it depends. there are some families where the do one for every child, depending on the culture and traditions. do not feel obligated to buy an extravagant gift if you want to participate. some mothers have a large gap between children, such as me and my brother are 12 years apart, so my mother didn't have anything. others may choose to if they are with a different father, and it is the first grandbaby for that family also. \ntraditionally a baby shower was for the first child of a couple, but now days--- who sticks with all the tradition anyways?!?