Your comments appear to go in two directions simutaneously.

You say folks are being true to themselves, citing that if someone is gay or lesbian, the Church teaches that this orientation requires a lifetime of celibacy.

Yes. And so they leave, presumably for someplace where another church has another teaching, or no teaching.

If so, that would be good, right?

And then you write “the mention of Purgatory would have been insulting”. How? Was the deceased an Episcopalian?

Just what are you advocating for?