I think you really have to ask yourself if you are truly unhappy with things the way they are? I know that you would like to feel a 100% commitment from this guy, but if he's shying away, perhaps you really don't need anything more than what you already have. I feel that in most instances, to make a relationship work demands communication, and if you tell him what is important to you and he doesn't want to acknowledge your needs, then that isn't a relationship as much as getting comfortable with someone. The guy sounds like a keeper who is just looking to stay away from going thru a hassle of a wedding (don't try telling me weddings aren't a hassle). I am not a doctor, but I sometimes feel the same way about my girlfriend. Maybe she's a little too wrapped up in her life to truly notice what I am looking for. We've been together for 10 years and still aren't married. I want it, she says no rush. (Reversed roles) Call me old fashioned. Hope this has helped somehow...\n\nTake care and let me know how you make out