Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

So me and my ex girlfriend broke up recently. We have tried dating 3 times before and it never worked out, but we couldn't stay away from each other. The first time was because of a lot of family issues for both of us and we agreed it wasn't a good time to try to date, but the other 3 times it was because she is still obsessed over her ex boyfriend. She constantly texted him and rented about him even when we were together, she would barely text me and she would get pissed when I asked to change the subject. Her and I are also close with another girl who I'll call V. V and my ex have been friend since elementary school and are very close.
The night we broke up was the same night that I found out some really bad news about my grandmother. I was devastated and was really behind on school work due to a lot mental stress. Would always eat with her and V at lunch and for nearly a weak I would hide in the library to get myself caught up with school work. Only two of my friends came to see if I was okay, it was V and another girl I'll call J. When my ex came to talk to me, I was too upset to see her, so I asked my friends to tell her I didn't want to talk to her. She got upset to the point of tears and left.
I feel like an asshole for not talking to her right away, but she literally told me that she broke up with me because she still liked her ex. V and J were the only ones who said that it was okay to avoid her for a bit. Everyone else said I was an asshole and that I didn't deserve her, so I apologized for avoiding her and I've been acting like everything is okay between us, but I still feel like crying when I talk to her and sit with her. 
I've been cheated on before I felt that if we continued to date she would wind up dating h8m behind my back. I feel like I'm in the wrong, but V and J have been telling me I'm not. 
I know this is one side of the story, but this is just how I feel about the situation, I'm lost...

I guess my question is , Am I the asshole here?
OTHER

I must be the asshole because most people I've come across feel they shouldn't repay their loans.

Discuss.
OTHER

So, I've used this key before and I'll use it again

Me - 14(m)

X - my crush from a couple of months ago 14(f)

Y - her friend who is convinced I have a crush on her (I don't) 14(f)

Z - a mutual friend 14(m)

Basically, Y makes any sort of interaction with X downright impossible, and it's already hard because I'm an awkward fuck but if I'm trying to talk to X, Y will butt in and say something like "why don't you love X anymore?!?!??" 100% serious and make both of us feel awkward.

X knows I liked her, she was the first girl I ever asked out in fact, but we get along relatively well and I haven't liked her for several months. She is really nice though and I want to be friends with her. Y is my obstacle.

This all came to a head when one of our mutual friends made a rather sexual joke about Me and Y, it was weird, but they're friends so I don't think it's a big deal. However, she heard her name and pressured me for 25 minutes to tell her, and eventually I gave in. She knew that Z was the one that told the joke, but she called ME disgusting (specifically me btw, I asked if she meant him, and she specified that it was me) so obviously I was peeved, but didn't take it out on her, because I'm practically allergic to beef.

Well, turns out, a week later, she's claiming that she never said anything and I was lying, but she still acknowledged my reaction, so is basically stating that I got angry over quite literally NOTHING.

As soon as she was out of earshot, I said to Z that Y was a gobby bitch (that's British talk for big mouthed) and he called me out for it, saying that it was messed up I was so mean over something so small even though it was his fault, so AITA?

EVERYBODY

