Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hello people of reddit, first time poster, recent reader and a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you all!

So I'll try (and most likely fail) to keep this short and sweet. Every year, my family travel out to my Uncle's house a couple of days before Christmas to get together and celebrate in our own way, so we can spend time with our partners, wives, husbands, children etc

Now for most of us its about a 2 hour, 130km (85 miles for those in the U.S) drive. This year I was tasked with being my Aunt to the party. Now unfortunately she is the WORST backseat driver because if you go over walking speed, she freaks out and starts screaming and yelling at you to slow down.

For the record, shes perfectly able to drive herself, but doesnt like to drive anywhere she doesnt know

Needless to say, I wasn't looking forward to this as it would turn a 2 hour drive into a 3 hour drive.

So I pick her up, and drive slowly, and save one or two complaints about the weather, its actually a very nice trip, until we get to the motorway/highway.........now in my country, there is a minimum speed limit on the motorway of about 50kph/30mph, this is a legal requirement and you can get stopped by the Police for going under it.

So we get on the motorway and she immediately starts freaking out. Shaking, asking me to slow down, blessing herself, screaming when a car goes past etc.

So to try and keep her happy, I slow down to about 50kph and talk to her, explain that this is as slow as I can go but that shes safe and that we're going to get there safe and sound.

Unfortunately this does nothing and she keeps ordering me to slow down, slow down, SLOW DOWN!! Even slapping me on my arm. At this point, I warned her to keep her hands to herself and just kept driving.

We continue on for a few more minutes and she keeps telling me to pull over, which you can't do on a motorway outside of an emergency, I ask why and she wont give a reason, so I keep on driving, at which point she grabs the steering wheel and pulls it causing me to cut across a lane of traffic and grind against a guard rail, which also tears off my wing mirror.

By some minor miracle I dont crash and get back in control before coming to a stop, but not before having to physically restrain her to keep her hands off the steering wheel.


 At this stage, I dont feel safe with her in the car so I pull off the motorway into a service station and kick her out of the car along with her suitcase, after taking photos of some of the damage to the car itself. And off to the party I go, despite her very vocal objections.

Now most of the family are angry at me for leaving her all on her own at the service station, and she has been trying to get me to cover the taxi and hotel fare she had to pay to stay at a local hotel.

So Reddit, I ask for your Judgment, am I the asshole?

A: no
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Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So when I was a youngster I did an internship in a charity. During that time I learned several things about the charity business in general. Nothing secret, things that many people already know, but they were things that made me uncomfortable nonetheless and so I decided that day that I would never give money to charities ever. For reference the things that many of you already know or can guess are that:

- Only a small portion of what you give is actually used to help people.

- A big portion of what you use is used to advertise for the charity instead of directly helping people

- The advertisement is showing you more misery and poverty than the situation warrant to guilt you into giving more money. For instance I was in a charity that was helping orphans. They were pictured in the ads with dirty clothes in shabby rooms but in fact they were well taken care of with good clothes, good food, spacious individual rooms and entertainment.

- The advertisement is sometime kinda racist. For instance a charity helping children in poor neighborhood will picture cute little helpless white kids instead of kids of colors despite the fact that they represent the majority of children in this situation.

- The CEO and top managers of the most famous charities are rich AF with their huge salary paid with the donation of poor people (most people who give are poor).

- Most people working in charities see it just as another business and our donation is used as a resource to extract the most efficient way possible.

- Many of those charities have hidden political or ideological agendas I disagree with (some are against LGBT, some will help only a portion of the population by targeting an ethnicity, some will have unsavory links with a shady government, etc).

- If I give money to one of them, I wonder if my money would not be more helpful another way. What’s more important, feeding poor people or cure cancer?

- Sometime it feels like whatever the amount of money you give, it doesn’t have any impact. The world is still a shitty place and it doesn’t seems to change

- When you give money, you enter a database and you can expect to receive mails designed to guilt you for the rest of your life.


I know all about the rational and perfectly sensible answers for each of those point. Yes, charities are helpful and people should give to them. I’m not trying to convince anyone and I think that people who give are praiseworthy. But I just don’t want to be a part of it.

I have given some of my time to another charity later in my life and I’m not against giving money directly to homeless people (not everyone I cross on my road or else I would join them).

Except that I discovered that most people I know have one or two charities they give to and budget for it. When I told them I didn’t want to give money to charities they acted shocked, start arguing with me and made me feel like an asshole.

So am I?


A: no
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Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Me and him just had some kind of quarrel before over something that happened a long time ago. He insulted my grandpa shortly after his died. I got angry and well, insulted his grandpa back. It was terrible of me. His grandpa had just died and I said something awful about him. 

Well, back there it seemed obvious that I was  the asshole in the situation. He told me that he didn't even insult my grandpa, that I misunderstood it and that I overreacted and that I'm completely 100% at fault and to blame. 

So, a short time ago he confessed to me that he did insult my grandpa. And that he did it because he was jealous and angry that mine was still alive. I couldn't get it out of my head and today I brought this up. Honestly, I wanted him to apologize for what he said. 

He didn't apologize. In his opinion I should forgive him because of the situation he was in, and because he had forgiven me for things I said in the past too. And besides he had a good reason for doing this, unlike me. 

I don't know what to think. I know that what I did was horrible, but my grandpa is the best person in my entire family. He is the only one that was always nice to me unlike the rest who just treated me badly throughout my childhood. And when he insulted him I got so mad. And I just want him to apologize for the sake of my grandpa.I know I'm a huge asshole often too. I'm sorry if this doesn't fit in or sounds too biased. 

I don't want to repeat what I said about his grandpa, but it was way way worse than what he said.

A:
no
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