LoL,
What you may see as  "raw hate" is often far from that. Quite to the  contrary, it's often a truly deep concern for the church, which most here would define to be the laity.  In as short a period as my own lifetime, we've seen bishops squander generations, perhaps centuries of trust.  It's not that every one of them was a "Cardinal Law" kind of poster boy on the issue of abuse.  Rather, it's that each and every one of them has a voice, and just about all of them have chosen to remain silent in the face of one of the most heinous institutional coverups in history.

It's become clear that their understanding of married life, and especially that sacrament of children, leaves a great deal to be desired.  As presumably celibate men, that's somewhat understandable.  That they refuse the counsel of the married laity, the counsel of the parents of these children, the counsel of the abused themselves; THAT's where the problem lies.  Respect must be earned.  Deference must be deserved.