It's been my experience that the heart will mislead you.. we often find ppl attractive who are completely wrong on so many levels.. perhaps I'm biased because I'm in the beginning of a divorce, but I think one's brain is a better guide.. relationships boil down to practical matters, and a division of labor.. the sparks and butterflies don't last very long.its wiser to follow your brain.. \n\n"it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along"