Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

[Q]: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So this is exactly as the title states. I've had a falling out with my FWB. Sorry for bad formatting and whatever. I'm posting from my phone.

This all started when we kissed. It was not intended as he was just a friend, but we just happened to click. He got out of a relationship a bit before and wasn't ready for a new one yet and I am too busy with work and school to focus on a relationship, so we decided to not take it any further. We kept it at kissing, making out, going on dates and foreplay. I am not one for being physically intimate, so sex was off the table for now and any other form of physical contact is at a minimum. 

We went on one date and it was amazing. I felt like I was in a good mood and felt comfortable around him and the night consisted of me initiating holding him (instead of the other way around) and whatnot. At the end of the night, he texted me and said he had a really good time and hopes that I will open up more to him and the idea of being more physically affectionate. I agreed and the night ended. 

Afterwards, we didnt have much plans made and I was hanging out with other friends. They are guys. Every time I would text my FWB about my time hanging out with a friend (platonically), I could feel a wave of jealousy wash over him. His texts seemed quite passive aggressive. Like for example, I was hanging out with a childhood friend of mine who is a guy and he said "have fun on your date. Lol" in a "joking" manor. I got a little frustrated and decided to stop replying. I always told him that if he finds someone else, I wouldn't be mad if he decided to pursue them. I told him to let me know so I wouldn't be an interference and we would resume a normal friendship. He agreed. 

This whole jealousy thing continued into what I described to be "clingy". Whenever I didnt start the conversation by 5 PM, he would text me saying that he was upset that I didnt text him all day because he missed me, which was confusing because he could have texted first too. He would also get upset when I would read his messages and not reply. The only messages I would not reply to would be ones that seemed to be a dead end such as "okay". I kinda shrugged it off. 

Him getting upset about me not responding/texting first continued and I told him that we arent dating and I'm not obligated to reply to him. This upset him. He started getting very short with his messages. I felt like he was starting to play mind games. I told him so. This made him more mad and we had an argument. I told him we need to talk about this in person. He agreed. I gave him times I'm free and he said he would let me know when he could.

 Days passed and I got no response on when we would talk. I messaged him and asked him if he knew when he could. He said he didnt know. At that point, my week was about to be busy and I only had one day I could meet up with him to talk. I asked him if the day/time worked out. He said he would let me know. He never did. The day came and he asked where I would like to meet up. I got frustrated because he never let me know if that time would work and I had made new plans. He got mad and it escalated to him saying he wouldnt want to be friends anymore because he felt like I didnt care. I was so done that i just agreed. As soon as I sent the message, I regret it and told him I said it out of anger and would want to be friends still and that I still want to talk. It took him half an hour of messaging to convince him.

Since then, we've scheduled times to talk, but he keeps bailing. I feel upset because I enjoyed spending time with him as a friend and as a FWB.  I cant help but feel that it's my fault. 

AITA?

(SORRY FOR THE NOVEL)



[A]: yes


[Q]: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Background: Growing up, my mother and my father weren't the best couple; it was always off and on. I never truly liked my father, but some times were enjoyable. He has never really done anything to support my younger brother, me and my older sister. (i.e. one time he bought us a GameCube for Christmas and took it back the next day (never got it back) so my mother bought us one to make us feel better). Anyways, things like that my siblings and I got from his side of the family thought our childhood. 

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Fast-forward to me when I was 15-16 years old. I witnessed my father drive drunk with my baby step-sister in a blizzard. I was eventually subpoenaed to testify what I had witnessed. The baby's mother took him to court over custody. There I was, 15-16 years old testifying that I saw my "father" drive drunk with my baby sister. 

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During this whole thing, my father's side of the family basically disowned me, including my grandmother. They told me I would never make it anywhere without them, made me feel like shit, and haven't really talked to me since.

 Since then, I moved away (3hours) to college, I am currently in the final semester of a Masters program. I am currently 25 years old and very happy with life, I have a house that I own, and a small family (SO and dog). 

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A few weeks ago, my grandmother got really sick and ended up in ICU at a hospital one hour away. No one from the family contacted me to let me know what was going on or anything - I found out from Facebook. 

AITA for not visiting? I feel like I should, but I do not really know any of that side of my "family" anymore. I would feel awkward visiting and talking with them after what they had done. 

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TLDR: Fathers side of family basically disowned me at 16yrs old for something out of my control. Now 25 and grandmother is dying. No one has ever reached out in since disownment (?). 
[A]: no


[Q]: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This is going to be a long one because I feel like I need to include a fair bit of detail to explain it so there'll be a TLDR at the end.

I (f20) and my friend (M20) (call him P) have been best friends for about 5 years, dated for over a year at the start of those 5 so we're super close. Last night me, P and a couple others went to another friend's house to smoke/drink and there was a guy there that we'd never really met before (call him D). D was the only one that didn't know everyone else there so I made a genuine effort to talk to him, but for the rest of the night he just responded with "shut the fuck up" to everything I said even if not to him (he did it to another girl that showed up so I basically think he just hates women generally) but my friend P was sort of joining in with D and was absolutely no way on my side, I felt like shit, I felt like I couldn't say anything because it would just get shot down, so I went to sleep early and have spent all day crying about it to my boyfriend. I just felt bullied and upset. My friend knew I was upset and said he'd apologise properly later when we go out.

Now right now I'm meant to be in a VIP line to see my friend P's favourite band, and then go to another club night with our shared favourite artist. He got us these tickets for my birthday, and I've not gone, and I feel really awful about it and I feel like I'm just overreacting, but he does things like this constantly, last night was not an exception. P gets far too drunk any time he has any and always needs looking after, he gets messy and too touchy and too loud all at once and is just generally difficult to deal with, he is a huge factor as to why I've stopped going clubbing so much because he's always there and always like this. Also when we're in any kind of social situation together he basically starts peacocking around trying to impress the other people we're with. Unfortunately his tactic for this is to take anything I say and make fun of me for it, I don't think he means to but he does and it upsets me. For example if I question something he  said he'll have a reaction along the lines of "wtf that's not what I  said are you even listening? Are you stupid that's not what I said" (generally his digs make 0 sense so it fully is just like he's saying it for the sake of it) Also anytime I mention me and my boyfriend he just instantly calls it gay or stupid, I called him out on it one time when he did it after me telling him we had reached 8 months together and we're celebrating. P apologized and then did it again in the same conversation when I next mentioned my boyfriend, he called him gay and brushed off what I'd said. I know it's only little stuff but it is genuinely every time we're with other people and again every time I mention my boyfriend. He's going through a tough time right now and I genuinely am the only person that's actively there for him, which makes me feel way worse for letting him down but also just upsets me more because I feel he doesn't even recognise that effort some times.

TLDR: My friend tends to take the piss out of me whenever we're in social situations and always takes the piss out of my relationship. (He is nice when it's just me and him) He was particularly upsetting last night so today I've cancelled going to a gig with him and he might have missed out on seeing two of his favourite artists in one night. I still don't know if he's actually gone or not. 

Basically I'm wondering if I've over reacted or if it was fair
[A]:
yes


