"No one gets to tell us how to tell our stories, or how we choose to do it."
What I get from your narrative is that you don't stay in Motel 6 when you do speaking engagements and that you name drop. Oh, and that you're transgender. 
I don't doubt that transgender people have monumental struggles. Try as I might, I do not understand it. Whether the kid at TacoTia looks at me and assesses my gender is not going to make the food taste different. 
There are so many people who have "coming out" stories: a white woman falls in love with a black man, gays and lesbians, atheists in Christian households, the boy who doesn't like football, Rachel Doezal is white...
There are as many individual stories as there are people to tell them: first loves, spectacular careers, tough childhoods, that secret abortion. 
Choosing when and how to tell our stories applies to everyone. Not all of us find our stories riveting.