Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This has been on my mind, and I need to hear the internet's judgement to see if I'm in the wrong.



I have been job hunting a lot. A few months back, against my better wishes, I gave my information to a recruiting agency. I'm not a fan of them, as you end up with a lot of "please pass this information along", but I figured the extra job opportunities couldn't hurt. They eventually found a company I thought I'd love.

Two phone interviews later, they want to see me in person. I'm ecstatic. I'd love to work for this company. My agency has sent me their health benefits earlier, though no other information. I ask what their PTO (paid time off) and 401k information is, and they give it to me after verifying it is accurate. At this point, I am going to meet in person, and note that their benefits aren't great. But I still have no clue what the pay is. I fly out to meet the company with a ticket paid by the potential employer and it seems promising. I think I'd be a great fit for their company.

I get the job offer. I am understandable on the pay; its good, and I am not against it. However I couldn't overlook the benefits. More expensive healthcare, a considerably smaller company match than my current 401k (match doesn't even start until after a year of employment), and a whole week less of PTO (two weeks less the first year of employment). I turn down the offer stating the reasons.



Time for my judgement. Note that I have only been in touch with the recruiter, as I have no contact information of the company. I tell the recruiter why I'm turning it down as stated above.

"[plasmafire117], let me ask you this... Why would you spend the company's money on flying you out there, and then turn it down, if the benefits were going to be the reason you rejected? You knew about them before going to see them."

I tell him I knew the benefits, sure, but he had only given me health. I had to ask for the other two (PTO\401k), and a that point plans had been made.

"But you never asked for those sooner."

I tell him that I had no way of knowing until an offer was put. I'd take lower benefits for higher pay, so I'd have taken it. But I know they are already offering me on the high end, and can't change benefits! How could I have known until an offer was made?

He continued to berate me for a bit on how I wasted his time and the company's money... slightly mad at how he responded, I told him to remove my information from his agency. I wanted nothing to do with them after that interaction. I then told him to have a nice day and hung up.



So... judge me. AITA for going on this trip and 'spending their money'? Am I in the wrong? I can't stop thinking about it. I feel bad sure, because I really felt this company would be great. But with a family and the benefits, I couldn't overlook how much less we would get. Should I have canceled the trip? Should I even be thinking about this so much?

A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I hooked up with a girl that I've been interested in for a while last night. She's super nice and I'm very attracted to her so naturally I was pretty happy with the situation. Upon hearing this, my friend asks to see some photos of the girl (they've never met) and immediately begins roasting me on how she looks. I thought he was joking or something but he kept going and claiming she was a "4 at best" and all that shit. He says I'm an attractive guy and can do way better so starts calling it a waste. Naturally this irritates me because firstly she's hot and secondly why does he give a fuck about the 'standard' of girls I sleep with? He continued on for ages about how he wants me to do better and just wants the best for me but it really upset me that he couldn't just be happy that I found a girl I liked. He doesn't know the girl so doesn't have any hidden information about her or anything and purely based his opinion off a couple instagram photos. So I got pissed off and stopped talking to him and he doesn't understand why. Am I the asshole? Is he in the right here?

A: yes
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Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So my friends are off playing pool today and Im working a 2pm to 10pm shift. This job is really relaxing and I can practically leave whenever, provided its not busy.

So one friend of mine asked if I wanted to hang out with them and I declined because Ive been more motivated to work and earn money for my goal (10k this year end, its a slow burn). 

There was a little regret and I guess a lot of doubt I was going to stay until 10pm from this friend as Im known for leaving early for different reasons. Yes sometimes it was to hang out with them. 

I asked my friend if they really wanted me to join them, and they said “up to you”. 

So i was like “alright im going to stay.” 

By this point i was kind of steaming, a part from feeling like they were mocking my goal and not supporting me. I replied “I just thought youd be more proud about me working more on this. Its not like i wanna be bored out of my mind.” 

They stopped replying. And later sent vids of my other friend messing up his shots. 

I feel bad but I want to change my job habits and earn money so I can follow my goals. 

So AITA? Im here to find out ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

A:
yes
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