Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.

Ex Input:
My mom told my brother and I to wash the dishes, and we said we would do it later. She insisted two more times and when we went to wash them, she was almost finished.
This started a heated argument where she claimed she was doing other housework and we didn't do our task when she told us. We said she didn't give us a time limit and we were there ready to start.
I know it's silly but I don't know who's in the wrong here, can you help me?

Ex Output:
taking time to start a task


Ex Input:
As a preface, I’m not sure if this would even qualify, since I’m pretty sure I already am an asshole. I’m looking for an objective set of eyes on the situation. Also, sorry for the formatting, I’m on mobile. 

We’ll refer to this person as Sam to keep genders/identities as hidden as possible. 

So, I’ve had a problem with Sam, but I can’t remove him/her from my life because he/she is my SO’s cousin, and they’ve been close since birth. 

The story begins here: when my SO and I began our relationship, Sam was jealous that SO was in a relationship and he/she wasn’t, so he/she badmouthed me to my SO all of the time. Sam turned out to be so effective at turning my SO against me that we ended up breaking up for about a year. 

Then, during junior year prom (I’m a whiny teen, as it turns out), Sam was again jealous because the person that he/she wanted to go with went with someone else, and was in a general bad mood. My SO and I were talking again, and as I tried to make my way over to SO to dance, Sam got in my way over and over so I couldn’t. Then, another person went and danced with my SO. I was upset the rest of the night. 

However, since then, I’ve reconnected with my SO and we have been dating for a while, and Sam has found him/herself a SO. Thus, I’ve had to spend most of this year of school around Sam+SO. 

This exposure has lead to nothing but constant roast sessions between myself and Sam; Sam will call me scrawny while I will rip on Sam for the stupid things that he/she says. 

This all culminates in the study session in the library today. Sam had been laughing at me for something that he/she wouldn’t even tell me about, and I was quite annoyed about it. So, my asshole move reared its head. I took a book about fitness off of the shelf and told Sam that he/she should read through it. Keep in mind, Sam certainly isn’t a fat or anything like that, Sam is just slightly on the larger side. Major dick move, I get it. 

Then, as I was trying to fall asleep Sam’s SO decides to text me, demonstrating how upset he/she is, lambasting my morals, threatening to kick my ass, and demanding an apology. 

I apologized for what I said, but the entire conversation was tinged by the impression that Sam’s SO believes that he/she did nothing wrong and I was the criminal, which I couldn’t take. I believe that if Sam would insult me about my body (being scrawny), Sam should be able to take an insult about his/hers. 


I get it, Sam is probably self-conscious about his/her body, but I just can’t understand how someone could think that my insult was completely unprompted and “over the line”. Sam has no right at all to assume that it’s okay to make fun of my scrawniness, and shouldn’t be surprised when he/she gets a taste of his/her own medicine. 

So the question is, am I the only asshole in this situation, are we both, or are we just a bunch of whiny teenagers still trying to figure out life?

Ex Output:
making an insulting joke to somebody I resent


Ex Input:
Ok - long story short: in October, I made a friend at work with whom I became infatuated. She is married and there is no possibility of anything happening between us, but that didn't stop me from swooning over her every text message. I did not tell her about these feelings or make any kind of advance since I had no real expectation of being with her, so for the past few months we've been  talking regularly and hanging out on occasion as friends. No big deal.

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Cut to 2 weeks ago. I had finally come to terms with the fact that this has become a very unhealthy situation for me, and I probably need some time and space from it. I wanted to tell her this in person, but I did not have the courage to look her in the eye and  a) confess my feelings, and b) tell her I need to back away for a bit. So I sent her a text explaining that I'd caught feelings, it had become unhealthy, and I thought she deserved a friend who was in it for the right reasons. So I'd need to back away for a bit. She was gracious, if cold, in her reply: she said she'd had no idea about my feelings, that she hopes she didn't do anything to make them worse, and that she respects my decision. 

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We haven't spoken much at all since then, and I have gone well out of my way to avoid her at work because I do NOT want to make her feel creeped on or uncomfortable. Any contact we have had has been muted and pretty cold from her end. But, in the time since I sent her the feelings text, I've realized that the way I wrote it likely implied that I only ever became friends with her because I want her. SO, I've spent the day drafting a letter explaining carefully that our friendship - the ACTUAL friendship we'd built over the past months - was not part of some long-term agenda to be with her, and that my feelings are incidental to the friendship. I can't stand her thinking that our whole friendship was a lie, and I've already told her that my hope is for us to be close again someday. 

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AITA or WIBTA for reaching out to make her to understand that I didn't have bad intentions? Have I forfeited my right to try and explain myself to my friend? 

Ex Output:

reaching out to a friend I confessed feelings for


