That's a distinction without a difference, given that the Church's sex abuse scandal was overwhelmingly a story of men raping boys.

Whatever the "experts" are claiming, as a straight man in a straight world, I can assure you that my fellow straight men, when we get "lonely," do not seek out young boys to satisfy our desires.

Not all gay men do that.  But only gay men do that.  Therefore, Benedict is absolutely right to exclude them from seminaries.   Less gay men in priesthood, less risk of boys being raped by priests.