I have known many 'gays' as you call them, living together but do not judge them because they keep to themselves.
Those who publish their relationship as homosexual via a civil partnership or via a 'civil marriage' know that they are doing. Under no circumstances whatsoever can they be employed in any Cathlic institution.
How can the Catholic Church possibly permit homosexual relationships to be on a par with marriage between a man and a woman when since Mosaic times such relationships have been regarded as intrinsically evil?