Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST :  I’ve (20F) been with my boyfriend (20M) for about 3 months now and he’s so amazing! I’ve been on cloud nine ever since we started dating. The only source of conflict so far is that he refuses to let me pay for dinner when we go out, every single time.

The thing is, I come from a wealthy family and am extremely fortunate to have my parents pay for tuition, groceries, et cetera, and he is aware of this. My parents do not mind the idea of me treating him to dinner regularly at all. Comparatively, he doesn’t have as much and works very hard for what he does have. I want him to save his money towards more important things rather than spend it on me.

However, we’ve discussed it several times and he flat-out refuses to let me pay, and is unwilling to compromise on the issue. He doesn’t even want us to take turns. AITA for insisting on paying and hurting his pride (?) when he’s made it clear he doesn’t want me to? Also, AITA for wanting to spend my parent’s money instead of him spending his hard earned cash? I sort of feel like an asshole since I am insisting  that I spend someone else’s money.

Tl;dr I want to pay for dates with my boyfriend using my parents’ money because we’re very well off financially, but my boyfriend refuses every single time.
no

Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I'm 18 currently at University, SO is 19 at a different University, it's about 3 hours away but I visit them every weekend and normally end up staying longer and missing uni. We've been together since the last year of school and things have naturally been up and down (mixing teenage emotions with a lot of change in a short period) 

SO has strict parents so I'm kept a secret (this isn't a problem it's just for context) and over summer I went with family to a rural part of ireland, I wasn't on a phone contract at this time so was unable to communicate with them for a 2 weeks aside from sporadic DMs whenever I got WiFi, when I came back all was good until about 2 weeks after, when they broke up with me. I found out during the time I was away they'd started talking to someone else, we stayed friends and the other person turned out to be a dickhead so we got back together. The next time I saw them in person was during uni. 

I routinely visit them every weekend (3hr public transport (again not my issue just context)) and during fresher's we fell out, they were sleeping early one night and I was out with friends, so I went home and called them for a bit. After this they began to get more and more jealous of the time i was spending with friends. They also have a large circle of friends many of which are opposite sex.

Fast forward a few months and Ive drifted from  all my friends, I'm a loner at the minute. I stay in bed all day waiting for them to be available to ring, because being too busy to answer would not go down well. 

I've been called boring and difficult to talk to, and I explained that I hadnt left my room for the last week so maybe it was why I had no gripping stories or funny anecdotes, again, didn't go down well

I still visit them every weekend and more often than not it results in me sitting in their room waiting while they have society socials and go out without me. 

Over Christmas I was back home and decided to meet up with some school friends for a night, SO fell out with me over my slow replies to their texts and I ended up calling them in the bathroom all night, my old friends have since drifted from me since then probably because I ignored them all night.

They continue to live a happy typical student Life with a large circle of friends and always have lots of plans whereas I feel like I need to stay in my room on standby in case I see them calling me


Now obviously I know how it sounds reading it back, but this is just a one sided rant, they're a genuinely lovely person and I wouldn't consider ending it, just wondering if I'm the asshole (arsehole as we say) for feeling like it's sort of their fault Im not enjoying University






yes

Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : okay buckle up cause this is a long one and im gonna do my best to do justice to both sides of the story even I do feel im in the right, anyway it started earlier today my gf and her family are getting evicted from there house even tho they were paying rent the landlord wanted to tear down the house for some reason and they don't have money for a lawyer to take him to court, anyway fast forward to today and and my best friend (im not gonna name drop so im gonna call him D) calls me today saying he needs to talk to me, ik its serious because hes a pretty goofy guy and if hes not acting atleast a bit memeish something really wrong, so anyway get on skype and hes telling me about his girlfriend of about a month whos a Mormon, (ill call her J) long story short were all seniors in high school, J gets sexually assaulted by one of her classmates, doesn't tell anyone about it besides D and her parents, her dad whos Mormon priest or some shit thinks that since she wont give her dad the name of the boy she must be some slut who was asking for it, anyway she gets her phone taken away, and now shes not allowed to speak to anyone outside her family, D gets worried, goes out and buys a flip phone for J for emergencies because he got worried about her, couple days later J's parents find the phone, she comes to school the next, covered in bruises, her fucking dad beat her over having the phone, D comes home and has a fucking breakdown, calls me were trying to figure out what to do, we realize even tho shes only 16 CPS isn't an option there usless as hell to begin with so obviously if the come up to this super nice house, of a fucking Mormon priest who works for the the state court theyre not going to do shit, anyway after about an hour, he decides hes just gonna go over and take her while theyre gone and let her stay with him (they were kicking her out so it doesn't really mater) and we hang up, anyway I text me girlfriend back after about an hour, shes obviously upset and having an attitude with me, I ask her whats wrong she says shes upset because I havnt been talking to her so I apologize and explain it was something important, not actually telling her what happened because I don't want to stress her more than she already is, which honestly was a bad idea and she says something along the lines of "oh my bad not like I had anything important to tell you" I understand shes going through a lot so im trying to be nice to be nice and I ask whats wrong and she refuses to tell me "oh whatever if you couldn't talk to me earlier you obviously don't care" which honestly really hurt ive always tried to be that boyfriend whos supportive of her but that beside the point, I asked her if it was so important why she just didn't text me saying that since the last text before that was about her moving boxes n eating chicken strips so I had no idea something was was bothering her she seemed to drop that point but was still upset with me saying I should've told her before I left but for god sake I was gone an hour, the fight kept escalating and as of right now were not talking, am I the asshole?

yes

