It sounds as if he doesn't want you to confront him on what he does/doesn't do..-If you want to stay with him get counseling....it may not work or it could work....Pray about it and you may not get the answers that you want right away but if you are steadfast in your prayers, they will be answered....a lot of men/woman cheat b/c they think the grass is greener on the other side and many times they find it's not so...I was married and very in love, my ex-husband was rude, hurtful and would not have sex with me for 3 years, I later learned he was seeing a pleather of women... I would confront him on some issues and he would get angry that I was questioning him at all... he said the same as your husband...we don't get along, we fight all the time-when the reality was-he was starting all the fights!!! You will still get benefits if you are separating...and you can get health insurance from the military if you happen to get divorced..let's hope he comes to his senses and realizes what he has...again, try counseling and ask for God's help-I hope that you marriage can be saved...