Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

This is probably not gonna be as intense as most of the other posts on here but his is something that really make me feel very guilty.

I guess it'd be helpful if I talked a bit about my background. I'm from an upper middle class family in India. I (19M) live with my parents in their house. I've never earned any significant amount of money and don't plan to get a job anytime soon. Currently I'm studying Computer Engineering at a good university. Oh and my parents just invested most of their savings to buy a new house and they'd been tellin my that they have financial issues since then. 

So this is where my problem begins, I have never needed extra coaching or tuitions but my dad enrolled me for one and I have to go there. This basically makes its so that 5 days a week I leave my home at 7:30 am and come back after 9 pm with only around 2 hours of breaks (including the time it takes to commute). I did attend the first few lectures sincerely and tried to pay attention to what was being taught, but I literally cannot. And the fact that about 80% our syllabus is something I learned 5 years ago makes it even worse. I talked to my parents about this but they said that this year is the base and I need put in my best efforts...

Last week one of my friends decided to not attend one lecture and asked me if I wanted to bunk with him and his friends and I went with them. I've not attended any lectures since then. Btw I have had a near 100% attendance record for the last few years. My parents pay over 2 Lakh rupees (like $3-4k) just for the fees. I feel really bad that I'm wasting their money but I don't think I can sit through the tuitions. 

I feel extremely bad about lying to my parents and basically wasting their hard earned money, but I really don't think I can keep this up for long, especially since they're being extra nice to me because they think that I'm forcing myself to attend. 

I'm sure I'm gonna get some comments telling me to just attend those lectures and not pay attention. The problem is that 
1. I could very well do that but that'd still make me feel awful and I don't think I can do that
2. I am probably being dumb but sitting through the lectures, and especially C programming (I've been studying it for at least the past 4 years) literally gives me a panic attack. I'm writing this at 1 am in the morning so it'll take some time  for me to reply. 

TL:DR: Don't wanna attend coaching classes for my 1st year Comp Engg program, but parents already payed for it. I haven't gone for over a week.Not attending makes me feel bad, but sitting through one makes me feel extremely sad. AITA? Even if I am being a dick, could someone please help me out here?
AUTHOR

We've been together for almost 2 years. She's 23 and I'm 24 now. We had great compatibility in the sense that we could handle decision making and disagreements maturely while also being silly and adventurous together. Soulmate material, right? Unfortunately, throughout the 2 years, we never had penetrative sex.

In the first few months of us dating, she tried to have an IUD insertion, but it was unsuccessful. We figured that it was one of those common situations where a woman that never had sex needs time for her vagina to adjust to penetration so that the pain can go away over time.

She was still in university while I've graduated a year ago. We would go on dates almost every weekend, but often didn't have the opportunity to engage in anything sexual because we would end up at her parents' house, so the most we could sneak in is a makeout session. I honestly didn't mind all of this that much, she was my first girlfriend and our relationship was mostly great otherwise. Sure, I had a healthy libido, but I could take care of myself. During that first year, we also had problems with finding the right condoms so that delayed things further. We were having outercourse when we had a place to ourselves, however rarely.

In year 2, she moved in with me for the second half of it, and that's where we could really start to make consistent progress since we would be at each other's disposal almost every day!... minus the period weeks, and minus when she just didn't feel like it since her libido was much lower than mine. She tried to practice self penetration with fingers and a small dildo. She made some progress in being able to fit things in a few inches without it being super painful. It wasn't really enough for sex though. She thought she might have endometriosis, so she went to her doctor. The visits, which were spread over a few months due to how busy her doctor was, didn't result in anything conclusive.

After a year and a half of being patient, I was starting to lose that patience. I didn't see any hopeful signs that we would be able to have sex anytime soon. I also felt like she wasn't prioritizing this problem enough by escalating her doctor visits and seeing more specialists. She was busy and stressed with finishing up school, dealing with her family, and then looking for a job. I empathized with that, so I kept giving her more time. Eventually, close to the end of year 2, we had one of our many "heart-to-heart" conversations where we discussed our situation and how she feels that she is holding me back from experiencing a "normal" relationship where the couple can have "normal" sex. I also expressed that I'm running out of patience and just don't see an end to this struggle in our near future. We both agreed that she should move back in with her parents at the end of the month and that we should break up, but remain friends.
NOBODY

So here's some context:

I live with my mom and 2 younger siblings (3-6 years old) while my dad lives in another country with the rest of my relatives.

Every winter he visits us and every summer break we visit him. We've been doing this for many years

Now every summer we go there I get extremely bored it's in a country where I have no friends and social life, only my family for three months and it's really sad when I look into my snap stories seeing all my friends having so much fun without me. 

Don't get me wrong I love my family but Everytime school ends for the summer I get really excited to hang with my friends but I literally only get like 1-3 days to do so until I'm sent away with my family to see my dad all the way to August,

Literally two days before school starts again we're back. and by that time all my friends have had their fun for the summer.

I've been trying to convince my parents to let me stay for just ONE summer but. They keep trying to convince that it will be different and that I'll enjoy it. But I don't. I never do. 

Ultimately I fail convincing them because I feel like bad person seeing their sad and disappointed faces when I bring this up and it sucks.

So Reddit?

Am i the asshole for wanting to have a fun summer?

And what should I do?









NOBODY

