TASK DEFINITION: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I live in an apartment above a store. There's two doors from the street; one to get into the store one that goes to my apartment (unit 2). My door is clearly marked with "unit 2" and the street address on it, not 10 ft from the store entrance which is clearly a store. Several months ago when  I first moved in I got a package delivered from amazon's carrier to the store instead of my apartment. Once I realized that's where the missing package likely ended up I went down to the store and the store owner I'd never met was shockingly annoyed that he had to deal with handing me this box because he was far too busy in his completely empty store. Went off a rant about how it was not his job to keep track off my boxes and I better make sure this never happens again. Kept on rambling even as I was walking out. (Seriously can't believe how much of a dick he was about such a minor inconvenience if you can even call it that.) 

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So I called amazon's custom support told them that it had been delivered to the wrong door and we both confirmed that the delivery address was indeed unit 2 she told me they'd send a message to the carrier that it had been delivered to the wrong place and to make sure future delivery's were sent to the door marked unit 2. Additionally I added a delivery instruction "make sure to deliver to the door marked unit 2 and not the store". I received a couple future packages from UPS and FEDEX without any issue. When I was picking up one of the packages the driver even mentioned the note, saying it had been helpful so the drivers clearly do see them, though I can't see why it's not clear in the first place this doesn't seem like all that unusual of a scenario for a delivery man. 

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Today the status of my package sent via amazon's carrier changed to "handed to resident" when I, the only resident in my apartment, was not handed any package and there was none outside of my apartment. Assumingly it was handed to the store again. I called amazon custom support told them I never got the package that was supposedly handed to me in person and they just said "maybe he scanned it and forgot to deliver it call back if you don't have it tomorrow." 

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Clearly the amazon carrier is at fault here but AITA for not just getting my package? Besides just not wanted to deal with the store owner again I want to make sure this never happens again and if I get it from downstairs I'm sure next package will be dropped off there again. On the other hand there's also the chance, that seems pretty likely, no ones going to investigate the missing package and the same deliver guy will just drop off the replacement to the store again (plus it's obviously wasteful).

SOLUTION: no

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : tl;dr at the end. 

One of my roommates, we'll call her Drunky, drinks excessively. I don't say anything about it because we're in college and she can do what she wants. However, lately it's been getting worse and worse. 

Two weeks ago Drunky started hitting her head against the wall at 2 in the morning, causing our neighbors to call the cops for a noise complaint. It took me and my other roommate physically lifting her up and carrying her to her bed to make her stop. We explained the situation to the cop, he recommended she didn't get that drunk again, and he left. 

Last weekend, Drunky came back from the bar claiming to only have had 3 drinks and wanted to drink more. She poured herself a big glass of wine and took it into her room. She came back out about a half hour later for another one, and repeated that until the bottle was gone. Probably 4 more times. My other roommate and I were sitting on the couch watching tv when Drunky stumbles out of her room, lays down on the floor, and vomits all over herself and the couch. My roommate and I clean her up, mop up the vomit, take her to the toilet, and tell her to throw up in there if she needs to again. Drunky ends up falling asleep in the bathroom and my other roommate has to drive her to work the next day because she was still drunk. 

Last night, Drunky and I are the only ones in the apartment as my other roommates had gone home for winter break. Drunky gets home from the bar at 3:30. She's with a guy who I assume is spending the night, so I go to sleep. At 4:30, I'm woken up by the fire alarm. The kitchen is filled with smoke. I'm still sleepy, so before finding the source of the smoke, I go make sure Drunky is awake and getting ready to evacuate. She's still asleep, so I nudge her to wake her up and she slaps my had away and tells me to leave her alone. 
Figuring she was up now, I grab my fire extinguisher, go back to the kitchen, and find the stove on high with a pot of noodles billowing smoke but not on fire. I grab the pot, take it outside, and prop the door open to clear the air. After once again checking on Drunky, I go back to sleep. 

Turns out Drunky's friend had left, so she decided to make some noodles. Everything was fine until she had to puke. She made it to the toilet but forgot she had made noodles so she went to bed. 

When she woke up this morning, I talked to her and the conversation didn't go well. I told her she needed to see a therapist or psychiatrist because she has a drinking problem. I didn't say anything before because she's a senior in college and can make her own decisions, but now she's put the safety of our entire apartment complex at risk because of her bad decisions. She got mad and left. Drunky texted our roommate and told her that she was mad at me because I overstepped my boundries. 

So AITA here or was I justified in confronting her? 

TL;DR: Roommate is mad at me because I didn't let her burn out apartment complex down. 

SOLUTION: no

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I’ll keep this as brief as possible but it’s somewhat complex. Apologies in advance for the length and any mobile formatting issues. Throwaway for obvious reasons.

My main group of friends is made up of lots of siblings from numerous families, interspersed with best friends who’ve married brothers from the same family, siblings marrying best friends’ siblings, younger siblings growing up and integrating. Nothing weird but I describe us using a diagram! We span in age from around 29-48 or thereabouts.

I recently went on a three week holiday (I’d never been away for longer than 10 days previously), to the other side of the world to see some of my family. Brother, sister in law (who’s also my best friend), niece, nephew, father and sister. I had a decent size suitcase but realised about two weeks before leaving I had so many presents for them I was going to be hard pushed to fit in enough clothes etc. They moved over this time last year so I had a backlog of birthday and Christmas presents to top up.

A few months ago a friend had asked me if I could take a couple of t shirts and little bits for the kids (my sister in law is also one of her best friends and their children are friends). I said sure, of course.

A week before my flight her sister (another friend) came to my place for dinner and a catch up because she was going to flat/cat sit for me while I was away. She’s been living at home saving up a deposit for her own place and although I knew she was doing me a massive favour she’d also said that she was looking forward to a bit of privacy and independence. I lined up a weekly cleaner, wrote three pages of notes on anything and everything and cleared drawers and wardrobe space for her. At this catch up she handed over the ‘little bits for the kids’ which her sister had given to her, which turned out to be a pretty hefty box, 30x25x6 cm, weighing 2kg and stuffed with  shirts, books, cards and toys.

I felt actual dismay at the size of it. But I sat down with the friend I was going travelling with and we tried to work out if we could fit it all in. We just knew we couldn’t so she texted and said we’d both tried but we couldn’t manage it and we were really sorry. Let me make it clear that this was a shitty move on my part - I should have texted myself. It wasn’t a deliberate dodge but as I discovered later when I saw some of the messages the friend with the parcel had sent about me I realised I’d fucked up and said I was so sorry, I didn’t think, we were together when we sent the text and it was a total brain fart.

Anyway, prior to this realisation, the friend whose box it was sent me a series of escalating text messages. Things like it was a waste of clothes and books(?), how could I leave for my trip having done that to her (I hadn’t left and wasn’t due to for 5 days), that I would have been welcome to take it all out of the box and fit it in that way etc. I assured her I hadn’t left yet. But I also said it wasn’t just the box, it was the weight and bulkiness on top of the rest of the stuff I was taking. I said I was really sorry but I’d had to ask my mum to take back a present she’d given me to take over as well. I was going to be hard pushed to get enough clothes in there! I sent her a photo of my case and she asked if I could just take the birthday present for nephew (a t shirt and a book) and the letters/cards from her and her kids, she’d post the rest, and I said yes, no problem (I’d left enough space for this - i.e. what she’d originally requested). Silence, no acknowledgement, nothing. So I just packed them and took them.

After arriving I saw the messages she’d been sending about me to the friend I was travelling with. As mentioned, as soon as I did I apologised for passing the buck and not telling her myself, because it was clear she was upset about it and I knew I’d messed up. I also confirmed that the kids had been given the present and cards etc and they’d been received with thanks. But in her messages she was also ranting about how irresponsible I am and (the really upsetting part) that she thought it was the ‘least I could do given her sister had agreed to cat sit for me’. 

As another layer of fucked-up-ness her sister then didn’t turn up the first day of cat sitting so my neighbour had to step in. Sister texted me at 7pm the evening before my morning flight asking me to put the autofeeder on as she wouldn’t be there until the day after she was supposed to come. After that, she barely replied to any messages until I texted her sister apologising, after which she switched back to normal. She’s not a slow or sporadic texter usually and this was not just a coincidence. I have no problem with sisters confiding in each other and having each other’s backs but I feel like my poor bloody cat shouldn’t have to suffer for it. His feeder only runs for 24 hours and it was going to be 36 by the time she got there. He’s also an indoor cat and gets very lonely without company :(

Now I feel like either a) her sister isn’t actually the friend I thought she was or b) she is and this girl is overreacting, manipulating and lashing out or c) I’ve been a shit friend for letting her down on the parcel in the first place. When I texted her apologising for the brain fart I mentioned I’d seen the texts. She came back to say ‘Thanks for clarifying. Don’t worry about it.’ So she knows I’ve seen her saying pretty awful things about me, she knows I’ve seen that she said her sister, someone I consider a friend in her own right, was only helping me as a favour to her. But she clearly believes she’s justified in saying those things and that she’s done nothing wrong. She didn’t thank me for taking the things I did end up taking.

Just as an aside - the destination country was Australia and I was departing the UK, both of whose postal systems are extremely good. The parcel would’ve made it no problem. Her husband makes a lot of money in finance and she is a stay at home mum. We’re both around 40 (too old for this stuff imo but maybe that’s me being the asshole).

Also, photo of my suitcase (pre-clothes packing) attached. Her parcel is on top with the ribbon.

https://imgur.com/gallery/nV8CnJe

AITA? I don’t know what to think and it’s really playing on my mind. Should I have tried harder to fit her stuff in? Am I wrong to expect an apology for her behaviour when I’m the one who let her down? 

Thank you so much for reading if you’ve gotten this far and apologies if it’s a bit confusing! I’m confused myself tbh... :/

SOLUTION:
yes

