Kevin: a couple comments and a couple questions for you:

1) I am fully initiated in the Roman rite and I participate in any/all sacraments of my choosing. I am not concerned with the minutia of Canon law, my focus is on Jesus and His teachings.

2) The 3-4 priests we consulted with are Roman Catholic in good standing (a couple of them now retired). Incidentally, contraception was not the sole purpose of our meetings but the topic invariably came up.

3) Why are you so bent on the "truth of HV?" (Why not discuss the "truth" of Amoris Laetitia instead?) In truth very few RC clergy even preach about HV anymore which is essentially an admission that our thinking has (collectively) evolved. You should understand that mere mortals crafted this encyclical (yep, AL too) and is NOT equal to the word of God, and it pales in comparison to the teachings of Christ.

4) I don't mean to pry but a little personal background would be helpful in support of your claims. Married? How long? How many kids?