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AITA for not wanting my best friend to go and apply for the same job as me? 

A couple of weeks ago I applied for this job because I'm looking for something to make a little money on the side while still studying. It pays pretty well and is very close to where I live.

Before going in for an interview, I told my best friend about it and just told her all about it and how I would really like to get it. (The interview went well and now I work there, which is great!) Yesterday she told me that after I told her about the position she went ahead and also sent in an application. At first I saw nothing wrong with it, but at that time it wasn't clear at all that I was going to get it, so now thinking about it, it kind of rubs me the wrong way that she would do that, basically sort of jeopardising my chances of getting it. 

She also has done the exact same thing before with a pretty cool internship I told her about. 

Am I being overly sensitive? 
NOBODY

Hi guys. I’m really conflicted here and could use your advice. 

My boyfriend and I have been together since July 2017, and are a great couple. He has a friend group from college, one of whom (Harry) has a girlfriend Alice that he has been with since early 2017. 

In November 2017, he went for a meal with his girlfriend Alice, her best friend Francesca, and another friend. This was before Harry and Alice lived together. After the meal, Alice went back to her house, and Harry got an uber with Francesca. Francesca invited him into her house for a drink, they had sex, and he stayed over. 

Harry told my boyfriend about this, who told me. I was completely torn up at the time, and still am (although it’s recently reared its head again, which I will come on to). Harry and Alice were due to move in together 3 weeks later in December 2017. At the time I had the same dilemma (should I anonymously tell her) but if she had found out, she would have lost her boyfriend/best friend/house at the same time. I decided to take no action as she’s not my friend/it’s not my place. Harry or Francesca never told Alice. 

Fast forward to early 2019. I just heard Harry and Alice are planning to buy a house together, a massive financial commitment which will tie them together forever and be very expensive to get out of. These feelings have come back and I don’t know what to do. 

The emotional part of me says that I should make a fake email account and tell her anonymously. She deserves to know everything so that she can make an educated decision before she enters this financial commitment of buying (so much harder and more expensive to separate than renting). 

The logical part says I should leave it, it’s not my place, I am not her friend, ignorance is bliss in her case, and it would harm my current relationship (my boyfriend would be furious if he found out I’d told her, or I’d have to keep this huge secret from him, something I’m not going to do). There are other people who could tell her and have chosen not to (other friends know as Harry told them).

I should stay out of it, right?

Thanks for reading 

AUTHOR

Throwaway account


I am a 24 year old man who dated a 20 year old woman for over a year. For the last three months of our relationship i was no longer in love with her. 

After a year of being together, my own mental state and money issues were at all time lows. At this time i decided to no longer emotionally support someone else in my life. My ex GF (who will now be named "sarah" for amoninity) is an amazing person to speak with. One of the reasons i fell in love with her initially was she put so much energy into her hobbies and talent. With those highs of energy she had very bad lows, we shared each others fears of being left alone or bad experinces with others in school. This made me feel close to sarah, but this was getting into what made me happy. 

I feel like im always running out of time in my life. Esspecially in the last 6 months i stopped doing things for myself that made me happy. Things like my writing and editing were not being done, cause i wanted to spebd more time with sarah. Thinking the only solution to solve these issues was to step away from the relationship after her birthday in late october. 

Right before I was planning to break up, her parents fell behind on rent and within the week she was getting kicked out of her place. We disscussed on sarahs short term plan to stay with me for two weeks, then helped her move all her stuff out in the coming month. With the first 2 weeks at my place we did not have sex, just lots of playing games and talking things out. During those 2 weeks she asked me "with me being kicked out of my place, do you still love me?". I lied and said that i did, that sarah getting kicked out didnt effect how i felt about her. 

After 1 month she found a place with a roommate and with the help of my brother we were able to move all her stuff from a storage locker, to her new apartment. Her mother then starts having more heart problems, and i delay telling her i wanted to break up for another month. About a week before chistmas is when i decided to break up with sarah. She seemed calm at the time and we didnt really communicate since late december.

Over the month of january i moved some of the last things she had at my place. only getting messages from her about getting rides to work from my brother, or just times when i can drop off boxes of her stuff. Then tonight when she picked up a box, was the first time i seen her afraid of me. Im not a scary looking boy, but that woke me up to write this down. So looking for dissucussion so i can figure out how to move on, i still dont want to lose talking to her. But getting back together as partners is something i dont want right now.



TLDR Was going to break up with sarah, didnt after 3 months, lied to her the whole time



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