Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
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Question: My room has clothes all over the floor and random stuff scattered across most surfaces. It's not usually very tidy, although I clean up every couple weeks. Clutter stresses me out, but when it's my own, and I have control over when it gets cleaned, I don't mind as much.

I make an effort to be very concious of my messes in shared spaces. I'd never want my roommates to have to clean up after me or deal with dishes I left out, etc. So while my own space is a mess, I'm very neat outside of it.

My roommates are very messy and don't really make much of an effort to organize their stuff or clean up after themselves. We have cardboard boxes, grocery bags, and suitcases full of random craft supplies, costume pieces, collectives, etc in every corner of the living room and I'm getting tired of it. I've mentioned a few times that I'd really like to clear up some space or at least organize stuff and get it on shelves, in drawers, closets, etc, rather than sitting on the floor in bags. It feels like we're a couple stacks of newspapers away from being a hoarder's den.

I feel like a hypocrite for asking them to clean our shared space when my personal space is usually pretty messy. AITA?

Answer: requesting that my roommates cut down on clutter in shared spaces while my bedroom is a mess


Question: I'm a freshman, and at the beginning of the year, I was a completely different person: shy, bo friends, could not talk to girls, overly jealous of people, etc. At this time, among other clubs/sports, i joined mock trial. Being a freshman, I was automatically sent to the jv team. At the end of every year, the JV team has tryouts to see if you're good enough to make varsity. Another girl on the jv team was this girl, let's call her Morgan, who's a junior. My first thought upon seeing her is that, hey, she's pretty cute. But being my shy self, I really kept my feelings to myself. Plus, shes's a junior and I'm a freshman.

But as the school year went on, I became more confident. This was due to playing sports, making new friends through these sports, and learned to talk to girls.

So by this point in the year, I was pretty confident. And last week, it just suddenly hit me: hey, I can talk to Morgan now! So what's the problem? Last week was literally the last meeting for mock trial. So that meant I'd have to wait till next year before flirting with her. But during the meeting, the president mentioned, we have tryouts for next year in three weeks- we try out now instead of, say, the beginning of next year, since mock trial is fresh in our mind. This sparked an idea in my mind: I had so many opportunities to talk to Morgan- which I didn't take, since I was shy- because we were on the same team: we confer twice a week during meetings, meet up every weekend, and such. And next year, I wanted those same opportunities so I can flirt with her. *But*, I only really have these opportunities if we're both on the same team. I know that 95% I was going to make varsity (people on varsity told me), but Morgan had a pretty bad showing and was most likely going to stay on jv. And that's bad: if I'm varsity and she's jv, no meetings, no meetups outside school, and far fewer opportunities in general. So, my idea was this: if I met up every weekend, I could coach her so she might do well in the tryouts and make it to varsity. I think it's an overall win-win situation: 1) we help each other- I help her practice for the tryouts, and she (although to a lesser extent) helps me 2) I help her get into varsity, which means more chances to flirt next year and 3) if I feel like it, I might even have chances to flirt with her during our meetups on the weekend.

Our first meeting went well, and I flirted with her a little. I mentioned this to my friend, but he seemed upset I wasn't helping her out of the goodness of my heart. I just replied, whether I'm doing it for a good reason or not (and I think good here is subjective), I'm still helping her. So since I'm really not hurting her, and am instead helping her, I'm in the right here. He didn't seem to agree. 

Is he right?

Answer: only helping a girl because I want to sleep with her


Question: I have 2 children, a high school senior and a high school sophomore. The Missus is a cardiac surgeon while I work as a software engineer at a pretty big firm. Needless to say, finances aren’t an issue for us.

Now I’m of the opinion that my kids’ primary focus should be their education right now. They don’t have/need jobs (besides sometimes part-time during the summer), but the wife and I pretty much pay for everything. As such, the kids just expected that we would pay for their college, which honestly, was a reasonable expectation. The problem lies with our daughter: she wants to major in Comparative Literature or something related to writing. Her reasoning is that she loves writing and she’s good at it.

I’m a bit hesitant to just pay for unconditional college. If her goal was to be a writing professor, or just had a specific career goal in mind in general, I’d be a lot more willing. But as it stands, her primary motivator was just because it interests her. I told her that I’m fine paying for education, on the condition that she majored in something more “practical”. Or that if she had a legitimate plan to get from what she’s majoring to what she wants to do, then I’d be happy to pick up the tuition and living expenses, which means she just needs to pay for her own food. If she doesn’t that’s fine, but she’d have to find a way to supplement her education through loans and scholarships (and I will help her do this).  

She accused me of trying to manipulate her. Truth be told, I did try to push STEM to her when she was 15-16, but she consistently brought home Bs-high Cs in stem while getting perfect As to A+s in writing. I conceded that she was just naturally a better writer, and I’ll let her develop her own issues. She’s using this information from the past to claim I’m trying to manipulate her into doing a field that I want her to do.

My POV is, I don’t necessarily care if she does a field in STEM. She can get her Underwater Basket Weaving degree IF she planned to, for example, be a lawyer (and thus has an actual use for the degree), but she can’t just major in something because she “likes” it. Unless the like will lead to a potential career path in mind.

My wife won’t take a side (she’s normally the one that has these little spats with our daughter while me and her normally see eye-to-eye). So I come to you, Reddit, to help me see if I’m being unreasonable.

AITA for wanting to add stipulations to what I’d pay for in college?

Answer:
adding stipulations to how I'd pay for my children's colleges


