Yes, Raymond, suffering and joy are both apart of life.  However the idea that suffering is joy is sadistic and anyone who practices this perversion  on him or herself is masochistic.. To derive gratification from pain, sexual or otherwise is indeed the perversion of masochism and it is time that more people in our Catholic faith fully recognize this.  I would not want to be married to someone who believes in these two perversions.  Yes it is man who is sadistic for pursuing the crucifixion and death of Christ the same man who killed MLK and Ghandi.  The same man who uses waterboarding and the same man who assaults children.  This idea that suffering produces joy is in fact soul murder...