"When death separates me from those I love..."

But it doesn't.   If one has a lively interior life with God, death actually INCREASES the intimacy we have with those who have died (if they died loving, not rejecting, God). 

The author should go to prayer using the text of Romans 8.
From Saint Paul: "The concern of the flesh is death, but the concern of the spirit is life and peace."

"But you are not in the flesh; on the contrary, you are in the spirit, if only the Spirit of God dwells in you. "

"But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the spirit is alive because of righteousness.

"If the Spirit of the one who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, the one who raised Christ from the dead will give life to your mortal bodies also, through his Spirit that dwells in you."

"For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things...will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."