Interesting book - but I don't think -as far as I can tell since I haven't read it  - highlights the common core of former,silent, or grim and bare it females in the RC.
All of these women great and wonderful as they are wield some sort of power that the Church has to acknowledge even without doing it in a full hearted way.
I can't with a fully informed conscience of Catholic education from preschool on to two graduate degrees attend liturgies on a regular basis. I take from my mother the teaching of spiritual Eucharist.
The issue of changing church community works but only for awhile.
The Dali Lama believes that respecting your cradle religion is necessary- as do Ego Psychology folks like Rubin Blank who say we have to deal with the parental cards we have been dealt with. 
So how to reconcile?
I take it breath by breath and hope for a horn that will break down walls and instead afterwards build bridges.
Reconfiguration is the only path to Ressurection.