The parents need to join the 21st century. Reckless behavior happens because we marginalized gay sexuality. Redefining it as differently ordered allows us to encourage monogamy with a straight face. Calling their sexuality always disordered gives away the standing to say anything, as does including this conversation in a larger moralist rhetoric designed to pander to the the lowest common denominator in the Alt Right. That is messed up. Interestingly, many gays and lesbians follow monogamy naturally because it is the natural thing to do, More would if it were not for the hate mongers.