Hire a cleaning lady; for a few hundred a month any conflict about vacuuming, cleaning the floors, kitchen, bathrooms etc, can be removed from the equation. If there was a pick up and drop off laundry service in our 'hood, I'd pay for it in a heartbeat. Lastly, it doesnt need to be spotless all the time. Ladies (and fellas) who occupy this unrealistic perfection zone, drop your standards a bit.