Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TL;DR: I had a few dates with guy 1 (nothing happened in terms of kisses etc), and now want to go out with a guy I met on Tinder whom I just found out is in the same sports team as guy 1. I am insecure whether I should tell guy1 about that because I think he already knows I don’t want to be with him. 

So a couple of weeks ago I started dating this guy. We went out twice before I confessed to him I was feeling insecure about the whole thing because I still had feelings for someone else who had just recently rejected me. He said he could understand that and if I ever wanted to meet him again I could just call him. A few weeks passed and my feelings for the other person floated away and I called him again. We had two more dates and I realised that...I am just not feeling comfortable in his near. 

On our last date we were watching Netflix and he tried to cuddle with me and I was just like “meh...please don’t”. Eversince that we haven’t been texting much, I think he can tell that I am just not really into him.

Out of boredom I started texting with a guy on Tinder, and we two instantly got along quite well. He asked me out and I agreed. Now I found out, he is in the same sports team as is the other guy I was/am dating. This was PURELY out of luck, I had no idea guy 2 is in the same sports team as guy 1. My best friend, whom is coincidentally also in this sports team, told me I NEED to be upfront to guy 1 that I will be having my first date with one of his teammates.

My original idea was to have the date with guy 2, and tell guy 1 something along the lines of: “hey I think you have already noticed I don’t really have feelings for you and I am sorry etc. and I had a date last night with someone else. I hope you find someone for you, I am sorry I couldn’t be that person.” But my best friend says guy 1 is definitely going to ask her whom I met with and THEN he is going to be mad as hell when he finds out. 

I don’t really know what to do. Nothing ever happened between guy 1 and me (in terms of kisses, cuddling, sex), so I feel like...he already knows I don’t want to be with him. Should I tell him “hey my date is with one of your teammates?” Bc then he is definitely going to think I was “getting in touch” with guy 2 behind his back. 

A: no
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Q: Is EVERYBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Okay so I (16M) am the second of 7 children to 2 parents who are still together. My parents and I have always had a shaky relationship, mostly due to the fact that my parents have a toxic style of parenting, as phrased by my therapist. 

This takes place over this past Friday and Saturday. My parents decided that they wanted the 9 of us to watch several hours of family videos over these two days and I didn’t want to. As I explained to them, watching the videos with me in them always result in my parents/siblings taking shots at my masculinity and making fun of me for sensitive topics that have been recorded on camera. Additionally, one of these videos was my circumcision and I really don’t feel comfortable watching that video, nor do I with my siblings seeing this (Don’t ask why this was videoed- I have no idea). My parents said that it’s a family thing and I should suck it up and take part. Friday night, after dinner, my mom sets some videos up on our TV. Everyone goes to watch and I opt to sleep instead. Around 5 minutes after I went to bed, I was asleep. My father came into room and said that I need to come watch or I’m grounded for two weeks. Thing is, I was asleep at the time, so I didn’t respond. The next day, after a family lunch, my parents put some more videos on the TV. I began to head towards my bedroom and my dad said I’m obligated to watch. He said I’m grounded for ignoring his comments from the previous night (the ones I was asleep for) and I need to watch these videos. I told him that I wasn’t going to watch them. He screamed at me, saying that I’m less involved with our family than anyone else in the house and that I need to spend more time with them. I said that I’m actually a huge part of the family, in fact I’m  more a part of it than he is. He continues yelling, saying that I’m wrong and I look for every opportunity to avoid spending time with my family. I responded by telling him that there’s a difference between wanting to spend time with my friends and ditching my family. Seemingly ignoring my calm tone of voice, he continues his shouting, now saying how I’m avoiding my responsibilities and an all around piece of shit. He claimed that no one’s ever told me that because I’m so controlling and I’d snap at them if they did. I sarcastically asked “oh, so you’re the saint who’s going to speak for everyone and take on the wrath of the enraged fagaaron?” He yelled at me for being disrespectful so I, knowing that he’s a deep down sensitive man, said that I’d trade him in for my best friend’s dead dad any day of the week. With that, I went to bed and was ignored by him for the rest of the day. 

That’s my story, Reddit, so with that I ask:

Am I the asshole?

A: yes
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Q: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I'm going on a trip with my family, and we found out a year ago about this trip. During the initial planning we realized that there would be 3 free vouchers for these people to go for free. It was decided who would get these, and my brother was one of them.  


For the past few years though my brother's been a flake. He'll commit to going to something, only to not show up and you can text or call to see where he's at but he won't get back to you until 3-5 days later. So this was concerning for my parents and myself because if we use the voucher on him and he decides to flake, we A) won't know till day of and B) we would be out for the value of the free voucher.  


My parents asked him to confirm if he could go. His response was along the lines of "at this present time I can say yes, but I'm not sure". So not quite instilling confidence. Neither my brother, parents, or myself could cover the cost of his trip on such short notice, so ultimately they decided to not use the voucher on him and use it on me. This was a surprise to me and while I had paid off the trip I won't say no to the credit.  


Now my other family are emailing me, and they're saying that I'm an asshole for being motivated to get the voucher as I'd get to go for free. Thing is though is since now I'm going from a double occupancy to a single, I'm only getting a portion back; and I'm paying my mom back for the deposit she paid for him. So it's not really a motivator here. Still, I suppose I just want to know for my own self whether I am in the right or not.

A:
no
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