its ok to feel love for someone to love patiently to ache with love and remain paused aching it brings character like suffering always does like hovering in the pain of loss stagnant in divorce out of control of others souls hovering in knowledge of malnourished children in pain in pain we remember them in cowardice we forget them so pain is ok. verity comes with pain and love and joy are more thick and pure , shalom more whole after pain fulfills her purpose so love , love rest there expect the ache that makes it patient love pause and let the ache be real to you until it is no longer a shock that love would be so thick and whole he responded with another poem , which he left in my student box .