I think that putting the toilet seat down is common courtesy whether you are male or female. I hate it when things drop into the open toilet because the seat is up. But there are people who see it as no big deal--it's how they were raised.\n\nI'm sure that by now you have explained your reasons for wanting the toilet closed to your bf. I think that you should probably expect to keep having to check the toilet after he uses it for quite some time.\n\nHopefully, he will come around, but I wouldn't hold my breath. We all have little things that our loved ones do that bug us and that we just have to put up with. Sometimes they change but more often, they don't.