I think part of the problem are these fabricated categories.
There is no such thing as transgender.
Different people have different personalities, experiences and inclinations.
Forcing people to "identify" with a category is like trying to force a set of a 1000 different shapes of pegs into a set of only 4 different shaped holes.
You are forcing them to declare being something they are not and they may then embark on a campaign to convince themselves that this is who they "are".
But no-one "is" a category, a category is very crude abstract description that often matches no-one.  It is a comic book view of people.
Suppose a girl dreamt of being an NFL football player.  Suppose she is slight and there is no chance of this. She wishes she were a large athletic male.
That is the end of the story, she is not "transgender".
The practice of forcing people to believe that words are reality and they "are" these words can cause serious mental damage