"Why can't Christian MEN minister to both men and women without being pastors?"

They can, Elaine, as I mentioned, (not exactly in these words) I don't need to be paid by a church to witness for Christ or minister to other people's needs. 

Of course there is a difference when it comes to women and men as far as the "church" is concerned--the former are considered servants and the latter masters, at least that's the case where Christ is not present.

By the way, it wasn't Jimbob who wrote the quoted piece--just to clarify.