You are judging.  You are using a shield of Church rules and Church understanding to support actions that inflict pain and suffering.  You also have to use your heart; you have to apply love as it fits the situation of the suffering person.  You don't condone a gay lifestyle by treating a gay person with kindness and love.  You don't condone a gay lifestyle by sitting with a grieving family of a gay person who has died, holding their hands, praying with them.  What would you do, passing the man lying beaten and suffering on the road?  Give him a swift kick in the head for getting in your way?  Or, would you help him?  Are you a good Samaritan - who was not the one recognized as righteous by the law - or the Pharisee who, so busy with his own duties, walks on by?  

Think about it, RR.   What is proposed is ugly, unkind, not an act of love.  You want to be self-righteous with sword raised when you need to be loving with an open heart.