because of his pride , he sent her back to her husband , and her husband , the devout man that he is , punished her for betraying him to his enemy and for breaking their codes of feminine obedience in a three day public spectacle of pain and degradation , and all throughout it , it is said he stopped for a very long time , and i walked around the desk , wanting to take his hand and tell him it was alright to stop , but he pulled his hand away before i could grasp it and moved around the desk away from me .