and though she 'd never met charlotte before and had spent the last year and a half making sure it stayed that way , she now knew the woman 's preferences on a wide range of topics pertaining to the wedding-important issues like strappy sandals vs. closed-toe heels ; whether to include baby 's breath in the bouquets ; and , worst and most scarring of all , lingerie preferences for the bridal shower or , as they called it , the hen party .