Disclosure: I am not gay.  Acceptance of any kind is difficult but it most be excruciating for young gay men in the closet, especially in 2017.  I am like the author, of a certain vintage.  I remember gay rights as less a celebration of oneself and more a struggle for acceptance.  Whether the dragging laggards of the mainstream like it or not acceptance of the gay rights is here and now and going to stay.  Staying this it seems to me that the older gay generation have no mercy or time for all the young Susie-cream cheeses, with one foot in and one foot out of the closet, who don't have to face the outward hatred they did in the 70's and 80's.  The gay man's: "I remember when..."