Combine the two ideals and you are beginning to get the idea.  The male head-of-household and woman obeying her man ideas are often misunderstood.  As I have stated in  another post men are not supposed to be brutes and dictators.  To understand what I expect for husbands and wives, read Ephesians 5:22-33.  For the husband part of it pay special attention to verse 25,  noting this part "just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her".  This section is too often overlooked by both conservatives and liberals.  If the husband loves his wife in this way, there should be no problem with her obeying him because he is taking her wants and needs into account.
I do agree that there are a lot of people out there that should not be parents.  As I said your ideal is part of my ideal.  
A few other things, although it does sound great, it does not have to be two children or a house in the suburbs or a dog.  It is supposed to be a husband and wife with their kids loving each other.