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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Sorry if the formatting is terrible doing it on my phone.

Some background...

My friend, let’s call her ‘B’ was planning on having a ‘going away’ party as she is moving to another state. She invited everyone in our friendship group except this other person I’m really close to, let’s call them ‘T’. 

‘T’ and ‘B’ used to be best friends but a lot of drama happened between the two of them, and they have settled for just being very cordial and polite with each other in person but each strongly dislikes the other. 

The reason I suspect ‘B’ did not invite them is because they did not want to have to put up pleasantries with this person and wanted to leave the state without ever having to talk to her or see her again. 

T and I are very close, we’ve talked about really personal stuff, hang out together privately outside the group and so I consider us really good friends. She’s also massively helped with my social anxiety. 

A few nights ago,  someone wrote in our group chat (that has everyone in the friendship group) asking what time the party was on.  Having been through that awful feeling of knowing I’m not invited to something, I stressed to my partner how upsetting this would be for ‘T’  to see the message and that they deserved to be told in person - which prompted him to confront the guy who was apologetic and deleted it straight away before they saw it.

Last night I was hanging out with ‘T’ when I decided I should tell them in person there was going to be a party and that everyone was invited except them. Understandably they were upset and worried people were turning against them and questioned their place in the group.  They then became really furious at ‘B’ and (not sure if this was a heat of the moment thing or not) exclaimed they were going to message them some pretty nasty stuff.

I feel awful and terrified  that I may have potentially caused drama - I always try and keep information I hear about people to myself. I just knew last time I was in the same situation as ‘T’ I wish someone had the guts to tell me I wasn’t invited, instead of finding out in other ways.

What do you guys think? Am I the asshole?


no