I, too, am adopted. I always felt, that no matter the vehicle, I was always destined to be my parents' child. I never had a desire to know my birth mother and found the majority of non-adopted people could not understand this and told me that I was wrong. Also, often when I mentioned that I was adopted, it was meet with pity. One woman said that if she found out that her brother was adopted she would be devasted because he no longer would be her brother. Another said adoption is dangerous because you never know what you'll get stuck with. Even my beloved had said that I have no idea what family is because I don't have any. I feel very secure with my parents, we had our challenges, but it's not because I'm adopted. That being said, I did find my birth mother a few years ago because my teenage son asked me to as he was born with a genetic disorder. It turns out that I like her very much. But my parents will always be my parents. She was just the vehicle to get me to them.