Michael, I have extended family members who are gay, one female and one male. Through them I have come to know something about being gay. At no time have they ever confused love or caring or commitment with what you describe. It isn’t about male and female equipment in the way you describe it, as if we are talking about the male and female ends of an electrical connection. It certainly makes me wonder if you know anyone gay who you also care about or love in the way that family love one another. I can only assume that this isn’t your experience. So, we are really talking about two very different things.