Your argument that the military should wait until a group of people are widely accepted before "allowing" them to serve is...well...bad and not particularly grounded in reality.

Military integration for African-Americans happened in 1948 (read:before the civil rights act). Women had been fighting in America's wars since the beginning, but were ultimately integrated into combat roles out of necessity during the World Wars and in fact, were treated equally until the 1994 combat exclusionary policy was enacted, which by the way, I can't find any justification for. But think about that, women were serving combat roles until they were just arbitrarily banned in 1994 and that didn't get lifted until 2015. Just before that, 40,000 women served in the Gulf War, which included engaging with the enemy. And to reiterate, were just arbitrarily banned afterwards. Did the acceptance of women decline after they fought and bled for their country?