ignored it , denied it , screamed about it , threatened , begged for him to get into treatment , tried to manipulate him , tried to be understanding , tried to be his therapistobviously dumb and stupid , here i was trying to finish a doctorate in clinical psychology and my husband was a classic self-destructive obsessive-compulsive psychopathic deviant who was dragging me with him into the sewer , and nothing could i do , nothing .