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Not much to say. Been having casual sex for awhile and I have a strong desire to have a rape/home invasion roleplay. If I asked for this, and she got angry, scared, or disgusted, would I be the asshole for asking?
asking a girl to engage in a forced sex fantasy roleplay

My boyfriend "M" has a female friend "P", who he previously had a thing with in October (while we were not together). Once we got back together, he stopped hooking up with P but never told her he was dating me; he would always avoid telling her when he was with me, telling her white lies and withholding the truth. So P had developed feelings for M while they were together, and M knew she still had feelings while he and I were already together. She told him she needed to confess something, and M has been putting it off for weeks. Basically, he's ignoring the whole situation (that she's in love with him) while still being friendly with her. 

I've told him this situation bothers me and to fix it, which he always agreed to but never followed through. To me it seems like he's leading her on, plus I don't particularly enjoy being kept a secret. His reasoning for not telling her is that he didn't want to make big drama when it wasn't necessary, he doesn't want to hurt her, and that whatever he does P will end up upset either way. He says she's not a great person, that she's stubborn and sensitive and ignores him most of the time anyway (but is that really an excuse?). It finally blew up this morning when she found out from a 3rd party that M is with me. Now she's upset with him, I'm upset with him, and he's upset that I'm upset. He says I don't understand the situation, that I don't understand the type of person P is. He also says he cares about her as a friend, and that he needs support from me during this time rather than anger.

AITA in this situation?

tl;dr: Boyfriend ignores that female friend is in love with him, doesn't tell her about me for weeks, says she's a difficult and sometimes mean person (even though he still cares about her as a friend), and ignored the whole situation because it wasn't necessary and caused drama.
being mad at BF for ignoring his friend was in love with him

Today I reported a senior manager to HR, knowing full well that with my company’s policy on discrimination she will get into a lot of trouble. As the day went on I’m no less angry about what she said to me, but I’m also feeling a guilt bubbling in my stomach about getting her in trouble. 

I’ve known this woman for a long time, I was the one that on boarded her when she joined the company and even though we have very different views (she’s an outspoken Trump supporter and Christian and I’m about as liberal as they come), we have always had a good working relationship. Whenever she shares on Facebook things from right wing media about “evil immigrants” or building the wall I’ve just made a point of ignoring it, since she is just a colleague and I’ve never felt it’s my place to challenge her views. 

Last week I finally received my 10 year green card in the mail, after 5 years of extensions and endless legal hoops and thousands of dollars in fees. This is a huge milestone for me, and my family, friends and coworkers have all made a point of congratulating me and overall making the whole thing feel really special. 

 Earlier today I was at work, having a casual conversation with a (different) coworker when she approached, gave me a high five, and congratulated me on my green card finally being accepted. She then proceeded to say “Thank you for doing it the *right* way”. It was pretty clear that the whole reason she had interjected was to say this. To make sure to let me know that I was a “good” immigrant, and not one of those nasty “illegals” she goes on about on Facebook.

I felt so angry about it that I decided to take it to HR. There have been many times at work that coworkers have said things that are stupid, like referring to me as a “90 day fiancé” or making up nicknames for me because my name is “unreasonably difficult”, but this is the first time I have ever felt like there was actually prejudice behind it. 

A part of me feels absolutely justified reporting her and another part of me feels like a huge asshole that got her into trouble. 

AITA?




reporting a manager to hr

