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[Q]: Posting from a throwaway because I feel like a major asshole and my default account has vaguely identifying info. 

I work as an at-home caregiver, my job involves working one-on-one with a single client multiple days a week. She has other people who also work for her as well as friends and family that know how to assist her in the ways she needs as well. It is worth noting that she is completely disabled. She cannot do anything on her own (no use of legs or arms) without someone there to assist her. I met her through mutual friends at a funeral, one of her fill-in caregivers had passed away and the person who passed away had been my friend too. She needed help badly and my heart ached for her. We got in touch via social media and I asked her what days of the week she needed a caregiver, it just so happens that my availability matched her needs. 

My job is physically demanding and as much as I feel bad admitting - stressful - at times. I am beside my “boss” all day while I’m at work and although I really have enjoyed a lot of the time I have spent helping her and getting to know her, she can be pretty bossy (for lack of better words), in the “demanding” context of the word. My job is to help her with daily tasks and essentially live life, so she has to tell me what she needs or would like to do so I can do it for her or help her do it but she can be kind of mean about it which can be taxing. Between the physicality of the job and the mental aspects I can get worn out at times so I appreciate my days off to recoup. I have bonded with her quite a bit due to the personal nature of the job and oftentimes enjoy her company. I would go as far as to say she is a friend as well as my employer now. There’s been instances where her other caregivers have had appointments to be at and she has asked me to cover for them with notice and if I am able (which has been 100% of the time), I go work on my days off. 

This has been becoming a more common occurrence but with little-to-zero notice (I understand life happens) but I have found myself dreading her asking me to cover other caregivers shifts. The last two instances I have fibbed about having other goings-ons when she’s asked me to cover and I feel like an asshole. My heart goes out to her so much but I also have a child in kindergarten and household responsibilities I tend to and have just wanted my days off to be exactly that... my days off. I don’t want to make her life harder by not agreeing to go in to work. I feel like she knows I’m just the “easy” person to ask because I have a hard time saying no while these other people don’t. But then again, maybe I’m wrong feeling that way. I also suspect the other caregivers are seeing that I will cover their shifts and are taking more time off and rendering themselves unavailable in return. 

Am I the asshole? If so, how can I better handle the situation? I work with her one on one every day so it is a bit different than barely ever seeing your boss. 

[A]: lying to avoid covering shifts on my days off? the person I care for at work is completely disabled


[Q]: First off we need some backstory, I am a quiet kid that usually does not stand up from himself. In my ELA class and Advisory I have a kid in my class that is really just a jerk, not a bully, but not a nice kid. This dude is pretty messed up and does not really do his work in class. We will call him K, because his name starts with K.

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I was reading my book and talking to some people in my advisory class, my advisory teacher is really chill and does not really care if you talk. She then told us that there would be a fire drill in a few minutes, so I put down my book. My eyes were wandering around, waiting for the alarm to blare, but then something caught my eye. I saw K was on his phone looking at a photo of a guy wearing no shirt and having googles on. He then scrolled down a little bit and the dudes butt was on full display.  I looked at his face because I was wondering if this was just something random in his Instagram fee, but K had a full blown smile on his face and liked the picture. He liked the picture, he liked a PORN picture in school! 

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I would have confronted K about it right then, but the fire alarm went off. We went outside for a few minutes then came back, so I decided to confront him there when he was alone (I did not want to embarrass him, you never know, it could have been a meme). I went up to him and asked him why he was looking at porn in school and he denied all claims. I asked him if it was a meme, but he said he did not look at anything inappropriate. I kept on asking questions, but when he did not tell me anything I decided I had to put him on the hotspot, so I decided to ask him in front of his friends. When  K was with his friends he changed his mind and said it was a meme, so I told his friends how he already said it was not a meme. At this point advisory already ended and I had to go walk to my next class, a class I have with a lot of my friends that has a lot of time to walk (PE).

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I saw my friends in the hall, and told them the story. I did not really feel the need to tell them it was gay porn right away, but whenever I found out he had a girlfriend I did. In PE I told all of my friends the story, they already knew K was messed up and a bit weird, but they never thought he would look at porn on his phone IN SCHOOL. I shared the story only to my close friends because I did not want to shame him in front of everyone, even though K makes fun of people in public all the time. But then I got an idea to extract revenge.

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I got the thought of telling his girlfriend that he was watching gay porn in school. I have been thinking it over for the past few days, but I don't know if that would be a horrible thing to do. K is a jerk, but does he deserve possibly loosing his girlfriend? Should I just tell her K was watching porn, and not bring up the gay part? WIBTA?

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TL:DR A bully/jerk looks at gay porn in school, WIBTA if I told his GF?
[A]: telling his girlfriend what he did


[Q]: This story actually is way too long but I will try to tell it shortly as much as I can.

Me(20) and this girl(20) were together for some time but we really had a different connection. We both can understand each other even in the deepest conversations. Last summer she broke up with me when I was overseas. I had really really hard times when I was a child but this time I had similar traumas again. Not only about her but also about my own life. Made many mistakes because I was depressed and couldn't sleep for very long time and still can't. We fought a lot after the broke up because I couldn't get over things that a normal person would. I really think she is the one for me but I also know she is not a person for serious relationships. She really cares for me still as a person. She even would like to sleep with me but she says she can't be my partner. I live in a place where I can be attractive because I have not the suitable social skills for the people where I live. But somehow she has and now she is in place for a few months more where she can spend time with probably any guy she want and I respect that. I am not jealous or something but she knows she can distract herself this way and I can distract myself only with alcohol. The problem is I want her in my life as a person who really understands me and makes me feel alive and well but AITA for not being able to stay as just friends?
She is okay with staying good friends and help each other at hard times but I still have huge feelings for her and she knows that.

I think I am the a-hole here in my opinion. What do you think?
[A]:
not wanting to lose my ex and best friend


