instruction:
In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".
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I was raised Catholic, but am not religious at all. I truly can't think of a time when I associated with the church. I basically went through the motions until I moved out of the parents place at 18. I am 25 now and coming up on what will be my 3rd year of skipping the Christmas Mass. The first year was uneventful since I used an excuse. Last year though, it sparked all kinds of family drama including my sister calling me to tell me my mother was crying about me missing Christmas mass. I've heard rumblings of them talking about me saying it's just a phase, which I think is a bit condescending. I understand their POV, since they have been taught if you don't beleive in the "One true God" that you burn for eternity, which can be rough to think about for a loved one. All that said, Catholic mass bothers the hell out of me and I would only sit quietly stewing disdainful thoughts for an hour. When I'm there I feel like I'm lying to myself and everyone around me.

AITA for not just going through the motions to make my family happier?
answer:
RIGHT


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So here's my problem. I'm 20M, and studying mathematics at a college in Germany. The last two years I've been studying IT at the same college but I dropped out and was kinda sulking the entire summer of 2018 about it. Afterwards, I started to think about my situation and decided to try again. Here's the thing, I'm a pretty extroverted guy and I really wanna go out during the evening and go to a bar with friends or something else. But my mother, who raised me single handedly doesn't allow it. She says that it's too dangerous at this time and I shouldn't be going out because I have class the next day. I feel like I should be standing up to her and stand my ground since I'm 20 but I also don't wanna risk arguing with my mom about this since she's all alone and I don't wanna argue with her. So what do I do now? 
answer:
RIGHT


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She told me about 5 days ago. She's about 1 month pregnant now and yes, I will be an active father in the child's life just like I am with my current 9-year-old daughter. So that's not the issue here. What is the issue is me telling her that I don't know if I can stay with her or not.  


We had unprotected sex and she had not taken her birth control in about 2 weeks. She never told me this. In fact, according to her, she purposely just tell me. Since we've been together she has been on birth control and I've seen her take it on a usual basis in the morning. So I tended never to question her about it. We had talked about her wanting a child and I said I didn't want one until after marriage. She seemed to at least understand why I wanted that and then added, "well I definitely don't want one until after college."  


Fast forward to present day, everything has seemed to erupt. She's mad at me now. She said that I took my own risks by not using protection and she's right, I knew that and understand that well. I told her that I understood that. It's just that I can't help but feel like I've basically been lied to. She knows that I know that she's been taking birth control. She would always tell me when she was about to run out or when she had to go get more. Not this time though. It had been about 2 weeks since we had sex and then we had it about two weeks after she had stopped with the birth control. She *chose* that. Chose not to tell me.

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Now I really feel like I'll never come back from an action of that magnitude. How do I trust her now? She told me she's sorry but at the same time, she's happy about it even though she understands that I was not ready. She thinks I'm abandoning her even though I've voiced that I will absolutely be a father to the child. It's honestly alarming to me that she takes the whole situation lightly. Like her feelings out weigh mine. Now I'm pretty hurt about the whole situation.  


Am I the asshole?
answer:

RIGHT


