When it came out, I thought the Vatican document was absurd for stating gay men do not know how to properly relate to women.  Gay men treat me (a woman) as an equal, respect my personhood, do not convey attitudes of superiority/insecurity, are free from forming a sexual agenda with me.  This is what women want from any man, gay or straight.  I can only conclude that the writers of the document have little personal experience with actual women or actual gay men.