They do good work.  I agree.  But they have participated in something that will cause great harm, possibly to millions.  They need to recognize and own the role they played in creating what could harm millions.  It is no small thing - it is huge.  

I am still of the mind that I will not make use of Catholic hospitals or nursing homes.  I fear in the competitive world in which we live, that they will drive out of business some other care givers who have a greater respect for those they treat and those they employ.  Or, they will receive donations that could go to some other group that respects others.

I appreciate your wanting to be sensitive and the fact that you recognize the good they do.  But they also harm others, disrespect others.  I won't pretend they are all goodness and light.