"Discover they are gay" is a false description of sexual confusion.  People with same-sex attraction have the voluntary choice to embrace that disordered attraction and all of its hardships and dangers, or they can voluntarily form partnerships with the opposite sex, or they can voluntarily remain celibate.  Sometimes God's will is not aligned with our feelings and desires.  Many a married man will tell you how he has sacrificed his desire for a variety of sexual partners in exchange for a wife and mother of his children.