I, too, am sorry that your mother and you had this awful experience.  
The thing is that I don't think that the hierarchy cares about the fact that people are not receiving the spiritual assistance that they need.  I think that US bishops only see the numbers remaining stable, as mostly Latino immigrants fill the pews being vacated by others.  World-wide, I think that most look to the "growing" numbers in the global south, totally unconcerned for those who are being left without priests.  
The Ukrainian Catholic Church had married clergy for decades (for a good part of the time, in the US, RC bishops opposed married Ukrainian Catholic -- then Greek Catholic -- priests), but now, for almost 40 years, we have had married Ukrainian Catholic priests in the US.  So, there is no need to look to the Orthodox or Anglicans.  But the RC hierarchy likes to keep things as they are, all else be d....d. Or, at least, it seems this way to me.