the awkward introductions , the superficial conversations , the masquerade to impress each other , the idea that one could decide to spend ones whole life with a stranger after just one or two meetings , the sheer idiocy of the whole process of an arrange marriage was well known to her from the time when her late mother had forced her to meet some so-called eligible bachelors in her younger days , her experiences then having made her pledge to stay away from the madness of it all in the future , so now when her father tried to push her back in to that same quagmire , it infuriated her no end .