When it comes to dialogue with gay people, the church will first have to reach beyond the pews to find those legion of gay folk who had enough and left for good. Once they're found, however, the dialogue won't last very long once the church inevitably gets around to the major stumbling block that alienates gay people from the church: church teaching which says to gay people, "in order to be in good standing with us you must cease and desist with your abnormal 'lifestyle,'" all because of a book in the Old Testsment that also instructs us not to eat shellfish, or mix meat and dairy products together or wear clothes made of mixed fabrics, or a host of other "abominations" that no one heeds and which prevent not a soul from receiving communion if they commit any of those "sins." There's a word to describe this kind of discrepancy: injustice. And no amount of dialogue can overcome that.