A woman's home is her castle...her nest, and there is an old saying "Too many cooks spoils the the broth". Time to change the locks, teach the dogs to hold it (we had dogs and they never had a sitter while we worked and they were inside), clean your own house and pool. It may cost you some money to hire help if you aren't up to the task but you get to tell them what to do and what not to. Your future mother- in -law will get over it....she'll have more time to clean her own nest. Time to do it before children are added to the mix.