`` i know you 've suffered a horrific , senseless , and cruel loss , and while i wo n't pretend to know what that must feel like-i will say that i 'm old enough to know that life throws you a few nasty blows before she 's done with you , but each time you 're knocked down , you have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps , and- '' `` please do n't , '' i say to old man linder .