I saw your comment later.  Sorry, I was working through these in order.  Neither Mr. Ruse's nor Fr. Martin's sexual orientation matters.  There have been some individuals who are gay that have hidden their sexuality and opposed gay rights.  Fr. Martin's comments were more civil than Mr. Ruse's, but both were irrelevant to this discussion.  In terms of your question as to whether Fr. Martin's remarks were hateful, I don't know if I can equate calling someone a "pansy," "effeminate," or "coming out of the closet," with stating the fact that some who have opposed gay rights are gay.  Having said that, I think Fr. Martin's remarks that individuals who oppose gay rights have unresolved sexual issues are irrelevant and inappropriate.