In this task you are given an anecdote. You must find out whether the anecdote is something the author has done or is considering doing. Label the instances as "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and label them as "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future.

AITA? So in another thread, a woman made an off hand comment about how going to grad school was stressful and she is literally crying everyday. I said I realized school can be stressful but if she is literally crying everyday maybe she should reevaluate why she is there or at least see a therapist as to why she feels the need to break into tears at least once a day. Of course I was told I was being insensitive and that I would never know the stress and pressures of going to grad school. Full discourse I did go to undergrad so I’m not completely out of the loop when it comes to academics but in no way did I cry everyday. She then brought up my military service and claimed I would never tell a war veteran with PTSD the same. Well I know plenty of vets with PTSD and not a single one cry everyday either. I just feel like these people are trying to make their graduate experience seem like a trial by fire when there is literally millions of people who have done it without all the dramatics. I asked a friend with two masters (both from Virginia Tech and yes he was there when the massacre happened) and not even he cried more that once. I’m not trying to prove to anyone I’m a tough guy and yes, I have cried plenty of times before. But I believe if you are truly crying everyday or even a few times a week you need to seek help. There’s a word for that; depression. 
HISTORICAL

My fiance and I have been together for 7 years now and have an almost 6 year old son together.

Almost 3 years ago now we had broken up for about a month. During this time he began to talk to a girl that he's known for most of his life. We got back together, and I expected him to break off all contact with her. Which I thought was understandable.

2 weeks in and he still has her on all social media including snapchat. We fought and fought over it and he eventually deleted her. Or so I thought.

Last October, we had been growing rather distant and I took it upon myself to snoop through his phone.

And there she is. She had blocked me on social media so that I couldn't see them following each other. He had literally liked every single one of her pictures, not any of mine during the same time period to be clear, and she liked his as well. Including a picture of his Snapchat code asking people to add him.

I confront him. He becomes angry and defensive but swears hell get rid of her.

About a month later I decide to check again. And she's still there. So I told him I was leaving him.

He left for about 3 days. And we eventually talked things through and he again swore to delete her and block her for good.

3 weeks ago, I saw that he had liked pictures of the girl's sister on Instagram. He says he had remembered liking them from a long time ago and had been trying to unlike them so I would never find them and in doing so accidentally re liked the pictures, and I believed him.

Last night. He has both the girl AND her sister unblocked AGAIN on social media. Meaning he went out of his way to go through his settings, get to privacy, open his list of blocked users and unblocked those two in particular.

WIBTA for ending a 7 year relationship with the father of my son because he can't seem to let go of some other girl? Even though the only thing I really have evidence of is them staying in contact, not actually cheating?

I'm at a complete loss.
HYPOTHETICAL

Obligatory apologies for formatting, I am on mobile. 

So this decision happened only minutes ago, but first a little back story. When I decided to switch universities last year and move back in with my parents I was giving up a very well paying, stable job as an au pair/tutor. I hadn’t lived at home for about 4 years and in that time my mother and father made the decision to start fostering a 13 year old I will call Alice. I love Alice, I never had a girly kinda sister around since I had a very manly lesbian sister and my twin brother. She’s hard working, sweet and caring, and none of this is directed towards her. 
To make up for me not having a stable income anymore my parents decided to hire me as an au pair to Alice. 
My hours are essentially 07:00-07:30 Monday till Friday, 14:00-16:00 Monday till Thursday and 14:00-20:00 on a Friday (She has choir in a town 40 minutes away and we get home late every Friday). This in between studying full time, and working another side job. 
They pay me R3400 a month (about $244) which is supposed to include my fuel. I drive about 22km (about 14 miles) every day dropping and fetching her from school. Au Pairs in my country generally charge R50-75 an hour ($3.50-7.50) and R3/km ($0.20). 

Now that all of that is over let me start from about 15 minutes ago when I told my parents that I wanted to stay at my boyfriends house this weekend, starting on Thursday as I currently have off from school and he is house sitting this entire weekend, so he has no way of visiting me. My mother freaked saying that who would look after Alice on Friday, as she is also on break and therefor doesn’t have school on Friday either. I stood there flabbergasted as my mom berated me about how if I was her client back in the old town I would not treat her like this and that I should look after Alice this Friday. I walked out of the room absolutely furious that she would speak to me like that. If she wanted me to look after Alice she could have asked nicely and I would have said yes and gone through to my boyfriend Friday afternoon instead. 

She brought in business a o I decided to handle this as cleanly and business-like as possible. After some serious calculations I figured out that my parents were not only underpaying me (R35 an hour/$2.50) but also grossly misusing me. So I’ve decided to propose I charge them what they should be paying me, including overtime for looking after my sister this entire week. Since I only work from 14:00, that would include an extra 6 hours of work everyday that they need to pay me for, and I would discuss a new monthly rate that I should be rightfully paid. I am separating business from family and if they want to look for a cheaper option they can try but they will not find it, as I would be charging them the bottom rate for an au pair here. 

So my question is, AITA for doing this to my parents? 







HYPOTHETICAL

