Nonsense...but I understand why you have to convince yourself of your position.  

It is not I living in a alternate reality, John.  That the Church teaches is what they do...What you decide to do about it is up to you.  I know, for some odd reason, you want to remain Catholic - but have the teachings change to accommodate you.  That actually a control issue that YOU have....

Anyway.  Tell me just one other thing.  Can you ever disagree with anybody without a personal attack?  Just wondering.....