TASK DEFINITION: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
PROBLEM: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Long time lurker but had to create a temporary account to post since others know the main one.

Background: I live with my parents and I asked if I could have a dog and they said as long as I can afford him and his necessities and take care of him, they wouldn't mind. They emphasized the many facts that they will not help me in any way (buying stuff, dog-sitting, training, etc) which I didn't mind, I have always wanted a furbaby and I wanted the responsibility of training him to be the best doggo ever.

The first few months was all great, I learned so much and implemented everything I've learned from dog training courses, videos online, advice from friends who have dogs, all that good stuff. Since my doggo is a fairly large breed, it is more difficult to address some issues. I've tried positive reinforcement all the way but it only went so far.. so my private trainer suggested to use a pinch collar. I was hesitant to use this but after a few training sessions with this, the obedience changed for the better and the issues gradually got easier to deal with such as tugging during walks. The trainer suggested not to let him play with other dogs yet since he is still trying to master obedience.

So after the 6 months mark, my parents grew to love the dog soo much that they started spoiling him like crazy when I am not present. My mom would give him treats non-stop cause he would give those cute freaking puppy eyes.. My mom calls me cold-hearted because I would ask the dog to do tricks (obedience training) before I give him a reward. I want to enforce the training so he is not spoiled and has to earn his treats even if the command is something simple like "sit" or "down". My parents also love to walk him, but they don't enforce the pinch collar during walks. So the dog is tugging left and right, he's leading them everywhere, he's eating crap off the ground, he's plopping on the ground and refusing to leave, etc. 

At this point, this dog KNOWS who and when he can take advantage of - he would basically revert back to the behavior prior the pinch collar if hes around my parents. My parents would complain to me, asking me why he's acting this way and why he's such an angel when he's with me. They would compare my dog to others asking why can't I train him to be obedient like other dogs. I told them bluntly that it is because they don't enforce the training, and that I do. They still didn't listen to me after I told them this fact. 

I found out that my mom has been letting him play with other dogs on walks, even after I told her not to yet since we are still trying to master obedience. She lets him off-leash and he goes running towards other dogs.. I told her that I don't like if the dog is off-leash unless it's in an enclosed area. What if the other dog he's running towards is aggressive? What if the other dog's owner doesn't like dogs being off-leash? She then continues to call me crazy, and that I am making the dog unhappy. One of the main reason that I am overly upset right now is because my mom told me that the dog saw other dogs from the other side of the park and he went running towards them- leading to the fall of my mom and letting go cause of severe leash burn. I've tolerated so much regarding about the dog but my mom just continues not to listen and tells me that I'm being a bad owner and that I don't care about his well-being. I got so fed up that I regretfully yelled at my mom and now she's crying.. and giving me the silent treatment. All my dog training literally went down the toilet.

Sorry for the long post, but AITA for yelling at mom because I just want her to enforce the training so he doesn't go all crazy and takes advantage of her? I know she just wants the dog to be happy.

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok so some background context before we get into this I(17 mtf) have a friend (also 17 mtf) for the record mtf is the acronym people use for trans women. Anyway so my and my friend who we will call j have known eachother for a time, almost 4 years. But recently as I talk to her it feels like se concentrating on the things that make me look bad, in a weird way. So we had a mutual friend a while back who I dated, let's call em L during this period he made sexual advances I made clear were not welcome, anyway long story short turns out the guy is a dick and he leaves out town. Recently when L is brought up she goes into something along the line of "you don't have it as bad as me, I had it the worst" in different ways. It happens almost every time. I want to sometimes say "yeah I get it you had a bad time, doesn't discount mine" one of the other things is that she is into body horror stuff(mostly works by junji Ito), which is cool but I hate it, I'm not exactly squeamish but it makes me wildly uncomfortable. She knows this and yet brings it up so often, and tries to get me to read it.  Another problem lies in our dysphoria, which usually lands us on common ground but she does the "trust me it's easier for you cause you're skinny" act which I hate because I have got an eating disorder, which she knows about. But keeps telling me things like "I would kill for your body", etc. I hate it because once again diminishing my problems because hers are worse. And then there's the subject of V. V is a mutual friend that we both dated, her before me. We have both broken up with him on amicable terms. However anytime I bring up Something happy that happened with him when just talking about relationships she always butts in with something like "HAHAHA it's so funny how you dated him even though I'm still in love with him" the same thing happens when ever I bring my current partner but in a different matter that always frames me as being bad for bringing up my happiness because she doesn't have it. For the record when I was dating V J has broken up with him months beforehand and was cool with out relationship. I don't know what happened and it's tiring to be told that my problems don't matter because she's got worse ones, or how somehow I've wronged her. And it's getting irritating and I just want to shout that not everything is about her and for her to just let people have happiness without bringing her problems into it immediately.  WIBTA if I called her out?

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : First off, using a throwaway for obvious reasons.


This is a bit of a rant, so prepare yourselves;


A few years ago, when I was a freshman in High School, I found out a girl I was friends with had a crush on me. I told her (in more words) that I wasn't ready for a relationship yet, and she seemed to understand. A little bit later, she dated someone else, but they broke up, and she kind of talked to me on and off after that, but I never really saw her. We'll call this girl "Girl A", for the story's sake. A year or two later, I met another girl, Girl B, and we also became friends, along with two other people in a kind of small "friend group". We grew as friends, but similar to Girl A, I never really hung out with her.


Fast forward to this year. I've never been to a school dance through all of middle or high school, and it's my last year of high school. I want to go to homecoming, but I want to have a date. I figure it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask Girl A to homecoming, since we're still on good terms, and I know she at least *used* to like me. I decide to talk to my closest friend who is a girl (not to be confused with a girlfriend) for advice, Girl B. Girl B talks to Girl A beforehand to find out for me if she'll say yes, and then helps me figure out how to ask Girl A to Hoco, which I do. She says yes. However, I want her to know it's as friends, so I make sure to mention that. Following Homecoming, Girl A is talking to me more and seeming to get closer to me, but I try to be clear we're just friends. All of the sudden and out of nowhere, a member of the friend group with Girl B in it reveals to me that Girl B was sad I didn't ask her to homecoming, because she has a massive crush on me. I'm flattered, but when I talk to Girl B about it, I give her a similar "I'm not sure how to feel about it" response.


Now comes the really complicated part.


I go through a pretty hard bought of depression, and Girl B is super nice and helpful, and comforts me throughout. I grow closer to her, and we become semi-official "boyfriend &amp; girlfriend". Of course, being the loser that I am, I tell people that I now have a girlfriend to feel better about myself (Girl B doesn't mind, she thinks it's cute). At the same time, I begin to realize Girl A still has a crush on me, and a dilemma strikes when they both ask me to hang out on the same day. Being the completely rational and intelligent person I am (sarcasm), rather than dealing with it, I decide to tell both I am busy, and go to park by myself instead. Obviously, I need to deal with this, but I don't, because I'm very shy and antisocial about it, and I don't know what to say. However, today, I mentioned to someone from my homecoming group that I had a girlfriend. From what I can tell, she went and told Girl A, who really likes me at this point, but I was stupid to let it go on like that, and now Girl A has left the long-lasting homecoming group chat saying she "doesn't belong there" and it was "a mistake to join". Obviously this is scary and freaks me out, since she's still my friend, but she's not responding to anyone, from texts or calls. 


I finally got over most of my depression and a ton of drama recently after most of my closest friends left me suddenly &amp; without warning for a different friend group entirely. Girl B helped me through that. Now, I'm worried about this. I really don't want to fall back into that rut, and I really, really hate drama like this, but I don't know what to do. I'm also especially worried about Girl A, because I'm afraid she might A. Hate me for this,  B. Do something bad to herself, or C. Create more drama around me in some way. But I don't know what to do, and I never see her, so I can't confront her about it. It's 11 pm and I'm kind of freaking out about it, I just wish High School would hurry up and end and I could leave all this drama and messiness behind, but it just seems to follow me wherever I go.


So the question is; am I the asshole for letting this go on? I know I should've said something, but is it my fault that this is happening?


Tl;dr: I took a girl who used to have a crush on me to homecoming, then found out a different girl liked me. I started going out with her, but the girl I took to homecoming didn't know, still likes me, and completely isolated herself when she found out today that I was dating someone.

SOLUTION:
no

