I would also point out that we are all often a mix of gayness, straightness, and bisexuality, and some times in our lives one "side" takes precedence over, or has more strength than, the other than at other times. I have know a few people that fluctuated from one to the other and back again, over several decades. It didn't make one more true than the other; rather, one was more true *at the time* than the other. A better way to explain it was that it was more the person they loved at any given time than the loved one's gender that determined their feelings in any given decade. They loved the person no matter that person's gender.