Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.

Throwaway just because i’d like my privacy. A slightly long story, sorry.

My stepfather, who’s actually been in my life for longer than my biological father, is a great man. He’s well-liked, smart, he’s kind and i can see that he makes my mom incredibly happy. I never used to have problems with him — we’d do regular father-daughter activities as if we were related by blood, and I think of my stepbrother as a real brother. The point is that i love him just as if he was my real father. 

But sometimes he has outbursts i don’t understand. My mother often works late into the night, and when she’s not here, my stepfather tends to get weirdly angry. He’d chastise me for every single thing i do wrong, he’d slam doors, yell at me and my stepbrother. When he’s particularly angry he throws things and call me worthless. I don’t usually take things like that to heart, but it’s different when a man you’ve trusted for most of your life does it. The breaking point was sometime early last year, where some of his actions went out of control and caused me to have a severe panic attack.

I think he was remorseful after that incident, because ever since then he’s rarely gone out of control. He seems calmer, and his outbursts are rare now. He also acts more cautious around me, as if he’s afraid of hurting me. He’s also gone out of his way to, idk, care about me more. He’s started to pick me up from school and bring home food from work he knows i like. Which is a refreshing change, and i appreciate that he’s being so nice, but i have to admit that ever since that incident i never acted the same way around him. I was cold and distant, despite his efforts to reach out to me. I’d ignore his calls and texts, rarely make an effort to speak to him, and when we did interact i always was short with him and a lot ruder than i had to be. I was openly warm and caring to my mother and stepbrother, while i barely spared him a glance. I guess I didn’t realize i was doing this until just recently my mother pulled me aside, and asked why i was being so cold to him. I promised her i would be nicer, but even after i’m aware of my actions, i just act like i used to around him. I know it’s hurting him that i won’t look him in the eye, but it’s almost impossible for me to bring myself to do it.

AITA for not being willing to reconcile with my stepfather, despite his efforts to mend our relationship?




not trusting my stepfather

My girlfriend has this friend who’s a guy and I don’t remember how it came up but a few months ago I found out he has feelings for her. They text and talk on the phone but its strictly platonic she say’s. 

So, me and my girlfriend are pretty secure and sometimes we’ll send pics of random people and be like, “isn’t this girl/guy attractive”.  A few months ago before I knew about this guy and his feelings for her, she sent me a pic of a guy and said he was attractive. I thought the dude was like a random celebrity. No it turned out to be the guy. At the time I said “yea hes attractive.” brushed it off. A while later after digging deeper i put two and two together and yea same guy. So that’s where the insecurity came from. 

They still talk and i see that they still follow eachothers on social media. It really eats away at me and leaves me anxious. I wanna talk to her about it but I don’t know how to bring it up without sounding insecure. She’s an understanding person but idk. 

Thing is she knows it bothers me. I’ve accidentally slipped up about it during talks or arguments. But she won’t cut him off and I feel disrespected. I don’t want to tell her to cause that seems controlling and.

I forgot to mention she knows he has feelings, he has straight up admit it and he knows that i’m her bf and that bothers him.
wanting her to stop talking to a guy that has feelings for her

So I'm a contractor at a chemical plant in the South and our contact (CC) (the chemical plant guy that controls our contract) says that if we make it to xxx days without an injury he would pay for everyone to eat (cooking BBQ at work). So xxx day comes and a week or so later our CC says ok great job guys, next week Thursday (our Friday) we're cooking burgers, it's perfect time because your company president (CP) will be in town.

So the fateful day comes, CC pays for all of the food, all of the prep stuff we need, drinks, etc and the bigwigs cook while us peons are out working. Lunch time comes and everyone is eating. To set the scene, it's me, two otger coworkers and CP in the room (CP has not paid for ANY of the food or contributed in any way).
CP is acting like he did all of this for us, etc. and one of my coworkers days "thank you." Now... I'm not one to hold my tongue and it's costed me promotions in the past, but right is right even if you don't like it and in my infinite wisdom I ask "why are you thanking him? He didn't do anything we're the ones that worked safe, he's only here to eat." I didn't see his face after this because honestly didn't give a shit, but from what I heard the next day his face was red as he walked out of the room.

Am I an asshole for refusing to let him get the thanks when he didn't do anything? 

telling coworkers not to thank the president of the company because he didn't do anything

