Multi-select problem: How does the next paragraph end?

How to stop a so called friend from putting you down 
State your honest feelings. 
Sometimes your friend might not realize that what they said was hurtful or inappropriate. Perhaps they thought you would take it as a joke, or maybe they did not think before they spoke.

Options: a. Don't be afraid to tell them how you feel in a direct but gentle manner. Your friend might realize that certain topics or jokes are off-limits with you.; b. You may think your friend's comments are judgmental or polarizing. It's important to show your friend that you're thinking and feeling about what they've said, even if it was just fun or a joke.; c. Either way, you need to be sure you are clear about what you are feeling with them. Your sentences can be short or long.; d. Regardless of your perspective on the situation, you need to stand your ground while doing what feels right for you. Just explain that you aren't using comments you made just to get at the point where your friend also said hurtful things about you.;
a.