I disagree that the coach's message was "we are all the same". The coaches message was "There's us and them -- why are you afraid of them? Here's some of them. Touch some of them. See, don't be afraid of them." It's a sick, clueless, offensive mentality. 

Also, you cannot tell us WHY the other parent declined to be interviewed. Sure, in wealthy communities there are lots of parents trying to manipulate the coaches. But also a black family will often try to keep their name out of the news on a complaint because their child still has to attend school and be in the social milieu where other kids may ostracize them for getting the coach in trouble.  

I hope the school district does the right thing and gets rid of this coach. And uses it as an example for other coaches of how not to invoke race with our young people.