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Eye mites carry bacteria that can cause infection, especially if you have rosacea. If you have rosacea, pay attention to any changes in your eyes. Signs of an allergic reaction include:  Watery eyes Eyes that hurt Red eyes Swollen eyes Most people know when they have an eyelash in their eye because it feels like something is in your eye. Eye mites can also make you feel like a foreign body is in your eye. Your eyelids may also feel itchy and you might experience a burning sensation in your eyes. You should also consider if your vision has changed. If your eyesight becomes blurry, you may have eye mites. Unfortunately, you won't be able to look at your eyelashes and eyelids and tell if you have eye mites. They're so small that they can only be seen under magnification. But, you may notice your eyelids become thicker or crusty if you have eye mites. And, you might lose eyelashes if you have mites. Your eyelid can also look red if you have eye mites, especially along the margin or edge. The risk of eye mites increases as you age. Some studies estimate that over 80% of people over the age of 60 have eye mites and that these tiny creatures may are present on many children too. People with the skin disorder rosacea often have eye mites. Eye mites are just as common in men as in women with a similar distribution worldwide regardless of race. If you experience any of these symptoms, you might have eye mites. Unfortunately, they're so small that you can't tell if you have them just by looking at your eyes. And, since many of these symptoms could be caused by other eye problems, you'll have to go to the doctor to know if you have eye mites. You can also ask your eye doctor to make an eye mites diagnosis or check your eyes for another eye condition that could be causing your symptoms. Your doctor will have you sit at a slit-lamp. If you've ever had your eyes checked, the eye doctor used a slit-lamp. You sit with your chin and forehead on a support while a bright light and microscope examine the front of your eye. The doctor will look for the small mites which will be attached to the base of your eyelash. Sometimes, the doctor will pull out an eyelash or two to examine under a microscope.  Some doctors will pull an eyelash in order to show you the mites under the microscope. If the doctor doesn't see any mites, you'll be checked for other conditions that could be causing your eye irritation (like allergies or a foreign object in your eyes).

summary: Watch for allergic reactions. Think about how your eyes feel. Look at your eyes. Consider your risk factors. Contact your doctor. Get an exam.


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Whether your sexual needs aren’t being met or you’re not interested in having sex, acknowledge that your partner’s needs are just as valid. If rekindling your sex life isn’t an option, having empathy for each other will help you deepen your bond in nonsexual ways. You’re each entitled to your individual physical and emotional needs. Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and find ways to compromise with each other. Your partner might not be interested in having sex due to stress, a medical condition, or medication that lowers their sex drive. Remind yourself that situations like these are beyond their control. It's normal to feel inadequate when your partner doesn't want to have sex, but do your best to offer support instead of taking things personally.  For example, lower sex drive is a side effect of some medications, such as antidepressants. Circulatory disorders and other conditions can interfere with sexual arousal. Chemotherapy and other cancer treatments can cause weakness, nausea, diarrhea, and flu-like symptoms. Nerve, joint, bone, and muscular disorders and injuries can cause chronic pain. Stress, anxiety, and depression can also affect stress drive. If your sex drive is lower, try to understand that your partner might feel like you're rejecting them. Even if it’s not your intention, they might feel abandoned or that something’s wrong with them when you refuse their advances.  You don't need to have sex with them just to make them feel better. Explain that you don't share their sexual desire right now, and ask them not to take it personally. If you're going through a physical or emotional struggle, mention that you could use their support. It’s hard to talk about problems in the bedroom, what turns you on or off, and feelings like frustration and insecurity. Start the conversation by telling your spouse that you want to be honest with each other without fear of judgment. Explain how you feel, and stress that you don't want them to think you're attacking or disparaging them.  If you feel like your needs aren’t being met, try saying, “I love you, and I want us to be honest with each other. We haven’t been intimate, and it makes me feel insecure. Please don’t feel like I’m accusing you of anything. I just want to talk about how we can meet each other's needs.” If you have a lower sexual drive, try explaining, “I know I haven’t been interested in sex, and I don’t want you to feel like you’re to blame.” Talk about any physical or emotional obstacles you’re dealing with and say, “Even if sex isn’t an option right now, we can still find other ways to be intimate with each other.” Avoid assigning blame when you discuss intimacy and sexuality. Emphasize that no one is at fault, and remember that it’s okay to have different needs and desires. Say, “I understand where you’re coming from, and I don’t want you to feel like I’m angry with you or blame you in any way. We’re in this together. If we work as a team, we can figure how to make this work for both of us.” Ask each other what you want your relationship to be like. Share your goals with each other, then work together to find a way to meet each other in the middle.  For instance, you both might decide that your goal is to rekindle your sex life. You could work toward that goal by being open about sexual desires, scheduling more private time together, and trying new things in the bedroom. While it’s a difficult topic, being physically attracted to each other plays a role in sexuality. You might set goals like focusing on why you fell in love with each other, getting more physical activity together, and keeping up with hygiene and grooming. If having sex more often isn’t on the table, discuss ways that you can build intimacy in nonsexual ways, such as by having deep conversations, going on dates, and doing something kind for each other every day. Not every marriage counselor has experience with sex therapy. Look online or ask your primary doctor for a referral to a counselor who’s trained and certified to help couples resolve issues related to sex.  Try looking for a local certified counselor on the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) directory: https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory. Don’t think of counseling as a negative thing or a sign that your marriage is in trouble. Seeing a counselor shows that you both want to put effort into making your relationship the best it can be. While unorthodox, some counselors recommend structured extramarital sexual relations for some couples. Since it’s a complicated topic, it’s best to experiment with an open marriage in consultation with your therapist. It’s important for you and your spouse to be open about moral reservations, discuss sexual health, and to establish clear boundaries.  If you and your spouse are already dealing with infidelity, work through the issue with the help of a counselor. You have a right to experience your emotions, but try to understand the situation from your spouse’s perspective. If you pursued an extramarital affair, acknowledge that it will take time to regain your partner’s trust. If your partner was unfaithful, try to understand that they’re human and have needs, even if those needs don’t excuse their actions.


summary: Accept that you and your spouse have different needs and desires. Try to understand any causes of your spouse's lower sex drive. Consider how a lack of intimacy affects your spouse's emotions. Make yourself vulnerable instead of acting defensively. Try to approach the situation as a team. Set your intimacy goals together. Look for a marriage counselor well-versed in issues related to sexuality. Discuss experimenting with an open marriage.