Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

[Q]: I started work at a Big 4 public accounting (biggest in our city) firm 3 weeks ago as a Year 1 tax staff, in a relatively small (but still busy) office in the Midwest.  I also just moved here in late Dec to be with my bf, and am also studying for the CPA exam, with BEC scheduled for March 2nd. It's my first full-time job, and I'm getting situated to the long hours and work lifestyle of public accounting. 

The hours haven't been crazy yet, but as expected my schedule is packed for all of March - about 60 hrs/week, which probably translates to 70-ish hours actually spent working, since I'm new (so that's Monday-Saturday, with some Sundays).  My work won't die down until early April when returns are due, and I've let my family and bf know months in advance that I will most likely be too busy to do much more than work and sleep. 

My dad and I have a pretty good relationship; he called me earlier today, to let me know that he's expecting to bring my grandpa's ashes back from China in early March, and asked me to fly down in mid-March for the burial of his ashes.  Grandpa had passed away in April last year, and my dad has wanted to bring him back for a proper burial since then so I know this weighs heavily on him. 

My dad really values family, and loves me and my siblings like crazy.  He tried to encourage me by saying my brother and sister already have plans to fly in, but my brother is in law school and sister works for a Silicon Valley company, so they both have much more flexibility than I do.  

I pretty much told him flat-out that it's really unlikely I'll be able to take a few days off (fly in Friday, leave and go back on Saturday) to come down for his burial.  He asked me to bring it up with my seniors but I am reluctant to do so - it's my first busy season, and it's widely understood you shouldn't take time off during busy hours. 

AITA for not wanting to go back home for my grandpa's burial? 

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[A]: answerable


[Q]: Hi, guys! I find myself in a pretty shitty situation and I'm not entirely sure if I am being an asshole or not. Here's the situation I find myself in.

First a little backstory...

I met my ex-boyfriend at my then thirteen year old sister's summer soccer league tournament (she turned fourteen in November). He was a few months from turning eighteen and was becoming a high school senior. I was just starting high school toward the end of August and had just turned fifteen a couple of weeks before. His game ended an hour before I met him and my sister's team took the field. He came over and introduced himself. He said about his sister playing on the same team as my sister and we struck up a friendship right there while watching our younger siblings play. We ended up seeing each other on a regular basis after that. We started the school year in August and we really didn't see bunches of each other besides at lunch when we'd sit at a table together but we'd get together after our respective practices (his being soccer and me for cheerleading and softball on the weekend).

We kept this up for the next four months where we'd do stuff together and be boyfriend/girlfriend. Eventually I'd lose my virginity to him thinking he was such a great guy. Granted we would fight...but it was nothing too serious and any issues we did have would be resolved pretty quickly.

That would change around Christmastime...

A few days before Christmas break, we were sitting in the cafeteria eating lunch when he said to me about having to go to another city in our state to visit family for Christmas. I told him that it was fine and that we were having family over from out of state and out of the country (Japan) for Christmas. We agreed to do our gift exchange on Friday night and I'd sleepover at his place. We did the exchange Saturday morning before they left to head north. I got him the game Pro Evolution Soccer for his PS4 because he had said about wanting to play that since he's played so much FIFA and he wanted to try PES. He got me a couple of cheaper necklaces and a bunch of cheaper bracelets and anklets (some of which I wear on a pretty regular basis) which I thought was so cute. I left his place about an hour and a half before they were supposed to leave. We texted when he got to where he was going later in the day and we texted and talked on other social media clear up to Christmas evening. The 26th we didn't get to talk because we were busy with other family and I was busy talking with my cousins that I never met before from Japan. The girls and I were up until 3 in the morning talking and drinking 7up and sparkling grape juice in the spa. The morning of the 27th, I didn't wake up until 10 in the morning which is late for me. My texts had blown up asking me if I had seen what was going on, on facebook, twitter, instagram and snapchat. I didn't know what they were talking about. So I looked at my socials...and my now ex broke up with me over social media. Not only did he break up with me...he blocked me on all the social medias I had him friended on. I texted him and he told me that he didn't want to hook up with me anymore and wanted to hook up with a new sophomore cheerleader on the varsity squad. I was devestated. I cried and was sad for several days. I finally started feeling better around New Year's Eve and even went for a shopping spree with my cousins and sisters and I even got dreadlocks! January 2nd rolled around and we had to go back to school. I was glad to see my friends from school and just wanted to get back into the swing of school. My ex tried to talk to me several times but I kept ignoring him on the advice of some of my closest friends and my eldest sister. Finally, Friday, he decided to confront me asking me what my fucking problem was and why I was being such a bitch and not talking to him. I told him that I didn't want to be associated with someone who only decides to break up with someone over the internet instead of doing it face-to-face. He called me a bitch and an asshole. I continued to not talk to him for the rest of the day.

Am I the asshole for not talking to him after how he broke up with me?
[A]: answerable


[Q]: So basically, I am a first time dad (22) living with my wife Nat who is also a first time parent (21) and my beautiful baby Amy who's barely a month old. Now, my greatest passions in life were playing soccer (since i was once a semiprofessional player in high school) and playing xbox online (big time halo and gears fan). But now I really love my baby, she's very small and I feel like i owe my life to her. I enjoy sleeping besides her, feeding her and carrying her. I work full time (since i dropped out of college) so I stopped playing xbox and soccer and that was WAY before my daughter was born and during the time Nat was pregnant. I'm not the world's greatest dad, but I do my best to help Nat out as much as possible, I clean Amy's bottles, prepare her things for bath time and to other things like the dishes and laundry. Throughout the day, when I feel that I'm finished with my daily chores and when Amy is sleeping and once Nat is relaxing I'll try to workout because my inactivity has made me gain weight and now I'm not even the shadow of the fit player I used to be. And on my days off at night I'll try to crack some skulls online. However, lately Nat has been saying I play too much and that I prefer playing xbox over Amy. When you play online, you can't simply pause and yet, I'll drop anything I'm doing to carry Amy. She also says I'm selfish for working out and that I should do that when Amy's older. She even told my mom (40) about it and she agreed so now both of them have made me feel bad. There's a soccer tournament next month at my office and I've thought about dropping out since I haven't played in a  long time and apparently can't train nor work out. Have I been that wrong all this time?
[A]:
not answerable


