This is a subject that has been quite open since Brooke Shields help to bring it out of the closet. Maybe we are forgetting what happens to a woman's biology during and after birth. The body does change and adaptation to that fact is not easy. It happens with all mothers. Some of us do not have 'maternal instinct' a concept that has been forced down our throats for eons. I gave birth to two and had to 'learn' to be a mother. It did not come naturally or easily. There is too much information about maternity and in the process we forget the mother, who is just a human being after all. The first lesson a pregnant woman and her husband should learn is what her body is going to go through with carrying the child, and what happens after, when she has given birth. There are huge changes and some people adapt better than others. Let the mother decide whether to breastfeed or not. I did not---my son in his 50's is as healthy as a horse.  The other pregnancy ended in still birth sadly.