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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So I was in the changing room of my gym today and I stripped down to my underwear so that I could go shower. Now I have some fresh self harm scars/cuts on the tops of my thighs, pretty clear they're from the past couple of weeks. I did not really think about it until a middle aged (maybe in her 50s) woman decided to call me out on it. She said that it was inappropriate for me to be undressed given the state I was in. It took until she pointed directly at the cuts for me to realise what she was on about and by that point I actually was about to burst into tears from shock/upset. She said I didn't have to undress until I got to the shower and I shouldn't be showing off something 'like that' to the world.

I was too shocked to reply or say anything. Kinda just stuttered and ran to the shower with my head down.

Is it really that bad? Am I an asshole for having visible self harm in a changing room?

(NB this is purely a gym so there would not be any minors in there)
answer:
yes


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I have a friend on Xbox that I’ve been talking to for 3, maybe 4 years now. He’s always been there for me, and I’ve been there for him. Him and I have a close friendship, but no romantic feelings for each other. 

Just tonight, my xbox friend said, “I love you. Have a goodnight!” I replied back, “I love you, too. You have a goodnight as well!” 

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under a year now. We still haven’t said those three words to each other yet because I don’t think I’m ready. I like him tons and tons, just always thought those words should be saved. 

My boyfriend was in the room with me when I told my xbox friend that, and now he’s being passive aggressive. (Isn’t talking to me, didn’t want me touching him, went straight to bed.) 

AITA for saying “I love you” to another guy online when I’ve known him longer than the relationship I’m in? 
answer:
yes


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CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : AITA for my wife and I not agreeing to watch my sister in laws kids? 

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A little back story.... My sister in law has 3 kids from 3 different fathers.  She has poor relationships with each of the dads. She is now in a relationship with another guy. My wife is a SAHM and I work from home. My mother in law has tried to get my wife to watch SIL's kids rather than send them to day care in the past. We have not agreed to do this. The kids are not easy. One is a baby and the oldest has loads of behavior problems. We have pushed back and only occasionally agreed to watch them on a one off basis. Our kids are almost never watched by SIL and occasionally by MIL. 

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Today, the day before NYE, my wife got a call from my MIL asking if we would watch all 3 of SIL's kids on New Years Eve day from 7:30 am till 6pm ish. Apparently SIL didn't realize or didn't plan for her day care not being open. Now she has nowhere for her kids to go while she is at work. I previously had taken the day off (requested the day off like a month ago) and our kids are at my parents for the next few days. She expects us to watch her kids while I am using a vacation day and our kids are gone. We have been planning on a date night tonight, sleeping in, then we are attending a NYE party tomorrow night. We have several things to do tomorrow as well while we are kid free for the day. My wife didn't agree and when I heard about it I said absolutely not. We didn't plan a kid free day just to take her kids (which is more kids than we even have). 

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AITA for not watching her kids? 
answer:

no


