Jim,

You are correct; both Jesus and Paul offer examples of avoiding unnecessary offense.  They both also offered categorical examples of just the opposite.  Compromise and accommodation are not two terms I'd use to define either.

Patterson's point is certainly not that those opposed to women's ordination have bent enough.  He battles on - women must be ordained to the gospel ministry.  It doesn't matter how often the church collectively says 'no'.  It doesn't matter how accommodating church policy has been to his unbiblical doctrine of equality.

This is a question only the authority of scripture can answer.  And Patterson's argument ignores that fact.