In this task you are given an anecdote. You must find out whether the anecdote is something the author has done or is considering doing. Label the instances as "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and label them as "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future.

[Q]: I broke to with my girlfriend about five months ago. Due to living situations she stayed living with me until she could save up to fully moved out. Over these months we've been dealing with it but came to a form of normalcy. 

There has been some flirting time to time since our relationship but I chaulked it up tonl us dating nearly three years. Recently she attempted to kiss me, but I pulled out of it. I didn't think going down there road would be a good idea as we broke up due to us not exactly clicking very well, though I suspect it was due to me being stubborn and not wanting to change from enjoying not being alone; I won't deny that fact. 

Even though we aren't together anymore, I avoided dating anyone or get close enough to that  because it was still a fresh breakup and to not put her in a place of uncomfort while she lived with me. 

The other day I found out she's dating one of her friends and ever since I felt a sinking feeling and generally upset about it, and I'm not sure exactly why that is. 

Am I the asshole for being upset about her seeing other people while she's living with me? Am I upset just because I keep seeing her everyday and things would be different if we didn't live with each other?
[A]: HISTORICAL


[Q]: So initially, my prom group was supposed to be small- only 6 people. And when people asked to join, we told them we weren't sure. We decided to let in 2 more of our close friends. Then, the people who we weren't as close with started asking to join and we thought we couldn't use the valid excuse of "we want a small group" since we already let in two others. 

We started discussing how to handle this but before we could decide anything, one person just assumed that they were automatically in our prom group since we didn't say no outright. And she started telling her friends to join her in our group even though we hadn't said yes. And once that got out, everyone who we had told we weren't sure about started pressuring to join our group, and we gave in. Now, our group of 6 has turned into a group of 20 and we're positive we won't have a good time especially with all the logistical nightmares of transportation and reservations.

So now, one and a half weeks before our prom, my group is debating whether to cut everyone out except for our original 6. Will we be the asshole if we leave them with no plans this close to prom?
[A]: HYPOTHETICAL


[Q]: 
So I have not spoken to my brother in almost a year. I live in Virginia and he lives in Las Vegas. My mother told me months ago he was engaged to be married, but I never received an invitation. I have not spoken to him in over a year because he decided to spout off a bunch of anti military 'your husband is just a killer' B.S. two days after my husband left on deployment. (Myself, or my husband do not expect people to kiss his ass, if that's my brother's opinion then whatever, but going off about it two days after my husband left was inappropriate and poor timing IMO. He was extremely rude and explosive about his opinion and said my husband would deserve whatever happened to him on deployment, if he was hurt or killed, because the U.S. was responsible for the deaths of innocent people)

Anyway, yesterday out of the blue, he sends me a messenge on facebook asking me if I would fly to Vegas to be at his wedding in October. I said I would see what I could do because I would flying with two young children across country because my husband would be deployed again. Also, a cross country ticket and hotel in Vegas is pretty pricey. He seemed happy with this answer and said he would let me know definite dates soon. And that was it. 

I was a little upset after this exchange for a few reasons:

1) He never acknowledged we haven't spoken for a year, or that he said some messed up stuff to me, about my husband. 

2) My son is two and half and he has never acknowledged that his nephew exsists. He never congratulated me on this pregnancy or his birth. Never asks me about him or acknowledges him in anyway.

3) He knows I'm pregnant again, due in four weeks and have been extremely ill throughout with HG and liver problems and never asked if I was ok, how I was doing or about the baby. I've been hospitalized a few times, all of which he knows about because my mother tells him about it. 

4) He's always crying that family should support family no matter what when he has something going on,  but is never supportive of any family when they have something going. I.E. he was still living in the same town as my older brother when his daughter was born, but never went to the hospital to see her and didnt bother to meet her until a family event months later. 

After thinking about all of this, I didn't see why I even should spend the money and go through the headache of long flight with two small children. However my parents and some family members have told me I am being petty and should just be a good sister and go. To the point where I'm starting to question if they're being ridiculous or if I'm really just being petty.

So, WIBTA if I just say fuck it, like he has for so long?
[A]:
HYPOTHETICAL


