TryingtoStay: You seem like a very fair and balanced person to my ears, who is willing to listen (thoughtfully) to the sincere concerns of someone who is very turned-off by the pressure that many young people are experiencing these days to 'accept' that they are gay. I do think that peer pressure and a changing culture have led to more young people identifying as gay. My sister noticed this way back in the early 1970s when she noticed that when young women at the all-female college that she was attending had a 'bad date' (or two or three), they almost immediately jumped to the conclusion that the reason they were having such a hard time finding a compatible male partner was because -- without realizing it- they had been 'born gay' and therefore were unattractive to men. In previous generations they simply would have said: We weren't compatible. I sometimes wonder how many of those young women entered into 'the life' (and I don't mean religious life!)