Your latter comment is what I see most often, though it is only the most milquetoast of preaching "love your neighbor" that I tire of.  The daily mass closest to me is always a variation on that theme with little else to offer.  The priest is "pastoral" in that he does, I think, try to empathize with the members of the parish, but he will never grow that church.
Jesus was the Good Shepherd but he didn't shirk from calling a sin exactly what it was and admonishing those to sin no more.  It's not "clericalism" to do exactly the same, in charity, but, rather, magnanimous (in its virtuous sense) to exercise the office of bishop, priest, or pastor to spread the message.
Maybe I'm wrong; perhaps we will see an explosion of vocations and growth from be-nice-to-each-other sermons.
To your first I'll say that I've rarely seen this.  Maybe I've been lucky.