Part 2:   I have a relative in the southern USA who is dead set against "illegals".   However if  you ask him about "Juan" who rents a trailer down the road from him (not his real name) and you ask if he should be deported too, the answer is always no he isn't hurting anyone and he is a really nice guy, always willing to help and when the woods caught on fire he was working harder than anyone to keep it from spreading, even though it was going away from his place, etc, etc.   Kinda like these same folks are about gays.  They are against them until it is a family member or person they happen to life.