I can't imagine what language a theologian would speak that teenagers at the drive-in would pay attention to. Perhaps the problem is that the Church tries to speak too much about sex--in place of the spiritual space necessary for other things--because it is actually easier to name acts that people understand and can prescribe or proscribe. The context of sex is the tough one, not the sex acts. Who goes to the Church for understanding sex acts? 


Who knows the ways of people to use and exploit, to love and hold up, to gossip and dismiss, for instance, much less discussed topics. The Church has never tried to talk so much about anything else as it does about sex, and some subjects well deserve more attention. And why on earth or in heaven would women turn to the Church? If we look at the Scriptures, I don't think people really come away with the sense that Christianity is about sex; I think there should be more proportional relationship between what Scriptures and Church talk about.