"Should I stay or should I go." This question has been facing Catholics for the past fifty years or so, if not longer. For me, after the sexual abuse at the age of twelve, it was only a question of how long it would take for the divorce to become final. I attended Catholic High School and graduated from Catholic College. But the binds were still there well into my twenties. Eventually, for my own mental health, I was able to break the binds and move on with my life. I was the second oldest of seven children with three brothers and three sisters. I believe that all three of my brothers broke the ties more out of disagreement with the Church over other issues and not the sexual abuse that I suffered. My youngest sister, who was born the November before I was molested, left the Church because of the sexual abuse crisis in the Church and more specifically the fact that I was abused. My oldest sister worked in the Church for a number of years and recently retired.