instruction:
Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).
question:
I am currently a college student working to get her Doctorate in Pharmacy. My dorm roommate has recently talked to me about her switching majors. She wants to go to from the medical pathway to the pharmacy pathway. When I asked her why, she says because she ‘feels like it’s less to handle.’ 

I don’t know if I’m supposed to take offense to this, but it kind of makes me feel weird. In my opinion, they’re two completely different fields. I find it insulting that she thinks that it’s a few steps down from her program. I just told her ‘oh, I guess,’ trying not to cause an unnecessary argument, but I just feel weird about it. I’m definitely not gonna talk to her about it again because I know this is stupid but I still have that weird uncomfortable feeling. 
answer:
NOBODY


question:
So some context, my boyfriend and I have been going out for some time, i love him for bits and could never imagine being with anyone else. He is the one i want to spend the future with and we have speak about this regularly.

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A few months ago i got a DM on Instagram from this user called "Henry" and he basically just said hello at first. I ignored him because i just don,t see the need to talk to him or any other guy. Eventually "Henry" sends a bunch of messages basically saying he wants to send nudes. I blocked him (this is important for later).

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So back to more recent. My boyfriend and i made a promise not to keep secrets a while ago and i was following this along perfectly (but now and then i would only tell him something a bit later as to not ruin a good mood or to make a bad mood worse). Recently he showed me a post on Instagram, my instinct is to always look at the profile photo and I'm not sure why. I see its not his but it seems familiar and get kinda mad at him for not telling me about this extra account because i told him about all mine and he still wouldn't tell me about his. I get mad but soon get over it and apologize for getting angry. 

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Soon he starts getting really secretive when on his phone, mainly Instagram. This is odd to me as he always used to show me what he is looking at. I've been cheated on in almost all of my passed relationships so i obviously start to worry but i don't tell him.

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The other day I was not feeling too good and he was being super secretive on his phone again, not showing me whats going on ect.. He knows im upset and he just reassures me everything is fine. Later that night before going to bed i need to use the bathroom to brush my teeth. I go in and i see he left his phone there. After im done he gets a message from a friend that seems important so i wanted to open it and show him what it said immediately.

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Big mistake.

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I unlock his phone and the first thing that's still open is Instagram. It's open in the profile page and I'm upset. It's "Henry." I know something is up and my brain immediately goes to cheating. I don't look through anything else, i just close Instagram. I go back to his room when I'm done and just show him the message from his friend and break down crying. He comforts me and also starts crying because I refuse to tell him whats wrong and he hates seeing me upset. 

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We fall asleep and wake up in the morning.

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I'm still upset obviously and having my doubts that he is using that account to cheat on me. We have to go to his work for the day and I just leave a note saying that I know he is "Henry" and asking him why he would do that. We head off and he only sees the note when he gets home much later that day.

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He tells me that he made the account to see if I would cheat or flirt with anyone else and also to see if i would snoop through his phone. I feel destroyed. I feel like I've broken his trust by snooping and that I am such an asshole for snooping.

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TL;DR:

My boyfriend was being secretive. I opened his phone to show him a friends message and Instagram was open showing he owned an account that harassed me. I got upset. I broke his trust of me snooping but at the same time he was using to to see if i could cheat. Am I the ass? 

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I love him and don't blame him as he also got cheated on.
answer:
EVERYBODY


question:
Have been sick for the past 4 days. Trying my best to feel better and keep positive.

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SO gets snappy at me last night because I haven't gone to the dr to get it checked out. I knew it wasn't anything serious, just a bad bout of a stomach virus and it would go away with some time. I didn't want to go to urgent care and waste money on being told it was a simple stomach virus.

Shortly after, I mentioned that "I didn't feel well and I'm gonna go lay down" or something similar to that, and SO mocked me and echoed back those words. I felt hurt by this and ended up going to take a shower to relax as I was starting to feel nauseous.

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After the shower I go to living room to lay down while SO finishes up some office work. SO comes in and wants to talk and I instantly respond with "Please give me space, you are making me feel worse and I just need to relax." I was a bit abrasive with this, but I didn't like how SO never apologized for making fun of me and it was just making me feel worse getting worked up.

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The night ended up with SO getting what was called "silent treatment" from me, except I was completely out of it and dozed off with a bad migraine and stomach cramping. I wake up this morning to discover SO is incredibly pissed that I didn't say anything all night to resolve the issue, and that I'm breaking our promise of "never going to bed angry". I didn't even know SO was up crying all night, or that they had slept on floor. SO also packed a bag to stay somewhere tonight and told me "our relationship isn't going to be put on hold for you when you feel sick" and that I don't respect the relationship. 

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Am I the asshole here for walling off and just wanting to rest and relax?

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answer:

OTHER


