In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".

hear me out on this one 

My SO and I had planned to attend a jazz performance at a small cafe, and we paid for our tickets in advance. You were supposed to have bought a ticket to be in the cafe during the performance. We get there before it starts and order our food. The place is pretty packed, and there were no open tables. But we figured that if we waited a little for the music to start then people who weren't planning to stay for it would be clearing out.

Unfortunately this never happened. We had our food brought to us and we were basically awkwardly standing in the corner, holding our plates and hoping that a table would clear soon. I think eventually somebody brought us some plastic stools or something but it still really sucked given that we had paid for the opportunity to be here.

One of the waitresses alerted me that there was two ladies in a booth that were supposed to be leaving, as they didnt pay to stay for the music, so they should be gone soon. Guess what, they never left either. They had finished their food 30-45 minutes ago and were still here. The waitress kept apologizing to me. I was pretty pissed at both the cafe for prioritizing people who didnt buy a ticket over us, and also the women for not having self awareness. After about 45m to an hour from when the performance started, and my SO was already visibly upset by how everything was turning out, I went over and tried to politely ask the women if they'd be leaving soon. I get that this would be rude under normal circumstances but I didnt really give a shit. They give some BS answer like "oh yes we were JUST about to leave" (sure) and I go back to my SO hoping they'll just go. But nope, first they call over the waitress to tattle on the big bad man who just dared to ask them when they were leaving, who then comes to me and sternly tells me "please dont ask our customers when they'll be leaving." and on top of this the women stayed another half hour or something, clearly just to piss me off.

So reddit, am I the asshole? What exactly was I supposed to do in this situation?
RIGHT

Ok, so I had these two friends, let’s call them M and S. We were pretty good friends in school. Then, near the end of one year, there was this very very Creepy Girl. Creepy was actually kinda normal when we first met her, so we let her hang with us at lunch and stuff. Then things shifted into M. Night Shamalama territory. 

One day, Creepy said that she had DID. Now, I have no idea what someone who actually has it is like. So I said that mental illness doesn’t mean we can’t be friends. Now comes the weird part. She said that her pharmacy stopped making her DID pills because “nobody was really using them.” Which sounded illegal and kinda like bullshit. But I went with it. 

One day at lunch, she asked M, S, and I if we wanted to see the her other “personality” which for here, we’ll call Creepy-X. I was hesitant but M and S said okay, so I went with it. Creepy sat in her chair, fell limp, then came back to life while pulling her hood up and—I shit you not—SPEAKING IN AN AUSTRALIAN ACCENT. 

Things turned into a big spiral of unsettling, like when she was passing out in the middle of the cafeteria, when I found her notebook full of drawings of Youtubers like Jacksepticeye and Markiplier in bondage gear, when she said that she was an allmighty, eternal being... It was just too weird for me. So I gradually stopped hanging out with them. 

Am I in the wrong just because I didn’t “get” her? Or was she really just a dangerous person to be around?
RIGHT

 I have a really good friend who I'm going to call Lyra. We met on Tumblr, along with some of our other friends. We all have a group chat and even text and talk on the phone. We've been a friend group for about 4 years, and that's how long I've known Lyra.

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I met Lyra IRL in January, and that's when I learned some stuff that I hadn't known about her before: she's white (she used a black girl's pictures), she's 15 (she said she was 21), and the details of her personal life were just really different from what she had said before. So...I met her irl thinking she was 21. I didn't know she wasn't a 21 year old black girl until she and her parents picked me up from the airport. (I just didn't say anything until we were alone "I thought you were black" and that's when she told me she was 15.)

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Lyra and I kind of had silly crushes on each other and had done some light flirting in texts before...she revealed her true identity lol. She wanted (and wants) to continue this flirtation and even date. I never really told her no because I've been so conflicted and I really value her friendship. Well...I actually DID say no at first, but then I felt like a major asshole because she said her age would only matter if I were in the relationship for sex, which I wasn't, and I'd like to clarify I only held her hand and hugged her a little.

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Anyway, I know the situation is messed up. I want to remain friends without...I don't know, hurting her. We're best friends and I really love her. But there's another aspect to the situation which is that none of our other friends know her true age, and I've been informed that they could get into legal trouble. Lyra doesn't shy away from anime smut and fanfic and has written, drawn, and roleplayed adult scenarios with a couple of our other friends. 

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Everyone I've talked to so far seems to think I AM an asshole, but so far I don't. 

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TL;DR: my best friend turned out to be a 15 year old but I want to remain friends and not tell our other friends the nature of her deceit.

WRONG

