It's a mighty bold (and unfounded) claim to say that 4 men who have given decades of their lives in service to the Church as pastors/bishops have managed to do absolutely nothing for the poor, sick, or homeless. Leave the ad hominem "they are doctrinally conservative so therefore they must not care about the poor" bit at the door.

As for the rich young man, it's plausible that he had a change of heart; doesn't help your point at all. Jesus still let him walk away, downtrodden, due to His rigorous demands on the young man's life. 

And of course Jesus didn't tell followers they could not marry! Celibacy is a recommended way of life for those who feel capable of living it. "Some make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Those who CAN accept this SHOULD accept it." - Mt 19:12

Put all these questions aside though and my original question still remains: how is it consistent with the Gospel for Francis to govern based on creating tension? Why not seek communion?