Two of my three sons are "nones". My middle son has left the Church because his first marriage broke down. He refuses to get an annulment because he truly believes that if he were to say that there was a flaw at the beginning of his marriage, he would be lying. He is remarried, and since the institutional Church calls him a raging adulterer, he says that if they won't accept him, he won't accept them.

My youngest son left in solidarity with his uncle, my younger brother. My brother is gay, and feels that he has been rejected by the institutional Church. I cannot say that he is wrong to feel that way. My son says that since the Catholic Church is rejecting gays, it is being hypocritical in calling itself Christian.

I do not blame either one of my sons for doing what they did.