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Q: Ok reposing, this got removed because I didn’t format correctly, sorry!  

So I live in a different part of the country than my family.  They live pretty far away and I only see them a couple times per year.  A while back I was visiting during the Christmas holiday.  I’d taken a couple weeks off of work to spend some time with my family. 

I was chilling at my parents’ house and looking forward to a day of shopping, eating at my favorite restaurant and other fun relaxing things.  

This family member calls the house and asks somebody to watch her 3 year old for the day.  She had to work and her MIL had backed out.  They said no, they also had to work.  She asked them to ask me.  Didn’t ask me herself, had somebody else do it.  I said no, that I had plans, and went back to my coffee, thinking that would be the end of it.

Nope.  The next few hours I get messages like 

“Really.  REALLY?!  You can’t watch a 3 year old for a few hours?”

“She has a car seat.  You can literally take her anywhere you go.”

When I didn’t answer she started posting to Facebook.  Stuff like “I can’t believe how selfish people are.”  “I have to call in to work because some people can’t possibly take a minute from their busy schedules to watch [toddler], Hope I don’t get fired.” “Wow.  Just wow.” “You’d think family would be there for you.”  “Must be nice not to have any responsibilities.”  Just posting all day.  Instead of looking for alternate, more appropriate child care she blew up Facebook.  

It was never brought up again, but I do get the sense that she holds this against me.  She drops a lot of “must be nice” type comments.  And I haven’t talked to the rest of our family about it beyond “yeah I think those Facebook posts were about me.  Oh well.”  I’m pretty sure they think I’m selfish anyway so I guess what’s one more thing?  I dropped it because I don’t see my family often and I don’t want to spend that limited time arguing.  Nobody’s brought it up to me.  

Anyway, AITA? I honestly could have cancelled my plans and watched her kid.  I just didn’t want to.  I didn’t feel like I should have to, and besides that I don’t even live there.  She’s also really bad about expecting every family member to be free on call childcare...and tbh I don’t want to set a precedent where she thinks she can rely on me when I’m in town.
A: 
not babysitting a family member's toddler on my vacation