And I've been replying, essentially, that Cupich is wrong to assert that people should be called what they want to be called, especially when what they want to be called is a propaganda device designed to bury their bad acts.  It does the person no good but to reinforce their bad acts.

"Gay" is the term designed to "make people more comfortable" with the sins of people with same-sex attraction.  Referring to someone as having same-sex attraction is not a "term" at all; it is a factual description.  Why would someone with same-sex attraction be offended by someone referring to them as someone with same-sex attraction?