TASK DEFINITION: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : **throwaway because my guild uses reddit to communicate. i do know that lgbtq issues can be contentious and can be seen as baiting but i have read through similar posts i searched on this reddit and haven't found any very similar issues. i promise i am not trying to be inflammatory and will try to be as respectful as possible in my language.**

i am one of the guild leaders for a gay male guild on world of warcraft. for us, having a space to be openly gay around other openly gay guys is comforting. wow still has a lot of homophobia, especially in raiding guilds. some of us have also met up in real life once or twice yearly. general lgbtq\*, genderqueer, and lesbian guilds also exist.

recently, a new member joined our guild who self-identified as gay and gender non-conforming transman. in their words, they were born a female but dress in a more masculine style so they don't feel comfortable using a female identity, but also maintain female physiology and are interested in men. from the guild's perspective, there is no issue here and they were fully welcomed.

the issue arose in our guild discord server. we are 18+ and we have a #nsfw channel where we share adult images. this channel is opt-in, clearly marked, and not mandatory. when new member joined, they began to share some pornographic material of trans men (no bottom surgery). no one had an issue with this but they did not much attention if any at all because i think this type of pornography is less popular with our members.

new member complained in private that they felt excluded because other images shared got comments but not theirs. we let them know that they were welcome to share images but that people were free to comment on whichever images they liked. we didn't hear back. a few days later the user shared some revealing selfies. one user replied "wow, looking good" but then someone else shared something else and the attention was redirected there. the new user said the person who shared after them was transphobic and trying to drown out their images because it had a vagina and not a penis pictured (their words).

i re-messaged the user in the private that the drama isn't appreciated and that there was nothing transphobic about what the other user did and name-calling was unacceptable. the user replied to us that they wouldn't stand by if someone was being transphobic. they continued name-calling in the public channel so i didn't hesitate to remove them from the in-game guild and the chat server.

the next day, users that weren't online at the time saw the remnants of the conversation (i removed the personal photos for privacy) but one took issue and felt like the situation was transphobic. ultimately this led to a heated discussion amongst members. i loathe how much drama this has caused.

**was i the asshole or is this just a case of a very emotional issue bringing out a more heated, sensitive side in some people? thank you guys for reading all of this.**

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Me (M 15) and my girlfriend (F 15) have been dating for quite a while now. The relationship is amazing and we haven't gotten into any major arguments. But we do have one issue,  her younger brother (11). The first time when I went over to her place I thought he reminded me of myself when I was his age. A bit wild, liked to play a lot etc. BOY WAS I WRONG. This kid is off the hook,  he hits my girlfriend,  yells at his parents,  and just doesn't listen. Ive tried to calm him down,  and I've been close to losing my cool for hitting my girlfriend. I mean I understand he's a young age but even I wasn't this wild. Me and my girlfriend can't even have two seconds together alone when I'm over. I set the mood,  things get steamy,  then bam he's coming through the door and won't leave,  and it's not like we can lock the door. My girlfriend tries to tell him to stop and chill out,  but he just doesn't listen.  The parents threaten him with punishments (that never go through) but he still keeps acting up. I barely get to see my girlfriend at school and when I'm at her house is the only time we get to our selves. Am I really the asshole for hating him?

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year (both women). She is my first GF and our relationship is incredible. Aside from a few small arguments we’ve had in the past our relationship has been pretty peaceful, except for the one we had a couple nights ago. We were laying in bed when she asked me what I thought about our sex life. She thinks that it’s perfect and with good reason; I always make sure she enjoys it. I’ve never had a hard time making her cum and she’s always very into it. At the beginning of our relationship I studied her body and tried new things in bed every time so that I could figure out what would immediately get her going and also find out the things she didn’t like so I could refrain from doing them. I feel like that’s the bare minimum a spouse should do because sex should be an experience that both people enjoy. 

However, when it’s her turn to return the favor she either (1) Falls Asleep, (2) Half-Asses the job, or (3) completely avoids it altogether. She has never made me cum once. Now, she has mentioned that I’m the first girl she has ever had sex with so she doesn’t really know what to do. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and just assumed she was nervous. After all, she’s the first girl I’ve ever had sex with too and I was nervous as hell our first night together. But the only way I got over that fear was by practicing. I’ve tried everything from guiding her through it to boosting her confidence. I even suggested she search up different ways to satisfy me so that she can find something she’s completely comfortable with. Each to no avail. She knows how badly I want it too and teases me about it often. She’ll say stuff like “Do _____ for me first and then I’ll make you cum.” I always fall for it and Every. Single. Time. There is some sort of excuse. 

Eventually, the lack of intimacy on her end made me extremely self-conscious and I started wondering if maybe I just wasn’t attractive enough to her. We had just had sex right before she asked me the question and yet again it ended only when SHE was happy with it. So, when answering how I felt about our sex life I was completely honest and said that I was glad I was able to fulfill her needs but I often felt left out and self-conscious afterwards because she either never offers to return the favor or she does but then can’t quite finish the job. I was so angry that in the heat of the moment I suggested that maybe I should just find a new sexual partner. I made it clear that the person would only be there for my sexual needs and would in no way impose on our relationship. She, herself, has suggested something similar because she has been in a polyamorous relationship before. At first I said no but now I think that’s something I need at this point. She got very upset and said that what I said was hurtful and rude. I was only telling the truth. I know sex isn’t the only thing to seek in a relationship but it’s an important part of it. It’s unfair to me that only one of us is enjoying it. Should I have just kept my mouth shut???

SOLUTION:
no

