I agree with all of what you say until it becomes an excuse to do nothing to change Rome.  Neither Jesus or St. Paul tells the people not to correct their leaders when they do obvious harm to the body.  It is part of being Christian to fight for our church to remain Christian in its actions & its teachings.

Iron sharpens Iron but if the iron on both blades has been allowed to grow dull then no blade can become sharp again.

It is right and necessary to demand a teaching of hatred be immediately done away with as a matter of protecting the church leadership & laity from becoming increasingly self-destructive, just as keeping this bias as a law which is against the Gospels & the humanity of all women has resulted in diminishing the church from what it could have been.  

Jesus told the apostles & the other male & female disciples, that if there is a wrong done by any one follower to another they should bring it ultimately to the whole church body if it is unresolved-Much like Democracy!