Joy in suffering is masochism, pure and simple.  There is no intimacy in this perversion.  It is an attempt to control others by asking them to be joyful, as God wants us to even when we suffer physical or emotional pain.  This is Pure and simple perversion.  Too bad it took until recently for some of the Church leadership to begin to understand that sadism and masochism are interconnected.  Unfortunately those in charge of the infamous cult of Opus Dei still cling to the idea that they can control people by perverting them.  The idea that God pre-plans our lives and we should take joy in our suffering is false theology.  It is an attempt to control by perversion.  So ED, please go back to engineering where you might have a better understanding of what  you are doing....