Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
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Question: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Here is some background:

My (18f) best friend (18f) was born in Korea but was adopted by white parents as an infant. She does not speak Korean or know anything about the culture/traditions. (I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that or that it makes her any less Korean.) She makes an obvious effort to separate herself from other Asian people in our school and constantly makes fun of stereotypically Asian things (eg. anime, k-pop, eating rice, getting good grades, etc.). If anyone calls her out on this she gets defensive and says she "can't be racist towards her own race". HOWEVER, her "jokes" are never about/toward herself (self-deprecating) but instead aimed at others (borderline bullying). She acts like she is above other Asian people because she has white parents.

I want to make it clear that I do not think my friend is truly racist or a bad person. I have always chalked this behavior up as her being deeply insecure about her race/adoption. I have never confronted her about this (maybe I should, but I feel as though she would just get defensive), but whenever she makes rude comments I try to counteract them without being belligerent (eg. "Her eyes are so squinty" "I think her eyes are really pretty").

Now, onto the topic in the title. My friend recently told me that she applied for scholarship/grant money intended for students from Asian backgrounds. I feel like it's shitty to reject and ridicule a culture only to later use it for your benefit--even if that culture happens to be your own. I tried expressing this to her in the nicest way possible, but she called me racist and said that I had no right to tell her what she could or could not do in regards to her race. Is she right? Was it even my place to say anything? AITA?

Answer: yes


Question: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I have a friend on Xbox that I’ve been talking to for 3, maybe 4 years now. He’s always been there for me, and I’ve been there for him. Him and I have a close friendship, but no romantic feelings for each other. 

Just tonight, my xbox friend said, “I love you. Have a goodnight!” I replied back, “I love you, too. You have a goodnight as well!” 

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under a year now. We still haven’t said those three words to each other yet because I don’t think I’m ready. I like him tons and tons, just always thought those words should be saved. 

My boyfriend was in the room with me when I told my xbox friend that, and now he’s being passive aggressive. (Isn’t talking to me, didn’t want me touching him, went straight to bed.) 

AITA for saying “I love you” to another guy online when I’ve known him longer than the relationship I’m in? 

Answer: yes


Question: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So, quick backstory: 

I live with my Mom, who is a total sweetheart, but can be a bit cranky. My sister has 3 children, 2 6yo boys, and a little 1 year old little girl (adorable). I love my family very very much, I wanna make this clear. I would do anything for them, in fact, I've changed my entire life for the better because of them, and they inspire me to continue bettering myself. 

That being said, they demand a lot of attention. I recently moved in with my mom to be closer to them. I don't necessarily like children.. they kind of annoy me lol. Especially somewhat misbehaved ones, like my nephews. I know they're just kids, and they don't really know any better, but yeah. Now my Mom and Sister's idea of hanging out is going shopping/window shopping at department stores and stuff, it's their thing. It's that, or sitting in my sister's living room while her kids go nuts.

So I consistently shoot them down. Not to mention, I'm very much an introvert, and want to focus on school and work. I prefer to relax by myself on my off time.. but, my family tries to take up a considerable amount of my time. Most of my life I felt kind of disconnected from them, I've been very much a "Black Sheep" in my views and life choices. So it's hard to get along with them.

I'll finalize this by saying, I don't always shoot them down, I do visit them, quite often actually. But lately the guilt trips have been getting worse whenever I say no, and my sister uses her kids against me sometimes. My mom gets completely upset with me and doesn't speak to me.

I feel like they either don't respect or don't understand my need of my space, and I don't know how to communicate it without being TA.

AITA?

Answer:
no


