In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".

I got married a few years ago and this cousin (along with the rest of his family and girlfriend) came out to my wedding. However, his dad footed the bill and they made a vacation out of it. 

BACKGROUND: Due to us growing up on opposite sides of the country I was never really as close to him and his siblings as I am to my cousins that are nearby. I also don't get along very well with them due to philosophical differences but I love them because they are family and put up with it. I have on several occasions tried to reach out to them but never hear back.

My wife and I had our first child about 8 months before their wedding. When we talked about going out we determined it just wasn't possible due to the financial strain and long distance travel with a newborn. It was suggested that I go out alone but I wasn't keen as I wanted to be with my son. Financially I could have swung it but it was just before the Holidays and would throw a wrench in things. 

Am I an asshole for deciding to skip the wedding in favor of saving money and being with my family?

NOTE: I did attend all of my local cousin's weddings but that was because I was not married or financially tied down at that point.
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As the title says, I received a part of my gift from the Movie exchange that’s going on. I collect VHS so one of the gifts was a VHS movie I’ve had on my list to get. 

The movie is 2 separate tapes and was shipped directly from Amazon. The sticker on the movie states that it’s new, although the seal is broken. The first tape has a crack down the front of it, but I’m still able to play it. 

Would I be the asshole if I told them what happened so they could just get a refund? The movie still works, so I have no issue. The sticker indicating it being new pisses me off. The Amazon seller clearly was being shady and sold something opened and cracked. 

I just don’t know if it would make them feel bad or if it’s worth it. 
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I recently got engaged, and started to look into wedding dresses. On Wednesday I decided I wanted to start looking around for dresses I like, and I made an appointment at a wedding dress shop for the following day at 11am.
     Now, the reason I wanted to go do this initially without a large family presence is because I have a somewhat difficult relationship with my family. My mom and gma specifically can be extremely opinionated, to the point where I feel like all they do is criticize me or talk about me behind my back. They have the attitude that you should always agree with their opinion, and dont really accept your opinion. My Fiance is often frustrated with them because he feels they are "narcissitic" and they cause me to feel very sad or negative about things that should be exciting. Because of this growing up, I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety. I felt that if I went with them and found a dress, they wouldn't like it or they would be very negative about it. This is what led to me wanting to try on different styles of dresses without them. I wanted to figure out what I like, not what THEY like. 
     I did ask my sister (my maid of honor) to come with me to the dress appointment, and I also let my mom know I was going. My sister said she wanted to go, but she had to work. However, she did not feel like going to work, so she asked me to type a message to her boss to get her out of work, which I refused to do. Since no one else was available, I just asked one of my future sisters-in-law to go because I knew she would be supportive. 
     I tried on 6 dresses of all different styles at this fitting, but I just fell in love with the second dress. I was not expecting to actually find "the" dress at this appointment, but it just kind of happened. My gma had previously offered to pay for my dress, so I called her to the store to see it. I also called my sister, who was supposed to be at work. Turns out she only went to work for 2 hours, and got home around the time my appointment started. It was minutes from our house, she knew I was there and had the option to come. I told her I found something and wanted her to look. She was visibly annoyed, but she came.  I tried on 2 more dresses with my gma and sister there that I let them pick out. After those, they did say they liked the dress I found, and my mother, whom I facetimed, said she loved the dress and thought I should get it.
     My gma got the dress for me. She seemed a little sad, but was happy I was happy. My sister mentioned that she was kind of hurt that I chose to go with my fiance's sister instead of her because she would have liked to see me try on dresses. I feel like she had the choice to be there, but decided not to come. 
     Now I am feeling incredibly guilty and selfish for how everything played out. My fiance believes that I gave the opportunity to come and look at other dresses and its their own actions that made it so they were not there. So, Reddit, AITA?

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