As another old gay man, I shook the dust of the Roman church off my sandals years ago.  After receiving orders in the Old Roman Catholic Church (valid but illicit!) I was excommunicated and happily so.  At that time I vowed that that I would administer the sacraments to anyone requesting in good faith and I have done so.  Even now, when no longer affiliated with any church, I do the same.   The church and the sacraments do not belong to the clergy or the Curia or even the pope.  And they need to be reminded of this often.  After all of the soul murdering sexual, physical and emotional abuse over the centuries, the hierarchical church has no moral grounds to speak on most moral issues.