Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
Example: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST :  Pretty much was hanging out with two friends. I was watching the Lakers game. They won at the very last minute and I immediately hopped up and celebrated. Before I could even finish celebrating one friend started going on about how the Lakers suck. It just pissed me off so much I screamed at her to get out my room until she left. 


She knows I'm a huge fan and she likes them too. She was only saying it to antagonize me. Am I the dick here?
Example solution: yes
Example explanation: It is very rude to shout at someone and ask her to leave the room even if her comments may have antagonized the author. Hence author is at fault here.

Problem: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : (Tl dr at end of the post. Also, typing this up for my mom because she doesn’t want a reddit account.)

My brother (46) and I (44F) grew up poor and our dad died when we were quite young. I ended up marrying a well off guy 27 years ago, and we built a good  size house in a lovely neighborhood with a guest room and a pool. 

My brother went to college and became a police officer - now a Captain. He married a fellow Captain and they have 3 children. While he was at the Academy  he lived with us for the whole period even though at the time we lived in a small apartment. I didn’t mind then, and was glad to help.

Nowadays he lives in a small town while I live in a big city. Sometimes he has to come here for work and he will stay at our house to save the money he gets from the police department for housing. 

For years I’ve been glad to do it, but this year he has to come with his wife as they both took a week long shift for the extra money and he asked to stay here. Thing is, I’ll be traveling and I really wanted our house to remain closed. I spent weeks having it cleaned and now he is going to come and mess it up. It also racks up the bills a bit. 

So I really want to tell him no, not to come and get a hotel somewhere else. Am I the asshole?

Tl;dr: i spent years letting my brother (and his family) stay at my house for various reasons and now I don’t want to anymore.



Solution: no