I've read this entire thread now. Your thesis is that we are to blame for the abusers, that if we had followed the rules more closely that this could not happen in God's good church. 
I am one of the abused. It has colored my life and my faith. I have been the chair of the abuse committee in my diocese. You are furthering abuse with this (nonsense). You, yes you, excuse the abusers with this Jansenist caricature of the works of a loving God. Stop. Do not further the abuse that so many have undergone, that so many have courageously shared for the benefit of God's people, with this unwarranted magic. You really should know better, and if not you need to take that to prayer.