Jill, your piece invited an important conversation and I like that you replied. So, a bit about me. I've been 'sleeping with the enemy' a long time (I'm gay). As a few here have taken time to point out, I have come to suspect men are built for violence (we joke about testosterone poisoning), whether through genetics, cultural conditioning or both. 

I don't know. It seems giving boys space to feel when they might yearn to act crazy isn't quite it. That's why I said men know their bodies (and hearts) and this must be respected. I agree we have to find a better way forward -- one that values women and men making choices, not being fixed in roles.

I think we can certainly start by agreeing sex without consent isn't right, is a violation of choice, for both women and men (remember, I'm a gay guy and really get this). 

Thanks, Jill. All the best.