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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Long story, TL;DR at bottom. 

Background:
My parents split-up when I was 7, my mom remarried when I was 12 and my childhood was been spent on an every other weekend visitation schedule with my father until I was a teenager and could decide when I wanted to go. 

My father has no job, no car, and struggles with mental-illness and drug abuse. When it was time for college, I moved to a city about an hour away and would only come home a few days for school breaks, summer, and holidays. During this time the only contact I would have with my father is text messages, as he has no internet connection either. This continued on to my current life. I’m 24, work full time and am expecting my first child. Throughout my pregnancy so far my father has contact me through text message once or twice. 

In an effort to try to have a better relationship with my father before my son is born, my husband and I have been driving to visit him when we have the same days off, which happens only once a month. Each time we’ve gone to visit, my father makes a big deal about my husband being there and how it gives him anxiety to have us in his apartment. To better accommodate his anxiety we’ve asked him to meet us for coffee or lunch and paid for everything since he has no job. This seemed to be going well until the last few times he ordered his food to go and asked us to take him home. I started worrying his strange behaviour was because of him not taking his medication (this has happened numerous times), or him being on drugs again. When we dropped him off I asked about it and he told me he was fine, so I dropped it. 

This brings us to Christmas. On Christmas Day, my husband, sister and I all brought gifts to my dads apartment. The moment we walked into the house my dad said he needed to talk to me privately and angrily asked me why I confronted him the last time I was there. I told him that I didn’t want to talk about this, it’s Christmas and this is supposed to be a happy time. This understandably made me upset but we went back out to the living room and he opened his gifts and then said “This is awkward, can we do this another time?” 

I got extremely upset, started crying and left, but as I was leaving I did raise my voice at him and tell him he was an asshole for asking us to leave as he was the one who made things awkward, and I rarely get to see him. I also told him I wouldn’t be coming back. 

When we all got back to my parents house my sister was upset with me and told me I was being an asshole for ruining my fathers Christmas. I began to feel bad, so I texted him an apology but told him that what he said was extremely hurtful to me. I got no reply. 

I’ve discussed this at length with my husband, and have come to the decision that I will no longer be reaching out to my father, or trying to force a relationship with him because I don’t want my son to be hurt by him the way I have. My sister is extremely angry at me for doing this because I’m no longer accommodating my fathers mental health. AITA? 

TL;DR 
Father struggles with mental health and addiction. Has no way to contact me other than text messages. Makes minimal effort to maintain relationship with me (potentially because of mental illness), we get into a fight on Christmas, I decide to not let him have a relationship with my son. 
answer:
no


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Yesterday I had a couple games, and I had asked my boyfriend throughout the week to make sure he could come. We’re both almost done with high school and have been together for a year. He had plans with a childhood friend, who happens to be a girl, to go out on Thursday and then hangout at her house. 

For some reason she couldn’t go through with it on Thursday so they decided to go on Saturday instead. Because of this, he missed my tournament. Now, I’m pretty easy going and not really the jealous type so I would have been okay with them hanging out (for the most part; I know her through him and I trust the both of them).  Anyways this is one of my last tournaments ever, because I love my sport but I feel once I get to college I’ll need to focus on education and won’t have time for practices. I still have one or two more, but a) he didn’t ask me if I’d be okay with them basically going on a date b) I kept saying how important it was to me for him to be there for me, and c) he could have picked any other day for them to go out. 

He also told me he’d be seeing me after my games but then his family made plans and though I know I can’t be angry about that, it just made me more upset, because broken promises you know?  I brought all of this up to him (except the part about us hanging out after) and he said they’ve been friends since they were 3 and that I just like finding fault with everything he does. He says it’s hard to always think about my feelings before he does things, and I think that’s utterly ridiculous. I believe if you really love and care about someone it shouldn’t be hard to keep from hurting them. 

One last thing about this girl: we went out to see her musical recently and their families go camping together frequently. It’s not like they never get to see each other. However, and I did forget about this part, she is moving across the country at the end of this year for college. Like I said though, i don’t mind them hanging out, just the way my boyfriend had it happen.

AITA?
answer:
no


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So me and my ex recently had broken up. Within the last month or so.  I told him from the very beginning when he asked if we could still be friends, that I needed space and I needed time to get over him. He begged me not to block him and that he would not message me. Well that was a damn lie. He's been in contact with me almost every other day. Going between acting supportive and like he wants to help (I have a lot of medical issues and with that and this break up, depression and suicidal thoughts have been at an all time high) and then acting like a jerk (being passive aggressive. Telling me the Playboy smash tournament (which was part of the reason we broke up because I wasn't wanting to go with him. But even said I didn't care if he went alone) was on and that he was excited to go.) I asked him Everytime to respect my boundaries. I started just ignoring the messages because I didn't want to block him, I didn't want to be an asshole ex and didn't want him to worry about my health. Eventually I got tired of him liking all my posts so I set my account to private but didn't block him. He noticed right away. He texted me about it and I did not respond. Two days later I get a package in the mail.  Well several actually. Inside was a self help book for depression, a sunflower hat and sunflower jewelry (I love sunflowers) and a set of expensive bath bombs. I didn't order any of it but it was in my name and it was all stuff I've looked at in the past. Inside was several notes.  One said that he hopes this helps relax me. One said that he still cares about me and wants me to be happy. And the last said "an early Valentine's day present". This came with the earrings. I was, beyond pissed off. He wanted this break up and here he is not respecting my boundaries.  I went off on him and told him how fucked up it was to step up to this level just because I wasn't replying to him. He apologized and said he didn't mean it to be mean but that he felt bad and wanted something to make me smile. I don't believe it. He's not a bad guy by any means (well. He doesn't know how to handle emotions. He'd often laugh when I was hysterical and having panic attacks and call me ridiculous) but mostly wasn't too bad. But then he messaged my best friend. We were hanging out together and she posted on her story, a video of me watching TV while eating food. They had never talked before and weren't really friends. He threw a fit about me following his friends still, so I unfollowed them. Only to find that he still follows my friends. I went off. I exploded. Probably was an asshole and just told him everything I've been feeling and how much it's been hurting me and that now we can never be friends because he doesn't respect my boundaries. I blocked him on everything (he got mad and blocked me on a bunch of stuff first when I said I was sorry and that I would have to block him, because that's just who he is I guess). Was I the asshole for yelling at him? I just felt so much anger and needed him to know how badly this was hurting me and how much harder it was making this process. I feel like a jerk for getting mad and yelling at him (my idea of yelling is mostly just not holding back my emotions, which was just actually sadness about the situation). Am I the asshole? 
answer:

yes


