1) go to doubleyourdating.com\n2) buy your boyfriend the e-book "attraction isn't a choice" (~$40, download as .pdf)\n3) tell him to read it, and ask him to apply what he learns to your relationship\n\n(the gist - women usually feel the strongest feelings and passion for strong, manly men who are confident and sure of themselves... and most "nice" guys lose some of that edge.  if you both have good self-esteem, then read the book together with him - especially if you want to have one of those relationships where you're still teasing each other ten years from now, and are strong enough to agree to disagree about the stuff that doesn't matter that much, but neither one of you will abuse the other, nor allow yourself to be abused.\n\ni won't go into the evolutionary psychology about why it will work... it just will.\n\nthe book will tell him to tone down the "sweetness" a little, but that doesn't mean he can't still be caring, loving, and affectionate, and do the right thing.\n\ngirls just don't get hot and bothered about guys whose main aura is "sweet".  read a romance novel, a man with a little beast in him is a good thing, as long as he's still got honor).\n\nalso, how much he uses what he learns is something he can "dial up" or "dial down" to keep your fire burning at just the right hotness.  and ironically, you can use the same ideas to throw it right back at him, and that will keep his fire stoked also.\n\njust be careful not to burn down the house.