The missing element in Tom's replay is that Jesus was infinitely happy to empty Himself for us.   

Tom either has a rather flattened and stale understanding of God's love, or he needs to sort of construct a sad strawman of the Church's actual teaching in order to be able to elevate himself and have something to write about.   He wants to distance himself, because it builds a following.

Jesus instead greatly desires to "rush in" to save us from ourselves, hourly, even if it is humiliating which is very different from what Tom is doing.