Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

Input: Consider Input: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Ok, first time poster here and posting via mobile

Here's the deal. I get cold sores aka I have herpes. I'm 28. I've had it my whole life ever since I can remember ( I didn't make a bad decision or recklessly get one). I've been in many long term relationships (3+ years in length) and NEVER have I given it to any of my partners. I go to extreme lengths to make sure I don't pass it on, including waiting many extra days after I'm positive the cold sores have healed before I'm willing to let myself kiss anyone. 

Typically it's at least 2.5 weeks from when I get one until I would do anything physical( general rule of thumb is 2 weeks to heal without acyclovir, lysine, or abreva to help speed the healing process). FTR I use all three. My boyfriend is so scared of getting one, which I understand completely considering I've never had the option to not have them, and I get fairly large and painful ones. After I'm 100% sure it's gone, he still makes me wait additional time before he'll let me kiss him. Anywhere from 4-5 days or at the longest an extra week or two. The amount of time seems completely arbitrary based purely on how fearful he feels at the moment. If it was always the same amount of time, maybe I'd be able to cope better, I dunno.

I struggle with self image issues and feel like a downright ugly unlovable monster when I have cold sores, somewhat exacerbated by the fact that whenever I see my boyfriend remember I have one, he flinches away from me and has a look of intense fear on his face. So, the 2.5 weeks minimum is torture, and then the extra who knows how many days feels even worse (when I know the sore is gone and he treats me as diseased anyways)

We've talked about it and all he ever tells me is that a few extra days isn't anything in comparison to a lifetime - which I understand. I told him it makes me feel pretty crummy to wait even longer and that it sucks he doesn't trust me and believe me when I tell him it's ok. I would NEVER rush a recovery and put ANYONE at risk. I've had a perfect track record for 28 years and don't intend on that changing ever.

Anytime I bring this up, I'm told I just can't possibly understand and why would I make him feel bad because he just wants to protect himself. Which I do understand, but he seems to not care at all that it makes me feel like complete garbage for as long as he's unwilling to kiss me. 

AITH for wanting him to trust me more because of my experience with the disease and compromise on the excessive amount of extra wait time? Any time I bring that up, I get told I'm horrible for making him feel bad, but he doesn't seem to care at all that he's making me feel like I'm less than a person. And he tells me I'm overly emotional for feeling that way. 

Output: yes


Input: Consider Input: CLAIM : The following post is HYPOTHETICAL. POST : I (16 year old guy) own a Nintendo Switch and recently bought the new Smash Bros game. My older cousin (24-26 year old guy) lives with me and my sisters in my mother’s house and does not own a Nintendo Switch. When I bought the new Smash Bros game I played it with my cousin a few times because I knew he liked Smash Bros and I used to play Smash Bros Melee with him whenever I went to his house when I was young. 

Recently my cousin has been inviting his friends over to hang out and play Smash Bros on my Switch. I first found out when I went downstairs to the kitchen to get some food when I heard him playing Smash Bros on my Switch with his friends in the living room. He never asked for permission to play with my Switch, but I brushed it off because I was busy doing homework at the time and just went down to the kitchen for a snack. This happened again a few times and now he invites his friends to come over once or twice a week and they play on my Nintendo Switch. I never really minded it, but recently when I was playing on my Nintendo Switch I noticed that one of my controllers was acting weird. I found out that one of the joysticks got a bit messed up and realized it was probably from when my cousin’s friends were using it. I also sometimes want to play on my Nintendo Switch but find my cousin and his friends using it so I play games on my computer instead even though I wanted to play a game on my Nintendo Switch. I tried bringing my Nintendo Switch up to my room instead of leaving it in the living room, but when his friends come over he comes to my room and asks if he can use it. I say yes when he asks because I am not using it whenever he asks and would feel guilty if I didn’t let him use it. I also don’t like being mean and don’t really like confrontation and would rather not hear “Why” if I say no. 

My cousin is a kinda nice guy. He has bought me lunch/dinner a few times after, but we don’t interact much because his room is in the basement while mine is upstairs. Whenever I am out of my room he is usually out of the house working or doing something.  

I feel like I would be a dick if I stopped letting him use it, but I own that system and bought it with my own money. Why should I have to stand aside like a little bitch whenever he wants to play on it with his friends? He hasn’t even offered to let me join while he plays with his friends. Meanwhile I let him join while I was playing Mario Kart online with a friend just yesterday. I had to play split screen so this fuck could get 8th place. 

Would I be the asshole if I told him that he can’t use my Nintendo Switch anymore?



Output: yes


Input: Consider Input: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Me and this friend were talking when I mentioned eyeliner and how annoying it is to apply and wash off (normal makeup wipes don’t work u g h) when he suddenly says I can have my mum help apply it. I was about to reply that she sucks at makeup when he jokingly said «or dad :)» and my mood instantly dropped. 

My father is the worst human I have ever had to deal with. He has given me anxiety attacks several times and hardly ever apologizes. On one occation an anxiety attack had me screaming at the top of my lungs for him to get out of my room and then it took days before I was back to normal. Can you guess why? He started shouting and berating at me because I refused to eat and clean a pizza he dropped in *my* room... Yah. Btw DON’T give advice on my dad, okay? Please. 

 So I instantly reply «my dad is a fucking asshole and I wish he was dead» (100% true) and I immideately apologize. I say «Sorry. I just hate him.» hoping to not make it too awkward while also obvious that I don’t wanna talk about him. He says «wow rude» and theeeen we go back and forth a lot. He continues to call me rude and I finally snap and say «I will fucking block you if you ever tell me I’m rude to my dad again. I’m fucking serious.» I even warned him beforehand and said «You have no idea what you’re delving yourself into.» (seriously talking about my dad to me is dangerous if you wanna stay on my good side) 

So he finally stops calling me rude but says I hurt him by threatening to block him. I know I did. I really feel bad for that, but it’s 1 am and I was really really not in the mood to talk about him, especially when someone who doesn’t know anything about our relationship calls me rude for hating my father. I don’t know if I would’ve blocked him, it was more of a half threat to show how I can get pissed very easily if you talk about my father. 

AITA? Or is he? Or is no one?


Output: yes


