As someone else mentioned - will the property be in the family forever? What if the husband and his new wife move? Will they take the remains and re-inter them elsewhere?

Other than that, I think the new wife just has to deal with it.

But 50 people still seems like overload for this. The new wife should not have to play hostess, especially since she seems fragile.

But let the mother and other immediate family mourn. To deny them that would be heartless.

My concern is with the legal aspects of the real estate and what happens to it and the poor child's remains in the future.