So, if Tobit is irrelevant, why did you bring it up?  Actually, Tobit is relevant by showing that bodily masculinity or femininity have no intrinsic liturgical value in isolation from each other.  

Our glorified bodies will be male or female, but people will not marry in heaven, so being male or female is of no sacramental or eschatological consequence.  

Our current theology of the priesthood is not coherent because it is contaminated by patriarchal gender ideology, which is no longer credible.

What the priest does at the Eucharist is to act in the person of Christ, a divine person who became "flesh," i.e., a "body-soul" in TOB terminology; and being a body-soul is much more fundamental than being male or female -- see TOB 8:1, especially the last paragraph.  

The body is a sacrament of the entire person, but is not the entire person.  Could it be that what is missing in our patriarchal theology of the priesthood is the need to make visible the divine "feminine genius" in Jesus?