Like you, we sent our kids to private and state schools.  They weren't interested in Catholic education, even Jesuit.  The scandal turned them off completely; and in the meantime, their eyes were opened to the overt misogyny and anti LGBT.  The church has lost them forever.  I'm pretty much gone since their open and enthusiastic support of Donald Trump, the least religious or spiritual man they could support.  He worships money and power--very similar to the hierarchy.