thats so nice of you all.-but please dont go to extremes.-if youre all here to help celebrate , thats plenty.-but lydia was genuinely pleased.-she had never had a birthday party , ever , as far as she could remember.-this would indeed be extremely special.-and she would enjoy so much seeing the irish members of the family again.-of course , they werent actually her family ; but they were janets family and janet was hers.-anyway , she had come to genuinely love them when they came for johnny and chrissys wedding .