You will get no argument from me, other than a request to apply perspective. Those that died on both sides of the SA colonialist project opposed each other in their objectives - an internecine warfare, no different to the 20000 who died in the Zimbabwe altercation between Mugabe and Nkomo in the 1980's, or the equivalent death toll in KZN between the Zulu's aligned to either the IFP or ANC leading up to 1994. 
The perspective to be applied is the scale and depth of the massacre of European Jews - a people who were unarmed and at war with no-one at the time. 
If anything, black South Africans should identify more strongly with the Jews, as we were once the 'kaffirs' of Europe, more closely aligned to their own vile treatment by the colonialist enterprise.