Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HYPOTHETICAL. POST : Here's the thing. We're both in our 20s but I'm a few years older and was never into the party/drinking thing to begin with. I don't really get the point of getting blackout drunk. He's not super into it either, but he will on average have a gaming and drinking or bar/club night with friends or roommates maybe once a week (depending, sometimes more sometimes nothing for 2-3 weeks) 

My issue is, he will almost always get REALLY drunk. The 'I'm not sure what happened last night, I woke up in my toilet, with puke in the sink , or in my bed covered in puke' level of drunk, at least half the time . This included a 'fun' night where he then later  told me he thought he kissed one of his female friends. 

He goes out with people who are (some anyway) much heavier drinkers (and he's a skinny guy who sometimes forgets to eat). One of his friends recently had to be picked up by an ambulance after just lying in the street, too drunk to walk home. It's a group of 21-28 year old guys (legal drinking age is 18 btw so he's been legal to drink for years now) and I don't expect him to not drink.. But we don't live near each other (long distance) and I'll get a bunch of 'help me' 'I'm so sick' 'I don't know where I am' texts at 2 or 3am... And, for example today, its now 3:30 pm and still no word from him after texting me that last night...

AITA if I try and talk to him about it or make a big deal out of it? On one hand he's an adult and I'm not his mother... And it's not a 'happens constantly' thing... But I'm tired of worrying whether or not he got home safe during/after he has a night out
[EX A]: yes

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I (18M) asked my father if I could take my vyvanse late (5pm) today to finish some schoolwork I have to do. He asked me if I was planning to go out, which I didn't, so he agreed to letting me take it on basis of finishing my schoolwork.

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I didn't plan on going out because a friend of mine was supposed to come over tonight. He knew this from days ago, and let me take the medication even after I clarified the intention of me staying in was because my friend planned on coming over. As soon as I go back to my room my friend texts me saying there is a possibility of having to cancel our plans. I figured I didn't want to stay home all night idly (because the work I have to finish can be done relatively quickly if I apply myself to it, which I plan to do). I went back to his room and asked if I could end up going out IF my friend did not come over. I barely managed to finish the sentence before he began hollering at me about being ridiculous for not keeping an agreement for more than 10 minutes. I asked him, extremely calmly, to not yell at me for asking for this on basis that I had agreed to not go out because I expected my plans to go through, however felt it'd be fair to establish a backup plan given the uncertainty. 

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I was annoyed by his reaction because of the excessive yelling because my family is currently undergoing a therapy process which mainly revolves around being kinder to each other (my family's extremely dysfunctional/aggressive, especially when disagreeing with each other, and everybody basically reached their limits, so we collectively decided to seek out professional help) and that went completely out the window without much build-up or an extensive argument (as is common). I understand that he is in the right to be annoyed over me suddenly contradicting the terms I had agreed to in order to take the medication. I also understand that given my history of drug use (which he was fine with) and currently undergoing treatment for Bipolar Disorder II he is right to be concerned about me taking amphetamine-based medicine and going out, therefore implying taking other substances such as alcohol, which he is not opposed to but prohibited me from engaging in recreational drug use (admittedly I never was the most obedient teenager, so it's sensible for him to be suspicious).

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 I truly had no intention of drinking, smoking or taking anything because I did drink some beers yesterday and am feeling quite exhausted, but simply wanted to meet up with my friends and meet new people tonight, but that's not something he'd believe in. I just think it was a bit unreasonable for him to get furious and attacking my integrity/reliability over me asking if he'd allow my plans to go out change given original circumstances for agreeing to his terms changed. If this was a matter of more serious commitment, I'd understand him. He still argues that he's allowed to be this angry. I really don't know if I was wrong to just ask.

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TL;DR: Asked dad to take meds to work. He said only if I wouldn't go out. Agreed because I had confirmed plans for a friend to visit me. Friend said plans MAY fail. Asked dad if I could go out should they failed. He got extremely angry, yelled and attacked my integrity. Family currently taking therapy to work on treating each other without so much aggression, which he maintains to not have breached any promises to adhere to it.

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[EX A]: no

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Every two months they do random drug tests for my part of the company. I’ve been here for over two years and have been drug tested at least 10 times. 

I don’t do anything. I don’t smoke weed, drink regularly, pills, etc. 

I have three theories. My first theory is that they think I’m on drugs because I am kind of a skinny dude. I just have a small frame so I weigh less than average. Shoulders aren’t very broad kind of thing. People sometimes assume I am on drugs when I’m on the lighter side of my typical weight fluctuations.  I can understand that. 

My second one is: when I was on second shift I worked with one other guy in the entire place. I was always pulled to get drug tested. One time the guy I worked with had a small accident on the fork truck that required a drug test. It was a Friday evening and he went and told the supervisor in the other building. Supervisor said he’d just call in the drug testing person Monday and do it then. The guy I worked with was like “I bet if it was OP you’d make him go now wouldn’t you?” And the supervisor was like “yeah, he just seems weird man.” Guy I worked with told him that he works with me every day and it’s just me and him and he knows for a fact I’m not on drugs. I am kind of quiet to people I don’t talk to much. 

Third: After drug testing me several times, they want people who can piss clean so it doesn’t make the company look bad. They hire a lot of dope heads sometimes and I’ve heard if you have so many people test positive that the company can get investigated or fined. 

I guess it just upsets me. I know they didn’t really like me at first. I’m not from the area and it’s a different culture here in the south than it was in the Midwest. I don’t really fit in and don’t have much in common with a lot of the people here so that kind of hinders what I can talk about with people. Plus I’m from a bigger city and like its just not really normal to sit around and bullshit all the time. I’ve got stuff to do and I don’t have time to sit around and BS all day. Nobody did that back where I’m from, but everyone does it here. 

I just feel like I’m constantly being judged for my appearance here. One of my supervisors thought it was kind of BS too. He’s from Florida and there’s a ton of overweight people around here. So it’s like if someone is a thinner / healthier weight it’s like everyone assumes that person is on drugs. 

I’ve always been self-conscious about my weight and it just hurts my feelings I guess. I’m not an unhealthy skinny. I mean I’m skinny but I’m not emancipated or malnourished looking. Just a smaller dude. 

So AITA for being upset that I constantly get pulled for ‘random’ drug tests? There’s people that have been here 5x longer than I have and have never been drug tested. 


[EX A]:
yes

