A  "just don't tell anybody....." approach would certainly avoid a lot of "pushback" in this world.  For example,  a person who openly despises Catholics could suggest that the "problem" is created when "they" reveal themselves as members of this hideous faith. It would be far better for everyone if they  just to concealed  their beliefs rather than incite his displeasure.  The fault clearly is with the person willing to tell the truth about who he is..................