Hey Kevin,
I never heard back from you but continue to pray for you and others I have been in communication with here at National Catholic Reporter. Kevin, it is my hope and prayer that God can use me as His instrument to help those caught up in the sin of impurity like I was (in the case of your example of Joseph being in an active sexual relationship with his second wife without having obtained an annulment from his first marriage) like He did with Evelyn.  God can use me as His instrument to speak His truth in love to someone, but then it is His (God's) grace that the person will accept or refuse.  This grace does not come from any human being - only from God and this grace is not forced on anyone.  It is a gift, freely given by God to those who want it.  I believe Evelyn accepted (after a period of a couple of days to ponder our conversation) God's grace (her heart was open) and she was able to immediately stop having sexual relations with her boyfriend). (Continued)