Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Ok, first time poster here and posting via mobile

Here's the deal. I get cold sores aka I have herpes. I'm 28. I've had it my whole life ever since I can remember ( I didn't make a bad decision or recklessly get one). I've been in many long term relationships (3+ years in length) and NEVER have I given it to any of my partners. I go to extreme lengths to make sure I don't pass it on, including waiting many extra days after I'm positive the cold sores have healed before I'm willing to let myself kiss anyone. 

Typically it's at least 2.5 weeks from when I get one until I would do anything physical( general rule of thumb is 2 weeks to heal without acyclovir, lysine, or abreva to help speed the healing process). FTR I use all three. My boyfriend is so scared of getting one, which I understand completely considering I've never had the option to not have them, and I get fairly large and painful ones. After I'm 100% sure it's gone, he still makes me wait additional time before he'll let me kiss him. Anywhere from 4-5 days or at the longest an extra week or two. The amount of time seems completely arbitrary based purely on how fearful he feels at the moment. If it was always the same amount of time, maybe I'd be able to cope better, I dunno.

I struggle with self image issues and feel like a downright ugly unlovable monster when I have cold sores, somewhat exacerbated by the fact that whenever I see my boyfriend remember I have one, he flinches away from me and has a look of intense fear on his face. So, the 2.5 weeks minimum is torture, and then the extra who knows how many days feels even worse (when I know the sore is gone and he treats me as diseased anyways)

We've talked about it and all he ever tells me is that a few extra days isn't anything in comparison to a lifetime - which I understand. I told him it makes me feel pretty crummy to wait even longer and that it sucks he doesn't trust me and believe me when I tell him it's ok. I would NEVER rush a recovery and put ANYONE at risk. I've had a perfect track record for 28 years and don't intend on that changing ever.

Anytime I bring this up, I'm told I just can't possibly understand and why would I make him feel bad because he just wants to protect himself. Which I do understand, but he seems to not care at all that it makes me feel like complete garbage for as long as he's unwilling to kiss me. 

AITH for wanting him to trust me more because of my experience with the disease and compromise on the excessive amount of extra wait time? Any time I bring that up, I get told I'm horrible for making him feel bad, but he doesn't seem to care at all that he's making me feel like I'm less than a person. And he tells me I'm overly emotional for feeling that way. 
[EX A]: yes

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My (22) boyfriend and I (22) have a games night with our friends on the weekends every once in a while, and I planned a Christmas dinner/games night with them all for this Sunday.  It’ll be at his dads place, which is new and fairly roomy. His dad is never there, so we take care of the house (2 story, basement, 3 bathroom, 4 bedroom) just us two. 

I planned to cook an entire meal for everyone (11 people including us) , being a couple of beef roasts, mashed potatoes, veggies, desserts..etc. We’ve yet to get groceries/decorations because we’ve both had a busy work week. I talked with him loosely about going out tonight to get groceries after he’s done helping a buddy with some body work on his car. Early today we talked about seeing eachother tonight still. 

He was seeing a different buddy (a long time friend, one who will be at the party on Sunday) tomorrow just to hangout for half the day, but not long ago today he asked if it was alright if he could sleepover at his place tonight.  It stressed me out (I have a serious anxiety disorder) because I was expecting one thing and he kind of surprised me by changing the plans around that I had set in my head. I told him we had a lot to do still to prepare for Sunday, and he said okay and that he had canceled the plans, but I knew I upset him by the way the tone of his messages changed. 
I got even more stressed and upset because I knew I upset him and I felt like an asshole for seemingly “making” him do this all with me. 
He was supposed to hangout with his friend for a bit tomorrow(Saturday), while I would bake cookies and start preparing. So, it’s hard for me to understand why I am such a bad guy here. I get that he sees this friend often during our game nights, but not just the two of them alone, so he was looking forward to that.. but why couldn’t he just see him tomorrow? Maybe when I was upset, it upset him, like the way I felt?.. I don’t know. He shuts down when we fight, and needs space while I just want to resolve things and feel better ASAP.  We are trying to work on our communication, because it’s not the best. 

I’m very stressed about doing all the preparing for myself now. I don’t have a car to get around places.  We ended up having a fight, and I feel horrible about it all. 

Maybe I can’t see what I’m doing wrong. AITA?

[EX A]: yes

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I had a friend from school recently gift me a new box of string lights (which I assume were from Amazon) but after putting the batteries in, I'm pretty sure that the lights are somehow broken. Is it rude to tell them that their gift doesn't work? I don't really care that I was gifted a broken item but I feel like it's a waste since they probably paid money for an item that should be refunded. 
[EX A]:
no

