I say first of all you need to face her with her lies and tell her how sick of them you are.  Tell her if she wants a friendship with her husbands family she will have to stop all the gossip and baloney.  Otherwise, avoid her like the plague.\n\nDo speak to your brother when he's around though.  He may have sided with her, but you're still his flesh and blood and I'm sure he misses your friendship.  He can't do anything about his wife..........it's got to be her willing to change.