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Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
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So my SO and I have been together for a little over 2 years and known each other for about 8.  He is not into gift giving or receiving in general and really only does my birthday and Christmas because it's something I want.  I take a lot of joy in finding people the perfect gift.  He doesn't want to celebrate his birthday and so I respect that.  When it comes to gifts for him, he prefers experiences over material things.  When it comes to our anniversary we do something together and while I honestly would like to do something for valentine's day I think that would be pushing it so we pretty much ignore it.  I think that's a pretty good summary of our gift giving situation.

Early on in our relationship he asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I said a pair of earrings.  I had a lost one of my diamond studs (an inexpensive pair, something like $100 and honestly the only piece of jewelry I had that didn't come on a piece of cardboard).  He asked me multiple times what I wanted and each time that's what I said.  Eventually he just said "I'm not going to ever buy you jewelry so... yeah."  I asked why not and he said he thinks it's stupid and he doesn't like shopping for it.  (I will add that this was in the price range we had discussed and he ended up spending more than this on my Christmas gift.  Football tickets, which I loved.)

So here's the thing.  I think one of the things that can make a gift thoughtful or nice or whatever is to buy something for someone that they wouldn't buy for themselves normally.  It doesn't have to be something you agree with or enjoy shopping for or anything like that.  It's about making them happy.  For example, I think it's ridiculous that he has a $300 pen.  I mean it's a nice pen!  But whoa that's steep for a pen.  However if he mentioned he wanted that pen and it was in the price range for a gift, I would love to buy it for him, because it's something he really wants.

And so that is why I am rather annoyed on this total, unequivocal ban on jewelry.  It seems arbitrary and against the idea of gifting something to someone for the purpose of their happiness rather than having anything to do with yours.  I will also add that I'm not a picky gift receiver and he has gotten me lovely gifts including things like a trip to a bookstore I've always wanted to go to, a ton of WWII books because he knows I'm a history nerd, the football tickets, etc.  I would never receive a gift and not appreciate it.  But it just... digs at me a little when he refuses to buy something because he thinks its "stupid," which kind of feels like he's saying there's something wrong with me for wanting it. 

So.  Am I the asshole?
answer:
being annoyed my boyfriend won't buy me jewelry


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I broke up with my partner a little over a month ago, at the beginning of December. The break-up wasn't mutual, but it was civil. We vaguely talked about wanting to stay friends, but wanting to see how we progressed apart. And we did hang out as "friends" not long after, cause we'd bought tickets to my favorite band quite a while before the break-up and didn't really wanna mess with that. When we met up, we both delivered the Christmas presents we'd already bought for each other. Fast forward to after Christmas, they tell me that their parents had also gotten me gifts for Christmas, and my ex wanted to meet up to deliver them. 

Now I don't mind seeing them again. I don't really think my ex will continue to be a big part of my life moving forwards, but I don't mind seeing them every now and then. But my ex lives 2 hours away, and I only have one day I could go visit them. So I really don't wanna spend my one day off and drive 4 hours round trip just to hang out with my ex. But I told em I'd try, but have come up with excuses at the last minute two weeks in a row. Now they're starting to get angry that I continue to push them away and put them off, but.... we broke up. They're not a real high priority for me right now. And I can think of a lot better things to do than go drive 4 hours to see someone I intentionally cut out of my life. 

Am I really off base here? Am I the Asshole?
answer:
being flaky with my ex


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My friend and I just got destiny 2 on sale on the PS4 and have been stoked to play together. 

I was playing for a while today when my girlfriend said to me 
‘We should play Minecraft soon.’
‘Yeah,’ I replied, getting ready to quit. ‘You want to play now?’

She said that she didn't want to interrupt my game but I said it's okay because I wasn't doing anything at that moment, just walking around the farm. I was willing to switch games right then. 

She goes back to what she was doing on her phone so I continue playing. 

After I'm bored of the game, I turn off the console and she confronts me;

‘You're done?’
‘Mhm. That's about it for now’
‘I asked to play Minecraft two hours ago.’

I explained to her that I fully acknowledged her asking earlier and even offered to stop my game immediately. I further explained that after she expressed concern with interrupting a mission, I insisted that I wasn't doing anything important and could stop immediately. That she was the one who essentially decided not to play, not me. 

She got upset with me after that. Nothing serious, but it was noticeable she was bothered. 

So am I the asshole for not switching over to play Minecraft after insisting that it was an okay time and she didn't tell me when she wanted to play?

answer:

not playing Minecraft with my girlfriend


