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Your observations take us into the realm of prudential decisions. What is the wisest policy for the Catholic community on these issues in interacting with our ever more numerous secular world?

I say we must first separate contraception and abortion. 

RE contraception. The wisest choice is to accept that contraception is above all an internal problem. I accept that the overwhelming majority of Catholics accept contraception as not intrinsically immoral, so that our official position is out of step with our own de facto beliefs. In such a circumstance, it it the height of disrespect for our own to take a rejected official position and push that in the public sphere as the best of Catholic moral thought, as a Catholic conception of the moral good for all of society.

RE abortion. Although internally the latest biological evidence suggests our current official notion that fully human life always begins at conception may be overly simplistic, Catholics broadly reject abortion.