Wow.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.  We need more stories like this.  I remember having lunch with some work friends and one woman complaining about her boss.  A few minutes layer someone spoke about a sexual harassment and the first woman said “I’m really lucky something like that has navel happened to me”.  She realized, as quickly as the rest of us, her denial.  It’s a bizarre experience, and our coping mechanisms can be equally bizarre.  Thanks to this writer and my sorrow for your experience.