Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

[EX Q]: A couple weeks ago I (20M) got into an argument with my current girlfriend (23F), I’ll call her Jen, about my ex girlfriend (22F), Megan, because she wouldn’t stop talking about her. Megan and I used to date for a couple of months. She became friends with one of my roommates, and goes out with her to the bars every once in a while. Coincidentally, she knew my other roommate from high school, so she had two friends at my apartment. 

We ended things and I got a new girlfriend, but I still tried to stay friends with Megan so we’d talk often. Jen didn’t like this. We actually all three met up one night and had an adult discussion about it but Jen wouldn’t say to her face that she was upset with Megan texting or snapchatting me every day (because she always initiated the conversation with me), instead she just said it behind her back. I realized it wasn’t worth the time/effort so after at least a dozen arguments I blocked her from Snapchat after she took back her DVD player from my house so I’d have a “reason to” and that was pretty immature of me, which upset Megan. 

Megan would come over more often after this to “hang out” with my roommates and wouldn’t care if me and Jen were home. This bothered Jen a lot, and I had to continue listening to her complain about Megan even though I wasn’t talking or engaging with her in anyway, even if she was over. 

She would say things like, I can’t get away from this bitch, at school (they have classes together at university), where she’s always wearing the stupid Burberry scarf you bought her in front of me, and now in your apartment? Why don’t you go out and tell her this is not okay? Tell her to leave. She’s not welcome here. I don’t like her. So this is where I might have messed up because I said, “why do YOU care so much about this girl? You sound really insecure and I already blocked her. I feel like this is all the talk about and I’m getting tired of it. Why don’t you leave instead?”

Honestly, I was just really done hearing about Megan and I couldn’t stand it anymore. She was a daily conversation that I didn’t want to have anymore. So Jen starts crying and tells me that I don’t care about her, I don’t love her and makes a big scene when she leaves in front of my ex and roommates. I feel like a dick, but I wanted to ask reddit, AITA?
[EX A]: EVERYBODY

[EX Q]: My girlfriend and I recently moved in together.  It’s been a learning experience as this is my first live in girlfriend.  

She works part time and I’m full time as well as crunching some overtime.  At the beginning of the week I asked her if she could do some of my laundry sometime in the week. There’s two machines on our floor and when I went to throw my stuff in both were in use.  

She got annoyed and told me she’s not my mother, to just wait until the machines were empty.  I was dead tired, but stayed up and did exactly that.  

Today is my day off and I woke up to a note asking me to pick up some stuff from the store and pick up her laptop from her cousin’s place.  

She set the term that it’s acceptable to deny favors and I would rather not do these.  
[EX A]: EVERYBODY

[EX Q]: So 

A bit of context: I have a large friendship group (all early 20s) which I didn't see much for a few months, and she had recently joined right after I left. 


One of my friends used to be madly in love with my current girlfriend (of 2 years) before I met her. 

I have to make clear that she was not interested at all - my gf isn't the type to yell at someone but she did make clear that she didn't like him and it wasn't going to happen. I think in his mind he thought if he was persistent enough, it would happen. 

He was completely infatuated, to the point where the comments and passes he made at her would just make her and everyone around uncomfortable.


When I came back and first met her, I did like her. We vibed well, same sense of humour, etc. But I didn't want to piss my friend off by asking out a girl he practically loved. 

6 months later I didn't put it off anymore and we started dating. We didn't make it public to our friendship group because we didn't want to step on toes or become a gossip piece. 

When my friend found out, he was understandably upset and pretty visibly hurting. He never approached me as he isn't the confrontational type but you could tell. He's one of the kindest guys I've ever met and I feel bad that he got hurt, but I don't feel bad about my actions. 


My friends gave mixed feelings on it: 

- Some think I did my mate wrong by going out with a girl that he pretty much loved. 

- Some think my friend was in the wrong as it was made clear to him that she wouldn't have the same feelings. 


My question is:  
Was it wrong for me to pursue a girl that my friend was in love with but who didn't reciprocate those feelings for him? 
[EX A]:
OTHER

