Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, judge whether or not a specific person is wrong here. Answer 'not answerable' if more information is required and 'answerable' if all the information is sufficient to answer who is wrong in this situation.

Input: Consider Input: Disclaimer: sorry if there are any typos/this is rambling....I’m *really* tired. 

I had to post here before I go to sleep because this is really bothering me. 

My bf had to be at the airport at 5:15 AM to catch a flight to see his family. He’ll be gone for 4 days. 

When he originally asked if I could drive him, I told him it depended on my work schedule. He decided on the dates for his flight last minute, and my work schedule was already set. 

At a friend’s house yesterday he was talking about his trip and me driving him. At this time, I told him that he’s probably going to have to drive himself because I work that day. (I have to be at work at 6:30 AM.) He started acting really dramatic and disappointed at which point I told him I would pay for his parking if it was that big of a deal ($8/day x 4 days)—something I can’t really afford right now, but he can. That still wasn’t good enough for him. He continued to act pouty and it made it a bit awkward for the people we were with. I agreed to drive him because I just wanted to get out of the situation and he was making me feel guilty. 

Later that night, he asked if I was sure I could drive him. I again told him that it was incredibly early and I’d be losing an hour of sleep—which is a lot, IMO when you already wake up at 5:30 AM. I didn’t want t drive him, but I sensed that he was still bitter and this was going to be a “thing” for him. I told him “let’s see what I feel like in the morning”, meaning that if I was too exhausted he would drive himself or take an Uber. He agreed to this. 

Mind you he also knew that I hadn’t slept well the past 2 days either due to work and a little get-together on NYE. 

I woke up with him this morning at 4:30. I asked if he could call an Uber or drive himself because I tossed and turned last night and slept a total of 3.5 hours. He immediately started getting upset saying it was too late (he had 20 minutes until he had to leave—plenty of time to call an Uber). 

I gave up. He’d surely argue with me the entire time until he left and I’d be awake anyway, so I drove him. 

Now...to put my work schedule into perspective: I work 13 hour shifts. I’m on my feet all day long with little time to sit and also do some manual labor as part of my job. I get one 30 minute break at work. I’m a nurse, so I have to be clear-minded and able to think critically throughout the day. I am scheduled to work 3 days in a row like this...the first being the day he needed to be drive to the airport.

I just got off the phone with him and he’s insisting that part of being in a relationship means that you sacrifice and do things like this for each other and I’m being unreasonable and selfish. 

I think *he* was being childish and selfish. I’m still mad about how he seemed to have manipulated me into driving him. 

Am I an asshole?

Output: answerable


Input: Consider Input: So im gonna start with a little bit of background information: Be me, 22 y/o male in the middle of his in-firm training (takes 3 years), who has been in a relationship with his first gf for almost 6 years. Fly to the USA for 4 weeks as a part of your training. Get your ass dumped via whatsapp after you´ve been there for 1 week because of another guy that she met (he gave her a ride from our hometown to the city where she studies for the last 1 1/2 years). Get messages like "Cant i be a little bit happy?" or "You havent cared about me in our relationship". Be sad as fuck, eat like once a day, no sleep because of jetlag + fucked up mentality. Cant enjoy the time you have there because you cant get a clear minute. Come back home after 4 weeks.

Thats where im gonna start. Of course she wanted to talk to me about everything and at the time i was abroad i also wanted to know why, but as i returned back home after 4 weeks full of shit i was so done with her. I didnt want to speak to her or ever see her again, even if the time we had together was beautiful and i loved her more than anything else. I can understand if you break up if you have the feeling that it just doesnt work anymore, but not like this, not after almost 6 years. Was that what i deserved? To be dumped like someone she barely knew and didnt care about? I felt so worthless for about 2-3 months. Without my friends and my parents i probably wouldnt be where i am right now and i spent the first few weeks talking with them about what happend so i could process it. 

Almost everybody told me that i should not answer her messages or calls anymore, and that was just what i did. Of course she kept writing me, but i just ignored her. After a few months it started getting better and i didnt have to think about her all the time.

Now, after almost 1 year (all this took place in June 2018), she is blaming me that her conscience is bothering her and that she has to think about me alot, that she cant concentrate on her studies and that the relationship with her new bf suffers from her having to think about me. So basically she states that all this happened because i didnt want to settle things with her, but i really dont give a damn about what she thinks or how she feels now. AITA for this?

Output: answerable


Input: Consider Input: Some back story to this. I have 2 older brothers that went across the country to work in Los Angeles at a 5 star hotel and spent there summers living it up in LA while I was stuck at home getting fat. My parents excuse was that I can’t handle the job or control myself there which I proved them wrong. I’ve held a job at a restaurant for 7 months now never having any issues with my co workers or with customers. Which was there main concern. I’ve brought it up to my parents that I want this more than anything and I still get it turned around and made to look like the asshole. Am I the asshole for asking for equal opportunities. 


Output: not answerable


