There is a difference between showing anger and hate and being homosexual. Anger and hatred are not an intrinsic part of the person. At most, they are thoroughly ingrained habits, but they are not innate. Homosexuality is. It is as innate as being left-handed.

The point is that homosexuals see that the institutional Church is calling THEM "intrinsically disordered". If the CDF were to denounce left-handedness as intrinsically disordered, then left-handed people would rightly consider themselves as insulted by the Church.

You want to uphold conservative political correctness by claiming that the institutional Church is welcoming to gays. In fact, it is not.