Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : For context, we’ve been in a relationship for 6 months now. I’m a guy and she’s (obviously) a girl.

I was on the phone with my girlfriend, and we were going to play a game of D&amp;D soon. We were waiting for the DM to finish some homework so it was just me and her. She started talking dirty to me and as a result I got hard and was horny. About halfway through this the DM texted us and said he was ready. After I told her that I got hard, she erupts into laughter. I asked her why and she explains how she’s laughing at me for how easy it is for her to turn me on and she had no intention to turn me on for her benefit. And I was really hurt by that. It felt as if, I described to her, she fondled me and then laughed right in my face when I naturally got erect. She apologized and told me she was sorry and would never do it again.

We left the call together so that we could get into a group call with the DM to play. I was about 20 seconds late because I was trying to clear my mind and stop being upset. So I got in and they’re both laughing but immediately shut up. I hear my girlfriend say “oh, nevermind.” And the laughter stops. I ask what they’re laughing at and the DM informs me that they were laughing at me behind my back because she blue balled me. And this hurt me in a multitude of ways. A minute ago she told me she would never do something like that again and now she’s laughing at me with my friend behind my back? And I’m not particularly comfortable with her telling people that we dirty talk over the phone either, but that was minor.

So while the DM was getting ready she could tell I was upset and we had a text conversation that went like this:

Her: are you and I okay?
Me: I’m sorry, It’s just you said you wouldn’t do it again and then you went and laughed at me behind my back immediately with (the DM) and I don’t want to start a fight but I’m just hurt
Her: how is that doing it again?
Me: i dont care about the blue balling i just dont like being laughed at by my own girlfriend
Her: I wasnt laughing at you??
Me: "we were laughing at you behind your back" -(the DM) and you said "oh nevermind" the moment i came into vc
Her: (the DM) says stupid shit, I was just telling him about the blue balling and didnt think you wanted to hear about it. I’m sorry. Eggshells (saying she has to “walk on eggshells around me”)
Me: so you were laughing at me behind my back. It’s whatever. Just let it go.
Her: I wasnt laughing at you behind your back.

Anyways, this just frustrated me further because it’s as if she’s totally lacking any self awareness? How is that not laughing at me behind my back? I felt totally disrespected and I never thought she would do something to me like this.

That’s as much detail as I can provide.

A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : The gatherings are usually birthday celebrations with other close friends. It hasn't happened, but when it does (and there's a huge chance it will) she would go. This guy used to be her best friend and one time at a Christmas party (with the same set of people) they were both drunk and almost had sex. She tells me she regrets it but they never talked about it and both acts as if it never happened. She had a different boyfriend at the time and he didn't find out about it at all (they broke up due to different reasons). Fast forward to today, the thought of her in the same situation with alcohol and the guy gets me all irrational and overthinking. I of course don't want her to miss out on these reunions with friends but I just can't help not being afraid she might do the same to me what she did with her ex. 



A: yes
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Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My boyfriend is balding, **bad**. 
 
 
Its like how thin [this guy’s hair](https://goo.gl/images/hqsPW6) is on the top tuft but following [this pattern](https://goo.gl/images/PYasQ1).
 

He started balding in his 20s and has fully accepted that he going bald. He knows his “best” look is shaving it all off.  
 
The thing is he’s lazy. I try to remind him to shave, or offer to do it for him, but he puts it off. He lets his hair grow out until it looks awful. Like an inch or two all around. Usually takes about 2 weeks. 
 
 When hair is grown out he goes from a rustic handsome man to a crazy scientist.   
 
While I find him a little less attractive when his hair is grown out, my main concern is how professional he is seen.
 
His job doesn’t “require” him to look professional, but it’s a job he needed to get a degree to work in. (I don’t want to be too specific). He has also been involving himself more in the company so the higher ups are taking notice of him.  
 

 
I don’t get frustrated or nag when his hair gets bad. I might bring shaving up twice a week and I wait until we’re at the house doing nothing before I say something. 
 
That being said, he has the right to keep his hair however he wants it. 
 
 He doesn’t pressure me to shave (legs, armpits, pubic area, etc). He has even said he wouldn’t care if I stopped shaving all together. 
 
 I don’t want to make a double standard here. It’s just that head hair is so much more present that my body hair. How a persons head hair looks is seen as a representation of how professional they are. (Wether it’s an accurate representation or not) 
 
I’m not sure if him not shaving his head would be akin to me not shaving my legs, or like me not brushing my hair. 
 
If it’s more like no brushing my hair WIBTA for asking him to shave more?

A:
yes
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