Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Question: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Not sure if this belongs here or in /r/dating_advice, but I just got done with an interaction on bumble where the woman I was chatting with was pretty adamant that it is never appropriate to talk politics on a dating site, or on a first date.  I think that for me, politics is something that should be talked about up front – I have no interest in dating people with certain political positions. I told her I respected her position as it relates to her, but she just kept saying that politics just shouldn't be discussed, ever.   


What sparked it off was that we were discussing two cities with the same name, one in my state, one in Virginia.  I commented, "Virginia is a lot different from \[my state\], more blackface scandals." I thought it was funny. I hadn't noticed that she went to University of Virginia.  Now, I get that maybe I was an asshole for making an insensitive comment about her state (though I still think it was funny), but I still think you should be allowed to talk politics if it's important to you. 

Answer: yes


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Six months ago I moved 11 hours away from my hometown. My best friend who still lives there has been planning to visit me for a few months, but always rescheduled the dates. I eventually offered to help pay for a ticket for whenever she could come, and she said okay. We kept trying to plan but something always came up with her so I gave it a rest.

Finally she settled on dates in Feb to visit with her s/o. They were going to drive. We'd gotten further with this plan than ever before so I also took off work, planned the itinerary, and spent about $200 on groceries the day before their arrival. Everything was in order for weeks... **until the day before**.

Her s/o plows snow in the winter for his job but didn't request the days off work. He just gambled it wouldn't snow while he was away. So the day before they were supposed to arrive, she told me that his weather app said it **may** snow during their stay here, meaning that her s/o would have to work, and they couldn't come.

My weather app said no snow, so I remained optimistic. I suggested they get up early as planned, check the weather, and let me know if they’re coming. She agreed.

The day of, I woke up with no messages. I texted and asked what was going on. She answered 1 hour later saying that they just woke up. She said she woke up early as planned, but her s/o did not. I asked why she didn't text me or wake up her s/o. I **did not** get a response to these questions. Another hour later, she told me that his weather app said it would snow. They officially canceled. At this point, I was upset that:

1. Her s/o did not request off work
2. She waited late into the day they were supposed to arrive to tell me they weren't coming
3. I've been trying to help her plan a trip here for months

I told her this was not planned well. She defended her s/o entirely. I asked why she didn't text me that morning as planned. She did not answer. We went back and forth for a little while, just upset, and then she stopped responding for 3 weeks.

3 weeks later--a few days ago--she texted me for the first time:

&gt;"I love you but you got too upset over a canceled trip. (Her s/o) doesn't plan his work schedule around when we feel like going on trips. You were inconsiderate about my side and I was upset too. But I just want to get over this and be friends again."

This is where I want to know AITA because I did not respond in a friendly manner:

&gt;"Firstly, you haven't talked to me in 3 weeks. Secondly, he offered to drive you guys down here. I did not ask him to work around 'our trips.' I want to know why he didn't request PTO on the chance it wouldn’t snow in winter. Thirdly, you were supposed to text me in the morning of and let me know if you were coming. I feel like you knew you weren't coming but entertained me into the next day. I can't believe you don't get why I'm upset. I don't know how I feel about being friends right now."

That was our last text exchange and I haven't heard from her in days.

Answer: no


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : We've been together a long time and she's always had image issues. For years, she'll say things like "I'm fat", "I'm disgusting", "I'm ugly", etc. I understand how hard it is to not like the way you look, and have always responded with "I think you're beautiful" or similar.  I've always thought she had a perfect body, beautiful face, and I love every part of the way she looks. 

Lately, however, for whatever reason when she'll say something specific about herself ("my chin/face /stomach /whatever"), I've started to notice and see her perspective more. I'm not a fan of this and don't want to ruin the image I have. Today she started again and I told her that I need her to stop degrading herself because it's been impacting the way I see her.

This DID not go well. She told me I'm an asshole, I don't have her back, that I must be a child for letting my opinions be influenced by what she says.  She also said that because I told her that she's starting to influence my perspective that she questions If I've been lying the other times. She says she can't help but say these things because otherwise she spirals. I said I'm responsible for her self esteem, even if I want her to feel good. That also didn't go well.

So...? 

Answer:
no


