My brother tried for years to stay in the Catholic Church. Finally, he said, "Who am I trying to kid. They refuse to accept me." He did not fail the Church, the Church failed him. "Intrinsically disordered" is not "a difficult thing to hear", it is an insult. An insult uttered in official, high level documents. Why should anyone care to be in an institution that insults him or her? The insult shows not a scintilla of the love the Church claims to show to everyone.

No, my brother and several others I know have, if not been turned away, been told in no uncertain terms that they are unwelcome.