I think that the bottom line (no pun intended) here is that sex of any kind is not supposed to be associated with priests.  We seldom hear about the Eastern rite when any of this is discussed.  As for "straight" versus "gay" bars, I wonder what the reaction would have been if some seminarian had asked if "singles bars that are not gay" are permitted.  "Singles bars" used to be the generic term used to mean straight bars.

As for myself, I would like to know if the gay priests who outed themselves ever openly objected to the promise of celibacy for any, or openly objected to gender discrimination.