LW1, what was she doing looking in her boyfriend's nightstand for a PEN? That aside, what is it with these women with young children who absolutely must have boyfriends moving in with them? Can't they have a relationship without the moving-in? Oh, that's right, sex has priority over the stability of the household for the kids. She should have dumped him the minute she learned of his drinking problem, which as she says, was early on in the relationship. Couldn't have been that hard to dump him then. That would have been a deal breaker for me.