Well I am saying that feelings can accompany love, but aren't essential to it.

The Catholic understanding of love comes from the life, words, and actions of Jesus Christ.

Jesus taught us a much higher and grander and heroic understanding of love, which theologians have termed "kenosis".  Self emptying gift.

We use some of those words from Jesus in the Holy Mass, and they convey a grand dual meaning for us.

Most Catholics don't understand the dual meaning for instance of the words of Institution in the Mass.

"Take this, all of you, and eat of it:
for this is my body which will be given up for you.
Take this, all of you, and drink from it:
for this is the chalice of my blood,
the blood of the new and eternal covenant.
which will be poured out for you and for many
for the forgiveness of sins .
Do this in memory of me."

These words do not simply mean "do the liturgical act"...no, we too must "pour out ourselves" for others in memory of Him.

Jesus told us to pick up the Cross "daily"