TASK DEFINITION: In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".
PROBLEM: So I'm part of a fandom server on Discord where a few of us write fan fiction and we often get feedback from each other and even be the other's beta editor or collaborator. Along comes this first-time fic writer with some pretty awful grammar and spelling, whose comments read like a kindergarten kid just learning to make long sentences. Except her content isn't kindergarten-grade, because she writes mostly *explicit* romance fic.

Her works are essentially erotic vignettes straight out of your typical porno flick except with the characters' names tacked on and basically makes for a painful read because they just don't match up to who the characters are actually like in the source material. It even reads like a self insert in the guise of a gender swapped character at times - and considering the characters this genderswapped version is normally paired with are characters she's expressed personal interest in before it's not hard to make the connection.

She's asked three of my fellow writer friends to help her edit her work since, which has greatly improved the grammar and spelling of her content to be actually readable, but a lot of her "characterisation" (or lack thereof) remains in the final work and her fic summaries which she writes herself are her usual typo-riddled style. I tried reading a few chapters of her work just to see how much my friends were able to turn things around, which is truthfully not much.

She still doesn't know I blocked her and occasionally addresses me in convos even though I never reply. One time she was talking about her newest chapter which she posted earlier when I happened to be online and her beta for that chapter (also a dear friend of mine and a longtime writing partner) remarked good work. The following exchange was paraphrased:

Author: You're the only one who's seen it though, the others haven't, how is it good work?

Beta: It's good work because even if they haven't seen it it's posted and finished, something finished and posted no matter the quality is already good work

Me: It's effort for sure, regardless of the result one already put effort into it that counts for something... I guess

Nobody remarked on my comment, but the beta DMed me asking me if it was a call-out for someone. I told them it was nothing at the time, but now I wonder whether I was too snobbish and dismissive of someone who regardless of their skill still put time into doing something they love. On top of that I never confronted her with my gripes about her writing and just pretended nothing was different while basically ignoring her. As a writer myself I know how precious support from peers is, even if as a reader I'm very selective. So am I being elitist or just have preferences?

SOLUTION: WRONG

PROBLEM: FYI - posting for a friend that doesn’t have reddit, so this point on will be in their POV.

Hello Reddit! I (F34) was on a dating website and connected with an awesome guy (M33). We ended up going on a date and it was going pretty well. He was a great conversationalist, and we were able to connect on many topics quite well. Towards the end of the date, I mentioned “Hey do you usually wear straight cut jeans? I think skinny jeans would look better on you.” He replied, “You think so?”. I responded, “yeah!” I didn’t think much of it and it ended pretty well, with a goodnight kiss :)

After the date he texted me goodnight and complimented me. After that he went ghost and I never reached out. After a few months he texted me and I asked him after going ghost why did he reach out? He answered, “You started looking for flaws in me right after the very first date. Thought that happens after a few months.” Since then we’ve been talking regularly, but a few of my friends have been saying I’m sort of an asshole for this situation. I didn’t think much of it and now I’m not too sure. Reddit, what do you think?

SOLUTION: WRONG

PROBLEM: My sister and her partner are malicious people; most of my family feels betrayed and distances themselves. I’m not going to get into a back story because me cutting ties with her is not my focus. It’s her daughters, my nieces, AITA for not wanting to know them?

I don’t like my sister we haven’t spoken in years so my thinking is why would I have to like and acknowledge  her kids. I’ve met the kids which makes it harder but, I believe relationships are not by blood but by how people treat you. I think my decision to not talk to her or her kids is best. 

If you don’t like someone why would you have to like their kids, family or not. My sister is well off not struggling. I wish them the best. I just don’t want nothing to do with them.

My family is guilting tripping me. Saying I’m messed up. My sister uses her kids to get our family to engage with her. My family feels obligation to her kids so they reach out send gifts etc. AITA? 

SOLUTION:
RIGHT

