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Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
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sorry this is long, it requires a little bit of back story...my best friend/roommate has never cared for my boyfriend. Before he got into trouble, she didn’t care for his personality but she has literally spent 5 minutes total with him a single time 3 years ago (when him and i were just friends and i was living somewhere else) and has refused to spend any more time with him or get to know him. She was rude about him coming to our house last year, which he knew so he never wanted to come over and that made it really hard for us. We’d literally sit in my car outside for hours. I basically chose to not make my living situation shitty by doing things that made her mad so we tried to stay out of the house. My bf was going through court for a DUI (no one got hurt, I know it’s an awful thing, he’s in recovery and sober and getting better) and was suicidal and depressed the entire 6 months leading up to him going to jail. He and his family have both told me that they don’t think he would be here if I wasn’t there for him and trying to keep him out of the hole. What this translated to was me spending a lot of time with him over the 6 months he was going through this case. My roommate worked 6 days a week 8-7:30, we spent every Sunday together and she usually had plans weeks in advance for weeknights, but she gave me a huge lecture the week before he was going in about how awful of a person I was for only spending time with him(not entirely true, i did spend a majority of my time with him though), what was I doing, why was I doing it, she said I “flew too close to the sun” and should have left him when the court case started. I can see where she’s coming from but if there was one thing I always tried to do it was make sure I spent time with her at least twice a week. We’re both busy and it was like she wanted me to wait 3 hours for her to be off work and not make plans myself so i could see her. That conversation was really hard, it made me feel like the biggest piece of shit ever. But fast forward now, my boyfriend has been serving his 6 month jail sentence and he’s about 2 months in. I see him once a week and he hasn’t been able to call me up until this week, so he’s been calling me every day. The problem is, he’s been calling me during dinner time because that’s when the phones are open, plus I work 8-5:30 Mon-Saturday so there aren’t a lot of windows and he knows that. So a couple times this week (3 times) I’ve been eating dinner with my roommate and I’ve excused myself when he calls for the 20 minutes I’m allowed to talk to him and then I come back and hang, but last night he called when i was out to eat with her so i tried to keep the conversation under 10 minutes (which is was), and i had to give him a couple messages from his family, so I came back to the table and she was SO MAD at me. Like barely spoke to me and typed out huge texts to her other friends and boyfriend across the table and said that it’s really annoying that we talk every day now and why can’t I just tell him I need to go because I’m at dinner, and that I see him once a week and we really don’t need to talk every day. I definitely did tell him i was at dinner but he waits from 2pm for his phone slot at 7 to open up so i wanted to make it worth it for him too. I felt like shit because I’m just happy I can talk to him again. My roommate stays in constant contact with her boyfriend via text and he calls her sometimes, plus she sees him at least 2x a week. I’m just frustrated because I don’t want to ignore his calls, which she said “I know that would LITERALLY kill you so don’t ignore his calls, I’m just annoyed because he calls during dinner always, I have a right to be annoyed. Like when he called on Saturday you should have just told him you would see him tomorrow and talk to him then.” I do get what she’s saying. But am I the asshole here? Because she makes me feel like it. I miss him more than anything and this week has been the first time in months that I’ve been able to talk to him every day and I’m grateful. Ugh. I need outside perspective! Thank you in advance for reading this. 

TLDR; roommate never liked my boyfriend, now gets annoyed that I answer his calls from jail and I feel like shit 
answer:
answering phone calls from my boyfriend in jail


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I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He floats between the houses of different family members and is looking for a job after some health issues. I had to move for a job which he supported and I offered to pay for him to come with me but he has refused.

Recently I grew frustrated with him saying "one day" to moving here, to kids, to marriage. Then often sounding like he only said "one day" to avoid losing me. He won't move until he gets a job, gets fit, etc. But life won't ever be perfect.  

At the advice of my therapist (who said to give him one month then it's over) I applied pressure. I told him to give me a date by which he would ready to move here because there needs to be one. He accused me of giving an ultimatum, said it reflected poorly on me, and has been teetering between avoidant of talking about it and outright nasty. When I lean towards breaking up he gives me what I want (like the date I asked for, but no real substance to it) so I stay, but after the last few weeks I'm not sure if I want to be with him - the relationship feels like it's moving backwards. I'm tired of being called a bitch over this. 

AITA for putting pressure on my unemployed boyfriend of 2 years to commit to a time to move in after growing tired of hearing "one day"? Is he an asshole for saying he will do it one day but only after [excuse] (which is an ever changing and growing list)? 
answer:
pushing my boyfriend to decide


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Confusing title, I know, but I'm gonna try to keep it somewhat vague, because they both use Reddit. Okay, so there's this super awesome movie franchise(I'll call it ABC) that I have been a fan of since I was a little boy. My best friend and my boyfriend are also equally in love with it, both long time fans. I met my best friend about 6 years ago and since then, we've watched these movies in theaters right when they come out. It's just one of those things we do together. We have other movie series, TV series, and video games that are "our things," so this isn't the only thing we do together.

About 7 months ago, I met my boyfriend. He showed me all of his collections of different things regarding ABC, so I know he loves it as much as I do. Recently, he took me to the movies to see a movie connected to it(but not as connected as the rest) and there was a preview of an upcoming movie(also connected) and he said he wants to take me to see it. I said okay, because I want to see it with him, too.

Now, here's the problem. Movie 1 I watched with my boyfriend because my best friend had already watched it with his other friends(because they're all huge fans, too). Movie 2 is the preview we saw and Movie 3 is another upcoming movie, all tied into ABC. I'm betting most of you know which one I'm talking about. Movie 3 is the biggest, probably most important of the story, so I figured I could save that to watch with my best friend, and watch Movie 2 with my boyfriend.

I told my best friend that my boyfriend wants to take me to see Movie 2 and he got mad at me. He said that these movies are *our thing* and he wants to see them with me. I asked "what about Movie 3?" He got even more mad, saying "especially not that one." So, basically, I can't watch either of these movies with my boyfriend because my best friend wants to see them with me.

After this conversation, he was still mad and saying shit under his breath, I couldn't hear it. Then he followed with "do whatever you want, you don't fucking care, so I don't care either." Now he's pissed and won't talk to me.

I hope this isn't too confusing to follow, if I need to clarify, let me know. So, am I the asshole here?
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wanting to see a movie with my boyfriend that my best friend wants to watch with me


