For women it is especially difficult. Like Mokantz's wife and daughters, I was drummed out of my parish for being one of the first women lectors and cantors as well as an advocate for victims. This happened to many women. I sensed at the time that my persecution (and it certainly was that!) was the work of the militant right with the help of a transplant monsignor who, himself, was on a list of molesters. I agree with you that we would be much further along  in the work of the Lord if it weren't  for those who dabble in such evil works.  Jesus said that in the end of times we would "worship in spirit and in truth". Just open yourself to Him and His words.  He will certainly 'pay attention' and  will fill all your needs with the "nudgings" of His Spirit every step of the way.