I appreciate your respect. I get that situations are very difficult all across the board and that marriage's indissolubility can look like a very different prospect for a woman being abused by her alcoholic husband than it does for me.

Nevertheless, sinful actions and hard cases cannot detract from the fundamental reality of marriage described in Matthew 19 and throughout the Scriptures. Christ's crystal clear teaching is that divorce and the denial of marriage's indissolubility results from the hardness of heart. The entire logic of the Gospel is to transform the human heart into something that is patient, forgiving, receptive, open, and responsive to the needs of the other.

Every time we affirm divorce, declare that marriage can end because of sin and strife, we reject  one of the fundamental propositions of the Scriptures: that love can bear all things. That Christ's actions on Calvary are possible for us as well.