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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I've been steaming since my bachelor party 4 days ago. My friend of 25+ years who I've lived with before and supported through all sorts of personal and marital issues was asked to plan my bachelor party 2 months ago. I feel it's kind of an honor to ask a friend to do this. Long story short he made one reservation at an axe throwing place for our group of 8 at 1PM. He had a family situation with one of his kids and the morning of had to bail on the party. I understand that aspect as I put family first. I texted him during the axe throwing and asked what the rest of the plans were. He said "that's it" followed by "you probably should have known how busy I am and picked someone else." I was shocked that not only did he not plan anything, he didn't TELL ANYONE THAT HE DIDN'T PLAN ANYTHING until the party started!!!! I felt humiliated and embarrassed in front of the rest of my friends, and I could tell it made everyone feel awkward as we had to throw together something last minute and try to not let the awkwardness ruin the vibe. We made the best of it but it was weird. I told him he embarrassed me, and I couldn't believe he would let me down like this. Still have not heard from him since. This is a good friend for years and years. I consider(ed) him one of my closest lifelong friends. I am 40 he is 38. AITA?
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yes


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Hi guys. I’m really conflicted here and could use your advice. 

My boyfriend and I have been together since July 2017, and are a great couple. He has a friend group from college, one of whom (Harry) has a girlfriend Alice that he has been with since early 2017. 

In November 2017, he went for a meal with his girlfriend Alice, her best friend Francesca, and another friend. This was before Harry and Alice lived together. After the meal, Alice went back to her house, and Harry got an uber with Francesca. Francesca invited him into her house for a drink, they had sex, and he stayed over. 

Harry told my boyfriend about this, who told me. I was completely torn up at the time, and still am (although it’s recently reared its head again, which I will come on to). Harry and Alice were due to move in together 3 weeks later in December 2017. At the time I had the same dilemma (should I anonymously tell her) but if she had found out, she would have lost her boyfriend/best friend/house at the same time. I decided to take no action as she’s not my friend/it’s not my place. Harry or Francesca never told Alice. 

Fast forward to early 2019. I just heard Harry and Alice are planning to buy a house together, a massive financial commitment which will tie them together forever and be very expensive to get out of. These feelings have come back and I don’t know what to do. 

The emotional part of me says that I should make a fake email account and tell her anonymously. She deserves to know everything so that she can make an educated decision before she enters this financial commitment of buying (so much harder and more expensive to separate than renting). 

The logical part says I should leave it, it’s not my place, I am not her friend, ignorance is bliss in her case, and it would harm my current relationship (my boyfriend would be furious if he found out I’d told her, or I’d have to keep this huge secret from him, something I’m not going to do). There are other people who could tell her and have chosen not to (other friends know as Harry told them).

I should stay out of it, right?

Thanks for reading 

answer:
no


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My dad and I (28M) have had our ups and downs throughout my life but the last two years have been good. My dad got fired from his longtime time about 3 years ago and my parents divorced last year. He hasn’t gotten a job since and is only making a little side money doing photography. He has never really been good with finances and that became apparent as I got older. He made pretty good money and he should have had built a really nice savings up but instead he has tens of thousands in credit card debt and has filed for bankruptcy 3 times in the past. I remember him always spending his money on random expensive things but still he should have plenty of money. He never bought clothes, drove an old car and he bought their house for 100K about 15 years ago. I honestly have no idea where his money has gone.

I found out from my mom last week that he was really struggling and that he is putting his house on the market. He burrowed 2K from my mom and my uncle took out a personal loan to help him out over the past 3-4 months. I was shocked by this because 2 months ago he bought a BRAND-NEW living room set even though his old couch was perfectly fine. How can he burrow money and turn around and buy a living room set? 

Anyways, I knew that he would eventually ask me for money and today it finally happened. He came over and asked for $1,500 and that he would pay me back this week. He said he doesn’t have enough for his mortgage. I told him that I am not as well off as he thinks I am, which may or may not be true depending on your outlook. I own a business and things have been going really great this year and I have finally been able to save a good amount of money but this is my wife’s and I house fund that we’ve been working hard towards. I also told him I was hit with some unexpected bills (TRUE) and I couldn’t help him right now. He didn’t press me about it which was great.

Technically yes, I can loan him money and not be hurting but seeing his spending problem worries me. Two other people have already loaned him money and he took that for granted. He's refused to get a job, any job in the past 3 years and spent money he didn't have. He made his own bed and he must lie in it.  The question is though, AITA?
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no


