Not being black, I have no basis for commenting. However, I remember treating Obama respectfully, voting for him once but not twice, based on results, mostly because we needed more than a celebrity-in-chief (my, oh, my, those were the days). He then did better and earned my esteem, but my not being black, that doesn't matter.
Treating the office with respect, regardless of its occupant, has always seemed the prudent approach, though that had been tested when reciprocity was turned on its head by the redefining of words such as "sex" and "is," thereby challenging this father of young, inquisitive daughters. Not being black, I chalked that up to the turbulent era of the '90s that gave us such spectacles as Clarence Thomas, Rodney King and O.J. with a dollop of Tonya Harding for comic relief. And CNN rejoiced.
Tamping down the rhetoric is an inside job, but not being black, I can't suggest how others should behave. That wouldn't be fair.