crowd just as it is in your 2500 family suburban parishes.

But in our mainline churches it is like "Cheers". Everyone knows your name and you are expected, at least sometimes, to go to coffee hour or socialize. I'm convinced most suburban RC would prefer root canal to obligatory socializing with semi-strangers. Run to that car in the lot while the recessional hymn is still playing!