Regarding "insufferable".

Read Francis, he gets it.  

Here: https://cruxnow.com/vatican/2017/02/28/joy-tribulation-mark-true-christian-pope-says/

There are so many Christians who really really really don't understand "the Cross".

They think any suffering is awful...that we should run from the Cross.  They want a cross tailored fit also. 

The Cross is where we can meet Christ.

Francis has spoken about this SO many times. 

Once Christians get over themselves...they realize how incredibly joiyful it is to live a fully Christian life, which as Jesus, St James, St Paul, St John, St Peter tell us..and pope francis too...tell us involves the Cross.

But the sign that someone doesn't get it is that they use words like "insufferable" "miserable" or they make silly and chidlish references to hairshirts.

Living the Cross well, and happily doesn't mean doing different things...it simply means learning to convert the ordinary things into constant and intimate conversation wtih God.