Detailed Instructions: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
Q: Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Guys I need help. Am I the asshole and if I am, what can I do to fix this.
And sorry for my spelling.

Back story:
A friend of mine got into a shit show and we said she could come live with us as she had no place to go, and is now living with me, my husband and my 2 daughters. I'm currently on crutches so pretty much useless to the world, because if meds I cannot drive and this person has been my saving grace as much as we have been hers.

Now the story:
This flatmate had written a cleaning plan up as a "this is what we did maybe it will help you" kind of thing last night and placed it on the fridge,

This afternoon I was reading it and noticed there was a "don't spend anything". Now, this flatmate was, as far as I was aware, asleep so naturally I asked my husband to see if he had any idea 
Apparently, the way I asked was not the best way to ask and my husband has told me it sounded like I was mocking it. I was a tad offended at the "do not spend" as I've been trying really hard to make shit work money wise, and while it isn't the flatmates ideal, it works.

Anyway, the flatmate was not asleep and heard everything and 5 minutes later stormed into the kitchen, ripped the paper down and stormed off.

I was also making dinner at the time.
Now her dinner hasn't been eaten, she's been in her room and not speaking to me.
Fine what ever.


I apologized via text as I didn't want to desterb her and got no response.

3 hours later I asked if I could enter her room and she said I could. So I went in, asked if I could sit and she said yes, then apologized again.

Shes throwing massive shade and saying I was talking behind her back and that what I did was super hurtful.
So I apologized again and asked her the questions I was asking my husband. She gave short, 1 word answers and so I explained why I was confused and asked for clarity.

She said next time you have a problem say it to my f$(-ing face.


I walked out. I did the best I could. I've now slammed myself into my room and gone to Reddit for help...

So am I the asshole? What can I do? Help!!


Tldr asked husband questions about what flatmate wrote because I thought flatmate was sleeping.
Flatmate was not sleeping and got super passive aggressive. Help.

A:
yes