Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Question: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Maybe this is more appropriate for /r/relationships or /r/sex but whatever.

So i've been with my girlfriend for just over a year now, it's been by far the best relationship of my life in terms of being in love, stress free, sharing interests, sex life etc it's been a total unicorn relationship.

Anyway, I have only had two partners before her, both LTR. I'm personally against casual sex and drug use although i'm fine for other people to do it, it's just not the lifestyle i've ever wanted. She's said she agreed with me and that she had four partners before me and never used drugs. I'm sure you can see where this is going.

I found out that her and her previous boyfriend were poly and into a lot of crazy stuff, threesomes with both genders, using drugs, and obviously her partner count of both men and women was a lot higher than she said. Again, I have no problem with this lifestyle it's just not something I would want for myself or for the woman I marry.

I confronted her about this and eventually got the truth confirmed after a lot of evasiveness. She says all that poly/drug stuff before was what made her realize that she wanted the conventional monogamous marriage with loads of kids etc and a clean life just like me and only lied to me because she knew a man looking for that wouldn't want to marry a woman with her past. 

That makes sense because i'm seriously thinking about breaking up with her over this, firstly because she lied to me for so long about stuff she knew was important to me, second because of insecurity. Like she's the best sex of my life but what if I rank only 20th or something for her? Could someone who lived that life be happy with the "square" life with me? And since she's apparently bisexual could she ever be happy without women? What if she's only using me as the "safe" man she settles down with and cheats on me? If I marry her will I end up regretting that I missed a huge red flag?

Those are questions for me to decide on, my question to all you is: WIBTA to throw away the best relationship of my life over this? Or is it fair for this to be a dealbreaker and i'm about to dodge a bullet?

Answer: yes


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A little bit of background, I am 20 years old and my parents got divorced when I was 11. My dad got remarried almost immediately afterwards and our once close relationship has been rocky for many years due to the fact that his current wife and I can never seem to get along. 

On my dad’s side of the family we have a traditional Christmas cookie recipe that everyone makes every year and my dad and I have been making them together every year pretty much since I was able to reach the counter. My brother, 18 (For the sake of the story we will call him S)  makes them with us most years too and since my dad got remarried my stepsister, 15 (for the sake of the story we will call her A) has joined in with us on this tradition.  Also my stepmom has two sons J who lives in another state with A and T who lives with my dad and stepmom. 

Today was thanksgiving so my brother (S) and I went over to my dad and stepmom’s house. My stepsister (A) is also visiting for the holiday and staying through the weekend (she usually lives in another state with her father). The last time I saw all of them was back in August so I was a bit worried I’d get the usual complaints of not seeing them enough but that didn’t really happen this time. We actually had a really really good time. We had dinner and played games, two of T’s friends came over since they had nowhere to go. It was awesome, probably one of the best thanksgivings we have had yet. We tried to take a family picture for Christmas cards but we couldn’t get food enough light since it was already dark out so my stepmom decided to make a plan for S and I to come over Saturday morning so we could do the picture and she and my dad would make us breakfast. Sounded good to me, we agreed all went on. 

Everything was good except my dad and stepmom kept going into their bedroom to our liquor in their drinks because they told everyone else it would be a dry event (but they are never sober so it really doesn’t surprise me that they were sneaking liquor). Not too out of the ordinary though. Everything was pretty normal and good. 

Then T left to bring his friends home. With the friends out of the house things seemed to quickly change. S and I were about to head out but we stopped and talked to my dad in the kitchen and I asked him if there would be any weekends between now and Christmas that he wasn’t traveling for work so I could come over and we could have a Christmas cookie day. He told me which days he’d be out of town and I was like alright I’ll see which of the other days I can get off work and we can do that. He told me he probably wouldn’t bring any to work this year since he doesn’t actually have an office with his new job but he was joking about how he could mail cookies to his coworkers and I started joking about how I could bring some in to my internship to try and butter them up so they will hire me next year. It was all pretty normal conversation but then it got a little confusing. 

A came up and was jokingly being offended that we were going to make cookies without her and my dad told her he already has the stuff so she can make them this weekend while she’s here and she asked if I was going to come make cookies this weekend then and my stepmom reminded her that I had to work all weekend. A suggested Saturday when I’m here for the pictures but I told her I could help in the morning but only a little bit since I have to work at 2. Then my stepmom was trying to say I’d have to be here much earlier on Saturday to help with cookies and I explained “I wasn’t planning to come early I was just saying I will help if I have time. I still have to work all weekend and would like to have another cookie day sometime closer to Christmas when I don’t have to work.” Somehow this led to my stepmom raising her voice and getting angry about how I only want to see them when I need something and that this is why I never see them and I tried to argue back and defend myself saying no this isn’t because I need something, it’s because I want to make cookies with you guys, I’m trying to make a plan here to see you guys.” And it was very clear it was about to turn into a big fight but then S got angry and stormed out the door so I just stopped and said “I guess S says it’s time to go” and then turned and followed him. A stopped me by the door and said goodbye and then told me to tell S she says goodbye too. She was the only one I said goodbye too. Both S and I messaged her after we left and apologized for storming out and she said she understands. We love hanging out with A and obviously we want to get to see my dad but it feels like my stepmom makes it so hard sometimes. 

Was she right though? Am I the asshole in this situation??? I really just don’t even know anymore. She just makes me question everything about myself sometimes. 

Answer: no


Question: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Kind of long but I would appreciate any insight.

I go to a state college and live at my fraternity house off campus. I had to move my truck, which I am trying to sell, out of our driveway for a day and so I parked it in a lot right down the street from our house. We live pretty far off campus and usually use this lot for overflow parking because it's always empty but very recently the college designated this as a campus lot. As I pulled out of my drive, my truck died in the street. Stone dead battery. I had a friend hook up a tow strap and we dragged it to the lot. I come back from class a couple days later and find it gone. I call the campus police and ask them about it and they say it probably got towed. I go to the garage where it is and they charge me $460 to get it back. Because I was selling, I had taken off the plates and removed insurance/registration. I had to get it towed back to my house because it had no plates. Another 200. This was in February in New York. There was a ton of snow. The flatbed could not get up our steep driveway and was forced to put it in the same lot. This lot also has a steep drive to get out of and he barely got out after. My 4x4 was broken at the time and, that night we got another ton of snow. I couldn't get out of the lot with all the snow and only 2 wheel drive and wouldn't have been able to get up my driveway. I met with the campus police chief and explained my situation and he basically told me it wasn't his problem and I had two days to move it. Physically, this was impossible and I couldn't get out of the lot. Two days later, I get towed again. Another $460. I decide to have it towed back to my home two hours north. Garage charges me 45 a day to have it parked behind their shop while I wait for the 500 dollar transport. All in all cost me 1700 bucks. I've been bitter with the garage for charging college students outrageous fees and the campus police for having zero compassion for my plight.

Answer:
no


