But you missed a point, too, Trid.  The fact is that being Catholic does not of necessity entail entering into the NO vs OF argument.  I am Catholic and I participate in the Liturgy of St John Chrysostom on an almost weekly basis (there are specific occasions on which the Liturgy of St. Basil the Great is used-- but it is very similar, and I have not been at a Liturgy of presanctified gifts for a while) in a Catholic Church.  You would actually get along very well with the pastor who is as conservative as you seem to be,  even though he is married.