Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Ok this is a throwaway account because I'm a Redditor and dont want this post in my normal account history.

To start off, I am one of those women who cant orgasm vaginally, I can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation and this has caused issues between my boyfriend of almost 2yrs and I. When we first got together and he found out I cant orgasm vaginally he started bragging about how many orgasms other women have had through him vaginally(immature I know...we are both in our late 30s so that was an ew moment for me). He's referred to me as an alien, abnormal, and being broken sexually. We've tried toys and whatnot to get me to cum vaginally but it just doesnt work so he usually just goes down on me to get me off.

I don't need to get off everytime we have sex and Ive told him I dont expect him to get me off everytime, most of the time Im perfectly satisfied with just a good pounding, but it really bothers him to the point of he gets irritated at me that I cant cum through intercourse and then I feel like there's some thing wrong with me. This has turned sex into something somewhat stressful and makes it take longer than normal for me to cum when he goes down on me because the whole time Im feeling self conscious. I feel like if I cant get to orgasm quickly then I've failed at sex and making him happy.

3 weeks ago I started taking anti depressants, and a side effect is inability to orgasm or taking much longer to get there than normal. I told him this but he's getting even more irritated now because he wants me to cum within minutes when he goes down. 

The last two times he went down on me it felt great as usual but I just didnt feel any of the usual build up to climax and I knew if I told him I didnt think I was going to cum because of the meds he would say something assholish about me being broken again, so I decided to fake it both times. He was happy that he "made me cum" and asked for the usual accolades and I avoided the awkwardness and irritation from him afterwards. I feel bad about being deceptive, Ive never had this be a problem in any of my previous relationships and have never faked an orgasm before. AITA?

TL;DR faked two orgasms because boyfriend gets irritated when I cant cum quickly.


yes

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : TL;DR at the bottom. 

My oldest (half)brother is now 31 years old. We met when I was 9 and he was 19. He showed up at my dad’s with his newborn son and girlfriend, so my parents took them in. We built a good relationship and I absolutely adored him. Suddenly, he took his family and left town when I’m 12 (I was outrageously upset). I found out later that he started stealing from our parents and got involved in drugs (snorting coke, selling weed, etc), so my parents kicked him out. I also found out that when he would take me to his friends’ houses who happened to have siblings/kids my age, he was actually taking me to his dealer’s house and he would sometimes make “deliveries” while I was with him. He also used to smoke joints in the car with me, and I couldn’t tell the difference between that and cigarettes.

I haven’t seen the dude in almost a decade, and our phone conversations fizzled out when I was 16. I rarely ever thought about him. 3 weeks ago, he showed up at my dad’s house with his wife and now 9 year old son. He says he’s changed and wants his son to have a better life so he needs help raising him. Parents took him in again and they’re living with them permanently.

My parents keep telling me he’s changed and I believe them. They say that not only is he sober, but he’s kind, helpful, and happy. That’s great, but it doesn’t make me forget what happened. I actually cancelled a planned visit because I’m not ready to see him, which pissed my dad off. My brother even called once and said he’d like to talk to me, but I said, “I’m not ready to hear what you have to say, I need time” and hung up the phone. I admit, I’ve been frosty.

I’m not ready to see him and I’m not even sure I want to. My dad offered to bring my brother down to my apartment, but I don’t want him in my space (and they know better than to just show up). They also keep asking me to come visit, but like I said, I’m not ready. I don’t know who this man is, and while I do have fond memories of him, I now know that those memories included him taking me to his dealer’s house and inadvertently giving me contact highs. I’m so angry at him for getting involved in heavy shit (and involving me, a child, in it); I would like to have a relationship with him again but anger is keeping me from that. 

My dad isn’t speaking to me until I agree to speak to my brother, stepmom is staying out of it, other siblings have mixed opinions. I’m not saying I’ll never see him but I JUST found out that he’s back and I don’t think I’m ready to talk about a decade of repressed hurt and resentment with him. 

So, AITA for avoiding my oldest brother and (inadvertently) our parents? 

TL;DR: oldest brother, whom I adored, got involved with drugs and inadvertently involved me in it. He left town when I was a kid and haven’t seen him in nearly a decade. He showed up recently, dad says he’s changed/sober and wants me to visit, but I’ve been avoiding it. AITA? 
yes

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So its my last year living in Europe before heading back to the states and really want to go to Amsterdam for NYE instead of staying local. The issue is my GF has to work on NYE and wouldn't be able to make the trip being its 6 hours away. Would I be an asshole to go to Amsterdam with some friends instead of staying local with her?

no

