"very much shaped by gender"... oh? I bet you didn't know that according to experts, 45% of domestic violence is by women who beat men! I bet you didn't know that in most DV  it is the woman who strikes out first... (and then, IF the man  strikes back - she's in trouble..but it is the women who hit first in a greater number of instances!)  I bet you didn't know that police reports show that the highest incidence of DV is not heterosexual or gay but lesbian;.. what does that suggest?  The problem is that we are all being flooded with the feminist narrative but very few people take the time to inform themselves of facts that  go against this narrative, which is  very often skewered by their agenda. Instead, go watch some tv or movies  of the last 50 years, and what do you see?  Scene after scene of women getting angry at men for - whatever - and taking it out on them by hard slaps  to the face.  We have inadvertantly accepted violence against men without question. Why? It shouldn't be.