Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway for obvious reasons, also not sure about the formatting issues, but I am on mobile. 

Title kind of says it all.

So I am very early into a pregnancy that I am miscarrying. I was recently starting to suspect I was pregnant, and going to discuss it with my husband. Later in the day, the bleeding began. I have had successful pregnancies with bleeding and miscarriages before, the bleeding is different for me.
Two days after the bleeding started, I had my annual GYN exam. I told the doctor my concerns, after a few minor tests, he confirmed that I was miscarrying a baby.

Now comes the part that makes me question if I am an asshole, I really don't want to tell my husband.

My reasons for this are mostly that he will shut down emotionally and not want to talk about it anyway, which hurts me far more than just dealing with it alone, and that we have a lot of other things going on in our lives at the moment. This seems like something unnecessary to pile on him.

I feel so guilty and like I am being very selfish and have a lot of mixed feelings about telling him.

Am I the asshole?

no

Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This has bugged me for years. I worked in a corporate office. One of the paralegals there had some health issues (used a cane). She was also enormous. Bottom line, she needed to use the handicapped stall. Fair enough - - bathroom is 4 stalls, I never used it.

Except that one day. I was alone in the bathroom, in my regular stall, and discovered I had a little monthly visitor and no mitigation apparatus. So, I fished through my purse for quarters, put some toilet paper in place, and quickly sprinted over to the Cotton Apparatus Dispenser and dialed up a solution.

Seeing as how I was only half zipped and in distress, I ducked into the handicapped stall to insert said apparatus. You guessed in - - in the literally 30 seconds I was in there, she showed up and started yelling at me that I was thoughtless and entitled. There was no room to interject "30 seconds" or "emergency" or "you weren't even here."

Am I the asshole? Is it never allowable to use that stall if you are not disabled? 
no

Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My daughters friend is having a party soon and they’re going ice skating. My daughter is a competitive dancer and the week after the party she has a competition. She has duets, trios, and group numbers so if she were to get injured she would be letting down all these other children. I’ve said to her she can’t go because of the risk of getting injured. She’s very upset with me. My ex husband (who she’s gonna be with that weekend) thinks I’m being very unfair but has agreed not to take her. I have spoken to the parent of the child who’s party it is and have told her why she can’t come. They’ve  said she can come after the skating part if she wants when they go and get some food so I’ve told my ex that he can take her for that.

AITA for not letting her go skating? 

no

