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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Is EVERYBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I'm 19, I work at a pizza place as a driver. Also there is a pizza maker and his adult son who makes deliveries, they have been there longer than I have. The adult son is a little bit odd and definitely has something mentally wrong, nothing extreme.

Nov-  boss told me I was getting a raise. night that I was supposed to get it, the pizza maker was cashing me out. I said "I think I'm supposed to get a raise tonight" to which he got instantly angry and said he doesn't want to know about it. When I went to ask my boss he told me it has to wait now and it's just between the two of us. I later found out the pizza maker's son is yet to get a raise in the entirety of him working there. 

 Jan- I'm back  after a month because of a problem between me and the boss where i was the ass.  I was given a hundred dollar bill to pay for food  and it was fake. My boss wanted me to pay out of pocket for it. I told him no way. Eventually he said something like "you think I'm going to pay for your screw up?" to which I told him "fuck you, I quit".

 We made up, but the pizza maker treats me differently and gives me more non-delivery work. 

I've also noticed a pattern of the pizza maker's son getting the really good tip deliveries ALMOST EVERY TIME

My coworker also told me the pizza maker talks behind my back about how I leave early a lot to "avoid cleaning" and how I should be watched around the register because I can't be trusted. 

The incident was this Saturday. I had been waiting my turn for a delivery . Finally, I was up, but it was for a $5 discounted delivery right down the road to the front desk of a motel. We usually have a $10 minimum. In my eyes this delivery was  a favor to the front desk guy because they distribute our menus. As I was leaving the pizza maker's son pulled up, which would make him next in line for a delivery when he gets back. I told the pizza maker as I was leaving there's no way this delivery should count. As I was coming back the pizza maker's son was leaving with a $50 delivery.


chain of events 

Me (angry): "how is that fair that he gets to go next. that shouldn't count"

pizza maker, matching my tone: "What does it say in the machine?"

Me: "it doesn't matter it's done as a favor"

pizza maker: "go talk to the boss if you have a problem"

Me: I will, don't get mad if when I do and I get offered a raise because I actually deserve it"

pizza maker: "at least [my son] makes boxes and cleans cans without being asked" 

me: "who cares if he does it without being asked? I do it twice as fast and am way better at my job"

at this point the boss entered from the kitchen and asked what's going on

today I got a call from my boss saying i need to apologize or be fired basically even though my boss doesn't think I was in the wrong, he just would have no choice because the pizza maker is threatening to quit 
answer:
yes


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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : First time post here, and I'm writing on mobile, so yee.

Cast:
M; Mom.
D; Dad.
BS; Big Sister.
Me: Mary Poppins.

So a bit of background, I share a room with my 18-year old, still not moved out sister. She's almost never home so I usually have the room to myself.

As you all know, it's mother's day. About 10 minutes ago, while we were on a bus, M got a text from BS saying she wasn't coming home today.

M was slightly upset - it's mother's day, after all. She could've come home for even 5 minutes.

D said it's normal for her, and she only thinks about herself. 

Also, she's not even out of town. She just wants to stay at her friend's house literally every night.

I was pretty annoyed, but then again, BS does this alot. I get it, she's 18 now, she can do what she likes; but she didn't even say a simple, 'Happy mother's day,' to her.

I kind of want to contact her about it but I know she'll get all defensive.

AITA for getting mad at her?
answer:
no


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Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway Account because I don’t want to be bombarded. I’ve been struggling, for lack of a better word, with this sentiment that is inside of me. After determining if I’m the Asshole, I may post additional details in Change My View in order to get more viewpoints. Feel free to attempt to change my view as well.


Back story:
Grew up in Middle Class America. My parents worked from nothing and earned everything they have, stellar examples. I was instilled with a hard work ethic and told that YOU determine YOUR quality of life. Prior to settling into my career, I’ve lived in a second/third world country for three years, lived across the country for a seasonal job, and lived pay check to paycheck. I’ve had as little as $15.00 in my account at times, I understand that feeling.

Through researching and deliberation with my parents, I decided to attend a community college. Got a two year degree with no school debt.

Followed my Father’s footsteps and joined the Blue Collar Company that he works for. I have full benefits, pension, and a salary that increases every year. Here’s the kicker, the company allows me to move horizontally or vertically. The higher I go, this Blue Collar job turns into a White Collar job. Oh, and they’ll pay for my bachelors. 

I’ve gone from living paycheck to paycheck, to having an account that continues to grow. I budget and live within my means. I also got married and bought a house that we’ll be in for the next 5-10 years. Retirement? My pension will max out at around 80% of my salary by the time I’m done. I’ve also got some little side investments.

There’s a lot more details I could share, but the point I’m getting at is that I earned what I currently have. Heaven forbid I lose my job tomorrow, I could support my families lifestyle and find another job within 1-3 months. 

Disclaimer - I may come off as a douche, but that’s not my intention. I am not intentionally bragging, I simply want to illustrate where I came from and what I’ve done. I am not a trust fund baby. Feel free to poke fun of though!


My “problem”:

I lack empathy for people who, by their own doing, failed to research schools, tuition, degrees, and careers. People now complain about “the system” when I feel that they forged their own fate.

 Did you really think you could get a degree in under water basketweaving and then waltz into some big wig corporate job? Why do you feel like a company owes you a entry level job or internship?

 You complain about your student loans, but YOU decided to live above your means and pay anywhere from $20,000-$80,000 for a university? Why?? Where does that make sense?

You work a low paying job, but drive an expensive vehicle. WHAT!? 

Right now, I do not have empathy for you. Your choices have forged your fate. Now, your fate is not SEALED (you can change it if you want), and yes you are now at a disadvantage, but it’s due to your own choices. 


With all sincerity, help me determine, see, and possibly change if I am The Asshole
answer:

no


