In this task you are given an anecdote. You must find out whether the anecdote is something the author has done or is considering doing. Label the instances as "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and label them as "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future.

I have epilepsy and use CBD to manage it (don't take any other epilepsy medication + discussed this with my neurologist), but it also makes me sleepy so I usually just vape a little before bed in my room. Haven't had any complaints about smell or anything until now.

So last night, my other roommate [21 F] had a headache, and I offered her CBD to help (it worked!) but my older roommate saw us using it in the living room and got super upset

He claimed that he's been "feeling something" because of the vape... he's also been sober/straight edge for 13 years-- not because he was an addict or an alcoholic before, but because he became a Buddhist. He really frowns on drugs/people who use any kind of substance. My other roommate and I talked about it afterward and we both felt like we were being scolded by our dad or something.

I tried to explain that I used the vape to manage epilepsy and that I thought he was being unreasonable (the apartment has a high ceiling and lots of open air, and I'm taking like a couple puffs a day), but he wouldn't budge. He claimed that he also had a "medical condition" (an allergy that I'm 90% sure he made up on the spot)...

Also worth noting, we live in a large city and he definitely passes dudes smoking weed on the sidewalk every day if he goes outside...

I don't want to have to take my epilepsy meds outside in the winter at night, but I also don't want to be a douchebag if this is really a big deal for him... but I also kind of feel like he's just trying to be controlling? Is this really the same thing as smoking weed in the house? Am I the asshole??
HISTORICAL

Let's call this person Emma. Emma has been going through serious mental illness for a long time, believing that she is being monitored by the government or someone else through nanobots in her brain. She is almost 40 but has never been able to hold a job because of her symptoms and finally moved out of her parents' house about a year or so ago.

Since then, Emma has been bouncing around living in either communal homes or in the homes of acquaintances. Most people she meets are through a network of churches and she asks members to stay for a few weeks at their homes every so often. Usually, it doesn't last very long. 

Last year my parents offered her the guest bedroom above my mother's office for a few weeks, but she ended up staying for over 2 months. We hoped to help her support herself and maybe try and seek treatment while she was in a more stable environment.

This would be generally fine except for the problems she caused in the house. Multiple times, she did not lock the front doors when leaving, she disrupted my mom on the days she worked at home, and even let the pets out of the fence where it was dangerous for them. The biggest problem was that, when she used the kitchen and electronic appliances, she would not turn them off and not only ruined our items, but almost set fire to the house. Her response, when told what she did, was to just shrug and walk off. The final straw was when she began to accuse my mother of monitoring her while she was in her office and putting bugs in her room when she was gone. She believes that all of this is 100% true and will not talk to a therapist or any other professional. 

Since she moved out she has asked numerous times to come back, but we are worried about the liability, bad atmosphere, and any outbursts that could be violent in the future (she has been known to become erratic at times). Also, my mom has moved from 2 days a week at home to every day at home and she can't work with Emma being there since she is often on calls. 

An acquaintance emailed us asking for a reference for Emma to rent a room in her home. This person does not know much about her daily "quirks" yet and we do not know how to tell her and what we should recommend. We know that this person works away from home and would not be there often to make sure Emma is being safe in the home. The homeowner has also received many messages from Emma about the nanobots and people watching her, and this person doesn't know how she feels about having her in the home. Based on the messages we believe that her condition is getting worse and we would prefer to try and get her into mental health care rather than in a home where she is just in the room all day by herself. 

I think that we should tell this person not to let her rent the room at all. My mom originally agreed with me that we shouldn't recommend her as a tenant, but has since decided to recommend her with a few vague warnings as she needs a place to stay. I do think she needs support and shelter, but that this person should have our honest opinion and all the facts about liability. I have a history of mental illness, as do members of my family, and we deeply want to help her but I don't want to put someone else or their property in danger. 

WIBTA if I sent this person an email stating my opinions even if my mom recommends her?

TLDR - A person with severe mental illness that has, at one point, lived in my house wants a reference for a new place. She caused damage to our property and was very disruptive. My mom wants to recommend her anyway, even though she thinks it's a bad idea because she needs a place to live. WIBTA if I personally reached out to the person to warn them even if it means this person may not have shelter?
HYPOTHETICAL

I’ve been friends with this girl, let’s call her M, for a few years. After graduating last year, we’ve only talked once when she needed somewhere to stay for a night because her and her boyfriend got in a fight. 

I said sure. She leaves the next morning and we, again, have no contact for about 5 months. 

One day she calls my suite mate, a close friend who I share apartment with, and tells us both that her boyfriend randomly kicked her out. She has no where to go besides her parents house, they’re both raging alcoholics, and asks if she can just stay one night with us. We say yes. 

She tells us all about how she never saw it coming and she has no idea what to do. My suitemate asks me if it’s okay if M moves in with us for the time being. This is risky for us; if our school finds out she’s living with us we would suffer all the repercussions. We both agree to let her stay because we would feel horrible if she had to move back in with her parents. 

A few weeks pass and she’s keeping contact with her ex-boyfriend. Both I and my suite-mate A repeatedly tell her we aren’t okay with this, and that we don’t want to be her parents but we let her live with us to get away from him. One night she tells us she’s going to stay with a friend, and we find out she lied to us and went and stayed at her ex-boyfriend’s house. 

Suitemate tells her that if she gets back with ex-boyfriend, she’s not living with us. 
Within a week of this, M brings him over to our dorm to move all of her stuff out and says she’s going back to live with her ex-boyfriend. 

Not even two days later she calls and says they got in another fight. Both I and my suite mate let her move back in. 

About a week passes and I realize she’s still talking to her ex-boyfriend every day. I warn her, in the nicest way possible, that this can’t happen again and I think it’s best to cut contact completely. She shrugs this off and tells me they’re just friends. 

On Valentines she tells us she’s going to stay with her mom, and then posts two pictures with her ex-boyfriend on Instagram that have obviously been taken that day.

My suite-mate and I decided together to confront her and text her a simple, “So you’ll be coming over tomorrow to get your stuff?” Keep in mind that we’ve made it very clear that she is moving out if she gets back with this guy. She texts back “what?” and we tell her we don’t appreciate repeatedly being lied to, and that we aren’t trying to parent her but that the one rule was that we weren’t going to let her live with us rent-free to get away from her boyfriend if they were STILL DATING.

My question is, are we the assholes for giving her that one guideline to live with us? It was completely rent free and we never asked her to clean or help with anything, just that she not get back with her boyfriend that had kicked her out twice. A few people have told me we should have confronted the issue differently and we were bitches the way we handled it. 

HISTORICAL

