In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".

I love my mum more than words could imagine. She's been nothing but an amazing parent and she and my dad are perfect in every way, except one thing: my mum is a regular smoker.

She is a science teacher, she teaches about the dangers of smoking and what problems it can cause later in life, yet almost every day for the past 30 years she's been a smoker. I understand what I'm proposing is manipulative, and I wouldn't even consider it under normal circumstances:

- Yesterday, my dad told me that my grandad was diagnosed with lung cancer, after being hospitalised for the past week because he has a stroke. My grandad has been a heavy smoker all his life.

- A couple years ago my mum's mum was diagnosed with lung cancer, and now has 60% lung capacity because of surgery. She was and even now is still a heavy smoker.

- A decade ago my mum's dad died of a heart attack. He'd previously has another heart attack AND had a major stroke. He was a smoker.

I've seen what smoking does to people, and I don't want that for my mum. My nan had to carry an oxygen concentrator when she visited us because that was the only way she could be mobile, for god's sake. My mum even quit smoking with my nan after she was diagnosed, but about a year ago she started again..

When I was walking with my dad about his dad's prognosis, he mentioned that my mum was probably going to die of a stroke. It all just hit me, that **she will die because of this.** My dad gave up smoking a couple of decades ago, and he was furious when my mum started again.

I want to save my dad from having to live through a third family member having a stoke. I want to stop all this fucking pain because of a single fucking addiction. I love my parents so much and it kills me to see my mum killing herself with this habit...

I'm seriously considering taking drastic measures. I'm going to plead with my mum to stop, but if she doesn't then I'll make her think I've taken it up. She's directly promised me never to become a smoker, but if she doesn't stop I don't think I have a choice.

So yeah. I just feel so helpless, and this is potentially my last ditch effort. Am I the Asshole here? What else can I do?

**tl;dr**: 3/4 grandparents have suffered from smoking. My mum is a regular smoker and she's going to smoker her way to an early grave. None of my direct family want this. Is pretending to take it up a step too far?
RIGHT

So context: I recently complained to DoorDash that I didn't receive all the items I'd paid for. I've had to do this a few times lately, so they put it under review. I just received this email:

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" Thank you for reaching out and providing feedback on your recent delivery. 

Unfortunately, we are unable to provide any compensation based on the information you provided and the details of your order. 

Your reference number for this request is \[redacted\]"

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I also have a friend who works as a dasher for them and is paid about 3 bucks an hour on a good day because she's forced to waste her time and gas to find orders (I know orders are limited, but InstaCart requires you to sign up for a certain time in advance so they don't have too many people, so there are obviously better ways to handle the situation)

Now, I desperately want to send the following email. WIBTA?

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"Whoever reads this, if anyone does, my anger is not directed at you, it’s directed at the institution. I know these complaints will go nowhere but I’m getting fed up and would like to at least pretend that I can make my voice heard. I apologize for any cruelty that may come across in the following message:

   
 I bought a pizza. I was not given a pizza. I bought a dessert that came with ice cream. I did not receive ice cream. I don’t understand why that’s not enough information. I really liked your service when I first discovered it a couple years ago. Now, it seems as though the service quality has totally dropped, you pay your dashers slave wages without even compensation for gas, you even seem to take their tips from what I’ve heard from my friends who are drivers, and you increase the prices of dishes to get more money, while still taking advantage of the dashers who actually do the work and provide the service. I’ve recommended the service over competitors and used it despite obscenely high delivery fees but you can be assured that won’t be happening any longer. I am extremely disappointed in your management. If you could send this to anyone who might actually care and be able to do something to rectify this repugnant behavior, I would appreciate it.  
 

Sincerely,

A dissatisfied customer"
RIGHT

My roommate gives me crap about how messy my room can get during my work week. I work 13-14 hour days 5/7 days of the week so when I get home I just shower then sleep or browse the internet for an hour and then sleep. Doing this results in my clothes piling up on the floor on my room and general trash like empty cups from tea places that I go to or a take out bag from my work.

My roommate has commented multiple times that my room is a mess and I need to clean it up. We were friends that ended up needing a place to live in a similar area and we aren't that bad in terms of housemates. I always clean up after myself after using the kitchen, restroom, or living room since that's what I believe is right but when it comes to my own room I feel like 5 shirts on the floor that get's cleaned up on Monday doesn't matter much.

AITA for not really caring about clothes being strewn about my own room?

RIGHT

