I just pointed out that we aren't really supposed to know. Basically to reserve judgement. It's one way of looking at it. Of course you can deduce someone's behavior as being helpful or harmful - but to be absolutist about it and treat them any differently than with the grace and patience you've been supposedly shown by God is where I tend to land on those issues.

As it relates to this issue there are a lot of LGBTQ people who have received harsh judgement from their families, communities, and churches. I think that kind of treatment is a bit hypocritical. Jesus didn't treat the people he spent time with that way. He improved lives through servitude, forgiveness, and love. He only outwardly judged the pious. Too often people who are hurting receive judgement from Christians. "You can't live here if you choose to live that way". That kind of thing. I'm not saying you are doing that, but I'd implore you to hear that side of it.