maria certainly hadnt mentioned anything personal about me , apart from my name , but apparently that was enough ; i was obviously the main topic of conversation around every walnut coffee table in london , and i didnt really have to explain to her what i needed , she obviously knew already , and it was a wonderfully nice feeling telling her that no - i did not want a cook/housekeeper ; i wanted a head chef and a housekeeper , along with a butler , and once we both arrived on the same wavelength things then progressed .