Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : And by pestering mods I mean I made 3 posts within 24 hours.

Backstory: So I recently posted a comment on r/lgbt about thanking a post reminding everyone to vote democratic. So I thanked them and assured them that I would be voting republican now due to the post. That part I know I'm being an asshole, don't worry. 

But then like half an hour later I got banned from the subreddit. Shocking I know. But I sent them a reply saying that I couldn't figure out why I was banned because I couldn't find which rule I had broken, nor did the thing banning me tell me which rules I had broken. Very cordial(at least i think it was).

5 hours later havent heard anything so I ask for a confirmation that someone has at least looked at my post as I know they are busy.

24 hours after original post I comment that I will now assume the worst about them because its been a day and they haven't gotten back to me. This promptly gets me a mute for 72 hours so I cannot talk to them for 72 hours. 

Of course this last comment I could see as breaking the rule of not giving the mods sass, but they hadn't gotten back to me in a whole day. I was a bit irritable.

So I would like to know if I'm being an outright asshole to the mods before I continue pestering them once the 72 hour mute is over.

Tldr: sucks, read the whole thing.
no

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Throwaway Account because I don’t want to be bombarded. I’ve been struggling, for lack of a better word, with this sentiment that is inside of me. After determining if I’m the Asshole, I may post additional details in Change My View in order to get more viewpoints. Feel free to attempt to change my view as well.


Back story:
Grew up in Middle Class America. My parents worked from nothing and earned everything they have, stellar examples. I was instilled with a hard work ethic and told that YOU determine YOUR quality of life. Prior to settling into my career, I’ve lived in a second/third world country for three years, lived across the country for a seasonal job, and lived pay check to paycheck. I’ve had as little as $15.00 in my account at times, I understand that feeling.

Through researching and deliberation with my parents, I decided to attend a community college. Got a two year degree with no school debt.

Followed my Father’s footsteps and joined the Blue Collar Company that he works for. I have full benefits, pension, and a salary that increases every year. Here’s the kicker, the company allows me to move horizontally or vertically. The higher I go, this Blue Collar job turns into a White Collar job. Oh, and they’ll pay for my bachelors. 

I’ve gone from living paycheck to paycheck, to having an account that continues to grow. I budget and live within my means. I also got married and bought a house that we’ll be in for the next 5-10 years. Retirement? My pension will max out at around 80% of my salary by the time I’m done. I’ve also got some little side investments.

There’s a lot more details I could share, but the point I’m getting at is that I earned what I currently have. Heaven forbid I lose my job tomorrow, I could support my families lifestyle and find another job within 1-3 months. 

Disclaimer - I may come off as a douche, but that’s not my intention. I am not intentionally bragging, I simply want to illustrate where I came from and what I’ve done. I am not a trust fund baby. Feel free to poke fun of though!


My “problem”:

I lack empathy for people who, by their own doing, failed to research schools, tuition, degrees, and careers. People now complain about “the system” when I feel that they forged their own fate.

 Did you really think you could get a degree in under water basketweaving and then waltz into some big wig corporate job? Why do you feel like a company owes you a entry level job or internship?

 You complain about your student loans, but YOU decided to live above your means and pay anywhere from $20,000-$80,000 for a university? Why?? Where does that make sense?

You work a low paying job, but drive an expensive vehicle. WHAT!? 

Right now, I do not have empathy for you. Your choices have forged your fate. Now, your fate is not SEALED (you can change it if you want), and yes you are now at a disadvantage, but it’s due to your own choices. 


With all sincerity, help me determine, see, and possibly change if I am The Asshole
yes

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My parents are decent people. We live on their property in a different house and pay rent. They made housing possible for us even tho it's not easy on them or us but it does help alot.

That being said, my parents have some issues: My mother is an alcoholic. While she has been working hard to stay sober, I'm not capable of trusting her entirely. She's been drinking since I was a child so I can't help but feel she'll never actually beat it. My father, on the otherhand, is rather old and has serious memory issues. Then when my mother lapses and drinks, there is a 50/50 chance my father can't tell or denies it happened. 

With them being retired, they have flat out offered to nanny our child so I can return to work full-time. Had any of the other family made this offer, I'd have seriously considered it. With my parents tho, I don't know if I'm willing to risk my child's health even if they essentially offer a solution to all our concerns. Denying this means serious financial ramifications or changes in employment to get by.

When this came up in a discussion with my aunt, my mother flat out said that she expected to be the care provider while I worked. I didn't know how to handle it, having been completely thrown off guard, and kind of laughed it off awkwardly and talked about my moral belief of raising my child myself (also 100% true). My mother took offense to me not confirming her statement, but hasn't said anything directly since.

WIBTA for denying this generous offer because of the off chance something happens? Or WIBTA for accepting and taking that chance?

yes

