That's what people do now, so I agree with you.  People treat this as if getting a divorce requires jail time and twenty lashes.  But the Church cannot preach this, because then it becomes, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," which opens the door to demanding a change in Church teaching, as it did with homosexuals in the military

 I've never heard of a parish that monitors who is eligible to receive communion and who is not.  Almost everyone takes communion every week in my parish.  There's almost no one at confession on Saturday, so I guess I just live in a very sinless community, haha.