I am very excited to kick off the five-part series: “How To Cultivate Empathy In Your Child’s Heart.” Five bloggers have teamed together to post activities and ideas to help teach children about empathy. The other four blogs participating in this
I am very excited to kick off the five-part series: “How To Cultivate Empathy In Your Child’s Heart.” Five bloggers have teamed together to post activities and ideas to help teach children about empathy. The other four blogs participating in this series are listed at the end of this article – you are warmly invited to follow along for activities, crafts, service projects, artistic explorations, and role plays all to help your children develop empathy!
Definition of “empathy”: the ability to identify with and understand somebody else’s feelings or difficulties
Today I will be sharing simple exercises you can do with a set of Emotion Cards to help children identify feelings and begin to consider the feelings of others. I have split the activities up into three age groups but, of course, depending on the personality and maturity of your child the ideas may overlap.
Emotion Cards are a set of cards that show many different emotions. They can be made at home in many ways, for example using:
- Clip art
- Photographs of your child or of several family members (posed for the purpose of making the cards or taken at random)
- Pictures drawn by hand
- Pictures from old magazines, newspapers, or even junk mail
Some emotions/feelings you may like to include are: happy, sad, frustrated, scared, angry, excited, surprised, worried, embarrassed
To make our set of Emotion Cards I cut out pictures of children from free baby magazines I have received in the mail over the past few years (I have a pile stashed away in our craft supplies). Then I mounted the pictures on blue card paper and laminated them, since I made them when my first son was a toddler and I wanted them to last through years of use. Using a glue stick to paste the pictures onto squares of cardboard (like old cereal boxes) is another easy way to increase durability if you do not have or prefer not to use a laminator.
You can also just use the pictures by themselves without mounting or laminating if you want to have a quick one-time activity, or if you will be using the cards with older children who know how to handle the pictures carefully.
Now on to the activities…
We have used our set of Emotion Cards many times over the past few years. When my children were between the ages of two and three, I would simply encourage them to practice naming the emotions. This can be done in several fun and engaging ways.
Activities for 2-3 Year Olds
- Hold the stack of cards face down and flip them over one at a time to name each emotion
- Put the cards face down on the floor or table in rows (like you are going to play a traditional matching game) and ask your child to flip them over one by one as they name the emotions
- Place a selection of cards on the table face up (you may like to experiment with 3 at first, and eventually display up to 10 at a time) – name one of the emotions showing and ask your child to identify which card you have described
- Show your child a card at random and ask them to copy the face pictured, then name the emotion together
Talking about feelings and understanding how to name them is an important step towards developing empathy.
Now that my older son is 4, we can go a step beyond naming emotions to think about what the people are really going through in the pictures and consider how they can respond. Here are some ideas.
Activities for 4+ Years
- Choose a card at random from a stack (as if you are playing “Go Fish”) and try to guess what situation the person was in to cause the particular emotion they are showing
- Hold the cards fanned out in your hand, and ask your child to pick them one by one until they find the emotion that they are feeling right now – this will help them briefly consider what the other people pictured are going through, and compare it to their own feelings
- Choose a card (in one of the creative ways described in the list above) and talk about a time your child felt that way; what happened and what it was like
- Choose a card, name the emotion, and discuss what you could do if someone around you was feeling this way
- Set out several stuffed animals and dolls and put an emotion card on each one; then speak to the figures as if they were feeling those emotions – this will help your child practice how they can respond to people in different emotional situations
When children can identify their own feelings and the feelings of others, and begin to understand what the feelings are like to experience outside their own immediate reality, they can relate to others at a deeper level.
For children who are ready to take it to the next level, here are some more exercises to try.
Activities for Older Children
- Pair up and have each partner pick a card they will “act out,” then have a conversation taking on the various emotions – see if you can make each other feel better or share each others’ excitement, etc
- Ask your child to select a card and tell a story about a time they saw someone else exhibiting the emotion displayed, how they felt, what they did (or what they could have done)
- Ask your child to pick a card and draw the emotion they