It is indeed a balancing act, but by supporting what we see as real wrongs (and I include the misogyny of the all-male priesthood) we DO participate in those wrongs.  I miss the Church, the liturgy, Communion and community -- but since the institutional Church has ruled I am not equal either in humanity or baptism to men, and since very few bishops/hierarchy have been held accountable for child sexual abuse, I don't see how I can participate any longer.  I'm sure God understands, even if you don't.  I don't understand your feeling of "insult."  You are free to follow your conscience as are those of us like Nancy and me.