Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
One example: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST :  Pretty much was hanging out with two friends. I was watching the Lakers game. They won at the very last minute and I immediately hopped up and celebrated. Before I could even finish celebrating one friend started going on about how the Lakers suck. It just pissed me off so much I screamed at her to get out my room until she left. 


She knows I'm a huge fan and she likes them too. She was only saying it to antagonize me. Am I the dick here?
Solution is here: yes
Explanation: It is very rude to shout at someone and ask her to leave the room even if her comments may have antagonized the author. Hence author is at fault here.

Now, solve this: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I (21 F) have been w/ my BF since senior year of HS. We have a good relationship and typically don’t fight. We go to the same college. He comes from a poor background, but got a full ride so doesn’t have to worry about loans.  My family is middle class but I don’t have a scholarship, we are a big family, and I am going into journalism, so loans are going to be a real issue for me. Because of this I work hard to earn as much as possible.

During school I work at the Office of the Bursar, babysit, write people’s papers, and run a small photography business. During the summer I have an internship with the newspaper 4 days a week, work as a receptionist in the evening, babysit, take photos, mow lawns when I can, and bartend on Friday and Saturday nights. I still find time to devote to my BF, family, friends, and school, but it’s hard.

The bar I work at is mostly 30-60 yr old guys and I get hit on a lot. Some of them are creepy but I don’t mind because I make good tips. My bf is turning 21 this summer and remarked he was excited to come into the bar I work at. I explained that I didn’t feel comfortable w/ that because a)it would be distracting and b)I would feel weird when the guys hit on me and I laugh and play along when he’s right there. He got very upset and accused me of basically cheating.

I told him that I understand where he’s coming from and I get that it’s upsetting to think about other ppl hitting on ur SO and ur SO having to play along with it. But he couldn’t realistically expect me not to be friendly with customers as a female bartender, and while I’ll admit to glamming myself up a little and wearing a push up bra, it’s not like I’m prostituting and I’m not unprofessional about it. And it’s very clear that I have ZERO interest in anything but these guys tips- like I said they are old and mostly gross. I think that although he doesn’t have to worry about loans, he should still understand doing what you have to to make money, since back in HS he did some illegal things for money because he was in a shitty situation, and flirting with customers is nowhere near what he used to do.

BF then says I’m being lazy and undignified by dressing up for these guys and being flirty for a tip. Normally I have pretty thick skin but this really offended me, as I work my ass off, so I called him an asshole and walked away. After cooling off I’m reconsidering my view. I am better at putting feelings aside to get a job done than most people, sometimes to a fault, and maybe it’s unrealistic to expect him to be ok with how I act at my job. He is not a controlling bf and doesn’t usually get insecure, even though I have a lot of guy friends. I would appreciate the input because I love my bf and would feel terrible if I’m actually in the wrong here!







Solution:
no