"There are degrees of harassment and abuse. Some types are common and relatively harmless; some are terrible and relatively rare. "
Yes but conflating an unwanted pat on the but with violent rape serves the interests of Feminist activists. 
Then they can say things like "95% of women will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime" and rely upon people having a visceral reaction with mistakes sexual assault for rape.
That isn't an accident, it is a propaganda war.