Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I really never thought I'd have something to post here.
TL;DR at the end since I might as well just explain the entire event.

So, my girlfriend moved in with me almost 2 years ago. About 6 months in she kept looking at cats on her phone and asking if I wanted one. We all know how this goes.

One day, I came home and my girlfriend asked if I "wanted to meet the baby."  I immediately understood she had gotten a cat, and figured it was a kitten based on her language. Now, we are an adoption ONLY household as well as immediate family. So, when I opened the door to our office and saw a fully grown, 13 pound apex hunter male cat staring back at me, I was surprised but not shocked. 

Fast forward about a year later, and I love this cat almost as much as my dog. One night, the cat got out when I let my dog out to pee. Since he was such a healthy, predatory cat, I had no fear for his safety when I find out in the morning. UNTIL, we didn't see the cat for 48 hours including a thunderstorm.

I had mentally accepted that the cat was gone or would be back in a week or two according to what I read online. 

In this time, my girlfriend had posted on our neighborhood page that our cat was missing. We got a message from someone we went to highschool with (we're in our early 20's), and he said it looked a lot like his cat that got away. The name our friend gave us was exactly the adopted name the cat had when we got him. He even has a sister that still lives there. 

I found my cat stuck in my neighbor's perfectly stacked woodpile (square cut) 3 days later. There were pieces missing from it that fit where he was stuck at. I'll leave what I'm saying for your imagination. The police had me grab him (she wouldn't let me on her property), and told me if he gets on her property again, my cat will have to "find its own way out."

What's also crazy is that our friend lives two streets away from us, but my girlfriend purchased the cat 6 miles away during a humane society outreach program that brought him from another 9 miles away. So, it's not like we found him outside.

Anyway, he obviously wanted his cat back and we told him no; it's our cat since we paid for him and have loved him as family for a year. If it had been any early before I gained feelings for the cat, I definitely would have given it to him and even felt good doing so.

TL;DR
Adopted a cat. The cat got out and our friend from highschool recognized the picture as his cat. We didn't give the cat back since we bought him and had a close bond with him for about a year.


A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A friend of mine had a huge crush on another friend of mine for a solid 6 months. It was pretty obvious. I can only assume it was her first love from what she's told me. I had a rather large crush on her myself at the time (and still do), but it was fine and dandy. She seemed happy and being upset about something dumb like that would definitely have made me the asshole.

So, after those 6 months, I had heard she was taking a trip to Japan, so I asked her if she was excited or not or just stuff about Japan since I'd never been to another country myself. For some reason, we really hit it off and we started talking a little bit too much for our own good. During that, she told me how *something* had happened between her crush and herself that was hard for her, but she never described much about it. I think it was that he wanted to date her right away but her parents didn't allow her too until she was 18 + she just wasn't ready.  


A few more weeks pass, I make a self-deprecating joke about something that had to do with love in some sorta way and my friend decides then is a *great* time to tell me she has feelings for me. I told her that I did too but I wasn't interested in a relationship simply due to the fact that I'm not ready for one. She agreed that she wasn't either and that we should just be friends, and that's why I'm still calling her my friend instead of something different in this post.

I'm certain that she likes me, it's been a year since she's told me that and she does all the things someone with a crush on somebody does. That's not what I'm concerned about.  


Whenever she mentions the boy that was her first love, it seems very vague as to what her relationship is with him. In a different conversation with her mother she got rather defensive about how "she didn't like him that much in the first place" but that isn't true, she did like him a lot and that's okay. When I have asked, the question seems as if it's avoided, which she does sometimes accidentally while continuing a different point and I've just had to nudge her in the right direction, but I'm still confused  


Since I am her friend, and not someone she's in any sort of romantic relationship with, I feel as if I can't press her further about it since we aren't in that kind of relationship ourselves. I feel as if I'm getting overly concerned about something I can not even guarantee in the future. It's fine if she still has feelings for him, I just have no clue if she does and what to think of this whole thing.  


AITA for wondering if a girl who's interested in me is also interested in someone else?

A: yes
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Q: Is EVERYBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So, this is not exactly about me, is about my best friend.
She, let's call her May, has been in a relationship with a guy (let's call him Josh) for over a year. The first few months went pretty well, they seemed pretty happy and everything went cool. After the third month, he started behaving really strange. Josh started not caring about her feelings and ignoring her when May had depressive episode.
May told him that she went through a lot of shit and needed him to help her out, bc she wouldn't be able to go through this without anyone (she moved from his hometown, so she didn't had any friends there). And there is went shit went wild.
Josh started saying that her depressive episodes wasn't his fault, and that was something she had to deal with. Josh told her that he was also in love with his ex, who died a year before they started, and talking a lot of shit about May. She didn't like that too much, but she was still in love with him.
This had gone for over 10 months, and they broke up and went together again like 9 times. So, as time went by, May realized that he was a dick, and started hitting back. She told John that he could go fuck his ex, that maybe his favourite movie was Corpse Bride, telling him to shut the fuck up when he started complaining about her crying bc of stress.
As today, they are still together, bc she isn't able to let him go, as she is still in love with him.
Also, it seems like Josh cheated on May, several times. One day, he started making out with his bestfriend, a 6,1 guy. They both are straight... Or that's what they say.
Anyways, the question is:
Is she the asshole for fucking around with him, making the death of his ex into a joke, telling him that he's not a musician bc he only can play indie (that's more like an inside joke, so he still doesn't get it yet) and telling him that he's a fucking weeb bc he says that his favourite serie is Evangelion (understandable) and that serie had done more for him than anyone in this world (fucking weeb).
Or
Is he the asshole for playing with her feelings, not caring enough about her having depressive episodes, trying to make her jealous with his death ex, and manipulating her constantly?

A:
yes
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