I think you're missing the point here. 

Throwing paper towels at people and telling people who just experienced total devastation to "be proud" and then determine that you are doing an excellent job at helping them is rude and callous. It shows a lack of compassion. 

You don't help people because it will make them better in the long run. Jesus never said that. He just said to love your neighbor as yourself. To help those in need. Don't load a bunch of disclaimers into it, that's not true compassion.