If the bishop wants to avoid "scandal of the faithful" he will immediately rescind these devastatingly unkind, unloving, disrespectful, scandalous rules.  Who is he kidding about what creates a scandal?  This very un-Jesus like treatment of a suffering beloved person and family painfully going through the loss of a loved one is unChristian.  So, too, is it unChristian to let those NOT involved in the life of these grief stricken people claim some sort of "caring" about how they are treated.  

Way to reward the utter selfishness of busybodies and their judgmentalism, bishop, and to make a mockery of real grief.  THAT is the scandal.