Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Specifically in the morning at work, but anywhere else too I guess. A lot of people are super chipper in the mornings and they’ll say good morning to everyone they pass or strike up some small talk, but I usually try to keep to myself. I won’t ignore people, but if they don’t greet me first I’ll usually just walk past them without saying anything. When it’s just me and another person walking towards each other in a hall I usually try to avoid eye contact and when they get closer I’ll pretend to check my phone or take a drink of coffee so I don’t have to speak to them. I’m fine without having much social interaction at work, but I’m always paranoid that people take it the wrong way and think I’m rude. 

A: no
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So about 5 years ago, my niece came to visit us. This was really exciting for her because she was 14 and she was finally allowed to travel on her own. Her mom, my older sister, is a single mom who struggles to get by (barely paycheck to paycheck), so it was our treat and pleasure. We also happened to have a new rambunctious puppy at the time. We reminded my niece multiple times to put her valuables away and to push in chairs, etc, but our puppy ultimately ended up eating her retainer. I immediately told my sister that we would pay for it, since it was a slight hardship for us (~$400-600, can’t remember, but they had no dental insurance) but would have been a devastating blow to my sister. My wife (then GF) grumbled a little about how my niece wasn’t responsible with her belongings even after multiple warnings (she left retainer on table with chair pulled out, a specific scenario we warned about) but ultimately conceded that it was our puppy, our home, and therefore our responsibility.

Anyway, when we were home visiting for Thanksgiving, my wife came to our room (really niece’s room that we’re staying in) to find that my sister’s dog had torn up her suitcase and destroyed most of the clothes she brought and all of her cosmetics. My wife is into fashion, so this is totalling around $800ish damage. The dog had jumped over the gate my sister put up.

This would be, again, a devastating financial blow to my sister. It wouldn’t be easy to replace ourselves but we could manage to do it, especially over time. Get the most crucial stuff now and fill in. That to me seemed like the best solution, but my wife is throwing my old logic back in my face: my sister’s dog, her roof, her responsibility. And she is saying that since my sister put up a gate, giving her a false sense of security, it’s even more crucial since she wasn’t “irresponsible” like my (at the time young teen) niece was. AND she wanted to stay at a hotel anyway, but my sister would have been hurt if we did that so she had already compromised there (this is true). I get all this and I’ve validated my wife’s frustration but I still don’t want to ask my sister to give us money she definitely doesn’t have when she’s raising a daughter and struggles to barely make ends meet. 

It doesn’t help that my wife and my sister aren’t each other’s biggest fans for a lot of other reasons but I think that’s fuel more than fire.

AITA? Or is my wife thinking too black and white?

A: yes
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Q: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Hi first time posting on this sub. English is not my first language so please go easy on me.

1. A = business person 1

2. B = business person 2

I own a small local cafe. On the first week when I start out the cafe, I was approached by B saying he wants to buy the business. I decline since I was just starting out, but he insisted that I contact him if I ever consider selling.

5 years later, I want to sell my cafe, in which I was contact by A. A is my ex-employee (and a distance friend), he is also a good worker. A’s wife is recently pregnant (4 months) so A wants to build a family and own a cafe. He offered to pay me by 12 instalments.

I was also approached by B, who had owned a cafe before, he wants to buy the cafe for $5000 more than A over 12 instalments. He needs to take the loan from his sister. I was determined to sell to B at this point, but I didn’t say it to him. Then he went on radio silent, probably waiting for the loan.

I got restless because of the radio silent, I contacted A if he is still interested. A is interested so we began discussing about how to run the business (who is the suppliers etc). I will need to train him for 2 weeks after the sale to get him started. Things are looking like I will sell it to A, although I didn’t expressly say it. A and his wife quit their jobs because they thought they are going to get the cafe.

However, yesterday he asked for $2000 off on the first instalment, and he will reimburse in later instalments. Not a big problem since the money will be the same. Everything is set (except contract and payment) and A will own the cafe. I still had not expressly said that I will sell to him, all we did was discussing how business operates.

One day B randomly came by and with the money. This surprised me since there was no communication prior. B has money to pay the first instalment and everything else, he is ready to buy. I told him that I already talked to A and that I don’t want to break my word. B asked if A paid the first instalment yet, which he has not, so B paid me 25% of the first instalment. He too already quit his job. I told him to slow down.

That evening, A rushed to the cafe (very angry). He ask how could I do this and cried. B is chill, so he isn’t visibly upset but he clearly wants the cafe.

Here are summary of info:

1. B will run the cafe with his family of 5, which means he does not need to hire employees (big save). A only has his wife, so they need employees. This affects their prospect of paying the instalments.

2. B owned a cafe before, so he knows how to operate one. A only worked for me and has left for the past 3 years. A’s wife is also pregnant so idk how long she can work.

3. A is emotionally weak so he will not be able to hold his temper if he doesn’t get the cafe. B is emotionally strong.

4. B is paying more for the cafe and the first instalment.

5. It will break my heart for A, but I do want to sell to B because it’s practical.

WIBTA if I sell to B?

A:
no
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