In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".
Example: My boyfriend (well just call him M) and I are creators on Instagram (he is also on TikTok). I'm a digital and traditional artist and in one of my classes we create t shirts and things (socks, lanyards, water bottles, stickers, you name it). I'm a big fan of putting my art on t shirts so I can sell them.

M wanted to make some posts for TikTok and wanted to use the shirt I made today. My one personal rule is that if the shirt isn't being given to someone else, then I wear it first (this is because I know I wont get it back. Ive made one other shirt that I've worn, and he wore it for a week and hasn't given it back.) So I told him no, because I haven't worn the shirt yet. 

M proceeded to complain about not having content to post, and how his IG post today didn't get any engagement, saying "of course you dont know, because you never look."

Am I the asshole for wanting to wear the shirt I made just once?
Example solution: RIGHT
Example explanation: the author requests is justified.

Problem: Okay, this sounds bad, but there’s context, years of it.

Basically, we recently found out my father has a disease and it’s slowly killing him and his brain to the point where he can barely recognize me. He’s been rude and mean to me and my mother for years, ever since I was young. 

All I remember from my younger years are fights between my parents, my father usually the instigator. He’s always been a dick and an asshole to my mother and myself, as he was mentally abusive and fucked with my head and verbally abusive for years. Now, I’m away from him, but my mother is pushing me to see him.

It’s almost as if just because he’s physically sick she’s using that as an excuse to force something between us. Now, I’m trying to be clear, she cannot force anything, if I want to I can just walk away and leave this situation behind, but I don’t feel that it’s a good thing. For years he’s been such a detriment to us and suddenly, he’s dying and I’m supposed to feel bad and empathetic.

I want to feel bad, and I DO have sympathy. But my problem is that I’d be letting someone who did nothing but hurt me in life back into it, for what good? I’ve struggled a lot with my mental health throughout life and have been suicidal because of the stress I used to be under. 

AITA for just really not wanting him back in my life now only to have him die and hurt me (in the case that I do feel bad and get ‘attached’), or him hurt me more (in the case that he really just gets worse)?

TLDR; My father is dying right now, and after years of him being a shitty abusive person towards me and my mother, we find out he’s dying. Mother wants to force a relationship that I don’t have it in me to contribute to. AITA?

Solution: RIGHT