instruction:
In this task you are given an anecdote. You must find out whether the anecdote is something the author has done or is considering doing. Label the instances as "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and label them as "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future.
question:
I was never really a cat person.  I grew up with dogs and personally prefer them over cats.  I got my cat kind of through an ex.  She lives in a small city with a lot of stray cats and used to leave food outside for them, she knew their personalities and would name a few of them.  As I was leaving her place one night one of the cats approached me.  She got super excited because that one had always been super timid and stayed away from everyone.  But it started rubbing up against me, letting me pet her, letting me hold her, etc.  The ex basically talked me into taking the thing home with me, which I did because the cat had some kind of connection with me.

That week I brought her to the vet, got her shots, got her spayed, and got medicine for fleas and worms.  She was also very thin when I got her, so I made sure she had good food and occasionally wet food.  It's been over two years now and I am just completely apathetic to this animal.  Look I have been a good pet owner.  She goes to the vet regularly, I buy her toys and play with her, I even bought her a 6' tall cat perch thing that she likes a lot.  Her litterbox is always clean, she always has good food (never bought the super cheap stuff), and I make sure to spend time giving her attention.  But I just have no emotional connection to this animal.

I've always been an animal lover too, people that abuse animals make me fucking sick and I still can't watch My Dog Skip.  But I'm also just tired of being tied to this animal.  I'm tired of sweeping cat litter, and getting rid of the odors, of cat hair and things getting knocked off tables.  I'm really just tired of taking care of an animal I feel nothing towards.  I honestly think if I had an animal that I actually loved, I wouldn't have a problem doing any of this.

There's also a part of me that thinks she would probably be better someplace where the owner actually loves her.  But I'm also pretty sure the cat has already bonded with me pretty closely, and she's still very timid around anyone else.  So I'm not sure if giving her up wouldn't even be best for the cat at this point.  I was going to give her up within a few months of getting her, but felt super guilty about it and decided not to.  So here I am again, questioning my judgement.
answer:
HYPOTHETICAL


question:
I (20f) live with two roommates, Mary (22), who is rarely around and whom I don’t know very well, and Mia (20), who is one of my best friends. Mia has a boyfriend, Mark (23) who I’m also good friends with. However, Mark is at my apartment all the time, sometimes when Mia isn’t even here (he has a key). He cooks, showers, and does multiple loads of laundry here. 

In theory, this would all even out because Mia would do all this at Mark’s apartment as well, but that rarely happens. So, Mark just uses our utilities and shared food without paying anything, and it’s started to bother me a bit. I’m also a little annoyed that I almost never get to hang out in the common spaces of my own apartment because they are always there. This also means that I have to wait to use the kitchen/bathroom until he is done a lot of the time. They are also pretty loud until they go to bed and start right up again in the morning. I’m also uncomfortable that I can hear them being physical all the time.

However, I have people over sometimes and it can get kind of loud, and so does Mary. So, Mia would probably bring that up if I tried to talk about Mark. And maybe it would be overstepping to try to tell her when she can have people over. But I feel like it’s a different situation because he basically lives here. I just don’t know if it’s enough of a problem that I wouldn’t be overreacting to talk to her about it. And I don’t want to ruin friendships over something that isn’t that big of an issue. Would I be the asshole if I told her he can’t always be here and that it feels like he’s living here for free?


answer:
HYPOTHETICAL


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I'm in my bed awake at 3:37 AM as we speak because my next door neighbor has woken me up, again. He does this, on both week days and weekends, by coming home (seemingly wasted) with friends and shouting in the hallway until they get to his place. Even once they're there, he's so loud that I can hear him through the concrete walls of our building. Every time, I can kiss a productive workday the next day goodbye. 

The work thing is not the worst part. I also have Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy, with which I get seizures only if I am sleep deprived. Awakening startled from sleep is the #1 trigger for a seizure. But, he doesn't know this. I've actually never even spoken to this person, I just pass him in the hallway, at which point he avoids my gaze. Tried to be friendly but feel like he doesn't give me the opportunity. 

Apparently I'm a wuss and afraid of confrontation, so I left him a note on his door that said exactly the following: "Please be considerate of your neighbors when coming home after 12am. Have a lot of early mornings. No hate, just would appreciate it. Thank you :)" 

And yes, I did draw a smiley face lol. I really didn't want this to get ugly with someone I have to live next to. 

Then I popped some meditation music into some headphones. But THEN, I hear him THROUGH the music I'm playing (again, in headphones) and take them off, and hear him saying "....and she tells ME to keep it down?!"...among other undetectable things. He was pissed, and I was shocked. If I received a note like that, I think my reaction would have been "omg, I had no idea I was being loud, I'm so sorry, I'm mortified." Instead, he's angry. At ME. 

I'm also not sure what he's talking about when he says that, I'm an extremely boring neighbor and don't even have people over because I live in a tiny studio apartment, lol. I try so hard to be undetectable. 

I actually thought I had left him the note after people had left as to not embarrass him, but it turns out there was still one person still left over. As they left, he made a point of shouting even louder in the hallway. "BYE!.....BYE AGAIN!....TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME!.....GOOODNIGHT!...."

?? This is a child, right? I mean, we all make mistakes, but if I found out I was waking people up, I would apologize. Instead, looks like I just made it worse for myself. Am I the asshole for leaving him this note?
answer:

HISTORICAL


