"We've gone from the sacred need for gluten to the dangers of romantic fantasies--and we wonder why folks think we're too focused on rules, scrupulosity, and non-essentials."

I don't think anyone said there was danger in romantic fantasy.  You, however, seem to confuse romantic fantasy with lust.  I don't pretend to be above a bit of lust myself --- I love it, actually --- but I don't confuse the two.  Seems you're new not only to Catholicism, but to romance.  

Funny you mention "Daydream" by the Lovin' Spoonful.  Custom-made for a daydreamin boy.  I happen to sing that song in my 60's band.