It's not reasonable to call out divorce on its own (or blame women for initiating divorces.) Divorce, while considered an ACE, is not necessarily harmful to development. In fact, supportive parenting through a stressful time (like divorce) can promote resilience in children. Also, as motleycrew suggested, divorce can be an adaptive choice for people in abusive relationships. A point well taken from this article is that any one ACE doesn't mean that a child will have poor outcomes. When negative experiences begin to add up, however, is when poor mental and physical health outcomes arise.