You don't heal anybody by using steel wool to rub in iodine on open wounds, either.
 
 
Many of the evangelical churches are well known for their welcoming stance [people are trained to spot new people and go out of their way to make them feel at home their first time attending services].  The Catholic churches still doesn't do a good job of training their 'greeters' to be that perceptive.  There needs to be some REAL warmth and maybe some flyers explaining what activities the parish offers [child care during Mass, family activities, adult religious interests, etc.].  This would give new-comers & visitors an ideal about the 


The "I'm ok, you're ok" mantra is as old as the hills already.  Maybe you should start REALLY reading and reflecting on what people are hungering for spiritually in today's world.  It surely isn't the Spirit of Jansenism with which you seem to be infected.