I've read the comments and thank God some people had positive experiences. But when a person endures a traumatic experience you don't "just get over it." Unfortunately, you hide it deep in your heart and those are the feeling you react with when a familiar situation arises again. People hide pain with substances but its only temporary.  But then additions set in.  So now the person raises their kids with trauma driven emotions and the cycle begins.  Healing begins with one person at a time. The answer is Jesus, he can help bring forgiveness, restore peace in place of pain, restore dignity, value, and joy!  Remember, it not a church or religion that brings freedom but the person of Jesus Christ.  Rev. L. Faga