That is why I named them and didn't just call them Christians.  In fact, my maternal grandfather was an Anglican priest and my mother the kind of Christian where she derived guidance, solace and comfort from her religion.  My father however was vile about homosexuals and used his religion to judge and deride and feel righteous. God was a man and men were made in God's image and therefore men rule the households and the world.  All religions have these extremes.  I do feel religion has an important place for charity and to teach tolerance, love, inclusion and to lift up those who have less or are in need. It sounds like this is you and I fully respect that type of Christianity.  But religion isn't the only avenue to teach and learn ethics and morality and, unfortunately, the good aspects of religion are too often overwhelmed by the bad and abuse of religion to say G-d is on their side. (and wage war).