The crisis of manhood in our society is also determined by the ideology be accept and reproduce.
What sexual and parental identities are promoted in our culture? Try this:
Draw 2 X/Y axes.  The X axis is a continuum from 'hooray' to 'boo'. The Y axis is a continuum from 'protect' to 'reject'. In any of these four quads, place the following terms as you FEEL about them: boy, girl, mother, marriage, family, lesbian, single-mother, divorcee, gay, queer, [add own terms] ... MAN.
How are these terms positioned relative to each other? You may link these terms into sets.
That gives an indication of the kind of ideology that defines MANHOOD today.