TASK DEFINITION: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).
PROBLEM: For a myriad of reasons, I've been wanting to go offline, delete my social media, messaging apps, and eventually cut my post-paid mobile line for a very long time.

Plan: delete social media (done) &gt; switch to feature phone and delete WhatsApp &gt; switch postpaid mobile line to prepaid mobile line, giving the number only to my immediate family members for emergency purposes.

So far I've deleted Facebook, and what remains is WhatsApp. As there are many memories in the chat messages and photos, and one has to get these out first before deleting the app, it's been overwhelming me and my plan to delete it is progressing slowly at the pace of an iceberg. I've already changed my mobile number in all my accounts except for 3 organisations (I know because I keep track using a password manager).

Recently I've been asked to volunteer for task A for organisation B. I'm not in a very good place, but would like to contribute, and I accepted it. And I'm added to a few chat groups in WhatsApp.

Now this is giving me a lot of anxiety. Hence I want to go ahead with my plan to switch to a feature phone which does not support WhatsApp, and tell them to only contact me via email.

The thing is, as much of the conversation takes place in the app, deleting the app will inconvenience the discussion process. But the thing is I've already conceived of my plan even before I was asked to volunteer, and it feels like a spanner is thrown into my plan.

So AITA? Feel free to ask me questions, and I apologise if I my post isn't clear.

SOLUTION: NOBODY

PROBLEM: Before you judge to harshly im not asking if im the asshole for being an addict but for refusing rehab now because of what happened. I stayed off drugs for 14 months thanks to methadone but my parents pressured and demanded i come off it. I didnt think i was ready to make the step but they fought me on it and made me give in. I relapsed after coming off and didnt tell my parents because i was mad at them for making me come off and I didn't want there advice. I was going to get back on methadone after the stress of Christmas and tell them when the time was right but they caught me and now are demanding i do rehab and saying that this is proof that I didn't make progress because I relapsed when I came off it. Methadone gave the most stability i had and i think going to rehab now is a waste of money and a big step back for me after ive reestablished a career. That and im mad at them for pushing me to come off when i wasnt ready. My actions are my own but part of me blames them. No one is taking my side because for being an addict im always made out to be the asshole in any fight.

SOLUTION: OTHER

PROBLEM: Three months ago I moved to a Caribbean island for an amazing job opportunity and so far I really like it.
As soon as I announced this opportunity to friends, some of them stated that they would love to visit me when I’m there. Fun!
The first friend is here now and on day three I am thinking about canceling other friends who want to make the trip...

I thought I had made it very clear before she booked her trip that I would not be available 24/7 when she is here. I have to work and I don’t want to use all my vacation days to entertain her so she has to entertain herself for three days (out of ten) while I’m working. I have time for her in the evening to get dinner and/or a drink and she can go to the beach during the day (as she stated she wants to spend every minute there).

Some issues have already surfaced where the conclusion is that she doesn’t understand that I’m not on a vacation (and need to get some chores done) and she stating to me that I have to understand her frustration because she IS on a vacation and wants to enjoy every second of her very short trip (her words). I’m doing the best I can but every thing that I do that is not part of her vacation (like sweeping) is somehow me taking time and enjoyment away from her vacay... but she told me she wants to leave at a certain time so why can’t I use the time before that to do some laundry? She wakes up before me so she has to wait for me to finish some things but I make sure I’m done before the time she mentioned she wants to leave.

What’s also is not helping is that she used to work (for four months) on the same island before me, however in a completely different field and 7(!) years ago. Every experience I share with her, she dismisses because ‘no that is not how things go here at all’. All this has made me very defensive for the last couple of days, making me a party pooper that has to chill (...) I just feel that she has taking over my life here and I have to listen to her expert advice about the island (like when driving she tells me I’m not taking the right road, it was better if I took the other way).

AITA for being defensive about her “expert” remarks of how to do things here and taking time away in the morning of her vacation?

SOLUTION:
OTHER

