This is a very insightful comment. The church is paralyzed by an inadequate and insufficiently Christian anthropology. The paralysis is evident especially in a clerical culture which is entirely dependent on the discipline of mandatory celibacy and on the exclusion of women from the men's club. The closet is a very unhealthy place, and men who have lived in it for all their lives cannot and do not make good decisions.
<As long as the 'confession card' can be played by adulterous heterosexuals, gay Catholics don't stand a chance versus the hetero norm.>
When Chuck Todd suggested to Rudy Giuliani (with his own history of infidelity and promiscuity) that he might not be the best person to defend Trump in the aftermath of the Access Hollywood tape, Giuliani replied, "Everybody does that. I just tell my priest." This was the most virulently anti-Catholic statement in the campaign, but the Trump pinned the 'anti-Catholic' tag on Clinton.  I think Giuliani makes your last point perfectly.