cont'd
You say: "To see Jesus with only one eye, as a rule giver, without seeing that 'love of God and neighbor' are the font and measure of every rule, is to run into the ditch of idolatry."  But Jesus clearly WAS a rule-giver.  It is illogical to say that because we recognize that, we think of Jesus "with only one eye, as a rule giver."  Your logic fails again.  So, incidentally, does your faith; but that's totally up to you. 

If to follow the God-given rule against divorce is to see Jesus solely as rule giver, which is wrong, then by your logic, Jesus did wrong by giving us the rule in the first place.  LOL.  You do make sense, though, if you deny that Jesus was God, or that he said what is shown in Scripture on the point.  But so far you haven't denied either.  

You seem to think there is a contradiction between loving God and following Jesus' rule on divorce.  By assuming this, you attribute self-contradiction to Jesus himself.  Amazing.