Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.

Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Long time lurker but had to create a temporary account to post since others know the main one.

Background: I live with my parents and I asked if I could have a dog and they said as long as I can afford him and his necessities and take care of him, they wouldn't mind. They emphasized the many facts that they will not help me in any way (buying stuff, dog-sitting, training, etc) which I didn't mind, I have always wanted a furbaby and I wanted the responsibility of training him to be the best doggo ever.

The first few months was all great, I learned so much and implemented everything I've learned from dog training courses, videos online, advice from friends who have dogs, all that good stuff. Since my doggo is a fairly large breed, it is more difficult to address some issues. I've tried positive reinforcement all the way but it only went so far.. so my private trainer suggested to use a pinch collar. I was hesitant to use this but after a few training sessions with this, the obedience changed for the better and the issues gradually got easier to deal with such as tugging during walks. The trainer suggested not to let him play with other dogs yet since he is still trying to master obedience.

So after the 6 months mark, my parents grew to love the dog soo much that they started spoiling him like crazy when I am not present. My mom would give him treats non-stop cause he would give those cute freaking puppy eyes.. My mom calls me cold-hearted because I would ask the dog to do tricks (obedience training) before I give him a reward. I want to enforce the training so he is not spoiled and has to earn his treats even if the command is something simple like "sit" or "down". My parents also love to walk him, but they don't enforce the pinch collar during walks. So the dog is tugging left and right, he's leading them everywhere, he's eating crap off the ground, he's plopping on the ground and refusing to leave, etc. 

At this point, this dog KNOWS who and when he can take advantage of - he would basically revert back to the behavior prior the pinch collar if hes around my parents. My parents would complain to me, asking me why he's acting this way and why he's such an angel when he's with me. They would compare my dog to others asking why can't I train him to be obedient like other dogs. I told them bluntly that it is because they don't enforce the training, and that I do. They still didn't listen to me after I told them this fact. 

I found out that my mom has been letting him play with other dogs on walks, even after I told her not to yet since we are still trying to master obedience. She lets him off-leash and he goes running towards other dogs.. I told her that I don't like if the dog is off-leash unless it's in an enclosed area. What if the other dog he's running towards is aggressive? What if the other dog's owner doesn't like dogs being off-leash? She then continues to call me crazy, and that I am making the dog unhappy. One of the main reason that I am overly upset right now is because my mom told me that the dog saw other dogs from the other side of the park and he went running towards them- leading to the fall of my mom and letting go cause of severe leash burn. I've tolerated so much regarding about the dog but my mom just continues not to listen and tells me that I'm being a bad owner and that I don't care about his well-being. I got so fed up that I regretfully yelled at my mom and now she's crying.. and giving me the silent treatment. All my dog training literally went down the toilet.

Sorry for the long post, but AITA for yelling at mom because I just want her to enforce the training so he doesn't go all crazy and takes advantage of her? I know she just wants the dog to be happy.
yes

Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hey, first time poster! I’ve just been having this dilemma internally recently. My best friend has an awful track record with guys. She ignores huge red flags and I am the one who is inevitably there for her when she gets hurt. She’s recently started seeing this guy and alarm bells are ringing in my head. On the first night we all hung out as a group he tried to kiss a mutual friend after we had all gone to bed. After grafting on my friend the entire night. She’s chosen to ignore this and all power to her. 

I know she’s going to get hurt again and I don’t think I can honestly be there for her again. It’s exhausting and I don’t have the mental capacity right now personally to cope with this. The only reason I feel like I might be the asshole if I was to tell her to not discuss this relationship with me is that I feel like friends are meant to be there unconditionally to support. 

Sooo, WIBTA? 
no

Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : It all started 5 years ago when I would stream for fun. We met and talked for a long time and hit it off. We became super good friends and would text everyday and that eventually turned into a relationship. At the time she was working and not in college and I was in the middle of careers. After being together for 1 year we were able to move in together where I live (Different state), she was living in LA beforehand. I we were here for about 1 year, she took a community college course and worked some while I was still finding a job. When I found one in LA I was able to move down into a house where some other of the same employee's lived (kind of like a dorm). She moved back with her parents and continued schooling. It became an online relationship somewhat as our schedules did not meet that well and neither of us had cars to easily get to eachother. We texted a lot during the day about what we are doing and always looked forward to the future. This continued for around 3 years, we were able to meet during breaks and sometimes have 1 whole month of living together. I actually have messaged "Goodmorning love" or something along those lines alongside "Goodnight love" for over 4 years.
 
 
3 Months ago my career took a big turn, we still talked and got to meet occasionally and definitely were still in love, but I was not sure if I was going to be able to stay within LA. 1.5 months ago I had to move away, she was there the final week with me during this time. I told her I am going to do everything I can to make myself successful, she only had 1-2 years left in school and we would finally get rid of this online relationship. I messaged a lot about what I was doing and would sometimes ask about her. On december 14th she messaged saying how she loved me and misses me so much, she woke up at 4am and could not sleep, she wished to cuddle me and feel safe because she really enjoyed being with me. By december 18th she was messaging less and less, and told me that she was depressed and starting to ask me questions like "Don't you ever wonder if we were not together?, if we would be more successful?" I am a pretty analytical person and said no i dont have those thoughts because it's impossible to know, but i definitely am happy I am with her. I would say goodmorning love, goodnight love, every day (for years as i mentioned), she did too. She stopped at december 18th completely. She would say "morning". I would tell her I want to help her feel better, I wish I could hug and kiss her to make her feel better. She enjoys messages about what I am currently doing. I would send pictures too because she liked that too. She would never respond really, I would ask how she was and said "the same, i am tired.", she said "I am tired of everything. I don't want to do anything in life." I told her we are both in bad places right now but let's stick through it and get through this. Love her miss her etc. Send some pics of myself, tell her hey you were going to the gym not long ago and you stopped, I bet it would make you feel better! This was basically the story up until yesterday. Last week she said she wanted to break up over a message. I said hey let's talk about this, we have had low low's before but always came out of it. We have been together very long and message every day for years and I believe we can make it better. She in the past has always talked about wanting to talk via phone / comms. I would agree but never get around to it. Not that I would put it off, in fact if she ever asked I would of said yes! But she never, ever did. I would need to be the one to ask, if I did not ask then no call happened. She would get upset at me for not calling. I say hey let's not make rash decisions, less than one month ago you said you loved me so much and you said you have depression right now. I want to help. She said she didn't want to hold me back from anything in life and said goodbye. I messaged the next day asking for a phone call because 5 years of relationship ended over a message did not sit well. And what she said was not true, I worked hard to make it so we would have a bright future together. She said that from my constant messages about wanting to call and I am confused that I was pissing her off and she wanted time to think. I said okay and left one final message because I just wanted to let her know that her thoughts of me being held back were wrong, that we have been through rough times, and that I know I could of been a better boyfriend by giving her those calls and was willing to do it now more than ever. It was the biggest time where I was like holy shit I love her lots and this is happening. I believed it would be okay. She replied back 2 days later after those thoughts saying she is done. In my messaged I actually said not 5 years and she pointed that out which seems that she was offended. (I said 4+ years). She said I "had 5 years" and that "she is tired", that I "had my chance but it's over", and "in the future maybe we will meet again, but right now I am not willing to try again with you", alongside an sorry and don't message me for a while. I was shocked.. how did this happen so fast? I pleaded for a phone call because I was confused, she made it seem that the past 5 years were hell. I had many great times with her but from that final message it made it seem that I messed up. After some pleading about asking for the call, and some back and forth about how she said I talked about myself when messaging her and not asking about her. (I thought she just enjoyed listening about what I am doing because she asked me to tell her...) She eventually said to completely stop before she blocks me and that me messaging more would ruin any tiny chance of the future. I am still young and immature but this was really hard on me. I will continue trying to be successful in my life but this was my first really long relationship and I didn't expect less than a month ago that I would be here today. I could of done better but I felt I wasn't the worst and we both could of made it work. I honestly don't know what advice I am asking for here, I feel very lost and confused. I won't be the type of guy who comes crawling back in a week, I know how she is and what is done is done. I just have very recent memories of her and it was wonderful and so recent, I don't know how things turned so quick.
 
 
Just scrolling through some of past messages in december there were messages about how she appreciated me sending messages and pictures during her hard time, and that she wont respond sometimes not because she doesnt want to but doesnt have the energy to. She also said that she was planning to get rid of the people in her life that won't help her grow as a person and wasn't afraid to cut ties with anyone (including me) to do so. And that she appreciated me trying to help her through her rough time and she hopes I continue to do so. And at the end that she hopes that I can continue being in her life and helping her grow.... I just don't understand how it got to this point still.
 
Any advice I guess is appreciated. I am still in shock over this series of events, I felt the relationship was not going this poorly.



yes

