Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.
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Question: Merry Christmas Everyone!

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I guess I am writing this to validate my predicument for calling, and continuing to call, the police on my noisy neighbors. A little background, we both live in homes separated by a street, so there is roughly 50-70 feet between our homes. The neighbor in question has a really good base system in their home, which is the problem. When they crank their music up, I can hear it very clearly. So clearly that it is louder than my TV, My Dishwasher, and washing machine; the majority of the time, it can be heard over all three combined. They play this music randomly all throughout the day, sometimes in the morning(7am+), the afternoon, the evening (5-8PM), and late at night (11PM+). I've tried noise cancelling headphones, ear buds (32db noise reduction), and even my gun range headphones, but nothing drownes the noise out. 

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I finally got fed up with listening to their music in October 2018, so I walked over to tell them to turn it down. The nighbor answred the door and told me to get bent. Frustrated, I walked back to the house and let it slide. It happened again twice more, where the music was too loud and I walked over to tell them to turn it down, only the second and third time, I was greated by a different person who seemed nicer and was willing to comply. 

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The problem is, I am not willign to walk over there everyday to tell them to keep the noise down, so I finally got the police involved when the incident happened on the 4th time. I ended up having to call the police 3 more times for them to have a car in the area while the music was playing. the music then stopped for 2 weeks, but it has returned yet again (surprise).

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Since there are no "pieceful times" in my county, I can technically call the police and submit a noise complaint at any time, which I plan to do (when it is too loud). Am I being a dick for resorting to this extreme measure to have piece and quiet, given the volume of the music and the space that separates our homes? Also, after so many complaints, the police will start issuing $1,000.00 fines. 

Answer: answerable


Question: I normally want neighbours to resolve conflict among ourselves. 

The history
My neighbour downstairs bangs on my floor aka his ceiling once or twice a month presumably because I’m making too much noise. My neighbour also smokes cigarettes. It’s unclear whether he’s allowed to, I choose to give him the benefit of the doubt as it’s possible he was grandfathered in before the no smoking policy. Whenever I smell smoke wafting up into my suite I simply close my patio door or bedroom window and it prevents stinking up my suite.

The incident 
I was assembling IKEA furniture at 5PM. I hear a ton of banging on the floor. I adjust to work more quietly and finish entirely within 20 minutes. 

The fallout 
The next day I come home to a mild smell of cigarette smoke in the entrance to my apartment. I see an envelope on the floor under my doors mail slot, and when I pick it up it reeks of cigarette smoke. I open it and read a strongly word letter from the tenant downstairs, complaining of loud banging at 5PM the day before, threatening to contact the tenancy board and pursue further action of this nature. I put the letter in a zip lock to contain the smell. My apartment smells nice and my air freshener doesn’t need competition. 

My take 
This dude is over sensitive to noise, irritable in general and gross. I wait on it a few days and think on how to respond.

I decided:
- I really don’t want to interact with this person. It will be very very unpleasant between the predictable stink and the likelihood of a unpleasant exchange. 
- instead, after a week, I wrote a note to the landlord saying I normally ignore the eccentric irritability of the person downstairs but now that they are leaving stinky letters in my entrance I have to address it. 
- I included the stinky letter in the ziplock bag for the landlord to read and presumably smell.
- I told the landlord I will be ignoring this tenant going forward as best I can. I also mentioned that my neighbour to my right has never complained of noise and even told me he likes living next to me because I’m not loud or obnoxious and as a bonus I’m not a smoker.
- my call to action with the landlord was that he simply ask the tenant downstairs to be more tolerant of noise during daytime hours and to cease putting anything in my mail slot.

Judge me 

Am I the asshole for:
- avoiding the tenant downstairs entirely and just tattling to the landlord
- avoiding conflict not because I’m afraid but because I just genuinely think the tenant downstairs is stinky and passive aggressive and his letter gave me all the insight I needed on both. I judged that no good could come of engaging him.



Answer: answerable


Question: For context, I am 5'4 and weigh 120 lbs. I think this was the highest weight I've ever had.

I've had a past full of people telling me that no one would ever date an ugly person like me. I got more and more comments about my appearance, not weight-wise but facial things like scars, acne, my skin tone (I'm Indian brown even though majority of people around this city are Mexican), my face shape, etc. I had a very fast puberty, basically woke up in a similar form of a different body. I suspect the growth spurt started around 3rd grade as I got confused as to looking way older than I am. I have stretch marks, scars, acne, etc. The thing that started to trigger negative thoughts were the clothing I wore.

My parents get me sizes way more bigger than I am, and at first I thought it was because I was growing in height. I later found out that it was because they expected me to get fatter.

They made comments that I was lazy, I would get obese, I would end up in the hospital, they'd have to get XXXXL clothes for me one day, etc.

These added up with the comments that if I washed my face more I'd get light like my mom, if I washed my face more I wouldn't have this ugly face, etc.

On my 11th birthday I threw up the birthday food because I was upset about my weight. And the cycle slowly turned from Bulimia to Anorexia. Luckly, I managed to stop before I weighed less than 99 lbs.

Recently thoughts of eating and my body has spiked to a low because I was petrified what I'd look like at my prom photos. I kept these thoughts secret as I thought I'd get over it.

One day my parents talked about how lazy I was and I'm gonna end up like this woman on TV (she was morbidly obese).

I fucking broke down. I told them (everything I just said above) and if they wanted a thin daughter than don't give me food at all. Was ITA?

Answer:
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