Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’m 6’6 and whilst this might not be crazy tall it still seems to be enough to warrant a situation where almost everywhere I go a stranger will approach me just to ask how tall I am. I can almost guarantee that every other week or so people that I have never met before will either make a passing comment about my height or ask me questions. 

Now I’ve had my fair share of abuse over the years from people who have tried to ridicule me for my height and it’s been pretty rough sometimes. People can be mean and I’ve certainly beat myself up about it in the past. There’s been times where people have called me names and I’ve caught people out before where they’re just staring at me and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. 

As I’ve gotten older and gained more confidence I now carry myself with a lot more self respect than when I was just a kid. But it’s still incredibly infuriating to have a stranger approach me and say things like ‘Oh my god you’re massive! How tall are you!?’ 

In the worse case scenario people can be really rude to me and it feels like they’re trying to make me feel small by pointing out how I’m either too tall or ridiculously tall etc. I’m a pretty self conscious guy and the attention isn’t really wanted and sometimes I’ll react really sarcastically to the people questioning me. I get that I can stand out and more often than not I suppose people are just being inquisitive, sometimes people are friendly about it but it still feels kind of weird to me. It’s like people have no sense of boundaries or how to be respectful, but I don’t know if I’m looking at this all wrong. 

For example, today I’m in the shop with my girlfriend and just as I’m about to pay this guy walks straight up to me and goes “How tall are you!?”
I look at the cashier and then look back at the guy and go “8 foot 5 inches...isn’t that crazy!!?” 
He just looked blankly at me and walks off like I’ve offended him. Then I feel doubly uncomfortable because firstly he made a comment on my height I didn’t ask for and secondly I seemed to annoy him with my answer. 

I don’t mind people approaching me and speaking to me if it’s a proper conversation. I’d quite like a “hello how are you?” that would be kind of nice I’d imagine. But to straight up come at me and ask questions about how I look feels unfair. I wouldn’t approach someone that’s overweight and ask them how much they weigh so why do people come up to me and ask me how tall I am?

Am I looking at situations like this all wrong? Should I just expect that because I’m tall people will want to know exactly how tall I am? Am I the asshole for not responding positively to peoples questions?

Answer: no


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My boyfriend is currently living with a close friend of his and his friends gf. I have gotten to know them fairly well and we hang out often. 

Recently my bf’s friend confided in him that he cheated on his gf while he was on a trip home visiting his family. Rather than tell his gf this, he has decided it is too late to save the relationship and has decided to break up with her. For the past two weeks they have been fighting and it is heartbreaking to hear about. The gf doesn’t understand what is going on. They have been together for a couple years at this point and all of a sudden her bf is insisting the relationship is over. She asked him if he cheated and he told her he wouldn’t answer the question. 

My bf has been staying over at my place to give them room, but his friend even asked him to stay over there the other night to “ease the tension”, which I think really means “help him avoid his gf confronting him.” 

I think at this point the gf deserves the truth. She clearly wants a legitimate explanation for why all of a sudden her long term relationship is ending. It is just a really sad situation. On top of that, the bf is now planning to pursue a long distance relationship with the girl he cheated with because he thinks she’s “the one”. I think this is ridiculous. He just MAJORLY fucked up.. i don’t think it’s the time to start another relationship. Especially another relationship that began with cheating! 

Basically this guy is being really shitty and hurtful to his gf. Would I or my bf be the asshole for telling the gf what’s up? I don’t know that it’s my place to say anything and my bf feels loyalty to his friend who confided in him, but I just feel bad for her. If she asks me or him directly, would we be the asshole for telling her the truth? 

Answer: no


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm a guy, he's a guy, we've known each other for about a year and a half. Started dating in February of last year.

I'm not one for modesty in myself, and send him a lot of pictures of myself clothed and unclothed. I do not in any way feel he owes me nudes. But, can't a guy get a clothed, full length pic of the dude he's been dating for a year?

Any time I want to bring it up, I feel like an asshole cause he's talked about how he hates his body. And any time I do try to pull at his seams he always starts crying and hangs up the phone...

I love him so much but it's hard 'cause I dont even know what he looks like. I know hes chubby but honestly that's just more to love. I've told him that.. He doesnt feel that way and shuts himself in his shell...

--All I've asked for is a clothed picture but he can't muster it.
I had just tried to talk to him again, that's why I'm making this post... Am I the asshole for asking for a pic? Because I feel like one.

Answer:
no


