TASK DEFINITION: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'
PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So on my commute to work, I take a route that takes me through a mountain/canyon road. This is a one-lane road, meaning there's only one lane going in either direction. Legally passing a car is not possible here.

The speed limit is 45mph throughout the entirety of this mountain road, due to how many sharp turns and curves there are.

I always adhere to the speed limit when driving here, and I've never encountered any issues for the past 3 years that I've been using this route.

Last week on the way to work, I notice that there's a single car behind me that's aggressively tailgating me. Like, they got *really* close. They also honked at me aggressively multiple times, but I just kept minding my own business. I realize that they were accusing me of being slow, but I didn't want to go any faster because:

1. I'm already going at the speed limit
2. Like I said, it's a mountainous road, so sharp turns and curves throughout. Going any faster would be unsafe.

In the end, the car behind me eventually went "Screw it", and proceeded to do the unthinkable. They drove into the other lane, then sped up and passed me on my left, while giving me one final "f*** you!" honk as they passed me. Keep in mind that this is a one lane road, so the lane they drove into is meant for oncoming traffic. Luckily, there were no cars in that lane at the time, otherwise that car would be in for a very bad time. If there were cars in that lane, it would cause a pretty serious accident, considering there's the possibility of a vehicle being thrown over the cliff side.

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : This happened a few months ago. My SO and I have opposite schedules, and on this day I decided to take voluntary time off since I didn't get any sleep the night before. On my way back through the parking lot of my complex I noticed one of my SO's tires were extremely low. I had mentioned to her numerous times to fill her tires, so I assumed it was a slow leak. It was *almost* flat, but I figured it would get her to the nearest gas station before work. 

I woke her up when I got home and said her tire was extremely low and she should fill it before she goes to work. She mentioned something about doing it on her lunch break, and I tried to stress how important it was for her to take a look before then. I assumed she would heed my warning and assess the situation appropriately, I even told her she should wake up a couple hours earlier just in case. She goes back to sleep, I'm starting to fall asleep as well, and think to myself "I should probably tell her it's flat since she isn't taking it seriously enough." She's already asleep again, I figure I'll wake up around when she's going to work and tell her then.

That didn't happen, I was too sleepy to remember. She gets to work and realizes her tire is completely flat and now has to call triple A. Turns out she didn't have a slow leak, there was a pretty big hole in her tire. It turned into a huge ordeal and she had to get it towed, get new tires, etc, and she's stressed since she has to figure this all out while she's at work.

While she acknowledged she should have checked her tire before she left for work, she said that I should have said the words "your tire is flat" instead of saying "your tire is extremely low, and you should check it out before you go to work." I feel like an asshole for maybe not saying the word "flat" but I tried to stress the severity of the situation. She said it wasn't my fault, but the fact that she said I should have said "flat" still feels like she blames me to some degree. 

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : My coworker, Hayley, and her husband (both early to mid-twenties) announced her second pregnancy to the office a few weeks ago. Based on the due date she gave us, she was only a handful of weeks into her pregnancy (four at most). My co-workers are much older, some with children, some without. We’re a relatively close-knit group since there aren’t that many of us.

We were all happy for her, although there were a few whispered discussions about her getting pregnant again rather fast at her age (her first child was born about a year ago. I did not participate in these discussions, nor did I ever give off any impression that I was anything less than ecstatic at her news. I congratulated her separately on her new pregnancy and she was fairly glowing).

Earlier this week, one of our other coworkers discreetly let us know that Hayley had suffered a miscarriage, and that she and her husband were struggling heavily with the news.

I immediately sent her a message of support (which she replied graciously to). 

But during this whole thing, I couldn’t help but wonder why she and her husband didn’t wait until she was at least three months along to announce her pregnancy to the world, especially since her first one was high risk. I was always under the impression that that was the proper etiquette since miscarriages are unfortunately common before that timeframe.

Obviously I would never say anything like that to her, and I was genuinely happy for her when she announced the pregnancy and genuinely sad when I found out about the miscarriage. But the idea keeps popping into my head, and I feel like I’m being too judgmental.

Please tell me - AITA?


SOLUTION:
yes

