as one female respondent said we can do things ourselves we are not dependent on men in the past saying the names of our husband and motherinlaw was social taboo but such restriction does not exist anymore however programmes in nepal by helvetas and the asian development bank adb showed how infrastructure programmes can reduce women s unpaid care work and challenge existing discriminatory gender norms this was done through women s representation considered a fourth r in the rs framework by the ilo in the programme design phase andor decisionmaking processes see box