Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Question: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Not sure if this belongs here or in /r/dating_advice, but I just got done with an interaction on bumble where the woman I was chatting with was pretty adamant that it is never appropriate to talk politics on a dating site, or on a first date.  I think that for me, politics is something that should be talked about up front – I have no interest in dating people with certain political positions. I told her I respected her position as it relates to her, but she just kept saying that politics just shouldn't be discussed, ever.   


What sparked it off was that we were discussing two cities with the same name, one in my state, one in Virginia.  I commented, "Virginia is a lot different from \[my state\], more blackface scandals." I thought it was funny. I hadn't noticed that she went to University of Virginia.  Now, I get that maybe I was an asshole for making an insensitive comment about her state (though I still think it was funny), but I still think you should be allowed to talk politics if it's important to you. 

Answer: yes


Question: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway account. TL;DR at the beginning. Will put spoiler tags.

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TL;DR: &gt;!My whole family is mad at me for yelling at my cousin after she tried to take over my wedding. I also said my fiancé, whom she is in love with, would never love her. No one is letting me see her and apologize. AITA?!&lt;

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To make this easier to follow, my fiancé will be Jay, and my cousin will be Lisa.

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My fiancé Jay (M24) and I (F24) have been together for 10 years. We have never doubted the other in our relationship ever. We have a great relationship. Lisa (F21) and I have an okay relationship. We did grow up together, but we just never clicked. 

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Now this happened when she was a senior in high school and Jay and I were 21. I went home for the holidays with Jay to celebrate Christmas with my family. During dinner, I overheard Lisa telling another cousin of ours that she wanted to fuck Jay. I confronted her later, but she said it was a joke. Last year at another Christmas gathering I went to with Jay, she told my aunt she was in love with Jay. I felt bad for her, so I didn't confront her this time. That night, Jay proposed. I saw Lisa crying and running upstairs to the bathroom.

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Flash forward to now. Our parents, Jay and I are planning our wedding. I specifically told my family that it was only going to be us 6 planning the wedding, no one else. My aunt argued with me to let Lisa on the planning committee since Lisa wants to be a wedding planner in the future. I eventually agreed.

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I really regret letting her on the committee. Let me list the things she's done so far:

* Wanted to take control of the catering. All the food choices, cake, table covers, napkins, utensils, etc.
* Wanted to pick out my dress. I said no to her pick, then the started to pout.
* Wanted to pick out the bridesmaid dresses. She said she wanted this specific dress because it looked good on her. She's not even one of my bridesmaids. 
* Wanted to have a big wedding. I said no since both Jay and I wanted an intimate wedding with only family and close friends.

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Last week we were having another family gathering, and Lisa would not stop gushing about how perfect the wedding was going to be. Then she listed everything Jay and I picked out saying it was all HER idea. The more lies that came out of her mouth, I got angrier.

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I snapped and started to yell at her. I said how it wasn't her wedding, it was mine, and I could plan it however I pleased. I also said how he loved me and he would never love her. She burst into tears and ran upstairs to cry. I realized how hurtful the things I said was and went to go apologize, but my family stopped me. They told me I should just let her plan the wedding and let Jay go talk to her. I honestly felt really bad and tried to apologize, but no one would let me. Even Jay thinks I took it too far.

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Reddit, AITA?

Answer: yes


Question: Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This is a long one, tl;dr will be provided.

This actually happened last year, but it has been gnawing at me for some time and I figured posting here might help me put the issue to rest. For context, this occurred at the very beginning of the summer after I graduated high school in June. I had been dating my girlfriend at the time for about 4 months, the first 3 of which were wonderful. However, things started to take a turn for the worse towards the final days of the school year. My Ex has moderate to severe BPD, and this began to cause problems toward the end of the relationship. She told me about it relatively early on, and I made sure to be as supportive as possible. Since I’ve been told by friends that I’m a good listener and someone to count (at least I’d like to think so) I let her know that she could talk to me about anything if she felt the need. Although she was rather closed off at first, she rather quickly began to “vent” to me on a regular basis. These instances became more and more frequent and progressively got darker as time went on, and I honestly became less sympathetic. She would put down her friends and others close to her for what I would consider mild inconveniences, often exclaiming that “They know what they’re doing, if they don’t support me or ask me how I’m feeling if I look upset than how are they real friends?” I’m very much a person that likes to cut people slack. A few minutes late? No problem. Didn’t talk to me for very long at a party? All good, lots of people you need to attend to. But it seemed to me that she took these kinds of things as an affront, as if there were a setlist of requirements to being in her personal circle. Not only did this attitude seem to alienate her friends, but it also started to alienate me. 

By the last two weeks, I was rather drained and honestly waiting for a good time to have a serious conversation about our relationship. Everything culminated the night before we broke up. We were at her best friends graduation party with a shitload of mutual friends. I drove her there and spent the majority of the first few hours with her and some of the other couples. After some time and a few beers, I began to wander around and talk to people who went to our school who I had never gotten around to meeting before. Honestly, I was having a blast, and assumed she was with her friends feeling the same. When I returned about 30 min later she was gone, so I went to look for her and found her alone in a quiet portion of the house. She was rather distraught and didn’t tell me why, despite my asking. I quickly became fed up and told her I was going back to the party and she could join me if she wanted to which she declined. After drinking much more as the night went on, I caught back up with her when it was time for bed. In the middle of the night I drunkenly woke up to her hysterically crying next to me. When I asked what was wrong she said she knew I didn’t love her and that I was considering how she felt at all. I was kind of taken aback at first, but so drunk that I just told her we should talk about it in the morning. The next day I told her rather frankly that I thought she was an unessecarily negative person and that, as hard a burden as it is, mental illness is no excuse to treat people the way she had been.
I told her that she wasn’t being rational and she should seriously consider seeing a therapist about these emotions and that it could be seriously beneficial to he mental health. After some heated arguing I told her that it would be best to break up under the current circumstances and so we did. Last I heard she continues to maintain that I’m an emotionless rock who couldn’t understand her point of view, and sometimes I find myself believing her. Maybe I could have handled it better?  Let me have it.


Tl;dr Ex has serious emotional problems and negative habits that made me break up with her, she has said that I just couldn’t see her side and wasn’t supportive enough and too “cold and objective”

Answer:
no


