I'm choosing to post here with conniekay  jazz drummer?) rather than initiate my own post, and it's not to pick on connie, but I'm sensing a little tunnel vision here on the subject.

I was a cab driver for a number of years in an Ivy League town that is much smaller than Eugene. Without getting too graphic, I have seen and heard discussed activities and attitudes that would make a sailor blush, as they used to say. From the young ladies, that is. Sorority girls.

Prior to my tenure as a cab driver, I spent 20 years as an internationally ignored rock super-star. Again, without going into detail, someone please explain groupies to me at that level of the entertainment industry (pretty low), because frankly, I never saw the appeal. 

Lastly, out of neither embarrassment nor pride, I lost my virginity at the tender age of 13 years and 7 months (but who's counting), which means I was a statutory rapist for at least 6 years.

And I've never forced myself on anyone.

I hope you get my point.