TASK DEFINITION: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.
PROBLEM: Sorry if the title is kind of misleading, I'm not sure how to cram this situation into a sentence.

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I work at a small grocery store behind the deli counter. I'm one of the few who switches between morning and night shifts, as I'm trained for both routines. There's not a lot of people who work in the department, probably around 10 total. Because of this, usually someone will work until a certain time and then someone else comes in to take that person's place.

Now, I have this one coworker I'll refer to as \[REDACTED\]. \[REDACTED\] is always late. Always. That's not an exaggeration. Every. Single. Shift. He runs from 15-30 minutes late. I'm not sure why. I would think if there's a problem that causes him to be late he would had fixed it by now so I'm just assuming he doesn't care. The only reason why he isn't fired yet is because he's one of the 3 people who knows how to close down the department fully and does it the best.

Anyways, this Sunday I was working a whopping 11 hour shift from 5am-4pm because a good amount of staff are college students and are taking spring break off to go back home/see family/ect.  I wasn't super excited because that's 10 1/2 hours on my feet (only get one 30 minute break) and my longest shift I've ever worked in any of my jobs. I also have bad insomnia so a opening shift means probably 4 hours of sleep for me.

As the end of my shift was (thankfully) approaching, I ran over to the schedule to see who was taking over for me. It's \[REDACTED\].  A bit later it gets to 4pm (the time I was scheduled to leave) and to no one's surprise, \[REDACTED\]'s no where in sight. At this point my feet feel like they're withering away from the pain of being on my feet since 5 that morning and I'm seriously debating cutting off my feet as I'm sure that would hurt less than the state of my feet in that moment.

At roughly 4:20 (hehehehe) and STILL no sign of \[REDACTED\], I go over to one of my coworkers and say "Fuck this, I'm leaving". He starts to say something but I speedwalk toward the terminal and clock out, grab my jacket and backpack, and book it out of there, too emotionally and psychically exhausted to deal with anyone else.

2 days later I come back into work and my coworker I talked to before practically running out of there was working.  He comes up to me and basically says what I did was a dick move and I need to wait for \[REDACTED\] or whoever's coming to replace me before leaving. I argued that I would normally wait but 1) I worked a 11 hour shift that day and 2) \[REDACTED\] is always late, and, to be frank, that's not my problem. He didn't have a comeback after that but was still pretty rude and blunt to me the rest of the shift, as well as another one of my coworkers who saw me rush out of there.

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Since then I've been probably overthinking this and feel pretty guilty. But Reddit, AITA??

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SOLUTION: answerable

PROBLEM: I was in a big meme group chat with 300+ people in it and I posted \[this reaction image\]([https://i.imgur.com/IIF96Bb.jpg](https://i.imgur.com/IIF96Bb.jpg)) . Since I am white, I was called out by a black girl for posting it. She, and several others, said I should not have used the meme because of the use of the N-word. My argument was that since I didn't make the meme, I wasn't "voicing" the opinion of the creator. I see it as the same thing as if I were to link a song with heavy use of the N-word. 

I honestly do not feel any hatred or disdain for anyone based on things they cannot like sex, race, sexual orientation, etc. But I was raised in the South with a bunch of true racists and little diversity so maybe I am lacking perspective. 

I was kicked from the group, but it would be nice to hear impartial judgement. 

SOLUTION: answerable

PROBLEM: Here’s the deal: My family is very close to our neighbors, they’re pretty much an extension of our family and I personally respect and adore them. 
In 2015 I joined them for thanksgiving (my whole family out of town, I stayed cuz I had too much hw from college so no issues there) and their 26 year old nephew from NYC joined us. From the moment he walked in he gave me a weird vibe. 

Anyways, at the time my phone had a corner “popping out” if that makes any sense, like I needed to take it somewhere to fix it so the screen would be even. I made a comment about it to me neighbor and this guy went “I can fix that!” Takes my phone and presses on it HARD, aaand my screen shattered (and mind you Im a broken college student living at home) he just gave it back to me “I tried” I was LIVID. His aunt was completely horrified. At this point Im like “leave it, dont make a scene at their house, we’ll have to deal with it later”. We sat at the table and his aunt goes “you know you have a job and should help her pay for the screen you shattered” he looked straight at me and went “yea, maybe in her dreams” WTF? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? I didnt even ask for help! At the end I just left after dinner and was able to save some money and fix it myself. My family wasnt happy about it but we’re thankful I wasn’t rude to anybody. They simply asked me to be friendly to the guy for our neighbors.

Ever since, he messages me on fb or instagram at least once every couple of months. For the last 4 YEARS, he tries to get me to come to NYC, or his “art shows” in miami, etc. I never reply and he is always trying to play nice “hey I just wanna know how you’re doing” My neighbor is always saying he does that cuz they know he is attracted to me and feels guilty about what happened... and is not used to girls avoiding him. 

My friend thinks I should be civil and need to move on from what happened. But I just dont want to talk to him? I wont even go to my neighbor’s if he’s there. And my family dont want me to block him to avoid issues with his family. I told him years ago I probably would never attend one of his art shows, not interested but he is still messaging me. (Some people want to tell me he is just being friendly or that Im being childish for not going to their house when he is there but I dont see it that way)

AITA for ignoring him and not move on from the 2015 incident? Last month I got 3 messages from him and audio begging to talk to me and catch up, but honeslty I just dont want anything to do with him. 

SOLUTION:
answerable

