There are things that I like and don't like about the church.   But sometimes you have to take accept the negatives to stay in relationship with those that give your strength and happiness.   

I was lucky to have a pastor Kevin Korver, who read a ton of books and often used references outside the realm of the strictly religious experience.   He had lived in a mostly black neighborhood in his father parish in L.A., he often told the story of his personal Shame, when he met a dying AIDS patient who saw his fear and said "why don't you shake my hand preacher boy?'.   He was not your run of the mill rural/evangelical Iowa pastor.

The image of that church's evangelism was Always on the positive, believing in the strength of God's love for all.  I never heard condemnation of the non-religious in that church.   They offered kindness, acceptance regardless of your current status, including criminal and any skin color.   Not every member followed his lead, human's are like that!  ;-)