much from spending time in astronomy environments. Creating and asking myself these evaluation questions helped me pay attention to my needs and desires, rather than the clamoring voice of societal pressure.

Both opportunities were new and different, because they were both faculty offers, so that wasn’t a great distinguishing criterion. Time-wise, I knew they were both going to absorb all of my time in one way or another, because they essentially represented a phase change in my career. However, they presented fairly different sacrifices: at Research University, I would be expected to do what traditional faculty do: conduct research, mentor graduate students, teach classes, apply for grants, and probably service work for the university in one way or another. After I got the offer from them, I visited Research University, and asked how success (presumably defined in relationship to getting tenure) was defined there. The response (and I’m paraphrasing here but not by a lot) was “do a lot of research and publish a lot of papers, don’t mess up teaching, and when you have tenure \[presumably in 6 years\] you can do outreach”. That meant to me that I would need to spend a minimum of 6 years [**not**]{} 