"Catholics can't depend on their "church" for direction but rather follow Jesus and look at what Jesus would do." 

Laughable.  So-called non-traditional Catholics --- there used to be only one kind: Catholics --- don't really care what Jesus would do.  They follow John Lennon:  "All you need is love."  Lennon's notion of what love dictates is further detailed in "Imagine" --- ah, yes, a hymn to Roman Catholicism.