"Behaving like a gentleman" when in public and aware one is being videoed for a TV broadcast isn't any kind of evidence about private activity. 

Do you think women in the OT were always assaulted within hearing distance of others? Or is that women were guilty for being too far away to be heard? Are measures never taken to prevent women from crying out during assaults? Or were perpetrators to be trusted in reporting whether a woman had cried out? Is it possible that you're misapplying the text?

The "lesson there, the commentary on society and women in particular" is that the lack of understanding about sexual abuse is abysmal, despite Ms Nelson's attempts to educate us.