furthermore , it appeared that any man who didnt thus conduct himself , copulating with one or more women once he reached maturity , was in the eyes of feeres a lesser ( if not downright contemptible ) man ; that was why so many scribes whose thoughts , like yodrens , raddia could pick up on instantly , for they were men conditioned to spending most of their lives inside their heads afforded themselves the company of poor women they paid to be their mates for the hour or the night .