CONTINUED FROM ABOVE:

When other people's opinions concerning the significance of my children's and grandchildren's colors becomes important to me is when said opinions influence how my loved ones are treated--by school officials, employers, cops etc.  That's how I think about this.  And like it or not I would be remiss if I didn't recognize the objective REALITY that they and I live in a white-supremacist society.  This influences how we must act and react in the context of said inherently white-supremacist institutions when they intersect with our lives.  I could wish this weren't the case.  But in fact it IS the case. 

Hope it suffices.  MaSalaam.