Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

Q: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I (30F) have been in a relationship with my partner (30M) for almost 2.5 years, and he is more introverted than I am. When we lived apart, accommodating for his solo time was easier. If I'd go to his place after work, then he would go upstairs and chill on his own for a bit to recombobulate and then come back downstairs. On weekends, we'd hang out for a while but he'd get his solo time on weeknights when I wasn't there and on weekend mornings when I wouldn't be around. He told me then that he appreciated me accommodating his need for solo time. 
We've been living together now for almost 6-months and we've had the same discussion 4 times and I can't for the life of me figure out if I am at fault or if he needs to be more vocal about needing his solo time, now that we share the same space. It is a two-bedroom space with his computer in the 2nd bedroom; I try to not bother him in there because that is generally his "resetting" space. The conversation that we've had a few times now is that he needs his solo time and he doesn't feel like he is getting it. The issue is, he never tells me at the time, that he needs his solo time. I think it's been every two months now, he'll address the issue in a conversation, which is great, but he has almost never asks for solo time in the moment. I'm really struggling to deal with this since its the forth time we've addressed it. He hasn't let me know many particular ways I am impacting his solo time, aside from that we go to bed earlier than he normally would or we hang out more lazily on weekend mornings. He's been accommodating to what he thinks my needs are (lazily hanging out more than he would prefer), while I feel like I'm able to accommodate to him, he is just not communicating that he needs time in the moment. From my perspective, he needs to make behavioural changes like just getting out of bed, or not coming to bed with me, but he hasn't done these in the past.

I don't know how to adjust my behaviour right now so am looking for advice too. Since this is the 4th time we've discussed this, I'm almost at my wits end and don't know what to do anymore. I have told him in other discussions that he needs to be more vocal about when he needs solo time. My approach now is, should I just try to accommodate for him if he will not let me know when he needs his solo time? This I am also struggling with though, because obviously it is situational. So I think; "okay, from now on, I won't do xxx", or "from now on, I'll just stay away from the house for longer periods of time after work". But, I don't particularly want to loiter somewhere instead of coming, when I wish he would just say, I need my solo time and I will be staying up later solo etc. 

I feel like each time we have this conversation I have failed. I can't really hid my true feelings so he knows something is off with me. I don't know if this is a similar scenario to people with depression as well though. I've also been wondering if it's one of those: if you're depressed, people will say just let people know and they will help you! But since you're depressed you really don't have the capacity to reach out to others. Am I failing my introverted partner by asking him to let me know when he needs his solo time?

TLDR: Have lived with introverted boyfriend for 6 months and we continue to have the same discussion that he is not getting his solo time. He has never mentioned it in the moment that he needs to "retreat" but I have now explicitly asked him to do so and I don't know if this is a bad approach. 

A: yes
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Q: CLAIM : The following post is HYPOTHETICAL. POST : My ex and I get along incredibly well, he's actually one of my best friends. Let's call him Jon for now. We both support a band that some mutual acquaintances of ours play in and have gone to every single show together. Tonight the band is having a performance and he asked me if I was interested in going since it is so close after I get out of work.

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I said I was iffy because I'm behind on a few projects for work and possibly had dinner plans, but I would update him the week of. On Wednesday, I told Jon I might go because I caught up pretty well and asked if he was going.

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He said yeah, but he invited his roommate. I was happy because the headcount for each band is really important for them being able to get booked and his roommate is a nice enough guy. Then he tells me he invited five or six other people and they are close friends of his.

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Now Jon's friends are very nice people, I only saw them a handful of time while we were dating and they really liked me. But while they are kind they don't ever seem to respect that myself and my ex are not getting back together. They make commentary about us in a romantic way that makes me uncomfortable which my ex just brushes off as them busting his balls. I'm a socially anxious person already, so those kinds of things set me into full panic mode and I avoid accompanying Jon to outings with people that were close when we dated.

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So I hear this and I kind of panic so I try to make myself sound flakey, but Jon picks up on this and asks if now I'm going to avoid going because his friends are going. I lie and say no, but he knows how I feel about them so he doesn't believe me. Through the phone I can hear him sigh kind of heavy and he says that he hates that I do this. Now Jon isn't the only person I do this to because of anxiety (curse my social butterfly friends), but he is definitely the one I do it the most to. 

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Not long after he hangs up on me with some excuse that his roommate got home. 

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Yesterday I messaged him that I had a new project and I wasn't showing up. He replied that two of his friends, a really sweet couple, said that was too bad and that they miss me.

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I feel bad about not going because I know its an important show for the band, so I figured I can compromise by bringing a friend with me so I won't be left alone with Jon's group.

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But... it is going to be very obvious that I'm coming out with someone in order to avoid being with his friends and there is a 75% chance that he'll be upset. And the only person I can go with is a female friend of mine that Jon really doesn't like. (Kind of a central figure to me breaking up with him)

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WIBTA to show up with her in order to avoid being alone with his friends?

A: yes
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Q: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : We’ve been together for two months and hang out almost every day just because we get along so well - but his driving honestly freaks me out. He’s not the worst and I’m not one to talk because still I have to get my license, but the only time I really snap at him is when he is on the freeway or tailgating other people. I honestly feel very bad about the way I act, but he’s adamant that I’m not an AH, I’m just a jerk/mean when I criticize him.

I tend to be very afraid on the roads because of a childhood experience that very easily could’ve killed me and my mom (thanks, dad) and I’ve expressed that to him, but I just can’t get him to realize that HE’S the bad driver. For instance, he was driving today and braked hard because the driver in front of us - in his words - “braked too hard for some reason.” We weren’t even on the highway, it wasn’t that busy of a road, and yet he was RIGHT BEHIND THE GUY for no good reason and the guy in front barely braked to make a turn!

I snapped and said “if you weren’t tailgating the fuckin’ guy you wouldn’t have had to brake like that!” He went quiet, and I continued: “Drive like this by yourself, not with me.” (My tone was definitely very attacking - wasn’t the most constructive way to criticize it.) He went quiet for the next few minutes until I apologized.

On the highway, we live in a very populated city so it can be VERY chaotic - but he drives so aggressively and fast and nearly rear ended 3 (!) people and I honestly screamed at him a couple times because he wouldn’t stop putting us in bad situations like that. He always makes excuses for his driving, won’t admit when he’s wrong, and I don’t feel very safe, but I also know I can be intense. Is it bad to criticize his driving so much? Is there a better way to get him to stop driving like a jerk? AITA?

A:
no
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