Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : For the reddit secret Santa exchange, there are very simple rules. Spend around 20 USD (more if you want), actually send your gift to your person, confirm the receipt of your gift. You can elect to match with people from a different country if you want, but there’s a big warning that international shipping can be quite expensive that you must acknowledge. 

I signed up be to an international reddit secret Santa this year, primarily because I thought it would be really fun and interesting to give / receive a little unfamiliar culture with some international neighbors. 

I did a ton of research into my match’s country, figured out what they do and do not have access to there, and sent a little of what their particular interest was along with a little culture from my country. 

I had a blast being a Santa! I had a ton of fun doing the research and learning about their culture, the things they are into, etc. It was quite expensive to ship from my country to theirs (around 80 USD), but I kind of expected that, and reddit did have a *very explicit* warning about this, so no worries there. 

As much fun as I had gifting (believe me, It was a ton of fun), I was just as excited to have an encounter with someone outside of my country. When my gift was marked as shipped, I was super excited. I spent a ton of time tracking what times they accessed my information, when stuff was marked as shipped, etc to try to figure out where they were from. 

It took roughly a week for me to see the tracking number. Seeing where it entered my country, I was trying even more to try to figure out where it came from based on geography and international flights, etc. I was so excited. 

Then I received my gift. It was from a local vendor, nothing that I wouldn’t have been able to pick up from any local shop. Didn’t seem to be very thoughtful, even for a domestic gift. Where I thought the package entered my country is actually where it originated. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am very appreciative that someone spent the time and money to get something for me. The cost is irrelevant to me, i know that there is a ~20 USD recommendation and all of that. What I was excited about was receiving something, ya know, foreign. What’s the point of signing up to participate internationally if you’re not going to share something special with another part of the world? 

Am I the asshole for being disappointed / was I expecting too much? 

Answer: no


Question: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : context.

gf and I have been going at it for almost a year, and the idea of moving in together came up. but she has never lived on her own, and she doesn't understand concepts like 'first and last month rent is due at signing'. AITA for then demanding she learn to live on her own first before I move in with her?

Answer: no


Question: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My parents and I have a really good relationship. No issues, no big fights, and no resentment (which might change). The PROBLEM in our house is my younger sister.

My sister is 14 and a freshman, and I’m 16 and a senior. It is safe to say that we do not have a good relationship, considering all that is happening.

Her friends are trash, smoke weed, vape, drink harder than college kids, and are have just awful personalities. She’s turned in to a nasty kid, and has an awful attitude towards my parents and I. She’s failing classes, skipping school, not doing her homework, taking my clothes, stealing my mother’s makeup, etc. Obviously, some discipline has had to come into play, which has mostly just been taking the form of taking her phone or not allowing her out on weekends, which makes me absolutely livid.

Most recent case in point was this past Saturday. Sister currently has her phone taken away, but has her friend’s old phone instead, which I have mentioned to my parents. Parents confronted her about it (not actually taking it because she denies having it) and she assumed I told them about it. So, to retaliate, she tells my parents he has video of my friends chugging wine at a party I attended and that my boyfriend and I have had sex on multiple occasions.

a) the “wine bottles” were bottles of fucking sparkling grape juice and b) the boyfriend and I have never had sex for specific reasons which my parents are aware of. At this point she’s blatantly lying in order to get me in trouble and I am absolutely pissed.

My parents and I sit down and have a conversation in response (basically reaffirming I didn’t do anything and she’s lying) and they tell me they’ll talk to her about it. I leave to go to breakfast with my boyfriend, pretty satisfied with how everything turned out until she fucking showed up in the SAME restaurant to go get breakfast with her friends.

I’m pissed. I was always punished relatively harshly when I acted out (e.g. getting a C on a test and getting my phone taken away for a month in 8th grade), yet she gets to do all this other shit to make me miserable and to try and throw me under the bus and she still gets to go out and have fun with her friends. My parents didn’t even TRY to talk to her.

Basically, I want to tell my parents that they need to shape the fuck up because this is bullshit that she isn’t getting punished for anything. My grandmother says it isn’t my place to say anything and that my parents already have a lot on their plate, but this is so fucking frustrating. They don’t do anything to discipline her. Just this morning I told her to take of my sweater and my dad just told me “leave it be.” Are you shitting me? Fuck no I’m not going to leave it be, that’s my shit!!

So, WIBTA if I called out my parents for their lack of discipline? I really don’t want to insult their parenting skills or anything, but this is too fucking much for me to handle.

Answer:
yes


