How, I ask myself, and why, should I, as a lay person, be in the position of, in essence, demanding that someone, heterosexual or homosexual, who is giving to me and others a life of service, abstain from sexually expressing himself and finding this fundamental fulfillment and genuine, beautiful partnership in his life? It is like asking someone to chop out his tongue and gouge out his eyes, just so that he can be my servant. This is horrible, and it is a sufficient reason to detach from the lay-priest-parish paradigm.