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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : &amp;#x200B;

Im at college in a triple dorm and before moving in we all agreed we would work out the bunking and closet situation once we got there but of course that fell through and as the last one to move in, I was defaulted to top bunk and all the other non-preferential options for desk and closet space. Whatever, I don't really care that much about any of it except for the bunk, which we had agreed would be contentious and require working out. It's a week from the end of the first (fall) quarter, and for the quarter I have been mentioning to my roommate that I would take bottom bunk winter quarter since he just presumed it for fall. Every-time I say it he just says "no, not happening" but I have never been in the mood to argue or really discuss it until now when it's coming down to the wire. Of course when I told him again the reaction was the same but this time I told him I thought it was a more fair compromise than first come first serve tough luck. As far as I can tell his only arguments for not swapping bunks are "life's not always fair", "most people don't switch", and "all my things are set up already" but the only thing on the beds are sheets so I don't think that argument is very legit. I'm even conceding that he can have bottom again in Spring, meaning he'll have the bottom for two quarters and me only one. I really don't understand how I can be in the wrong on this one but that's why I'm asking you guys if it's possible that I am the asshole here. I'm also out of options on how to deal with this because he is saying there's now way he'll leave and if I try to sleep in the bed he'll just get in and sleep with me.  Any advice would be appreciated on how to deal with my spoiled stubborn roommate.
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no


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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : tldr at the end

i was meant to be graduating university in a few months but due to mental health reasons decided to take time off and resit my final year in september. 

because i was meant to be moving out, my friend (a first year student) was going to move into my room instead. but because i am now carrying on my studies i will also be staying in the same house. (i was only leaving originally because once i was no longer a full time student i would have to pay a lot of council tax) 

this all happened about 3 weeks ago and my friend was kept up to date throughout. he mentioned that he didn’t really know what he was going to do but never asked for help or started looking for a new place. 

tonight we were talking on the phone and the house got bought up and he said that he was stressed about it and basically felt that i had screwed him over. after the phone call we were texting and he got mad at me for ‘leaving him high and dry’ despite me telling him that i would be staying in the house 3 weeks ago. (context: usually students find houses in january to move in around august/september but houses are still advertised for students all year round. ie. it’s not hard to find a place)
i replied to him saying that i was sorry that it was a shit situation but at the end of the day it’s not my responsibility to find him a place to stay. he then kicked off and started saying that as soon as he asks me  for help i don’t give a fuck about him despite him supporting me all the time (he does give me a lot of support but i also support him and have done for a few years) 

i’m having a bad mental health day so said i’d talk to him about it tomorrow as it was all getting very intense to which he basically said not to bother and that our whole friendship felt completely one sided and that i was using him for support but as soon as he was struggling i turned my back. 


i just don’t understand what his problem is and why all of this is suddenly my fault and i’m a terrible friend. i’m not going to move out of my house that i love so that he can move in. 

i feel like i’ve done a terrible job at explaining all this, a lot has happened really quickly. it’s all gone from 0-100 within the last hour and he’s gone from being one of my closest friends to suddenly wanting nothing to do with me. 

tldr: i was meant to graduate in a few months and move out of my student house but circumstances changed and now i am staying. my friend was meant to be taking over occupancy but is now really mad at me for ‘screwing him over’ and has turned the whole thing into an attack at me and is saying our friendship is essentially over. AITA? 
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no


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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have a group chat with a few friends for the purpose of getting together and doing things, as well as just having fun and messing around. We like to get together every once and a while to hang out, and do some recreational activities. We all have fairly busy schedules, as we are all adults, so planning on doing things together can be a bit of a hassle sometimes. It’s nice to be able to get together at least once a week, but sometimes not even that is possible because our schedules don’t line up. 

I understand that people get busy and sometimes plans don’t work out, that’s just life. I’ve noticed however whenever I pitch an idea to do something on a particular day, not ONCE has the plan actually gone through. I’m understanding if my friends are busy and it doesn’t work for them, but when they say “that’s a great idea, let’s go!” or “works for me!” Isn’t that kind of expected that they should be able to go, or am I just crazy? It also seems when any of them make plans, it usually works for most of them and goes through. It kinda makes me feel like a shitty person how I try to make plans with my friends and it seems like they don’t really give a shit.

This most recent incident, I asked a few days ago if anyone wanted to get dinner, where two of my friends said they could go and one said they probably couldn’t. When the day arrives, I ask where everyone wants to go and I get no responses. Half an hour after we were supposed to meet up, one of my friends messages us saying that they have too much to do and can’t make it. The other friend straight up doesn’t respond. Third friend doesn’t either but they said they probably couldn’t anyways so I wasn’t upset about that. I reply “awesome, I guess I’ll just let you guys make all the plans since all of mine fall through.” Nothing. They even read it too. 

I then said: “cool, I guess nobody gives a shit,” and left the group chat. Now they’re individually messaging me but I’m not gonna respond because I don’t care about their justifications for being shitty friends. If you say you’re going to an event or enthusiastically respond in such a manner, then I don’t know why it would be unreasonable for me to be upset when it falls through last minute. Now if this happened once, it wouldn’t be the end of the world, but it seems like every damn time I try and set something up, this shit happens.

It makes me feel like trash when this happens. I still like hanging out with them, but it feels like it’s on their terms and never mine. Are my feelings justified or am I just being an asshole?
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no


