that 's how he could ignore people 's phone messages and e-mails , and isolate himself in northern california in a `` mansion '' as if the real world did n't exist ... . `` you 're the most selfish , spoiled person i ever knew , '' she said , her voice rising , `` and frankly , you make me sick , the way everything just falls into your lap , the way this mansion up there just fell into your lap , the way no matter what happens somebody does your dirty work and cleans up your messes ... . '' the torrent continued .