You're describing every friend I have had over the past 70 years, and very close to describing me, although I'm hanging on by short and ragged fingernails.  We all made it through (joyfully) the transition post-Vatican II and reared our families in active faith, but the hypocrisies and ugly underbellies of clericalism following the child sexual abuse, along with the institutional Church's positions regarding LGBT people, misogyny re women's ordination and the reactionary reigns of both JPII and BXVI did us all in.  None of our children have remained Catholic, although we all sacrificed to provide Catholic educations for them.  I no longer feel I have abandoned the RCC but that it has abandoned all of us in its self-worship of the institution.  It is 500 years out of date intellectually, especially in light of science and human science information.