Actually you're wrong God decides and has already.  We choose God's decision for us or not.  There's a difference..  Ours - like Jesus who said let them come - is to welcome all comers not exclude and especially children, weak, vulnerable, strange, different.  To such belongs the kingdom of God.  Such welcomers are spirit filled - to use your words - not not excluders.  Your statements draw lines over which comers must cross.  Jesus drew rings of inclusion and acceptance that enable people to belong and leave behind hurt and shame in order to create anew. It's not a Binary thing Clive.  People learn not by being pulled and shoved over a fence.  We learn by participating and being included in a movement of growth, development and relearning to love as Christ loves - unconditionally.