Hatred, what hatred, we love the person who is same sex attracted (SSA) but hate the sin of homosexuality. Look at the Lambeth conference where it is stated that people of homosexual orientation is fully accepted into Church. 

What we hate is the sin of same sex (SS). Not the person. If a SSA person is celibate, then that person is not sinning. I am hetrosexual, but if I had sex with anyone but my wife, I would be sinning. The fact that I physically could have sex with anyone does not make me sin, my choice to have sex with someone other than my wife does. 

Would I consider a Christian that believe that my having sex outside of marriage is a sin and therefore he hates me??? 

No, and the same applies to homosexuals. they are loved. The fact that they can not have sex without sinning does not make them any less loved. In fact, their sacrifice of celibacy in favour of loving the LORD makes them more loved.