Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

Q: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So recently I’ve found out that my girlfriend who I’ve seen dating for 5 years had a train ran on her before back in high school like she let 2 guys fuck her the same time. And ever since I’ve told her about it our relationship going downhill. In my opinion I can’t respect a girl who had a train ran on her. Am I the asshole for wanting to leave her after I found out

A: yes
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Q: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : TL;DR at the bottom. 

Recently one of closest friends (let’s call her Jane), along with my roommate, sat me down for an intervention. Long story short, they gave me some **AWFUL** advice about my mental health (lots of pop psychology), and told me I shouldn’t be starting a new relationship (my new bf is nice, sweet, not creepy, smart, no major red flags). Apparently I need to learn to “love myself” and not use a partner as an emotional crutch. They want me to break up with him before we get too serious. In hindsight, I can assure you, they were extremely stepping out of line. They are not the experts on my mental health (I go to therapy, takes meds, I know how my brain works). The conversation got tense. In the end, I made it clear I disagreed and wanted them to drop it. But they kept needling me about it, and a day later I ended up having my first fight with my roommate because of it. Then a couple days later, Jane texted me to say she will have to distance herself more from situations where my bf is around, because my “unhealthy life choices” are affecting her own mental health. 

Anyways, at the time, I let it get to my head, and I started to worry that they were seeing something I wasn’t. They were so adamant. So I related the intervention story to our other friends. Who were absolutely appalled. After experiencing the intervention onslaught, it was amazing to having my opinion about my own mental health and dating life validated. I got caught up it in all, and whoever I talked to about it agreed with me wholeheartedly. I may have shit talked a little. I was angry and offended. But then, no surprise, because of me talking about the “intervention”, almost everyone was super turned off towards Jane (they don’t really know my roommate). I don’t think Jane has realized I confided in our friends. 

Now some of my friends don’t like Jane as much as they did before. We’re all still friendly, it just feels different. Maybe it will pass, maybe I’m just being anxious, but it feels like the situation has permanently altered their opinion on her (especially for one very good friend who lives far away). 

I’m starting to feel kind of guilty. It wasn’t my intention to make our friends upset, I just wanted to feel heard, not alienate a close friend who made a mistake. Should I have just kept it to myself and not dragged our friends into it? Did I make the situation too dramatic? AITA for throwing her under the bus? AITA for not telling her I “blabbed”? Or is she the asshole for giving me unsolicited, awful advice? 

TL;DR: friend gave me awful, forceful advice. I gossiped and told our mutual friends, and now they don’t like her as much 

A: yes
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Q: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : A few weeks ago, the family helper (or rather my in-law’s helper), let’s call her Martha, brought home a bird that she found while heading home from going to the shops. I was not at home when this happened, however, my husband texted me what Martha did. Having said that, her first language isn’t English so I decided to come home quickly and figure out what happened and why they have decided to keep the bird in a small cage. 

Martha explained to me that while she was walking home from the shops, she found the bird chirping and playing on the grass. She thought that it looked cute, so she crouched on the floor and called for it to come to her (while waving some bread around) - the bird came to her and she picked it up and held it in her hand to brought it back home. 

Now, I’m all for saving animals who are injured or lost - you know, ensure that it’s returned to it’s natural habitat or owner at the end of the day. But I feel like this is just outright kidnapping. 

I tried to explain to my husband that, what she did was kidnapping and that we need to let it go. He insisted that it’s someone’s pet and that we need to find out who the owner is to return it. Okay, but how?! You’re locking the bird up and the bird looks absolutely fine. It’s fat and plump and it’s spreading its wings and biting the cage that you put it in. Husband does not believe that it’s a wild bird. 

Now, since this is my in-law’s house, I don’t have much say in it. His parents thinks that it’s cute and if it’s a wild animal, the bird wouldn’t come to Martha at all. 

I mostly ignored the fact that the bird was living in the house for a long time. I’ve tried so many times to explain to everyone that the bird looks sad and skinny now. No one believes me and thinks that I am just upset because it doesn’t like me (the bird was out of it’s cage one day as Martha was playing with it and it flew at me and bit me). 

Would I be the asshole if I let it go? I believe that Martha kidnapped the bird. If it’s someone’s pet, then it must be missing it’s owner and it’s real home. It’s not fair to it’s owner. If it’s a wild animal, then fuck that. I don’t believe in caving up a wild animal at all. It needs to be in it’s natural habitat. 

A:
no
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