Maybe, invite your "perky" young ones to your house AFTER the activity to discuss candidly the event. Corporations call it, an after action review. What was good, what was messy, what never to do again. All of that kind of thing is way behind me in my own long ago. Now, I find more in the contemplative community. Let me give you the link to last Sunday's Liturgy from a Benedictine Monastery.  The homily grows right out of Scripture. Very Humbling.
http://www.saintjohnsabbey.org/videos 

Native American women have the concept of elder woman. I think of Mary and try to imagine how she would have 'eldered' the apostles and the disciples.  Jesus at 33 would make Mary a 40 something at the time of Pentecost. I spent years silently pondering her Holy Saturday. Now, I'm pondering her post Ascension. So many women need her quality of bearing witness. 

I read to hear how other denominations are responding. Latest subscription, The Quaker Journal. And then there is the Mennonite Magazine.