instead , it was day-to-day drudgery , a lot of time spent with him twiddling his thumbs and bored while i worked hard , or his standing by listening to my side of phone calls with those celebrities he longed to connect with , or his having to listen to me being complimented and praised by people who thought of him as 'the husband ' who did n't work rather than the charming , dashing fellow who bagged the artist . ''