I am a straight Catholic woman living in community with two gay women, one of them also Catholic. We are all professionals with more than a hundred years of service to the community between us. I know nothing of their "bedroom activities", as Tom Z sums up their identity as gay women. They are not interested in having anyone know anything about their "bedroom activities". Asked about their lives, they speak of the essential work they do in the community (we are a social worker, a doctor and a lawyer) and the loving home life that fills and heals their hearts and souls, allowing them to serve the community the next day. For people like Tom Z, they announce their "bedroom activities" when they introduce themselves as a family. For me, when they identify themselves as a loving family committed to serving the community, they announce the beauty of family and the shared joy of serving the community, EVEN the people who reject them. They are the most Christian, generous women I know.