You don't have to choose a side. If you are raising your daughter to be "careful and responsible about the image she sends and the situations she puts herself in", it's only going to benefit her as she enters the work force when she's grown. What us "modern feminists" would actually love, is if those same values were imparted onto sons. Raise sons that are expected to put the same care into their behaviour; who take responsibility for themselves when they realize they're in a situation that could be damaging (i.e. before they get so drunk that they grope a girl without her permission). Lets raise sons the way we've been raising daughters for decades, held to the same level of responsibility as our daughters are expected to have. As parents, we always hope to impart certain values into our children so that they grow into adults who are introspective, responsible, and self-regulated. It's not about encouraging binge drinking, it's about leveling the risk vs. responsibility playing field.