Why not put your attention on the huge number (likely 25% or more) of Catholic priests who are gay, but remain in the closet?

They're the one's who are empowering the restriction and denial you perceive.

The writers for progressive Catholic pubs who remain in the closet are also complicit.

It's largely because of their silence that the change you long for hasn't come to pass.  You can't just put all blame on we heterosexuals.