How is that a "self-guilt" question?

You're the one who is proposing that we shouldn't help people just because other people won't help them.  So you are the one suggesting we abandon our values -- or at least, the values we've tried to cultivate over the last half-century.  Canada prior to the 1950s was not a welcoming place for refugees, to our immense discredit.  Everything that you say about Syrians was said about Jews and other refugees from the Nazis in the 1930s.