Good grief Wayne and Wanda, you blew this one! I'm all for being optimistic, but here's a guy who hasn't initiated sex with his woman in 9 months, has actually rebuffed an advance by her, and who hasn't wanted to talk about it. And you're saying that "early 40's" is getting old? Wrong! 
 
This woman is in for some serious disappointment. First, she's been in a two-year relationship with a guy she feels like a "scared, frozen teenager" with when it's time to talk about sex. Second, this very important, very sensitive, very intimate topic has become off limits to talk about entirely. Third, the guy doesn't seem to be bothered by the lack of sex, and he isn't compelled to communicate with her about it, even though he certainly must sense her discomfort and confusion.

Been there, girl. With a loving, good-looking, very masculine partner. After two years, the sex fizzled out and became almost nonexistent. Turns out he had extreme intimacy issues and an extremely low sex drive.