Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

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Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I started my new job the beginning of January.  I was shown a lot rather quickly - how to certify things, receive goods in, write folders, make travelers, print drawings, get information off customer websites, and do shipment paperwork.

Last week on Tuesday I was very overwhelmed.  I almost quit on the spot.  Supplies (ink and printer paper) were running low and person C told me to order supplies since “the torch has been passed to you”.  I didn’t know what to do and I also had a lot of assignments already so I didn’t have time to order anything.  I asked person C for help and she told me to check my email then went into HR to complain about me and the situation.  I overheard what she was saying.  I went into HR afterwards to explain that I’m overwhelmed and got nowhere - HR and person C are friends.  So I went to the people the hired me, the owners daughters.

I told them I was very overwhelmed.  I also told them that person C weeks ago had said to me “that’s a good way to get fired” when I needed to leave and asked if person K could finish up the last 3 or 4 shipments for me.  I was told “you were never meant to do all the shipments.  We told C this and for some reason you’re still doing all of them”.  So... office meeting called.  End result?  Person C is now doing all the shipments and I’m doing the work the daughters give me with a shipment here and there if I have time.

Since then person C and HR and not been nice to me.  If I talk to them they will respond.  And even then they’re not friendly.  With me doing the shipments C was able to help HR with their work so I guess I ruined their plan to swap work assignments.

I haven’t eaten in the company kitchen since Monday of last week because it’s uncomfortable around those 2.  I’m not happy here anymore because I’m trying to be cordial and professional and they’re making things uncomfortable and petty.

Am I The Asshole for talking to the owners daughters when I was overwhelmed which lead to their work assignments going back to them?  My goal wasn’t to get anyone in trouble, only reduce some of my stress.

Ex Output:
yes


Ex Input:
Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I was raised in an abusive home with a stepfather. He told everyone I was his biological child but I'm not. His whole family knows this.

I decided to go "no contact" with my abuser at 16. I kept in contact with his family as I saw them as my own and didn't blame them for not knowing. 

I moved back to my hometown where the family was. My older child went to my "grandmother" sometimes and all seemed good. Then I got married and got pregnant with my second. Immediately my grandmother is lecturing me about how I cant have this baby and I was irresponsible to get pregnant again (I've been in my own house and financially independent for 6 years since I was 16) We were hurt, as it was a planned pregnancy and were shocked by the disappointment at our news.

I had a c-section with my older child, which was no concern to any of the doctors in my second pregnancy. I was given the okay to have a natural birth and it was a normal pregnancy. 

That's when my grandmother decided that my previous csection was because I was incapable of giving birth and was too small framed. I insisted that I was going to give birth natural. When she knew she couldn't convince me to do it her preferred way, she stopped sleeping and eating, told everyone that she was haunted by nightmares about my death. Because of this behavior, she got very sickly, and any excitement about my pregnancy in my family was gone. Everytime it was brought up, it was a horrible thing and I was going to die. I felt fine. 

Fast forward to the birth, my husband and I wanted no one else in the room. So my grandmother decided to wait in the waiting room, much to my dismay. We let my mother in law peek in and say hello while I was in labor, which made my grandmother cry (even though I saw her while I was arriving) and I went out and tried to console her and apologize. While contracting. 

The day we brought my younger child home from the hospital, my grandmother stopped by. I let her hold the baby and she begins screaming about how we lied about the condition of our vehicle. My husband asked her to hand him the baby and leave. She physically refused to let him or I take the baby. We eventually got the baby back and she left.

A month later, I found out that they were contacting my mother, my mother in law, etc behind my back to try to make plans to see my children. They (grandmother and her husband) never replied or asked to make plans with me regarding my children. They didnt even try to ask to see the kids. My grandmother's husband blocked me. I tried to tell her that we needed to deal with the events before I would be comfortable with her taking them.

She told me that she was getting a lawyer for visitation. (Even though shes not any biological family) i havent contacted her since. The entire family hasn't talked to me since. I thought I was in the right but none of them do. 

So am I actually the asshole?

Ex Output:
yes


Ex Input:
Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Okay, so let me start by saying I love my job. It pays pretty well, I work on my own, very good benefits, I work four 12-hour shifts every week with the option for more overtime essentially every week.

My direct boss is the operations manager (OM) for the entire department. He is the only person I have to answer to. Eight months ago he decided to give me a raise that would be “on my next check”. Every two weeks (pay period) he would continually tell me it’s supposed to be on my next check and it never was. For awhile there I thought maybe he was screwing me around about it being “stuck somewhere in corporate”... until...

Last week when my pay stub was posted my raise still wasn’t there, and I got pretty upset about it. I calculated that over the last eight months the company owes me about $1800 from when I was told my raise would be there until now. I told my boss that if he really can’t get this through (with backpay), I’m going to start writing down extra hours on my time sheet until they are back to even with me. He told me to go ahead and do it (commit fraud) and he would still sign off on my time sheets like nothing happened. He just told me to keep a documented running tally so that he knows when I can stop doing this. 

I have all of our texts/emails saved, which is basically us conspiring to defraud a company... but I can’t help but feel like this money is owed to me, because they have been lying to me for 8 months... so what’s the difference if I lie to them? If I get caught, I’ll still get fired, but at least I have documentation showing that I was TOLD by the OM to do it.

AITA?

Ex Output:

no


