So if you self-identify with a parish so that your kids can attend a Catholic school or you just want to be on record supporting the place, it becomes okay for some nosy ninny to butt into your personal life?  Umm, no it really doesn't.  Unless the priest suspects abuse, he has no right to butt into the happy personal lives of adults.  They are adults; he has no right to lecture or shame them.  As I pointed out, if he is so bored that he has time to investigate the marital status of everyone in the Catholic Church, he should find something to occupy himself that would be more constructive.