Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

[Q]: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I have been meeting girls from tinder for the past few months and I been having some luck when it comes to landind a first date. There’s provably a better way for me to ask the following questions, 1. “ Do you have kids?” And 2. “ Do you have herpes?”  

What I do is that when we are on a date, let’s say a pub and we chat, within an hour I say “I’m having a good time but I got to ask you something” and then I drop them the “Do you have kids?” And “Do you have herpes?” questions. Half the girls laugh about it and say no, but other girls call me an asshole for asking that. 

Children and Herpes are my deal breakers, I am in my late 20s and I’m not interested in single mothers. I’m also not interested in contracting herpes, HSV1 nor HSV2. I have been having protected sex since I started being sexually active, and I get tested very often so I know that I don’t carry the virus. Even though some STDs test don’t test for herpes, I still get a herpes test done on top of it. I know lots of people have it, but I don’t want to have it, orally nor genital. Unprotected sex is something I look forward in a long term relationship. 

So, AITA for being straightforward and asking that during a first date? And is there a better way for me to ask those questions?
[A]: no


[Q]: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My friend, lets call him Ethan, called me while I was at my girlfriends and asked me to pick him up. His car had gotten an oil change, and he needed someone to smoke with while he waited. 
Needless to say, I picked him up, and we smoked for about an hour or so just hanging out. Its at this point that he pulls out a fresh, 1 gram dab cartridge from his bag. He tells me VERBATIM, “just press the button and suck in for a few seconds”. Okay, so I did. When nothing came out, I passed it back to Ethan. He then proceeds to tell me its “burnt to shit” and acted like I was an asshole. I apologized profusely, but he was cold to me up until I dropped him off. Id like to have offered money, but I’m currently strapped financially.  AITA ?
[A]: yes


[Q]: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : (Sorry for the format. On mobile)




So my wife (25) and I (29) have been Married for two years. I'm currently in the military and my wife as the title says, is unemployed. We have no kids, unless you count our cats, and have no plans on getting any. My wife also has really bad anxiety but thanks to military benefits we've been getting her medication to help with that. Anyways, while she's not working, she is working on her art. She said that she wanted to make a game of some sort, such as an RPG or something of the like. And to her credit, her artwork has become more and more amazing. 



But her artwork has been reflecting more of our DnD characters and other DnD games she's in. And frankly I haven't seen any kind of new concept art for her "game." The house will fall into disarray and she rarely cooks anymore. Plus she's been smoking a lot of pot as of late. Anywhere between 30 to 50 bucks a week. She says that it's to help her eat (self diagnosis) and to help her with art. But she's also been smoking pot before her DnD sessions as well. 



Also to add more to the pile, this morning I was looking for my keys. And I checked my wife's jacket since she had the car last. And what do I find? A pack of cigarettes. We both quit back in June, and granted to this day we both get cravings. So I know for a fact she's using my money to buy cigarettes now. 



So basically, all morning I've been wondering if I should confront her about this. And basically demand that she needs to either make one room in the house spotless, or show proof of a job application. She's told me that she's put in a few applications already. But now that I saw the cigarettes, it honestly makes me wonder if she's lying about anything else.



Sorry if it sounds like I'm rambling. But I'm at my waits end. AITA? Also any advice would be much appreciated.
[A]:
no


