No need to apologize, I agree with you. His actions in fact do define him and he has a long history of making sexist and derogatory comments towards women. It's in fact the projection he chooses for himself.

Your projection seems to be that he somehow is not sexist or has not made sexist comments. Or that his sexist comments somehow are moot because he hasn't passed sexist legislation. All fallacies. If I spewed racist statements as a public figure and then turned around and said "yeah but I haven't taken any racist actions so I'm not a racist" how does that make any sense?

For example, when Megyn Kelly brought up legitimate questions on this topic his response (publicly) was "She was bleeding out of her wherever". That's a comment a sexist makes because it degrades Megyn Kelly using her gender, it's not a challenge to her character as a person.

Are you really defending this? Is this how you want to set an example for your children? I doubt it.