"The problem is, when the people disagree with what the Church is saying, the church just ignores it"

But this also goes both ways, no? Do people not just ignore the Church when they disagree with it? Do they not just right it off as a "patriarchal" that needs to line up with their own opinions? Look everyone should be able to question the Church's teaching, but it should be done within the context of constructive dialogue. This does not necessitate that one side change their minds, but just that each listens to each other. Now could the Church do a better job at listening? Of course! But so could many of those who disagree with the Church! They could listen to the bishops, the tradition, the magisterium, ect. and then articulate adequately their disagreement. But what often happens is the angry cursing out of priests, bishops, and popes for being sexist, patriarchal oppressors who need to "think like me." Bottom line, we could ALL do a better job of listening well.