Maybe this will help: I'm classified as lesbian, or is it Lesbian? Is it a noun, maybe a proper noun, or an adjective? Certainly there's a descriptive in the word. Maybe Gay Woman? Is this the tack I want to take, correcting people to make sure that they refer to me and mine as "lesbian women" or "gay woman"? There are, IMO, words that clarify something about us without necessitating further qualifiers: She's American. (American woman) They're gay (that group of people) The Christians. The gays. The lesbians. The druggies. The Socilaists. The transgenders. 
Anyway, if you're the Seda from the article, I applaud your courage in coming out and I very sincerely wish you and your family all the best.