o.k. , i told myself , that 's it , you are going to get him out of your brain once and for all , you are going to check out a couple of items on your laptop and if any of his facts are significantly wrong , you will have reconfirmed what you have already decided , namely that he belongs on the pile of flotsam ( or jetsam if you prefer ) which constantly floats past us on the tides of our lives .