"we women need to make smarter, more informed choices…" Thank you for that, dg. 
 If my S.O. went missing, other than a big fight, the walk out, "don't call me" kind of thing, I'd start calling friends and family sooner rather than later. What a horrible, horrible predicament for Ms Hart's friends and family. We can all hope that she emerges from someplace, all safe and sound and unaware that her absence has caused such a fuss, but I doubt it.