i know what side of the bed we each sleep on ( im on the right ) , how he likes to stand in the shower ( kind of like a large water bird , tilting his head and putting his back into a reverse curve , letting the water run down his head and back ) , what he likes and dislikes for food ( hates asparagus ; loves brown pears , not green ; loves wizened , grayish , oily olives ; allergic to thyme ; limits garlic and onions ) .