Many years ago I stayed a week or so at the women's Dominican monastery in Chicago to attend the world parliament of religion conference.  I attended mass at a Catholic church within their ground.   I was so impressed because they seemed to have half white and half black parishioners.  I thought that was an ideal situation worshiping God together.   I used to attend Cathedral parish messes, I noticed the African American parishioner seemed so natural and sincere  in worshiping God.  I appreciated their unique beauty of worshiping God!   I  hope you give it a try again!