In this task you are given an anecdote, which recount a complex ethical situation. The question you are given is, has the author of the anecdote acted ethically? answer this question with "RIGHT" or "WRONG".

Q: I was raised by my stepdad and mom, they had two more kids together. I caught my stepdad cheating when I was 17 with dozens of people, told my mom, they tried to work it out for about 5 years but then split up.  

Despite the fact that he cheated on my mom and has never paid child support, I still have a relationship with him. Until recently I was his power of attorney, I'm treated just like I was his firstborn child. He can be very manipulative and it's gotten worse in recent years, this has put a strain on our relationship but nothing like the strain created when he started dating his now fiancee.  

Let me say that if she were pleasant, I would welcome this new person in my life. But she is not. She is constantly hostile and rude. She seems to not understand why I'm still in my stepdad's life (despite the fact that he started dating my mom when I was 2) and has looked for every possible opportunity to make me out to be the bad guy. She's a jerk to my younger siblings (his kids), but doesn't seem to try to drive them out like she does me. I'm 30 and only visit occasionally, it's not like I'm dependent on them by any means.  

This all came to a head recently because of yet another situation where I was totally alienated. I basically decided I was done trying.  

He reached out and said he felt I'd been distant. I kind of just told him everything I'd been thinking. I didn't name call or say anything unforgivable, but basically just said that the way she treats my brothers is terrible but that the way she treats me is substantially worse. He asked if we could discuss it in person and I said that was fine. We haven't spoken since then but I figured we would when he was ready.  

Today I find out from my sibling that our dog is not doing well and might need to be put down. I'm absolutely crushed. They got him when I was in college but outside of my dogs he is my favorite dog on earth. If they have to put him down, they'll do it at their home (her house) and I'd really love to be there to say goodbye and to support my siblings. However I don't know if I'd be a huge asshole for showing up or asking if I can. I feel like I might be an equally big asshole for not showing up ("you couldn't put that aside even for the dog?!") so if I have to risk one I'd rather pick the one that lets me say goodbye to my best little buddy.  

Do I wait and see if I’m invited? If I am, which is the the asshole move, attending or not attending? 

A: RIGHT
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Q: I'm not very used to posting on reddit, so I'm sorry if this comes off as rambly. I just really need a neutral perspective on this. 

  I have ADHD, which makes it pretty difficult to sit and focus in class without doing something with my hands. In highschool I'd find myself constantly doodling to help me listen to teachers. Through both highschool and college I've never really had any problems with it, until today. 
  
Currently I'm taking a communications class that's required of my major. Everyone gives a speech in class every two weeks or so. This class goes for 3 hours, so going in I knew I'd be fidgety. I got my speech out of the way and started drawing in my sketchbook. 
  
 It must have taken her sometime to notice me, because in the middle of class after a student gave their speech she called across the room for me to close my book and pay attention. She then announced to the whole class about how doing anything besides listening quietly was unacceptable and horribly disrespectful. Everyone went on break for a few minutes and I had time to put away my things.
 
 This is the part that probably puts me in asshole territory. If I was smart I would have not done anything and just sat quietly. But this is the 3rd time this professor has passive aggressively lectured me in front of the whole class, so I was feeling pretty grumpy. I didn't want to risk disassosiating and getting anxiety because of this teacher. So I took out my smaller sketchbook and turned more towards the speakers to show that I was paying attention. She was not happy about this.

  After class was finished she told me to stay when everyone left. She then berated me about how horribly disrespectful and distracting I was to everyone. Because of this I'd be losing 10 percent of my grade on my own speech- and she was going to bring it up to the chairman because me drawing was that problematic to the rest of the class. She went on to aggressively tell me how horrible I was for a good few minutes. Even after explaining why I was doodling she said she didn't care. because I didn't have an accommodation letter, she couldn't(wouldn't) accept the excuse; and that other kids in class have problems and don't bother anyone in class. 
  
 I think she handled the whole situation rather horribly, but she has a point- I should of gotten some resources from my school's student disability services awhile ago. No matter what I end up doing I'm definitely going to talk to them about accommodations in the future so situations like this don't happen again. 

I grew up being a good student, so I'm honestly not used to handling teachers that don't like me. AITA?

A: RIGHT
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Q: My (M20) girlfriend (F20) and I have been together for 6 months. We are in college. We go out to eat at local restaurants a couple of times a month to get away from the repitition of dining hall food. Financially I am much better off than her. I get lots of money from family, I dont spend a lot, and my parents pay for everything when I am home so I have a lot saved. She has more expenses and is going abroad this summer so as a result does not try to spend a lot of money. As a result I almost always pay when we go out to eat. I am fine with this. I love her and I understand why it is difficult for her to pay. (For the record I know that if I asked her to split the check she would.) 

This has been a small issue for a while but on Saturday it got a bit bigger when we went out to eat, and that is how much I tip. To be clear, I do not tip small. Usually around 15%, perhaps smaller if the waiter does something blatantly to hurt service. That is how much my dad tips, thats what I grew up on. My girlfriend's family tips large amounts, around 20% sometimes higher. On Saturday we went to a local restaurant. I tipped around 13%, namely because the waiter was socializing with another table (I could hear their conversation) while we had been waiting for a while to order dessert. She got angry with me because I was not being generous enough.

I feel that because I am paying (which I am happy to do) she has no right to criticize how much I tip. AITA?

A:
RIGHT
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