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I'm asking because I genuinely have no idea whether I'm doing the right thing. 

My sister has mental health issues that are particularly ill at evening and night-time. I've been there for her for months, but tonight I just didn't have the energy. She has called me a few times tonight and flat-out asked if I can come over to help, but for the first time, I have said I need some rest and to get some work done.

I've moved back home with my parents to help her, and she lives in her own apartment in the same building. There are only two people that calm her down (to some extent), and that is me and my brother. My brother can't be there for her because he is going through a lot too, and is battling his own mind.

She is in treatment 3 times every week, but it hasn't helped. She has been severely depressed for over 10 years, and it only continues to get worse.

A normal night will start with us playing games, but she will gradually become hysterical. This happens every single night. She begins with becoming hyper, then hysterical, and then become delirious. A regular night involves self-harming in front of me, running outside to hurt herself, locking herself into the bathroom with medicines or a knife, being aggressive and violent towards me, crying hysterically and over-eating. It's clear that she is just looking for an outlet. She feels so hysterical and desperate, but nothing seems to give her peace... 

I don't know what to do, but I have no more energy. It just doesn't get better, and I think she needs professional help. The doctors believe she is in the right treatment, but I can't see any improvement. I'm certain she will hurt herself tonight while I'm gone, and worried she will do something worse. I don't know what to do, but I have nothing more to give.   


Still, it makes me feel like an asshole to not be there for her even though she is suicidal, should I pull myself together and go another mile? I can hear her crying hysterically through the wall, but I'm just sitting here enjoying a few hours of my own company.
not visiting my mentally ill sister

I feel like a bit of a shallow asshole, but physical attraction and intimacy feels like something I need to have in a relationship, and I know sex is also very important for them. They are quite significantly overweight - not quite morbidly obese, but well into obese.  There are a few complicating factors.  

The first problem comes from the fact that they are probably the best friend I have ever had, and we get along very well. The fact that we are so close is the main reason I'm asking - I want to do everything I can to avoid hurting them, because they don't deserve it.  

Secondly, their weight is a sensitive issue. They have taken steps to try to lose it, but it does not seem like they really commit to following through - losing a handful of pounds, then quitting on diet or workout plans. I have tried to offer my help alongside those things, including going to the gym together, but those plans tend to fall through as well.  

The third, and probably hardest part, is the fact that we have been physically intimate in the past. A large part of that came from the fact that I had recently existed a relationship wherein I fell out of love with someone, but found difficulty leaving them due to their mental and physical health problems, so we had not been intimate for a long time. After leaving that relationship, I met this friend very soon afterwards, and I was desperate for intimacy but too depressed to seek it out, so things just sort of happened. I realized quickly that I wasn't attracted to obese people, but again, I was in a terrible mental place where I just wanted to feel good. He was in a similar place, only half-jokingly mentioning "using me" to feel better about themselves.  We did our thing for a few months, but eventually it just sort of faded away. 

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This has gotten a lot longer than I expected, but to sum it up they have recently been pressuring me about pursuing a relationship, and why I am not willing to despite how well we get on. The truth is that their weight is unattractive, but if I told them that I feel it would hurt them a great deal, but if I told them something else it would be a lie. Obviously, telling them "I will date you if you lose weight" is shitty and manipulative - but is telling them the truth about why I do not want to the same thing? I want to do everything I can to avoid hurting them, but it seems like the only option is dishonesty. Thanks for the perspective. 
telling my friend I do not want to date them due to their weight

Around 5 days ago we discovered that a cat with her litter had moved in to our garage. Unfortunately she decided that one of the four kitten was to weak and didn’t give her enough milk to stay alive, so we took her inside our house and have been feeding, cleaning etc. She is gaining weight everyday and doing really well, especially because my three younger sisters take really good care. Next week my parents and my sisters will be going on vacation and I’ve decided to stay at home for the two weeks to work and to party. The problem is that if we keep the kitten, I would have to feed her every 6 hours and couldn’t really go out in the evening or work for a whole day. We could give her to a pet shop so she could be adopted and I wouldn’t have to take her of her. I would really like to keep her but I’m not sure if I am able to care for her on my own for two weeks. Also I don’t want that my sisters think that I’m just to lazy after they put so much effort into it. I’m really not sure what to do now.

not wanting to sacrifice my Easter holidays to take care of our kitten

