Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway account. TL;DR at the beginning. Will put spoiler tags.

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TL;DR: &gt;!My whole family is mad at me for yelling at my cousin after she tried to take over my wedding. I also said my fiancé, whom she is in love with, would never love her. No one is letting me see her and apologize. AITA?!&lt;

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To make this easier to follow, my fiancé will be Jay, and my cousin will be Lisa.

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My fiancé Jay (M24) and I (F24) have been together for 10 years. We have never doubted the other in our relationship ever. We have a great relationship. Lisa (F21) and I have an okay relationship. We did grow up together, but we just never clicked. 

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Now this happened when she was a senior in high school and Jay and I were 21. I went home for the holidays with Jay to celebrate Christmas with my family. During dinner, I overheard Lisa telling another cousin of ours that she wanted to fuck Jay. I confronted her later, but she said it was a joke. Last year at another Christmas gathering I went to with Jay, she told my aunt she was in love with Jay. I felt bad for her, so I didn't confront her this time. That night, Jay proposed. I saw Lisa crying and running upstairs to the bathroom.

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Flash forward to now. Our parents, Jay and I are planning our wedding. I specifically told my family that it was only going to be us 6 planning the wedding, no one else. My aunt argued with me to let Lisa on the planning committee since Lisa wants to be a wedding planner in the future. I eventually agreed.

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I really regret letting her on the committee. Let me list the things she's done so far:

* Wanted to take control of the catering. All the food choices, cake, table covers, napkins, utensils, etc.
* Wanted to pick out my dress. I said no to her pick, then the started to pout.
* Wanted to pick out the bridesmaid dresses. She said she wanted this specific dress because it looked good on her. She's not even one of my bridesmaids. 
* Wanted to have a big wedding. I said no since both Jay and I wanted an intimate wedding with only family and close friends.

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Last week we were having another family gathering, and Lisa would not stop gushing about how perfect the wedding was going to be. Then she listed everything Jay and I picked out saying it was all HER idea. The more lies that came out of her mouth, I got angrier.

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I snapped and started to yell at her. I said how it wasn't her wedding, it was mine, and I could plan it however I pleased. I also said how he loved me and he would never love her. She burst into tears and ran upstairs to cry. I realized how hurtful the things I said was and went to go apologize, but my family stopped me. They told me I should just let her plan the wedding and let Jay go talk to her. I honestly felt really bad and tried to apologize, but no one would let me. Even Jay thinks I took it too far.

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Reddit, AITA?
yes

Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My friend broke up with her possessive and controlling bf and moved in with me. Before she broke up with him, she didn’t talk to me for about a year. She called me crying saying he threw all her shit on the side of the road. And he did. So I drove my naive ass over there and packed it all up and brought her back to our house. We made an agreement that she would pay $200 a month and she would get her own apartment in about 4/5 months. Everything started to go downhill about a month later. Her room was trashed, she was leaving old food and dishes in her room, spilling alcohol on the floor and never cleaning it up, inviting guys off tinder over at like 1am, calling off work, getting drunk every night... I decided I had enough when she came home thinking it was funny that a doctor reported her at work. He reported her for showing up hungover after she went on a 3 day binge of alcohol, cocaine, weed, and adderall. She didn’t bother to shower, fix her hair, makeup, or change her clothes. I had a very serious convo with her and told her it would be best if she finds somewhere else to stay because it wasn’t working out. Later that day, she texts me saying she is going to stay with her cousin for a bit and asks me to put her stuff on the porch. So I packed up her stuff and placed it on the porch and pretty much didn’t speak to her after that. About a week after that happened, she was telling all of our mutual friends that I threw her out like a piece of trash and I was just this horrible person to her.

Now it’s been like a year since all of this has happened and *from what I hear* she has her shit together now. She has tried to reach out again but I don’t want to be her friend. She brought all kinds of chaos to my life and she thinks I should be giving her another chance. I cut her off right after all this went down and I don’t feel like I owe her. Am I the asshole for cutting her off? 

TL;DR: Friend breaks up with bf, moves in, goes on drug/alcohol binge, trashes the room, almost loses her job, I kicked her out and cut her off. She wants a second chance at a friendship. AITA for saying I don’t want to be her friend again?
no

Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My husband and I have been mrried for 10 years and have 3 kiddos.
During this time my MIL has posted major personal info about me on FB. Did not deny that she chooses her daughter and oldest granddaughter over her son (my husband). Not asked permission to share photos of our kids. (We don't allow photos to be shared to try and keep them safer.) Has purposely fed our oldest kid items that we asked her not to due to a possible allergy or threw away food that I made for my daughters breakfast bc she said I was forcing my daughter to eat and going to make her fat. (Pot meet kettle) When confronted over these matters, she cries, throws a fit and proceeds to tell us that it's her house and her grandkids so she can do what she wants. If we don't like to get out, so we left the house. When FIL asked us to come back we agreed and I was given the silent treatment  for our remaining time there and the night before we left to come overseas MIL hugged and said be safe to everyone. I got a pat on the head like dog.

Now we're going back stateside and will be 3 hrs from the in laws and am dreading it all. She seems to think nothing is wrong, grandkids will be spending nights with them and they will have free access to our life and kids. Husband and I have talked and agreed that this will NOT be happening nor will the kids be spending any time alone with her.
AITA for not wanting her to have much of time with our family?

yes

