In some ways I understand your dilemma, I do.  Here are some thoughts for you to pray about.  We are all human and all fall short, are those miserable brooders in your church just needing someone to take them under their "wing" sort of speaking and be a prayer warrior for them?  Could it be that God has called you for this purpose but you are so inwardly focused on receiving recognition/appreciation for it that you don't see the need?  Not trying to be harsh, just thinking through these thoughts as I type, so praying you can understand.  Your husband is the spiritual leader of your home, try to remember this when you communicate with him, show him respect in his making a decision he feels is right for your family.  Bottom line, if God wants to move you, it will happen and you won't even see it coming.  Don't make it happen, in other words, let God be in control, it will happen if that is what is meant to be.