robin , our veterinarian son , who a few days after the solemn ceremony with snowball had wanted for some strange reason to dig the poor animal back up , just so that he could have a quick look inside , and whose long suffering girlfriend couldnt even drag him away from his patients for a much needed naughty weekend , stood quietly behind her , and it then slowly sank into my drug befuddled mind that something had happened that day , and my children were dreading having to tell me .