I would agree with you, especially in regard to leaders and all Christians "leading by spiritual example." That's the bottom line, Shar_M. I was in three countries in Europe the last week and a half. One can't help noticing how secularism has taken over there, especially in northern Europe,  despite churches doing all they can to accommodate the population. The Anglican Church in England, for example, has bend over BACKWARDS trying to accommodate their flock -- allowing same sex civil unions among their clerics, openness to contraception, women bishops and priests, etc. -- yet still keeps crashing (hemorrhaging at more rapid rate than any other European nation -- dropping by 50% in just two decades). Even with their 26 unelected bishops sitting in their legislature/Parliament -- at the very top of the power structure -- they haven't been able to stem the drastic decline.
So what you say counts: holiness, spiritual example, simplicity, honesty. All the other changes don't seem to work.