Think up a game that will result in something you've wanted to do but been afraid to ask for directly. Bets are great. For instance, I used to date a woman who had a bit of a submissive streak that I was unaware of. We made a bet that she could touch the bedroom doorknob and no holds barred. If I could stop her, I "owned" her until morning. Well, I won; and as it turns out, so did she... The wrestling match was hot and the results hotter!