Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A bit of context before I get in to the real story.

I am 33 years old. I've been married for 7 years and have lived away from home since 2005 or so.
I grew up in a family that is not affectionate. I have two brothers and my parents stayed married. They both loved me, but there was never I love yous, hugs, kisses, etc. I'm totally ok with that as I know nothing else. Hugs and affection is foreign to me and I've been working on it.

With that out or the way...
At the beginning of November, I lost my mother. She had been admitted for suicide watch to a local psych hospital on a Monday. On the Friday, she was determined safe to leave. She had struggled with depression all of my life, but never this bad.

My dad picked her up, and decided to go to work at 6pm, mere hours after coming home with her. He said she seemed normal and just wanted to sleep.

At 7am, my husband and I were woken up by the police banging on my door, with my oldest brother. It was then I found out that my mom killed herself sometime overnight and my dad found her in the bathtub at 6am when he got home from work.

My husband and I left our house to go to my brothers (my other brother lives 2000km away and would fly in that night).
The first few days were terrible. My dad spent every waking moment verbalizing everything. Every detail, every second, every moment. It was agonizing to hear him go on and on. He couldn't get out of this loop.

It got better. It's now been about six weeks. The new issue I am having is hanging out with my father. 
My mom was a stay at home mom. I was their only daughter. My mom was my best friend. We lived only minutes away from each other and we hung out often.
My dad on the other hand worked full time growing up. He was always tired so never hung out. Even in my adult years when we went over he often wasn't there, or was outside smoking pot. Therefore I really never bonded with him.

Lately, my dad will just... Pop over. I feel like he's trying to make up for lost time but he is laying on the love way, way too much. I understand where he is coming from as he feels that mentality is what ended my mother. I get it. I cant however flip a switch. It honestly feels foreign and fake.

Besides being way too overbearingly loving, every time he comes over he talks about her, and the events. He's gotten better about going over the story, but he spends a lot of time here just talking about her and how his life is different.

I've gotten to the point where I've requested he ask before he comes over. I'm not used to people just coming over, and frankly I'm starting to find his presence uncomfortable. I do understand. My brothers have someone to talk to. my dad just has us. My oldest brother has gotten angry at him because he does the same at their house. I have never shown anger, but I will often make up an excuse if he wants to come over. It's not that I WANT to forget my mom or what happened, but I am healing a different way and every time he comes over it sets me back literally to day one.

I feel like im being an asshole, but I don't really know any other way.

A: yes
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Q: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I've been friends with this guy for a few years now. Really close for the past year and we dated in the months leading up to his having to move away due to getting a new job in a different state. We decided to break up because he wasn't ready for long distance, but wanted to remain friends.
We texted almost incessantly that year up until a week after he left. We hung out together any spare moment we had. I was there for him through some really tough times involving people close to him and I can pretty confidently say that I was a great friend and girlfriend, even through times that he was especially shitty to me (I never took it to heart because of what he was going through). We'd said we'd keep in touch in various ways/be there for each other when he left. 
However the moment he started his new job he seems to have decided that he didn't have time for me. I had needed to call him a few times for what were necessary work continuity things (we had worked together and of course we chatted every time), but he started to sound annoyed with me for calling at all. He'd take entire days to respond to texts (I know he basically always has his phone glued to his hand). 
My last call to him was to keep him posted on some milestones I'd hit which he had previously asked to be kept posted on, and he started complaining he doesn't talk to even his really good friends that aren't immediately in his vicinity more than every 3-5 months unless he explicitly needs something. I took the hint and apologized, and it's been some time since we last spoke. 
Obviously, I hadn't expected to talk/text nearly as often, but to be told that he just wouldn't talk to me unless absolutely necessary was unexpected, abrupt, and hurtful.
I want to tell myself that transitioning to living in a new place is difficult/busy and maybe he just needs time, but it's painful to be shut out by someone you care about. 
We live in the digital age, and while I didn't expect a ton of communication, I didn't expect to be essentially ghosted by someone I considered my closest friend. It's not hard to text a person and I have many other people that I keep in touch intermittently with this way. 
Am I the asshole/in the wrong for having expected more from a friend?

A: no
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Q: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : \[note: I totally accept that I will get banned if I delete this, but I may have to delete it unexpectedly anyway if my dad finds this somehow. consequences won't be good for obvious reasons. I'm fine with this because this is a throwaway\]

So I'll try to be as brief setting this up as possible. I have bipolar schizoaffective disorder that I've been in treatment for for about seven years and it's mostly controlled by meds. I have a hard time finding employment due to this and I can't really care for myself, plus my mom is disabled and needs some help with certain things, so I live with my parents at 24. Most people in my life regard me as a man or nonbinary person with the exception of my father, who reserves his right to call me his "little girl". That's why I specified my gender status, sorry if that's TMI. It adds to the friction is what I'm getting at.

My dad really likes to talk to me, usually telling stories about things that happened to him or that he heard on NPR. I'm not really allowed to focus on things too hard or wear earbuds/headphones when he's around because I need to be able to listen to him. He's allowed to listen to music and watch TV when I'm in the room because he has misophonia and my breathing/chewing/etc. annoys him, so I don't consider this unbalanced. However, maybe because I'm mentally ill or maybe just because I'm an irritable person, sometimes I get irrationally annoyed by his talking. I have tried to tell him to stop for a while but he gets understandably upset.

My mom gave me permission to listen to music in the car when he drives me to therapy once a week. This was after some arguments about me not listening or responding to him because I had headphones on. She told him I like to be able to gather my thoughts on the way to therapy, and he pretty much accepts that although he still will try to talk to me (but he doesn't get mad if I don't answer).

**TL;DR:** My dad wants to chat on the way to therapy and I want to listen to music and be quiet while I think.

So, yeah. I realize I'm basically being a petty teenager here when I'm waaay too old for that shit. I'm working on getting out of the house. But for now, am I the asshole for wanting to listen to music in the car ride to the therapist and not talk to my dad?

A:
no
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