Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

We have a new baby and are flat broke. Private student loans are going into repayment. $1,100 per month minimum. A few months ago he quit his job (insurance benefits and everything - with a baby at home) to look for something more "fulfilling". And yes, I was pissed. But pissed doesn't fix the problem or pay bills. 

I am going back to work full time but he wants to use his degree and become a youth pastor again. Wonderful for him but he wants me to wait to find permanent work until he knows where that job is gonna be. 

Today I was offered a great teaching job with childcare benefits that would require us to move 45 minutes to a bigger city and about 5 miles from all my family (huge plus support-wise). His mom doesn't want me to take it because he wants a pastor job. 

AITA for telling him to suck it up and work somewhere else because we have a baby and bills and we need to make some money ASAP? If he finds a church job where I was offered a position that's wonderful! But it might not happen RIGHT NOW. 
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For context, I am 5'4 and weigh 120 lbs. I think this was the highest weight I've ever had.

I've had a past full of people telling me that no one would ever date an ugly person like me. I got more and more comments about my appearance, not weight-wise but facial things like scars, acne, my skin tone (I'm Indian brown even though majority of people around this city are Mexican), my face shape, etc. I had a very fast puberty, basically woke up in a similar form of a different body. I suspect the growth spurt started around 3rd grade as I got confused as to looking way older than I am. I have stretch marks, scars, acne, etc. The thing that started to trigger negative thoughts were the clothing I wore.

My parents get me sizes way more bigger than I am, and at first I thought it was because I was growing in height. I later found out that it was because they expected me to get fatter.

They made comments that I was lazy, I would get obese, I would end up in the hospital, they'd have to get XXXXL clothes for me one day, etc.

These added up with the comments that if I washed my face more I'd get light like my mom, if I washed my face more I wouldn't have this ugly face, etc.

On my 11th birthday I threw up the birthday food because I was upset about my weight. And the cycle slowly turned from Bulimia to Anorexia. Luckly, I managed to stop before I weighed less than 99 lbs.

Recently thoughts of eating and my body has spiked to a low because I was petrified what I'd look like at my prom photos. I kept these thoughts secret as I thought I'd get over it.

One day my parents talked about how lazy I was and I'm gonna end up like this woman on TV (she was morbidly obese).

I fucking broke down. I told them (everything I just said above) and if they wanted a thin daughter than don't give me food at all. Was ITA?
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I'm autistic, and 15. Which trust me, is a lovely combination that never gets in the way of life. So for the past year, I've felt it's been my job to hunt down people and ask "when am I being assessed for extra time/separate room?" "Will I be allowed these things in my final exams?" or when that received a stupidly vague answer I'd basically beg my parents to ring the doctors or whoever your supposed to ring. The doctors haven't gotten back to us yet.

I feel like it shouldn't be my responsibility and I should've automatically been put down for assessment when I got my diagnosis, over two years ago. So when I was told yesterday that I had to do my statistics mock in the exam hall, surrounded by people, nowhere near a door, I was pissed the hell off.

I told the teachers it was not acceptable and that they should have this sorted by now. Over the past two years they've been letting me do my tests in other rooms, no questions asked. I may have overacted and told one teacher that this was all of their faults and she had to take responsibility, which seemed to annoy her. I got really mad at a load of them and honestly I'm not sorry.

I understand that as a teacher, your life is busy and you don't have time for every student as much as I get that legally I had to be in there. But I feel almost  like after two years, something should've been done. I did do the exam in the hall, though I could have done way better.

I do actually want to hear what you have to say, as I know I'm not always the best judge of my actions. Thanks in advance

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