I do not need to "get over" anything, least of all the expectation that the successor to Peter will confirm the brethren.

If the same situation is presented in Argentina, Germany, the USA, and Italy, and in one case the couple is allowed to cohabit, the next exhorted to go through the annulment process, the next to not even bother getting remarried  - just cohabit, and the last to live as brother and sister, the unity of Christ's Church is gone and the teaching authority abandoned.

That is a big deal. If I did not think it was a big deal, I'd be an Episcopalian or an Evangelical Lutheran or some other "an" where the rules are easier or non-existent.