Ok everyone news flash white people have to fit in to this isn’t a colour thing ..
Growing up when I went to school I had to dress and look a certain way when I sat down for dinner I had to be dressed and look a certain way ..When I applied for work I had to go to interviews dressed a certain way..

When I spoke to my parents my teachers my bosses my elder I had to speak a certain way...

It wasn’t till I was nearly 30 and established my career and family that I got to be myself and still to this day I keep a lot of my life a secrect cuz if I didn’t I would lose my job and have to start from scratch..

I am white and I have spent my whole life dressing talking acting and looking and certain way to be accepted and get the schools and jobs etc that I wanted..

Your story I can relate to only difference is I’m white