There is a clear and overriding problem in all of this that needs consideration.  The scriptural sources - even for female deacons - is rather weak and at best sporadic.  The males of the Church have done a astonishingly complete job of making sure that there is 1500 years worth of doctrine that rules women out of ordination on all levels.  I just finished reading "Women Deacons" and although there are useful accounts of a (very few) female deacons, support for it remains flimsy at best.  Phyllis Zagano, in her chapter, summarizes a 2002 report from the International Theological Commission (under the CDF of Cardinal Ratzinger):  "(1) the history of deaconesses does not support a historical argument for women deacons, and (2) the sacrament of orders clearly distinguishes between the ministries of the bishop and priest and those of the deacon." (p.73)  This leaves just one source for allowing female ordination of any kind:  a Church Council.