Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

[Q]: Playing an online strategy game against an opponent. The game has an "undo" button that sends a request to the opponent. If approved, the game undoes the last move. In any case, the client freezes, so naturally, I request an undo to attempt the unfreeze the client. The opponent does not respond to the "undo" request. I type a quick "Hello?" and learn the opponent is Japanese. With me purely using Google Translate, the following ensues. They seem to be upset at me over something, but I am unable to determine what it is. That said, can a fluent arbiter determine if Am I the Asshole?

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ME:  Hello?

OPPONENT:  ん？なんで煽ってんの？

ME: 遊べない

OPPONENT:  黙ってUNDOしようとして、さらに煽るとか

OPPONENT:  さすがにノーマナーだわ

Undo request was cancelled. 

ME:  それは私がゾンビスパイを終わらせることはできません

OPPONENT:  うんうんそれで？

ME:  Its frozen

ME:  その冷凍

OPPONENT:  煽ってるの？

OPPONENT:  まーた煽る

OPPONENT:  なんなの？

ME:  I can not move! Help me!

OPPONENT:  まずは煽ったことについて

OPPONENT:  意地でも謝らないんだね

ME:  手伝って頂けますか UNDO? Or no?

ME:  I'm sorry; I am stuck1

OPPONENT:  いやちゃんとしようよ

ME:  ゲームは私に前進させません

OPPONENT:  それ以前の話してるんだけど

ME:  それはあなたが移動を元に戻すことを可能にしますか？

OPPONENT:  その前のことね

ME:  私は翻訳を使っているので、お詫び申し上げます。

OPPONENT:  ただそれじゃだめでしょ

OPPONENT:  無言でUNDOしてきて、ハロー？って煽るとかないわ

ME:  LOL

ME:  What do you mean "I do not have to push it"

ME:  「プッシュする必要はない」とはどういう意味ですか？

OPPONENT:  押す必要がない

Undo request was cancelled. 

ME:  何を押す？

OPPONENT:  知りません

ME:  リクエストを承認できますか UNDO？ それともできないのですか？

OPPONENT:  煽る相手にわざわざUNDOさせると思うの？

OPPONENT:  相手も人間というのをお忘れなく

ME:  Sorry for poor translation. I am unable to play.

ME:  貧弱な翻訳でごめんね。 私は遊ぶことができません。

OPPONENT:  翻訳のせいにするな

OPPONENT:  私はあなたの無礼さに怒っている

ME:  なぜあなたは私の失礼に怒っているのですか？

OPPONENT:  失礼なことをされたからです

ME:  私の謝罪、しかしゲームは私が続けることを可能にしません。

ME:  私はあなたと一緒に問題を解決することを望んでいます。

OPPONENT:  そうかもしれないが、失礼と解決は別の問題です

ME:  謝罪するが、話す唯一の方法は翻訳です。私はその翻訳をすべての信仰をもって受け入れなければなりません。

OPPONENT:  翻訳のことは考慮してる、それとは別です

ME:  私が遊び続けないことに憤慨していますか

OPPONENT:  違います

ME:  それならなぜあなたは怒っていますか？

OPPONENT:  失礼なことをされたからです、内容については2度述べました

ME:  I do not understand. Can you be more specific?

ME:  理解できません。もっと具体的にできますか？

OPPONENT:  2度も言ったので読み返してください

ME:  翻訳を考えると、読み返すのは難しいです。 もう一度教えてください。

OPPONENT:  最初から申し訳なく思ってれば、言われたときに理解できたのではないですか？

ME:  お詫び申し上げます、私はまだ理解していません。 私はあなたと状況を直そうとしているということを信じてください。

OPPONENT:  それは信じるよ

OPPONENT:  でも無言でUNDOしようとして、ハロー？って煽るのは失礼です

ME:  あなたはゲームを終了しても構わないと思っていますか？ それとも立ち往生？

OPPONENT:  なぜそこでまた煽るんだ

ME:  "Hello？" また、接続が機能しているかどうかの単なるテストです。

OPPONENT:  じゃあ最初と同じ「テスト」でいいじゃん

ME:  私は謝罪します。 文化は異なるかもしれません。 質問としての「こんにちは」は単に「あなたはそこにいますか」という意味です。 無礼は意図されていません。

ME:  Since I am frozen, it is unclear if I am connected to the game.

ME:  私はフリーズしているので、ゲームに接続しているかどうかは不明です。

ME:  私たちは遊び続けることができますか？それともゲームは立ち往生していますか

ME:  taguchi1, are you still there?

ME:  taguchi1、まだそこにいますか？

Undo request granted

ME: Thank You.
[A]: not answerable


[Q]: Two years ago, my boyfriend and I lived separately. At the time, I had my dog, she was 12 years old and my best friend of life. Shortly before we were to move in together, she passed away. It was at this time that my boyfriend adopted a puppy. When his puppy was six months old I told him I wanted a puppy of my own because I’ve been depressed since my dog passed away. He refused. We broke up for a month due to other issues, and while we were apart, I got a puppy. When we got back together, my boyfriend was so upset. He said it’s too hard with two untrained puppies, so he made my give my puppy to my parents for over a year (he said my puppy could move back in when it was older and better behaved). My puppy is a male chihuahua and is pretty territorial and aggressive, so I got him fixed. After a year and a half of my puppy living with my parents, I just got him fixed two days ago and brought him to my house. My boyfriend has no patience and wants me to bring my dog back to my parents for them to keep. My dog did growl pretty badly at his dog yesterday, but has been calm ever since (before he got fixed he would growl and bark constantly so I’d say that this is a major improvement). My boyfriend says I have to give my dog back to my parents. I don’t want to. He says I should give me dog up to the pound if my parents can’t take him. I said this is not fair, he’s going back on his promise of me getting to keep my puppy. What do I do? Am I the asshole for getting the pup while we were broken up? I gave the puppy to my parents for well over a year and held up my side of the bargain. Now that it’s time for my dog to live here, my boyfriend refuses. Please help AITA?





**tl;dr** when my dog was 12 years old she sadly passed away, so I got a puppy a few months later to heal my sadness. My boyfriend made me give the puppy to my parents for a year because he says it’s too hard and that we can take him back once he’s older. The time has come, I got him fixed, and besides him being a little growly sometimes, he’s a pretty good dog. My boyfriend has no patience and wants me to give him back to my parents. I don’t want to do that and don’t think it’s fair. How do I convince my boyfriend to let my dog stay? AITA?
[A]: answerable


[Q]: So, I've recently moved back to my hometown after dropping out of college. I was pretty embarrassed so I didn't really tell anybody that I was moving back (it has been about a month now.) 

So anyway, there are definitely a few people that I've been meaning to hang out with, but haven't been able to work up the courage in fear of being perceived as a loser/failure etc. There's this one girl I know mostly from the internet really but we went to high school together and I've talked to her at the local bars around here for example. We were never really that close just DM'd a few times. I knew she still lived around our hometown (and she is single) so I wanted to surprise her in a funny way letting her know that I was back and maybe we can hangout or whatever. This is where I may have crossed the line?

Her dad was the coach of the boys' lacrosse team when I was in high school so I was honestly probably closer to him than her, but regardless I was able to find their address from searching his name online. On Valentine's Day I went over to the house intending on just handing it directly to her but no one was home. I was already freaked out and anxious from the whole thing and I kept second guessing myself but I didn't want to give up. I also didn't want to leave the stuff in the rain so I tried the doors/windows just to leave it in a dry spot. The window was open so I just placed it down inside on top of an end table. I bought the most traditional fucking gift I possibly could have so I don't know how it could be perceived differently, I just got flowers and a small box of chocolates, and a small card that was supposed to be ironically funny (it was just like a get well soon card) that I wrote "I'm Back!" on the inside. I was planning on messaging her saying it was me at like 6, figured she would be back from work by then. 

Fast forward a little bit that day, watching her instagram story she was NOT amused and definitely a little freaked out from what I could tell. I honestly just thought it would be funny but now I am afraid to tell her it was me, does that make me an asshole? I just want this whole thing to disappear.
[A]:
answerable


