"although if you want Mary on your side, quit seperating her from her other sons, Thomas and Phillip.. She proably sees your desire to do that and make her out as an incomplete-wife with your desire to deny sexuality to gays and lesbians" 
What can I say?  You very conveniently bring up Church teachings when they happen to support your cause, such as private revelations, yet have a complete disconnect on others. Our ever virgin Blessed Mother now gave birth to two other sons or otherwise is an incomplete wife?  I don't recall if you are a practicing Catholic, but what you just implied is sacrilegious.  Have you ever heard of the Five First Saturdays of the Month Devotion to the Immaculate Heart of Mary.  They deal with reparations to her for what you just implied.  
  What would it mean if Mary did state most souls end up in hell due to sins of the flesh?  How would that change your views?