You answered your own question when you said, "and he's married."  Honey, it just doesn't make sense.  He's your boss and he's holding all the cards.  Why do you think there are sexual harrassment laws?  Because the emotional factors will make a mess of the employment factors if you let them, and I can't imagine any good coming out of the very idea.\n\nThe problem may be your concept of "being in love."  Do you think this is something purely emotional, uncontrollable?  It's not.  If you decide you can't afford to love someone, that there's no realistic prospect for happiness in it, you can refuse to give in to love.  You can like, admire, admit you think he's attractive, all that; but love is something you have to be able to control, to decide.  And deciding to love your married boss is the height of stupidity, in my estimation.