Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).
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Question: There's a girl that I've been friends with for a while, and that I kinda have a crush on. We hang out a lot, and talk all the time at school (we're both juniors in high school), and we're just in general very comfortable around each other.

I was at her house the other day, and she brings up this english essay she has due tomorrow, and hadn't even started. She said that she had somewhere really important to be tonight and was basically preparing herself to take the f, when I offered to write it for her. It was on Huckleberry Finn, which I've read a bunch and really love, so it would be a piece of cake for me. She says "thank you so much" and all that and everything's cool.

Later that night, before I start the essay, I check snapchat and see that she's on a date with another guy I know. I got super pissed off that this was the "important" and "urgent" thing she had to do. So without telling her, I just didn't write the essay. And the next day at school, she had the nerve to get angry at me for not doing it like she wasn't on a date. Am I the asshole here?



Answer: AUTHOR


Question: So my girlfriend is pissed at me over a holiday she wants to go on.  
   
 

She has lived in many places throughout her life and one of those places she’d like to visit again. She has ties and friends there and knows the place well. I’m not all that keen on going to this place, it’s not somewhere I’ve ever wanted to visit and it’s really far away (way further than I’ve ever been before) and expensive to get to. We’re talking thousands of £/$  
 She has offered to cover the costs, which I still declined. I don’t like feeling like I owe anyone and I don’t want her to put up a load of money for somewhere I don’t want to be / may not enjoy.  
 She is upset that I have refused the offer and still do not want to go. She said she has offered me the opportunity for a great holiday at no cost and I don’t care enough to go. 

I said to her that just because you have offered to pay for a trip for someone to go somewhere they don’t want to doesn’t mean they should accept it.  
 My position is that if I really want to go somewhere and she doesn’t then I would not be upset or think twice about it, I would go alone or with a friend and then go somewhere with my girlfriend that we both wanted to go, both would enjoy and both paid for. We both have to accept and respect each other’s likes and dislikes.

So AITA? She thinks so but I don’t really think I am…  

Answer: OTHER


Question: I ended my friendship with someone I thought to be very well with. The whole story took place at the beginning of september and I'd love to pretend I am over it, but since I am still thinking about it occaisonally, I can safely assume I do regret at least a tiny bit. 

We know each other for 3 years and have been together on several holoday trips. We were the kind of friends lurking around in the voice chat until deep into the night, talking about all the stupid things 16 to 19 year olds had on their mind. 

His birthday is on the beginning of september and he invites me for a small party with only 4 guests, all of our friendgroup. He didn't want to celebrate big this year he told me. 
However shortly after the invitation, I notice my friends, the ones invited along me to the small party, talking abour the big party on saturday. I was invite on friday though. 
Of course I curiously asked about the details. Turns out my friend is about to throw a big party on a playground with lots of alcohol and lots of guests the day after. He paired up with a girl he knew from school and overall round about 30 people were invited. 
What made me go crazy was the fact that everyone else from our friendgroup was invited, except for me, they were told to bring their girlfriends aswell. At that point I openly asked him, why I wasn't invited. I was told about there not being enough space (remind you 30ppl on a public playground!) and the others were "only" invited because of some kind of "chain invitation" person x because he knew y and  then z for x so he had more than one. I further questioned why I wasn't in his "chain", but he didn't answer. 

Anyways I went to the small party (I shouldn't have went there) and when I left I waved one final big ass red flag about the next day, asking when I should be there tomorrow. He smirked and he should have left it at that, instead he insulted me :" I am not going to invite you, but I won't send anyone home who shows up.".  
That pissed me off, I turned around without saying anything. 
Nevertheless he isn't done yet, the next evening he send me pictures via SC/Instagram etc about his party. I blocked him everywhere afterwards and muted him on Discord. 
Around that time our common friends tried to bring us back together, he was apparently admiting slight remorse to my friends, worse for me was however that none of my friends, who all were invited, understood my anger against him and played it down. The party was bad/boring but noone out of 5 guys could understand my position. I told all of them to stop trying to get us back together and after a while they  respected. 
The swing in the story is the birthdayparty of a common friend at the end of october.  We were both invited and I made sure to be polite with him, but cold. Inevitably he asked me for reunion later during the party, I reclined, I thought about what to say beforehand, because I wanted to "stay strong". 
The next morning I was talking with my mother about the party and mentioned howI stayed strong (note this is how i first viewed it, since my ego was scratched). She just asked me, wether I was sure and happy with my response.
Now it is the end of december and I still sometimes thing about my decision to recline. 
Therefore I decided to set up the post.

AITA?

Disclaimer: Not in the US, but Germany, hence public drinking not a problem.
Excuse the formating, I am writing on mobile. 

Answer:
EVERYBODY


