1. Zosia seems to suggest that most feminists and young women would criticize Paglia et al - I doubt that. 

2. Margaret Wente has the  right approach - http://www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/alcohol-and-assault-what-all-young-women-need-to-know/article34520890/

Caring people, parents and friends  want to reduce the number of victims and the risks to them. People buy insurance, home security devices, get their children vaccinated, move into a good neighbourhood, invest in secure stocks and bonds, ... to avoid risk and ensure success . 

Some debaters are more worried about the issue of blaming the victim than actually reducing the pain and degradation. They are more concerned about who is at fault, rather than reducing the tragedies. 

Such people are getting their self esteem and their personal satisfaction, through the status of a tribe - gender, sports team, ethnicity, political party, ... rather than fulfilling their own  potential.

The debate is about them, not reducing pain.