In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".

This is so dumb, but you wouldn't believe the impact it has had on my family. 

I'm 19, I have twin girls who are now three years old. I'm a university student living with my boyfriend of four years in a small apartment, with two small rescue dogs. We don't have a whole lot of money, but we can live comfortably as long as we don't waste our money. Because of this, when me and my partner decided to get a dog last year, we chose adoption over buying a puppy (there were a few reasons along with money, such as wanting to rehome an unfortunate dog and also, we wanted to have a slightly older dog that was more adjusted to kids). We went to the shelter and found two beautiful boston terrier girls. They are both two years old and sisters, like my daughters were at the time, they had been around kids in their first home and really seemed perfect, so we got both of them. They are amazing and we love them so much, the kids love them and the dogs are really well behaved. 

Because we have a two bedroom apartment and not a whole lot of space/money, my boyfriend and I donated and sold the baby clothes as the girls grew out of them, keeping only the sentimental pieces. However, we fell a little bit behind somewhere and ended up sorting through quite a lot of 0-6 month clothes that we left at the back of a closet. Now, my sister in law has recently found out she's pregnant. Her and her husband are really well off and had a son a few years ago who was dressed head to toe in designer clothes from birth. I didn't think they'd struggle for clothes. My boyfriend suggested we could give the clothes to his sister when she found out she's pregnant at a family meal, where my SIL was in attendance, but everyone sort of laughed it off so I thought nothing more about it. 

Fast forward a month or so, we finally get round to sorting the baby clothes. My husband and I had bought the dogs some matching sweaters setting us back £20, so I had the grand idea to start cutting and sewing the clothes into dog sweaters and onesies for them to sleep in through the winter. My boyfriend thought this was a great idea, the girls loved seeing the dogs in their old clothes and it was super cute. I posted pics of them on instagram, and basically got a snarky text from my sister in law about how she'd have to be buying a new wardrobe then. I took it as a joke, and sent her a few more pictures of the dogs thinking she was being silly, and she kicked off. MIL started kicking off too. Next thing I know, my SIL is posting on Facebook marketplace asking for cheap/free baby clothes. 

So, AITA for assuming my SIL would buy her own baby clothes when she didn't seem too pleased to have mine/dressed her first baby fully designer? As far as I know they haven't had a change in income, but am I wrong for assuming?
RIGHT

I [24M] had been text messaging a girl [23F] for a few weeks after she insisted multiple times that we get together sometime, When I finally asked her out she canceled last minute and said her kid was in trouble so she had to go to school to sort it out. We had been friendly for the better part of a year and I usually saw her once a week when I went to the restaurant where she worked. I would usually grab a coffee for anyone that worked there that wanted one, mostly just her, and occasionally eat lunch there and talk to her if she was working or grab a sandwich before heading to work if I had something scheduled. 

A few weeks ago she complained that she had kicked out her on again off again boyfriend whom she hadn't ever mentioned when we spoke, and that some really awful things had been going on in her life and that she was afraid she wasn't going to make rent because of not being able to work full time and not having gotten any assistance from him.

I told her that I could help out if she **really** needed it but didn't hear anything for a few days. That was when she messaged me on social media saying that her phone was shut off and that she really needed money by the end of the week to pay her back-rent to her landlord by Friday night. I took some money ($1k USD) out of my bank account, and told her I had it but had to work but after messaging that I was done at work she said that she was having her family over and didn't want to head out that night to get it, On Friday I messaged her and asked to see her (to talk about a budget/finances but also to give her the money) but she claimed to be busy working. 

I was a little suspicious because when I tried to call her it went to voicemail and not the standard "this line is deactivated" message, so I called her from a phone at work and she picked up (at which point I hung up without saying anything) and when I tried to call from my number it again went straight to voicemail. She hasn't messaged me and I haven't messaged her back since then (its been about 3 weeks) but I have been back every week to the restaurant but she hasn't worked the shift that I go to since then either.

AITA for not helping someone you caught lying to you after already having offered to help?
RIGHT

Please excuse any major texting errors, I'm on mobile.

A few days ago, I was returning from walking my dog. I usually do a final loop around the front of my house before I head home, so in the loop I saw a car park on the side. I didn't think anything of it and continued down the shared driveway that heads to my house when I hear someone speaking. I have one headphone in so I pluck it out and turn around when I see an older woman.

To give some background, I live in Northern California and although the area where I live is known for its beautiful locations, robberies and break in have gotten much worse within the last couple years and we've had a couple of major items stolen from our vehicle and windows shattered. My trust level in giving information out is pretty low and I'm not feeling the safest as it is. 

So, the woman comes super close to me and says "hello, how are you??" I back away a little because my dog can be too friendly at times and tries to give hugs and say "hello, good thank you and yourself?" She then asks if I live around there. The way I am standng, I am inbetween two houses so either one could be my home or I could have simply be using the gate at the end to leave. I say "yes I live around here" and leave it at that. But she insists, "what house do you live in"? 

At this point, I'm kinda nervous because I'm not very confrontational so I tell her "oh, sorry I'm just not used to telling strangers where I live" and laughed to try to make a joke out of it. She goes off and says "This is my fault, I forgot I was in so and so county, I'm from New York where you can say Hi to people!! I'm just a neighbor trying to say hi!! I'm an educated person!!"

After she said the educated person part, I had it. This lady was yelling at me in the middle of the day outside because I didn't want to tell her specifically what house I live in? I said "oh, so are you insinuating I'm not an educated person because I won't tell you where I live? Thank you and have a good day" and I walked through the gate so it seemed like I lived in neither house. She kept yelling after me but I didn't really catch what she said. 


If she had said, "oh, I'm a neighbor, just want to say hi." I would have apologized and moved on. But she simply asked me where I lived. However, I feel guilty now. Am I the asshole??

RIGHT

