Sit down at a table with two pieces of paper.  On one paper write all the reasons you act the way you do. "the attitude" you mentioned. \nOn the other paper, write down the reasons you think you should'nt act the way you do.\nWhen you are finished, look at the reasons you have this "attitude" Compare it to the reasons you should not.  \nThen consider if you want to change for this person.  If so, throw the paper away that has the reasons you act the way you do.  Take the paper that says the reasons you should not and use them as a guide to change for this person.  \nIf you do not want to change for this person, throw away both papers and let him divorce you... Its cheaper.