I get your sentiments...to a point. #1 is bad if true, no argument, #2 is mildly  accurate from a canonical standpoint (dictator tag is extreme) but is WILDLY disconnected from how parishes actually function 90% of the time, #3 hints at your more specific aim at changing sacramental discipline which is a desire shared not necessarily by women but liberal Catholics of all stripes and ordination levels regardless of gender so I don't get how this is a woman-oppression matter, and #4 just...wow...if your example of a female leader being oppressed by evil male clerics is Sr. McBride JUST BECAUSE she approved the abortion of an 11 week old unborn child at a Catholic hospital...I can't really help you.

Your vision of Church which can be changed through voting power and advocacy by any grouping of Catholics is an entirely different thing altogether than what and how the Church has always defined itself. Just be a protestant! It's so easy! Plenty of denominations to choose from!