Stefan,

Patriarchal, matriarchal or shmatriarcal, what does it matter?  We're supposed to have our attention focused on God and seeking His ways, not our own. All this argument about who can or cannot serve as pastors ignores the question of whether or not God has called a person to serve and the ample evidence the Holy Spirit gives to support their calling. Ignoring that evidence is clear evidence of unbelief and disobedience instead of faith that God can honor.