What you write shows little sympathy. Your call to just "offer up" one's pain is easily seen as saying "just suck it up, no matter how bad it is". When I wrote that my wife has an incurable illness that is killing her by inches, you offered nothing in the way of sympathy, just your standard pietism. You say that those who are bullied are "playing the victim".

Showing some sympathy for those who are suffering would be nice. It certainly would be Christian.