You need to work on changing yourself since you won't be able to change him. Talking to him won't help if he doesn't care about your feelings.\nYou have to make arrangements to either leave him or find a way to keep your sanity and self respect if you stay with him for financial reasons and that won't be easy to do.\n\nI would only stay with him if I couldn't support myself outside the marriage.  If this is the case I would distance myself from him as much as possible within the home. I would try to not sleep with him. Try to not eat with him.\nTry to not be there when he is there. He is toxic--poison--for your soul if he is this way and you need a place to vent. Keep a secret journal if you are sure he can't find it to write out your feelings. It really can help.\n\nIf he is cheating on you get tested for sexual diseases and make him use a condom every time, every time. Unless of course you can just stop having sex with him which would be the best course.\nBut if it were me I would leave even if I had to move in with my parents. What you are describing will kill your soul.