if either one of you , wants either one of them , to be alive - to face up to their responsibilities , to punish them , or for whatever reason , i must warn you that things will never be the same again , for them , and for you , especially for you charlotte , and turning to sue i continued if it is what you want sue , then we will still be married , but after your divorce , but not in your lovely church , you would be a divorcee .