it also meant more chats , some of them heartfelt ( for instance , when i told him stories of my father , his men , horseback riding lessons and the like ) , some of them informative ( lahn explaining things about korwahk , how he spent his days , how i spent mine , me telling him how i learned how to play guitar ( though , mention of another man in my life was not looked on favorably so i made a mental note not to do that again ) ) , some of the chats were amusing and i realized my husband had a dry wit .