as in many discriminatory situations we are delighted to see the 'diaconate' finally accepted and coming into its own. GREAT .. and now we see  (as in many discriminatory situations) that those of the group who speak in denial of the value of another  unacknowledged group (women) have ''lost their moorings'' and empathy for others seeking the same recognition. fact is that sometimes we need to ''sacrifice'' i.e. to give up a piece of ourselves...of our own hard won self esteem, so as to speak / act on behalf of others who find themselves in the same situation.