The lessons I impart to my son are not a substitute for wise advice to my daughter. Whether or not he knows how to behave (trust me, he does), my daughter still needs to know that she has to take responsibility for her own safety by making smart choices. That is the only way for her to be truly safe. Your comment suggests that I can dispense with guiding my daughter and focus on guiding my son. I don't agree. I give them both lessons on how to behave considerately with others while protecting themselves.

Here is what I consider true victim-blaming: A person commits sexual assault and says it's the woman's fault for enticing him. What ISN'T victim blaming: people telling young women to be aware of the image they are projecting and don't put themselves in someone else's power and then trust he will not take advantage because it's risky. And yet that seems to be the message they get from today's feminists: "No one has a right to advise you not to binge drink and be promiscuous."