"Step 1" is to realize that there's a profound difference between individuals having bigoted feelings and living in a society where racism is law. 

In the USA, racism--that is public policy based on racial bigotry--is illegal. You can't change what people feel, only how their feelings play out in public.

You make it sound as if bigotry is warranted because it's character building or something. You can't really believe that. You must be white; that would explain it.