Maybe that's it, Keala, trusting your (buddy) with your life.  Maybe we should start our learning with the trans people being more than sex 24/7!  Being female 24/7 takes more attention when you're male, and talk about high maintenance...than there's the older trans who is beyond perfecting his female image because he knows who he is and is ok with it!  Respect goes both ways, not what you feel you deserve but what you earned.