I suggest we stop talking about this and just disregard what the hold-out hierarchs say. There are plenty of ex-priests who still have their state credentials to do weddings. Catholic families with gay kids should go to them to perform essentially Catholic gay weddings. (There are also probably gay priests who would privately bless such unions). Indeed, for solidarity's sake, divorced Catholics and normal Catholic couples should simply ignore the institutional Church until it apologizes and performs weddings for everyone. It won't take long. Weddings are big business for any parish.