Okay, so if it was a woman...a young woman,  your daughter perhaps. And some guy starts verbally disrespecting her while she's pumping gas, and she rolls her eyes and looks away and the guy gets out of  his vehicle and starts towards her saying, "Who are you rolling your eyes at, beech?"....so you're saying she should assume he won't hurt her until he's got his hands around her throat and she's helpless and THEN she can try to defend herself?