Both, I believe that marriage is an option for all men an and women and that the church is wrong to withhold it to anyone without just cause, including sexual orientation.  Anything else is a perversion of the sacraments.   What Jesus said about the Sabbath goes doubly so for the sacraments:  they were made for us and not we for them.  I feel the same way for the the Sacrament of Orders.  I am an out and proud gay man and have been since my early 20's.   Most, if not all, of the church's teachings about homosexuality is based on a toxic mixture of superstition, bad science and bad theology, fear, disgust outright lies and self hatred by way too many clerics.  It, as well as other church teaching on sexuality in general need to be scrapped and started all over.  And it definitely needs input from those who are actually living it every day, i.e. The Laity.  And not just the bishop's pet lay folks either.