"...when the orthodox look at the way other major..., and especially patriarchs who are in union and communion with the ArcbofRome...."

I would tend to agree with you on that. Rome does not treat the 23 Eastern Catholic Churches as equal to the Latin/Roman/Western Church enough. Rome could do a lot more. I should say, the Curia could do a lot more as could Western Catholic bishops do more. Western bishops in the States, for example, still can't deal with married clergy in the Eastern Churches, nor with the tradition that only celibate priests (monks, for the most part) can be bishops in both the Eastern Orthodox and Eastern Catholic Churches (if ever the celibacy requirement was dropped for US/Western diocesan priests). That would exclude Latin/Western diocesan priests from becoming bishops, among other things. With that said, I think Western Latin bishops are just as happy as Russian Orthodox bishops that ecumenism is at low ebb. Ecumenical politics consists in ignoring these facts.