Re stoles:  When my daughter moved after college for work, she was in the Arlington diocese.  Having been a eucharistic minister since she was confirmed, she volunteered in her new parish.  After serving for a while, a training for new EM's in the diocese came up and she was required to attend.  This was 16 years ago.  She called me afterward, puzzled and disturbed.  She disliked the tone of the priest running the program.  He kept repeating "Extraoridinary ministers of holy communion" instead of a shorter version and she felt his clear intent was to disabuse them of any idea that they were on the same level as the priest.  The last straw was the distribution of a pamphlet for Extracordinary.....  entitled Ten Tips for Extraordinary.....  The only tip I can recall is :  Females should be careful about wearing scarves so as not to "confuse" communicants that they were wearing the stole of a priest.  "Are they crazy,?" she asked.  No, I said.  Just scared.