Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

[EX Q]: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My dad is usually a very sociable person who is friends with what seems like literally everyone, but he refuses to be in the same room as any members of my mom’s family (her sister, brother, and their parents). I have always been a bit bothered by this because I haven’t seen any of them do anything that could warrant such a reaction. I have been asking my dad to tell me what exactly happened and he finally did. 

For context, both of my parents immigrated here from India before I was born. My dad told me that he had one investment property in India that he bought before he got married. About 8 years ago, he and my mom were having a financial crisis and my mom had just been diagnosed with breast cancer. They were having trouble paying for everything, including maintaining the property. Finally, after trying everything to get back on their feet, they decided to ask my mom’s parents for some help. This was difficult for my dad to do because he had grown up believing that a man that relied on his in-laws was a failure. However, he had no other choice at this point so he asked for some money and he told them to keep the money from the property in India until their loan was subsidized. 

About one and a half years passed, and the money was subsidized, so my dad asked for the property back. My grandparents ignored him. Since he had some bigger fish to fry at the moment, he left it at that. A few more years passed and they still ignored his requests for the property back. My dad tried very hard to speak with them but they flat out ignored him. My mom did not want to get involved. Finally, after trying everything, my dad went to my mom’s sister and asked if she would reason with her parents. She asked them and they gave the property back to her to give to my dad and it was all settled.

However, after that, my aunt refused to speak to my dad. She would completely ignore him in public and he felt humiliated. When he asked my mom, she told him that it was because he had said some rude things about her parents. He tried really hard to patch things up with my aunt, but she refused for six months. After that, she tried again to talk to him, but this time he refused. He said that after ignoring all of his efforts to patch things up, she only talked to him when she wanted to. He finally decided to just cut off all contact with my mom’s whole side of the family. 

Throughout all of this, my mom had been battling breast cancer (don’t worry, she’s cancer free now) and my dad had been in a lot of pain seeing her like that and not having anyone to confide in. His whole family was still in India and he did not have any close friends here. On top of that, these issues caused a lot of bad arguments where my mom considered going back to live with her parents. In the end, she chose to stay with my dad. 

Now, my dad still refuses any contact with my mom’s parents or siblings. When we visit India, my mom will visit her parents while my dad stays with his. This part I am ok with and I understand. However, my mom’s sister lives in the same area as us and we see her a lot more often. My dad cannot even be in the same room as her. This bothers me a little bit more because I believe that this level of a grudge is a bit unwarranted for the situation. I once helped some friends throw a surprise anniversary party for my parents by providing a guest list, and without thinking I invited my mom’s sister because she and my mom are still close. After the party, my dad confided in me that he was not able to enjoy even a second of the party because she was there. Not interacting with him, just there.

The biggest problem in this for me is with my mom’s brother, who lives in the UK. She and my mom are very close, but she hasn’t seen him in years. It’s been even longer since we’ve seen his family. He has two kids, and I have only met the older one because the younger one was not born yet. The main reason we can’t go see them is because my dad refuses to come. He claims he is not preventing my mom from going without him, but knowing her, it would be hard for her to go without him. She has never gone on a solo vacation before. This is what makes me upset and this is why I told my dad that he should suck it up. I said that he doesn’t have to interact with my aunt, but he should be able to be in the same room as her. And I told him that he is holding my mom back from seeing her brother because of this relatively small and long-ago issue. AITA?

Tl;dr: My dad had a property that he temporarily gave to my mom’s parents and they refused to give back. He asked my aunt for help and she helped, but then gave him the silent treatment because of how he spoke about her parents. He has ever since refused to be in the same room as her or any other member of my mom’s immediate family, which is preventing my mom from seeing her brother, who lives in another country. I told him to suck it up.
[EX A]: no

[EX Q]: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST :   **Hi Reddit! This is my first time on this sub but I’m here because this has been driving my girlfriend and I nuts.**  
 

So to get this out of the way to start off with, my girlfriend (*gf*) and I have been seeing each other for almost three years now, we are both girls and we had, for the last six months or so, been seeing a non-binary third. From here on I’m gonna call the third person *Charming* (they live in Charm City) so that the they/them pronouns are less confusing. *Charming* is in school as a guitarist (this is important for later)  
 

So we met *Charming* at a local club (around Halloween), and they seemed super nice at first. *Charming* took *gf* and I to a local coffee shop and showed the two of us around their little portion of the city. It was really, well, charming. *Gf* and I quickly became very close friends with *Charming* and a week or two later we all ended up in bed together. All three of us were okay with this arrangement, and once we all got past the initial awkwardness of seeing someone naked, nobody felt left out.  
 

Fast forward to December and *Charming* seemed to be getting sick of my (somewhat dominating) personality, but they would confront me about any issues they had, telling me that my behavior was unacceptable. I know this is a flaw in my personality and I worked on it. *Gf* and I never really talked to *Charming* about their numerous personality flaws because we just sorta figured they were in the right.  
 

Late in January *Charming* tells us that I am too much of a dominant personality, and that they still want to be friends and that nothing is really going to change.  
 

The three of us talk for most of February but *Charming* doesn’t really make any real attempt to meet us in person (despite constantly saying they wanted to), but *Charming* had a big recital coming up (sort of a final exam in their music program) so we just figured they were busy.  
 

*Charming’s* recital is this week, and *Charming* still hadn’t given us any information about it (despite offering tickets to anyone on Facebook who wanted them). So naturally *gf* and I ask *Charming* what’s up, and they reply that “it would be awkward having us there.”  
 

*Gf* and I were stunned, we had been nothing but supportive this whole time, so we asked what was going on. Charming responds “**I need space, and you guys forcing the issue just farther cements my decision. I’m sorry but you’re not invited.**”  
 

I immediately left the group chat that we were in, incensed that they were just cutting the two of us out of their life.  
 

This has been heartbreaking and my girlfriend and I really want other people’s opinions. Thanks!

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TL;DR: &gt;!More-than-friend of six months suddenly doesn't invite their two girlfriends to their biggest concert ever because it would be "too awkward"!&lt;
[EX A]: no

[EX Q]: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have worked with a coworker for almost a year at this point and whenever I have a lunch break with them they always chew awfully loud with their mouth open, Unfortunately during most mornings they would bring gum and the same situation would occur. I used to be able to block it out either with a TV show or Youtube video i was watching but it has gotten to the point that it was making me feel unwell while and after eating my lunch.

On this particular day during one lunch break i couldn't stand it anymore i asked if they could possibly not chew with their mouth open, i didn't explain my reasoning because i didn't think i needed to but they followed up with "why?"
I explained it made me uncomfortable and feeling unwell and i would appreciate if they stopped.

The following day i had a stern talking to from a higher up about insulting and bullying other employees, i accepted my fate and apologised to the employee but i feel i was not at wrong in this certain situation, Am i the asshole?

[EX A]:
no

