Pandora, this answer is not given with pique. More and more people are describing the liturgies, the machinations, the attitudes of the church as not conducive to their faith. I say this as a churchgoer. It's on us when spiritual people who feed the hungry aren't fed by the church. It's on us when a man who consistently promotes fear and hatred and demonization of the other is the pride of the churchgoing vote. I believe in the people of God, but I find them more and more outside the walls rather than inside. Instead of following the precepts of God, those inside the churches are led to reject..... and then Evangelize (!) in that New Way that will work this time.  

To rephrase bluntly, many people find a reality in God and the worship of God elsewhere. That can't be right. It's on the churches to fix that, to be the universal church our name claims for us. The first step to repentance is admission of guilt.