Cheering On Your Child -
On and Off the Field
While winning the game is the end-goal of playing sports, parents can easily lose sight of the important steps to success that make that finish possible. Have you noticed that your kids perform better
Cheering On Your Child -
On and Off the Field
While winning the game is the end-goal of playing sports, parents can easily lose sight of the important steps to success that make that finish possible. Have you noticed that your kids perform better when they receive positive reinforcement and praise? The Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA) highlights this method of encouragement as filling up your child's "Emotional Tank" (E-Tank).
PCA Board Member, Cuties spokes-mom, and Soccer Hall of Famer Joy Fawcett explains that the E-Tank concept is like the gas tank in a car. The fuller our tanks are, the longer we can go. And kids perform better when their e-tank is full and lower when it is empty. Check out a series of parent-focused videos produced by Cuties. Watch them here!
Kids with full e-tanks are more coachable. They are more open to your suggestions. They also tend to be more optimistic, deal better with adversity and are more capable of changing their behavior in response to their surroundings. When e-tanks are low, kids tend to be pessimistic, give up more easily and become defensive in the face of criticism. Sounds great, but you are probably wondering "How do I fill my child's
Here are some ways you can fill your child's e-tank:
- Listening - it is one of the most powerful tank-fillers… adopt a "tell-me-more" attitude. Encourage your child to express themselves.
- Be truthful & specific with praise. It is fine to say "good job", but it is so much better when you are specific, such as "Your effort today was great, especially when you ran back on defense to block the shot." This shows that you care and are paying attention, both of which are big e-tank fillers. The same idea can be applied to other areas of your children's lives, such as preparing for a science test:
"A better science test score! I noticed that you studied hard, and it paid off."
- Non-verbal Actions: smiling, clapping, thumbs up or a high five.
And just as some actions are fillers, some can be drainers… be careful to avoid them. One common example is just by ignoring and not listening to your child. Another common one is sarcasm. Criticizing and making corrections during or after the game are drainers. Kids know when they make mistakes or do not perform well; they don't want to hear about it again. Also, non-verbal actions like hands on hips, frowns, eye rolling, crossed arms and heavy sighs
are all tank drainers.
Practice filling your kid's e-tank and see what happens. Try doing it for a spouse or co-worker. It takes practice but it feels great once you have mastered it.
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