Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My family moved from New York to Florida when I started middle school. They enrolled me in a private middle school that costs $23,700 ish for a year. Surprisingly this is way more cheaper than the private schools in New York and the Northeast region of America.

I had a hard time fitting in. I was younger than everyone cause I was 10 going on 11. I was the only asian person amongst a population of 90% white kids. I haven’t hit puberty and my social skills sucked. A lot of kids have extremely wealthy parents (like an occasional student would belong to a multi-billionaire family). For me, my parents were immigrants and i lived in a rented, small apartment for a while before my parents bought and moved into an even smaller apartment. 

In sixth grade my grades were overall great. If i got anything lower than a B on a test, my parents would get extremely upset if they were having a bad day. I didn’t start getting Cs in quarter grades and Fs on midterms until my final year at that school (8th grade). I was getting bullied severely and was called racial slurs by my classmates. I got little to no support from my teachers. I would turn in my math assignments late and had a geometry teacher tell me I would never be successful in high school. I found no purpose in doing heavy coursework. Colleges aren’t going to see this. I felt like i had no skill in the arts and athletics while everyone else did. I started getting into conflicts with people and I was clearly not in the right mental place. Looking back, I was basically a 13 year old version of Holden Caulfield from Catcher in the Rye.

I went to a local public school for high school. I don’t talk to my old private school “friends” anymore except one or two who truly understood what I was going through. I mainly got straight As but I continue to barely put effort into studying. These days my mom says she’s proud of me but I get a different vibe from my dad. Whenever I would complain about my current public school, he would say he gave me an opportunity to succeed in private school, but I didn’t take it. I know he truly believed in me when we first moved to Florida, but since my experience wasn’t a good one, he puts a lot of the fault on me.

To this day I feel like I have disappointed my parents and I can’t express my feelings to anyone because most people tell me I was privileged and they would disregard what i had to say. So am I the asshole for wasting my parents’ money (3 years accumulated to over $70,000)?

A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A bit of context before I get in to the real story.

I am 33 years old. I've been married for 7 years and have lived away from home since 2005 or so.
I grew up in a family that is not affectionate. I have two brothers and my parents stayed married. They both loved me, but there was never I love yous, hugs, kisses, etc. I'm totally ok with that as I know nothing else. Hugs and affection is foreign to me and I've been working on it.

With that out or the way...
At the beginning of November, I lost my mother. She had been admitted for suicide watch to a local psych hospital on a Monday. On the Friday, she was determined safe to leave. She had struggled with depression all of my life, but never this bad.

My dad picked her up, and decided to go to work at 6pm, mere hours after coming home with her. He said she seemed normal and just wanted to sleep.

At 7am, my husband and I were woken up by the police banging on my door, with my oldest brother. It was then I found out that my mom killed herself sometime overnight and my dad found her in the bathtub at 6am when he got home from work.

My husband and I left our house to go to my brothers (my other brother lives 2000km away and would fly in that night).
The first few days were terrible. My dad spent every waking moment verbalizing everything. Every detail, every second, every moment. It was agonizing to hear him go on and on. He couldn't get out of this loop.

It got better. It's now been about six weeks. The new issue I am having is hanging out with my father. 
My mom was a stay at home mom. I was their only daughter. My mom was my best friend. We lived only minutes away from each other and we hung out often.
My dad on the other hand worked full time growing up. He was always tired so never hung out. Even in my adult years when we went over he often wasn't there, or was outside smoking pot. Therefore I really never bonded with him.

Lately, my dad will just... Pop over. I feel like he's trying to make up for lost time but he is laying on the love way, way too much. I understand where he is coming from as he feels that mentality is what ended my mother. I get it. I cant however flip a switch. It honestly feels foreign and fake.

Besides being way too overbearingly loving, every time he comes over he talks about her, and the events. He's gotten better about going over the story, but he spends a lot of time here just talking about her and how his life is different.

I've gotten to the point where I've requested he ask before he comes over. I'm not used to people just coming over, and frankly I'm starting to find his presence uncomfortable. I do understand. My brothers have someone to talk to. my dad just has us. My oldest brother has gotten angry at him because he does the same at their house. I have never shown anger, but I will often make up an excuse if he wants to come over. It's not that I WANT to forget my mom or what happened, but I am healing a different way and every time he comes over it sets me back literally to day one.

I feel like im being an asshole, but I don't really know any other way.

A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Basically, it was recently my birthday and my friend shipped me some explicit comics from Japan as a gift. I do appreciate the gift but I'm not comfortable having physical copies of those comics and is extremely paranoid about it especially in terms moving it around since I'm studying abroad right now and eventually need to go back to my country that is highly against explicit content. Am I the asshole for wanting to just throw them away? 

A:
yes
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