Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I had a weird interaction earlier and I don't know what I was supposed to do. I stopped by the mall on the way home last night, and as I was exiting down a street from the parking ramp to the main road, I approached three teenagers walking in the street. At first they appeared to be crossing, so I slowed but continued forward. They were not in a crossing zone, but I live in a city where jaywalking is common so it's routine for people to walk around your car as you pass by. 

But then they turned slightly to walk down the middle of the street toward me. As they approached, one put his hand out indicating that I should stop. My sense in the moment was that they were not hurt or in danger. They were walking slowly and I feel like I saw them chatting and smiling. The one who waved me down definitely seemed relaxed, as if he was a parking attendant (he was not a parking attendant). I could be wrong about that; I'm just describing what went through my mind over the 10 seconds that this unfolded.

As I mentioned I live in a city, and people are always soliciting you for things. A couple weeks ago I had somebody approach my car at a stoplight and ask for a ride. People ask for money and then bitch you out if you don't give them anything. You just have to tune people out sometimes; if you're not a cop I don't trust your hand signals over my own eyes. So this situation felt a little off, like these teens were going to hassle me about some nonsense. I have lived and worked in my downtown area for several years so tuning out panhandler is instinct at this point.

Two of them were on my left side, and one was on my right, with about 15 feet of space between them. There were no other obstacles on the road in front of me. So instinct kicked in: I slowed down a little more and then just coasted right between them. This was not strictly-speaking safe, but I had room and all four of us were moving slowly. As the lead kid (who was motioning me to stop) realized I wasn't stopping, he slapped my side window and yelled "STOP!" That was the only thing anyone said in this whole incident as far as I know.

Now I was rattled by the way the kid had pounded on my car, so I really just wanted to be away from whatever this was meant to be. I wasn't watching them them closely in the mirror, but they didn't chase after me and I didn't see any indication that anyone was hurt. I left and that was that.

I'm sure I could have handled that better. But what could they want from me? I can't think of any way that I, as a random driver in a moving car, could be of more help than the mall employees on the other side of the nearest door. There was no apparent safety reason to start an impromptu roadblock in that spot. Maybe they just needed jumper cables or something, but then why shout at me? Still, I wonder if I wrote them off as panhandlers too early. In the interest of full disclosure, I'm a white guy and these were three black boys probably age 15-17. I don't think that race was a significant factor, but that's what everybody says isn't it?

What do you think I should have done?
no

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My mother left my father when I was young then settled in America. I myself have moved to America with my sister two years later. My father stayed. I have lived in American to this day (13 yrs later).

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She left him because he beat her badly. He cracked her skull. Her medical records from this is what allowed her asylum in America.

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Fast forward to two years ago, we managed to work overs lots of things in 10 yrs. We talked on how much dad has changed. So when mother needed a helping hand in her work, we decided to bring him to America.

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Things went really well first. My sister and I even agreed not to mention his past. We agreed that he’s probably dying with remorse. Two months later, we found out that he makes himself the victim for everything by distorting what has happened in his favor and firmly believing that is how it happened.

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When asked about the attack, my dad replied, “Oh yeah, I hit her once.” He remembered the actual attack VERY differently from what actually happened. He thought she took one blow to her head and got up right away, when in reality he mounted her, beat her head senseless til she was unconscious and carried to the hospital

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In addition, he believes that he was provoked into beating my mom. Apparently, she learned on how to get asylum through spousal abuse, and somehow manipulated my dad in beating her. Therefore, to him, my mom planned this to happen.

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My mom almost died from that attack, how do you plan an immigration by getting beaten to death?

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We found out about this very recently, that this is how he remembers it. He also told us that he cannot live and be treated like he’s the bad person and that he should be ‘forgiven’ and treated without bias on all footings because he regrets what happened.

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Because of what he said, I cannot treat him like nothing has happened and will always be biased against him. Its not what he did (I worked hard to get over that) but how he thinks about what he did that completely disgusts me.

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Now talks of him leaving us is on the table. I do feel terrible about wasting his time and uprooting him from his life. He has nothing to go back to. To make things worse, I have told him before coming here, that even if my mom changes his mind and decides that she cannot stand him, I would sponsor his immigration process and live with him as ‘insurance’. It turns out, its me who can’t stand him.

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But how the hell was I supposed to know this is how he remembers it? Should I have somehow expect him to be like this? Should we have never have brought him here if we cannot forgive him unconditionally? I really believe that I forgave him for everything I knew before him coming here. But I just cannot forgive him for thinking himself as the victim.

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AITA for wanting to cut my father out of my life after I brought him back in?
no

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years now. She had depression, but she goes through good times and bad like always. Recently though she is hitt 25 years old and feels like she should have stuff figured out. She doesn't at all. I work in a very stressful job (emergency medicine) and see  a lot of mental health issues that get out of control. I recently confronted her about how she doesn't seem to want to get better because she has access to free services and won't use them. She has lost friends because she comes off as completely desperate for approval, so I am really the only person she talks to outside of work. I told her as such and she got extremely upset as if I was insulting her. She is still refusing to seek help and is saying that it's "just who she is" that has driven friends away and that nothing will change it. I have gotten frustrated to the point that I get angry with her very easily. I am afraid to go home sometimes because I feel like depending on the day I may spend every second of free time trying to comfort her instead of doing my from home side job or even just enjoying my life. AITA? Should I be okay with being her only source of comfort and respect her decision? 

no

