In this task you are given an anecdote. You must find out whether the anecdote is something the author has done or is considering doing. Label the instances as "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and label them as "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future.

hear me out on this one 

My SO and I had planned to attend a jazz performance at a small cafe, and we paid for our tickets in advance. You were supposed to have bought a ticket to be in the cafe during the performance. We get there before it starts and order our food. The place is pretty packed, and there were no open tables. But we figured that if we waited a little for the music to start then people who weren't planning to stay for it would be clearing out.

Unfortunately this never happened. We had our food brought to us and we were basically awkwardly standing in the corner, holding our plates and hoping that a table would clear soon. I think eventually somebody brought us some plastic stools or something but it still really sucked given that we had paid for the opportunity to be here.

One of the waitresses alerted me that there was two ladies in a booth that were supposed to be leaving, as they didnt pay to stay for the music, so they should be gone soon. Guess what, they never left either. They had finished their food 30-45 minutes ago and were still here. The waitress kept apologizing to me. I was pretty pissed at both the cafe for prioritizing people who didnt buy a ticket over us, and also the women for not having self awareness. After about 45m to an hour from when the performance started, and my SO was already visibly upset by how everything was turning out, I went over and tried to politely ask the women if they'd be leaving soon. I get that this would be rude under normal circumstances but I didnt really give a shit. They give some BS answer like "oh yes we were JUST about to leave" (sure) and I go back to my SO hoping they'll just go. But nope, first they call over the waitress to tattle on the big bad man who just dared to ask them when they were leaving, who then comes to me and sternly tells me "please dont ask our customers when they'll be leaving." and on top of this the women stayed another half hour or something, clearly just to piss me off.

So reddit, am I the asshole? What exactly was I supposed to do in this situation?
HISTORICAL

The tile probably does make me sound like the a**hole, but let me just explain it all. 

          My friend (14F), I’ll call her Ashley, went through a state of depression during the end of the last school year. I (14F) was very close with her up through that but then when I started 8th grade I realized that I actually didn’t like being around her. The bad things hadn’t started yet though. 

       A couple months ago Ashley came over to my house and told me that she had started doing drugs. Not cocaine or anything, but weed and experimental things like cough syrup. Also, weed is legal where I live, but certainly not for minors. It’s not for medicinal purposes or anything, either, she just does it for fun. And okay, yes, if I’m being honest, I don’t know that much about drugs and how safe they are, but I just don’t want to associate myself with anything that could end up hurting me or my future. 

        So I didn’t do weed with her when she invited me and now I’m beginning to subtly push her away. At least I thought it was subtle. Ashley  said before that she didn’t expect me to pick up the phone when she called. I think she knows I’m pushing her away. She was already very clingy and used to call me every day to ask to hang out, so she still called a lot, just without an answer. 

I’m worried that if I directly tell her that I don’t want to be her friend that she would go back into a state of depression, because she got close to hurting herself last time. She missed about a month of school because of it. I’ve begun going to therapy too because all she is is a negative energy in my life. 


To sum it up: I feel awful about trying to leave my friend who went through intense depression  recently but she started experimenting with drugs and I don’t want to put me or my future at risk. She’s also manipulative naturally and I still wouldn’t want to be her friend even without the drugs. AITA??
HISTORICAL

Bit of a backstory, a few months ago during the summer I moved in with my Dad, since my Mom was moving across country with my siblings. I didn’t want to move because I am currently doing my GCSEs in school and moving would’ve meant moving schools and restarting my ongoing coursework for my exams.

For Christmas 2017 (when I was living with my Mom) my Mom bought me a new Phone as my main present with some clothes and chocolate. It was all nice and I was very thankful, and showed my appreciation by helping with preparing the Christmas food and helping clean up. It was a great Christmas altogether.

When I moved into to my Dad’s house 6months later my Mom didn’t say anything about returning the phone to her, since she did pay for it. But this Christmas, my dad bought me the newest iPhone. When I went up to my Mom’s house to spend Christmas with her side of the family, my Mom asked if my Dad bought me the phone, I said yes. My Mom got weird and said something under her breath to my Aunt and I got a bit pissed and asked ‘what was that?’, since she’s always badmouthing my Dad to my other siblings. She replied in an offended tone, ‘Glad to see where his priorities lie’. I asked her what she meant by this. And she went off saying about how he never buys by siblings stuff (which was a lie, he bought my siblings a lot of clothes and toys) and buys be a brand new £1000 iPhone. 

I told her I needed a new one since my old one was running very slow. So she asked if she can have it back. I said ‘Why? You bought it for me for Christmas.’ And she said that it’s hers since she bought it for me, regardless of whether she gave it to me as a present, I need to give it back to her.

So I refused since it was a Christmas present for me, I shouldn’t have to return it just because my dad bought me one.

Does this make me the asshole?

HISTORICAL

