My guess is that the all the money, programs, quotas etc. are not make the difference the government wants because they are ignoring the fact that individual women are making sane and rational choices on the work/life balance and those choice do not fit the feminist/leftist dogma. 
Face it, government social engineering can only go so far if vast numbers of the population reject the engineering, even in the face of the government using its tax and spend policies to impose financial penalties on those who do not comply.