What does it matter if Father is gay, but pretends he's not?  Who is hurt?

We've seen over and over again that it's often the closeted clerics who are the most vociferously anti-sex, anti-gay and anti-women.   Their extreme Jansenism often arises out of shame of their own unresolvable '"sinful" sexual orientation, and the need for secrecy and denial.   They become authorities, and encourage others to accept their extremism, which creates a vicious cycle.

Father should just come out of the closet; he is helping no one by pretending to be what he's not.