Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

For a little backstory, my gf and I have been together for almost 4 years, living together for 3. We are both 20 with full time jobs but she doesn't have her drivers license yet. For a while now she's made a habit of going up to her grandmother's house in a city that is a little more than half an hour away to see her and her mom.  I have tried putting my self in her shoes but I just can't understand this. She says it's so she can practice driving but I know she only does that for a couple hours at most. There used to be a time where the normal weekend for me would be her mom picking her up from work on friday and then her staying the ENTIRE weekend until I have to pick her up monday night from work. It's taken a serious toll on me as we both work a lot so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together during the weekdays. I told her how this makes me feel and she's stopped going for that long a while ago, but now this weekend she wants to leave to go to her 6 y.o cousin's bday party today (saturday) and then stay all the way thru sunday night and have me pick her up again on monday. I'm really trying not to be a controlling boyfriend and try to understand her POV but it is just infuriating to me that she always does this. We have a home. We have a place to live. You do not need to be going over there to spend the nights like you're an adult not a little kid. AITA?
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I had to cut this down a lot.

New Year's 2017, my ex (A) broke up with me right before a party we planned. They broke up with me with their boyfriend (B) in the room (polyamory), even though I begged A not to involve him. At the time, it was because I was clingy and overly jealous of B which I agree was an issue.

A month before, they and our mutual friends C and D all made a group behind my back "for a safe space away from me to talk about my issues". They never told me what issues they had.

B and his friends were shit talking me at school and my sadness turned into anger. I was in a server to talk to other friends and move on, and my first overly questionable thing happens. I was in our vent channel, and I drew me stabbing B to death. B came to me later about how I threatened to kill him. I was confused on how he found it, since I shared that where he shouldn't have seen it. I found out that C was leaking the logs of that chat.

A B and C would continue to vent about me on Vent (a social media app for talking about your emotions) with aggressive posts about how "abusive" I was, until about April 2017. As far as I knew.

Between then and now, we had a few good conversations. I still had anxiety seeing them.

April 2018: I got a job at a hardware store, and it turns out A was hired the day I came in for orientation. I had an anxiety attack. I vented about it and told my friends about it.

Later, A informed me that them, B, C, and D moved in together. A, B, and C started dating.

I was discussing plans w/ D to get my pal Z out of his impoverished home, but D went radio silent on the both of us. However, he was constantly posting art with the rest of the house. 

A week later, I get a desperate call from Z.

D broke up with Z because "he was an abuser", and now everyone in that house is fuckin. I. Was. Angry. They pulled the exact same shit on Z that they did me.

B messages me, saying I'm "getting myself involved with someone who will strip me of all my money". I call his BS, and he starts sending me screenshots of Z and B saying "shit" about me. All the things said in those screenshots were things Z's issues that have been handled.

I check his Tumblr, and it turns out he was talking about my vents.

I proceed to make a vent that says, "How can you say I'm not over it when you guys are stalking me?" Then brand new accounts made that day comment, made by A and B to rant at me. Are you kidding me?

Z and I start looking through the accounts and they all were talking shit for a long time now.

It became a war, me flinging their hypocrisies and questions at them, while they sling insults.

It came to a climax of me posting a joke OC on my deviantART, making fun of B's horrible art, all of them getting engaged after a month, and their behavior. B sent me death threats.

I reported the death threats to work.

All of them have been posting shit since saying I'm a dumb lazy whore.

To put it simply, AITA for retaliating?
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I’ve asked a couple people in real life (the thing outside the internet) what they think, but I know my age/socio-economic/political stances have brought me to friends who think similarly to me, and therefore would not be able to give me a non-biased opinion.

Background:

My best best friend in the whole wide world does not vaccinate her kids. She was first turned onto this by the “Mommy Group” at her church.

Her church/religious background: my friend was raised in a cult and unfortunately bears the scars of someone introduced to ultra-extreme conservativism at a young age. Even though she fled the cult, she gravitated to a man who made her join his religion to be with him (publicly, I might add as they’d been sleeping together for a while). She gave up dreams to be a doctor for this guy and dropped out of college and used her college savings on a wedding.

Although I was sad about this, and even a down right bitch at times, I’ve learned that friendship is about staying supportive through the hurdles. We’ve had gaps in our friendship before from fights that devastated us and it would be too difficult to do this again.

The Issue:

The church has “Elders” who manage the church. Enter 7 nondescript aging white guys. The “Elders” (not kidding, that’s their name), have women and male groups split up and it’s clear that while the men talk business and the future of the church, the women have been overcome by anti-vaccine propaganda. It’s very clear that the “Elders” are not involved nor concerned about the stuff in the women’s group, and I really don’t think they know the levels of insanity this group is at right now. 

I’m so so tempted to write to the pastor, as my friend (who is very young and impressionable) really doesn’t do anything her pastor won’t tell her to do. She would be personally offended if I said anything to her about her kids. As much as I’m disappointed in my friend, I’m mostly pissed off at the mommy group for brainwashing the young moms. My friend went through post pardum depression and I feel like they knew how to exactly sink their claws into her when she was so vulnerable. 

Her kids are truly wonderful and I get upset every time I see a kid with measles because it’s so preventable. A ton of moms now don’t vaccinate and they work together on getting paperwork finalized for religious exemption or they pull their kids from school to home school them. 

I worry for her and her beautiful family, but I really want to give a fucking wake up call to the pastor who does not have any idea this is being taught in his church.

I feel like I’m obsessing or being controlling, and I can handle the honest truth as this has been on my mind for some time. I unfortunately grew up ultra religious and I know the pain that comes from that may make me more upset than the average person. 

TL;DR: friend’s church has a mommy group that is teaching anti-vaccine propaganda to young, new moms without the churches knowledge. I would like to write an anonymous letter to their pastor to tell him about the uprising of anti-vaxx propaganda from their women’s group.

Hoping for clarity 

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