TASK DEFINITION: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
PROBLEM: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So a bit of context. I'm currently studying chemical engineering in the UK. For those of you who don't know, we're given loans by the government. This includes our tuition fees plus a maintenance fee that they give based on home financial situations. We don't see the tuition fee, it goes straight to the universities, however our maintenance fee is split into 3 drops throughout the year. Our last one for this year is due at the end of April.

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At the beginning of the year I became friends with a lad however as the years gone on we've basically stopped talking. He began the year saying he knew everything the lecturers were teaching as he'd done it the year before (apparently) and made out like the course was ridiculously easy. He failed miserably, surprisingly. I myself am struggling and I'm not bashing someone else for not being able to cope with the work but what I can't stand is that he made out like he was better than everyone else and to be honest, he made myself and a few other friends feel like maybe we weren't able to cope with the work. 

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Now he's decided that it's the lecturers fault (apparently their teaching is atrocious yet others are able to grasp it) and he'd like to change degrees for next year. Fair enough. Our course leader told him he'd have to attend classes and put in work otherwise not only would he not be able to carry on next year be he also won't receive his last payment from student finance. A few days ago I confronted him about it as he's still in our class Facebook group joining in discussions yet has turned up maybe 4-5 times max since January. He hasn't participated in any group work and has been one of the reasons why groups have been uneven. His response was that not only was it up to him when he turns up but also that he hadn't handed a form in to finalise his move to a different course, therefore his payment isn't cut off.

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My response was that it was people like him that were messing it up for the rest of us, to which he said he's still getting his money so he doesn't give a shit basically. I've got a few more friends that have decided to do the right thing and switched but aren't milking taxpayers money and are waiting till next year for their student finance to start again. As I didn't agree with it, I emailed our course leader about it. 

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This has just happened so I've not told anyone really and the two friends I have told agree with me however part of me still feels bad. So, AITA?

SOLUTION: no

PROBLEM: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Maybe this is more appropriate for /r/relationships or /r/sex but whatever.

So i've been with my girlfriend for just over a year now, it's been by far the best relationship of my life in terms of being in love, stress free, sharing interests, sex life etc it's been a total unicorn relationship.

Anyway, I have only had two partners before her, both LTR. I'm personally against casual sex and drug use although i'm fine for other people to do it, it's just not the lifestyle i've ever wanted. She's said she agreed with me and that she had four partners before me and never used drugs. I'm sure you can see where this is going.

I found out that her and her previous boyfriend were poly and into a lot of crazy stuff, threesomes with both genders, using drugs, and obviously her partner count of both men and women was a lot higher than she said. Again, I have no problem with this lifestyle it's just not something I would want for myself or for the woman I marry.

I confronted her about this and eventually got the truth confirmed after a lot of evasiveness. She says all that poly/drug stuff before was what made her realize that she wanted the conventional monogamous marriage with loads of kids etc and a clean life just like me and only lied to me because she knew a man looking for that wouldn't want to marry a woman with her past. 

That makes sense because i'm seriously thinking about breaking up with her over this, firstly because she lied to me for so long about stuff she knew was important to me, second because of insecurity. Like she's the best sex of my life but what if I rank only 20th or something for her? Could someone who lived that life be happy with the "square" life with me? And since she's apparently bisexual could she ever be happy without women? What if she's only using me as the "safe" man she settles down with and cheats on me? If I marry her will I end up regretting that I missed a huge red flag?

Those are questions for me to decide on, my question to all you is: WIBTA to throw away the best relationship of my life over this? Or is it fair for this to be a dealbreaker and i'm about to dodge a bullet?

SOLUTION: yes

PROBLEM: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm just making this account to ask this after seeing a few videos about this subreddit, 
I struggle quite severely with depression, on top of that i have quite a busy life, I'm a student, I work, I have a sister I sometimes have to care for as I live in a single parent household. I want to preface this by saying that I love my girlfriend, she's not a bad person but she does suffer from borderline personality disorder. Basically, she reacts to things very extremely and she has abandonment issues, so sometimes it can be hard to tell if what I've done is my fault or simply her overreacting. I've missed a lot of plans with her due to things coming up and needing to take care of my sister which though it upsets her a lot she is understanding and tries her best not to get upset at me because she knows i couldn't do anything about it. So, when I do have time for her she really, really looks forward to it, I have missed a lot more plans with her due to my depression, whether it's being unable to get out of bed that day or falling asleep. Once I missed five plans all right after the other with her  and i felt terrible because she had a sort of episode and was convinced i hate her, she cried, said she hates me and that I'm horrible to her, when she calmed down she said to me she can understand it happening occasionally but how frequently i do it is a problem as she can't trust me or rely on me for anything and i should make more of an effort for her or at least try to tell her more often. once something came up and I'd be showing up late, I didn't tell her that I'd be getting there late and eventually after stopping at home before making my way to her i fell asleep, she was enraged by it, she cried, called me a cunt and an asshole and ignored my texts for the next day. Am I being an asshole to her and using depression as an excuse or is she overreacting?

SOLUTION:
yes

