Hi! Scott,
"No priest would recommend/advise sterilization (the snip)." 
Possible what I should have said is that no Priest who is true to Church teaching would recommend/advise sterilization (the snip).
The intention was not to doubt you word on this matter rather to exclaim that this is not Church doctrine, I apologies for any misunderstanding.

You further state that “ I/we would be barred from the sacrament of penance...”
In this context, by openly acknowledge the truths within HV and then commit to using artificial Contraception it would not be possible for the priest to give absolution, as there is no resolve not to recommit the same sin/act again. 
As far as sterilization is concern this sin can be forgiven through the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
I realize we are at odds hear Scott and as you say “we see things differently and that is fine by me”.
Sincere best wishes for you and your family, now and in the future.
kevin your brother
In Christ