Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.
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Question: Today, my college had a lock down drill. They didn't tell us what time the drill would be, just that it would be today. I hate lock down drills with a dying passion. I hate being herded like cattle to a room with no windows that I can't escape. I hate feeling like i'm in elementary school again. I think lock down drills are degrading and I hate them. I'm an adult and I feel like I should get a choice. So I planned to sit in my car during the drill. 




The drill happened at noon. In between my 10:30AM and 12:15 class. So I walked out the front door towards my car. On the way to my car I was confronted by what seemed like a barrage of security staff and quality of life management members telling me to go back to room whatever. To which I said "no thank you." I didn't get in trouble or anything, but it seemed like the staff members were pretty peeved that no one was taking it seriously. They even sent out a strongly worded email informing us that we should be taking the drills way more seriously.



I feel like I know what to do if there were an actual school shooter. I do feel moderately bad for whatever staff members were being graded on the performance of the school. But I still feel like I did nothing wrong because, as I said to the staff, "I'm an adult, no thank you."

Answer: answerable


Question: My daughter (4) had her school concert this morning. The kids have prepared their play for weeks, 45 minutes of show with more than 100 preschoolers, a “big thing”.  There is space for about 200 parents in the sports hall, a flat floor (not a cinema), the kids play elevated on a stage, but naturally the view isn’t that great. The school insists in written that no video recordings from the audience are being made, and they provides a professionally recorded DVD of the whole play at an OK price (10-15$) afterwards.

Of course people still take photos, and I get it: you want to watch (or show it to grandma) before the DVD comes out. Most raise their phones to shoulder height and that only shortly. Fine. It’s a kindergarten...

But 30 minutes into the play when a new group shows up, about 6 parents raise their bright phones high above their heads and keep filming for 1, 2, 3 minutes and don’t stop. They sit in the middle rows and basically you cannot see anything when you sit behind them. I’m seated quite at the back, my daughter was already on stage, but I watch and clap for each of the kids and I feel they all deserve respect for their play. And the parents in the back deserve a chance to see the 10 seconds fame of their little ones without it being blocked by someone’s smartphone.

Without thinking I yell a quick and loud “Put your phones down, please!!” into the play. Most phones disappear or move down. (Mind you, this is not a quiet, classical concert, there were babies crying, a few people going in and out, parents talking, even phones ringing.) My wife is furious afterwards and tells me she was sick of embarrassment. I am sorry she feels like this because of me, but I think it’s better than accepting people ruining the rest of the show. I also think not many people realized who actually shouted anyway. 

Am I the asshole?

Answer: answerable


Question: He said he needed $150 because he recently organised a trip and was a bit short because of other expenses etc. 

I have just over $1000 saved up in emergency funds, so it wouldnt be an issue but I have never lent him a big amount of money before. Ive known him for 4 years and he always drops me to and from work, free of charge, so this is why I feel like I am TA right now. I feel kind of guilty. Whenever people ask me for money, I feel bad for saying no.

Answer:
answerable


