INPUT ARTICLE: Article: It can be difficult to maintain a level of respect and emotional control when you are discussing issues or problems in your relationship with your partner.  Approaching the conversation with care and respect for the other person will show that you want to try to make the relationship work. Avoid swearing or raising your voice at your partner as you discuss your relationship issues. Instead, try to be honest and clear about your feelings in a caring and loving way. Before speaking with your partner, use a calming technique to initiate your body's calming response. Deep breathing, meditation, or even exercising before you sit down tot talk can help you stay level-headed during a difficult conversation. To improve your communication with your partner, it’s important that you work to avoid potential misunderstandings or miscommunications. One way of doing this is by focusing on being clear, direct, and specific about your feelings and desires to your partner. If you feel your partner is neglecting your relationship, you should be honest and clear about how and why this troubles you.  This could be as simple as saying, “I feel like we have not being seeing enough of each other lately and I miss being with you, just us.” You could then suggest that you go out for dinner for a romantic night just the two of you. Your intentions are clear to your partner and you can be assured that you are trying to communicate with your partner. As well, during a disagreement, try to focus on exactly what is making you angry or upset, rather than trying to discuss all of your issues at once. If you feel you are not spending enough time together, focus the discussion on ways that you can both see more of each other and set aside time for each other. If the disagreement is about household chores, such as taking out the garbage, focus the discussion by suggesting that you both look at why it’s important to take out the garbage. Avoid letting the discussion about the garbage be about how your partner doesn’t focus on household chores or how your partner is lazy or inconsiderate. Tackle one issue at a time so you are both not overwhelmed and the disagreement does not escalate to a shouting match. . Active listening means listening and responding to someone in a way that improves mutual understanding. Instead of looking at conversations with your partner as competitions or battles to be won, think of conversations as learning opportunities and ways to understand more about where your partner is coming from. This will show you view conversations with your partner as a way to listen attentively to him, rather than speak at him or disregard what he has to say. To practice active listening, focus your attention on your partner and let your partner finish speaking without interruption. You should then repeat what your partner has said in your own words. Though you do not need to agree with what your partner said, this will show you understand what he said and are willing to discuss his points in a healthy exchange of feelings and thoughts, rather than in a shouting match. Actively listening to your partner is only one half of effective communication. The other half is validating your partner’s point of view, reflecting back his feelings, and discussing possible ways to resolve the conflict. This can be an open discussion where you both talk about ways you can adjust your routines or schedules to accommodate each other, or this could be a resolution to the conflict that you suggest and then discuss with your partner. The important thing is to show you respect your partner’s point of view and are willing to work with him to come up with possible solutions to the issue. For example, your partner may have an issue with you working long hours and not coming home until late at night. Once your partner has finished speaking, respond by saying, “What I’m hearing is that you would prefer if I came home earlier at night and did not work such long hours so we can spend more time together. I also want us to spend more time together. I have to work long hours because of this deadline coming up but I would like to take you out for dinner this weekend so we can have a night out together.” This response shows that you listened to what your partner had to say and came up with a way to resolve the conflict. You are taking responsibility for your actions and sympathizing with your partner’s perspective. Sometimes, it is necessary to go to a therapist or counselor to help unpack some of the emotions and feelings that are threatening to end your relationship. Look for a couples therapist or counselor that you can trust and feel comfortable being honest around. Often, the act of going to therapy together can be the first step to showing your commitment to saving the relationship. As well, you may consider going to therapy on your own if you are dealing with personal issues that may be affecting your relationship. Examining your own issues may help to release any anger, anxiety, or stress that you are bringing into your relationship with your partner.

SUMMARY: Try to be calm and respectful when you communicate with your partner. Be honest and specific about your feelings. Practice active listening Be willing to acknowledge your partner’s point of view. Seek therapy or counseling when necessary.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Pigeons are natural scavengers who thrive off the waste that humans leave behind.  If you maintain a clean property, free of food scraps and loose fruit and vegetation, you are decreasing the chance that pigeons will roost by your home or apartment building. While this may not prevent the pigeons from occasionally traveling through, they probably won't be sticking around long. Make sure you have trash cans and/or dumpsters that can close. This will keep pigeons and other pests away. Place fence or netting around the areas where pigeons roost.   Placing these types or netting and wire around the ledges and perches of your property will effectively encourage pigeons to set up shop elsewhere. Before they set up residence, you can cover ledges and other roosting spots with sheet metal. Set this at an angle as it will be difficult for pigeons to roost on a slope. You can also prevent pigeons from roosting with bird netting. This will keep pigeons at bay without harming them. Place bird netting around trees and barn rafters. These are rows of small spikes that prevent pigeons from congregating and roosting.   These strips of spikes. are placed around the perimeter of large buildings. They are spaced out specifically to prevent pigeons from resting and roosting on roofs and fences. These are relatively inexpensive and humane. These are essentially the equivalent of scarecrows, but designed for pigeons.   These come in many different forms, from fake owls to flying model hawks. Pigeons may get used to a model owl sitting in one place for a long period of time. The most effective kind are model hawks attached to a kite with streamers. These will move in the wind and trick pigeons into thinking a predator is near.

SUMMARY:
Keep your property clean. Kick them out of their roosting sites. Buy "bird strips" for your house. Use a "scare pigeon".