i see us in a variety of contexts : living together , starting our relationship in what appears to be our late fifties or early sixties ( we are about the same age ) , living together at some ages during which we have gray stripes in our hair ; working on various projects ; cooking ; making love ; sleeping ; having visits from our grandchildren at various ages and each of our sons and their spouses ; hanging out with friends and sangha members ( we are in the same larger buddhist community because we have the same teacher ) .