They disagree with YOU. You are trotting out your own version of Cafeteria Catholicism, saying that you can disagree with the social teachings.

Support for women's ordination perfectly legitimate, saying that no Catholic can dispute the papal stand hows the shallowness of your argument. Supporting gay CIVIL marriage is a matter of civil liberties. The official stance on abortion is simplistic. First, it is based on the OPINION that a blastocyst is a fully-fledged human being. Second, I keep asking a question which, to date, every single one of you "pro-lifers" has dodged: In the case of an abortion to save the life of the mother -- and yes, it is a rare occurrence, but it does happen -- you anti-abortionists say it is immoral. So how is a dead fetus and a dead mother morally superior to a dead fetus alone. Would you care to answer this one, or are you going to duck it like the rest of them?

No, YOU have set up standards for who is a Catholic, which is hubris on your part.