Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

Q: Context: girlfriend got her wisdom teeth taken out, so we go to Kroger because we need to get soft foods and her prescription, we do this to try and hit two birds with one stone and get her home and resting as fast as possible rather than going to a pharmacy and then a grocery store. While there my girlfriend starts feeling like she's going to be sick, I go in to the girl's bathroom with her and start taking her gauze out when a kroger employee comes in to use the bathroom and starts yelling at me for being in the girl's bathroom. To prevent a scene and diffuse the situation we walk out of the bathroom and go to a water fountain outside the bathroom. The kroger employee walks out and gives me the stink eye, as I start changing her gauze she passes out and faceplants in to the floor. People start staring and I hurriedly get her up and conscious and she says she needs to puke. I take her in to the bathroom, and as I start to go in the bathroom with my girlfriend the same employee comes and yells at me again, except this time I am entirely ignoring her running around trying to get paper towels frantically. (I am 20, and she is 18, we have never been in this situation and have absolutely no idea what im doing) whilst I run around like a psycho this employee continues to yell at me. "Sir you can't be in here, sir this is the womans bathroom" "sir she can be in here but you cant" This is while my girlfriend is holding on to the toilet for dear life, this woman gives no fucks. I've fucking had it, I turn around with bloodshot eyes and scream along the lines of "THEN CALL THE FUCKING COPS, SHE JUST PASSED OUT FACE FIRST AND IM NOT FUCKING LEAVING" followed by some other choice words, none of which attack her personally. But this employee is RELENTLESS, she agrees to look after my girlfriend but I am still told to leave the bathroom. My girlfriend explains when I left the employee just stood a good distance from her and watched her, a simple "you ok?" after a couple minutes was all this employee offered her.

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5 minutes pass of me pacing outside the bathroom, more angry than I physically knew I could be. I walk in the bathroom, get her and walk out. 

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AITA?

A: answerable
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Q: Hey guys, so since November, my girlfriend and I were planning to go to somewhere for a 3-day weekend before school starts (Vegas, Lake Tahoe, LA). Shit had hit the fan because last semester I joined a business fraternity where I had became friends with many people. Beforehand, my girlfriend had occupied so much of my time, we'd talk 6-8 hours a day and had led me losing any of my close friends. When the semester started, I loss touch with her, I became more involved with my fraternity and shit had hit the fan because she became jealous of other girls that I was getting to know (not flirting or anything, but becoming friends with), so as the semester ended we tried fixing my issues of lack of communication and openness. 

Cue the end of December and my fraternity announces a retreat to Tahoe, to potentially party, have very fun moments and really develop bonds with other people in the fraternity I haven't got to know. It is on the same date that my girlfriend and I had originally planned to go on vacation together, and I was torn in between these two events. For one thing, I had never had gone on such a trip with friends and for another thing it's from what I hear something people in my fraternity won't forget. So I am allured to that idea. I feel like going on a trip with my girlfriend is so expensive FWIW (Each of us are looking at $500 which is not really wise for both of us who are in college, in comparison to $55, but I can't bring her). I also feel like there may be fights and horrible experiences just because are relationship is just pulling itself back together. In fact, we just started planning this 2 days ago when it should have been 1 month ago minimum. 

Deep inside I just wanted to have fun on a trip that I may not be able to experience again, and I was hoping my girl can trust me, but she can't because I had deleted a text to another girl saying Happy thanksgiving" when I told my gf I wouldn't reply back. It seems crazy and childish, but a lot of trust was lost because I was replying to other girls texts before her. I wasn't trying to get with any of these girls, it just feels so great being friends with people. In other words, I've been in a controlling relationship and I just started having these experiences.

A: answerable
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Q: ... And also getting mad at him when he said he wouldn’t? 

So I’ve been in a LDR with this guy for 2 years, living on opposite sides of the world. I left a lot of my things over at his place from my last visit about half a year ago. I have maybe $400+ dollars worth of clothing and accessories there and also a $100 wacom tablet. I have quite a passion for this style of fancy Japanese fashion called himekaji. A lot of clothing articles are rare and sought after and there’s quite the buy/swap/sell culture surrounding it. I left a few of my favourite dresses and skirts at his place. 

So I broke up with him a month ago. In short, things didn’t work out between us for 2 main reasons:

I just didn’t love him like I used to these last few months

There was someone else I started to have feelings for (There wasn’t any cheating involved, unless you count this as emotional cheating. I reciprocated feelings for him when he expressed his own and then broke up with my bf a few days after not speaking with this guy.)

After the breakup, I made no mention of my things I left at his place. I was really undecided on when I should ask him to send my things back to me or whether I should even ask at all. I think I was just hoping he’d do it for me anyway. Finally, he sent me a message saying he “considered burning them but then decided to donate them because someone else would appreciate those clothes far more than I ever did”. That was the final straw and I got mad at him, telling him that it wasn’t his call to make I think he made that remark because he always got irritated at how much I fussed over my fancy clothes (not getting stained or creased etc).  

If it makes any difference, I would have offered to send him money compensating for the delivery cost and trouble. 

Is it fair for him to feel this way? I did break his heart after all and I know he would be understandably sad and angry at me and I should let him. But should he put that aside for this simple gesture of returning the things that are mine? Or should I just accept the consequences of dealing with a breakup? I have absolutely no idea at this point. I just need an outside perspective. 

A:
answerable
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