Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

I work in a crowded downtown district. Every day impatient motorists muscle their way into crosswalks while pedestrians are still crossing and come within a foot or less of hitting them while making a right turn. The traffic law where I am says you're supposed to yield to pedestrians in the crosswalk, regardless of if there's room for you to pass.

I don't care much if I'm all the way across the street and someone turns through the crosswalk anyway as long as they're not close to any pedestrians, but the other day I was walking back to the office from getting a sandwich, and as the light turns green I step into the crosswalk. This guy in a fancy Mercedes SUV is waiting to make a right turn but he has to wait for me to cross first. Meanwhile, across the street, a large group of pedestrians are coming towards us. He begins turning into the crosswalk while I'm still totally in front of him, and by the time I'm about to pass him, he's fully in the crosswalk about 2 feet away from me, with his car pointed at me. I can tell he's going to try to get through the crosswalk before the group of pedestrians coming the other way get to him, but if he does that he'll be driving through a gap in pedestrians that's only slightly wider than his car, basically getting really close to pedestrians in the crosswalk.

So instead of continuing walking, I just stop. Just long enough that the group of pedestrians approaching from the other direction are now in front of his car too, forcing him to come to a stop and yield as he's supposed to. At no point was his car even stopped to wait for me, he was inching forward the entire time, so when I stop walking he has to abruptly apply the brakes while partially in the crosswalk still. Once the pedestrians coming from the other direction are in front of his car I continue walking. He stares daggers at me the whole time.

Dick move or no?
OTHER

a friend (gay male) and I (gay female) love Rocky Horror Picture Show, a cult classic movie musical. Every year on Halloween we go watch screenings of it. one thing to note, during screenings, the audience are allowed to scream and make loud vulgar jokes.

We are having a good old time calling the characters sluts and assholes, until we get to  a song called "I Can Make You a Man", where the mad scientist is singing about training his newly born muscle man to be his sex slave. As the character sing the phrase "I can make you a man" the audience may shout "a f\*g, just like your dad", so i did.

friend didn't say anything at the moment but after we left he told me he was uncomfortable about me using the word out loud. I said "why, for whole hour we were slut shaming characters and said other derogatory remarks. we were in a space where we allowed to say it out loud." 

we keep fighting about it , at the end we agreed to disagree.
NOBODY

My husband and I have a mutual friend who we adore very much, who we will call Charlie. Charlie has been with his current boyfriend for over 3 years. When we met his bf, Paul, we were told he had some mental issues (not specifics) but was mostly fully functional. Charlie also has some issues but we get along just fine.

Paul seemed childlike in his behaviour, but we had fun, so we made many plans for us to hang out as a group. As time went on our patience has worn thin, to the point where we really don't want to see Paul anymore. 

Imagine you have a 25 year old, 6 foot tall 5 year old. A million little things like taking food without asking, making messes in the living room, going through your stuff... To joking about playing a "prank" on you involvong your phobia. He has even tried to kiss/grope my bf. Every time we see him, he does something to genuinely anger my bf or I. 

Once or twice we have hung out with Charlie, stating that Paul wasn't welcome, which Charlie was very understanding of. He knows how Paul is and knows he's crossed the line so many times, and tries to tell Paul but Paul just doesn't get it.

We wanted to spend new years with Charlie so extended our invite to include Paul, and it went as expected. Afterwards my husband and I just spent 20 minutes venting to each other about all the ways Paul had annoyed us this time. 

I realize this isn't healthy, and I feel cruel smiling at Paul and pretending to have fun when in reality I just want to never see him again, but we don't know how else to be able to see Charlie regularly. 

Are we the assholes here?

OTHER

