despite the sugary e-mails the woman has been sending her ever since dad proposed-filled with wedding plans and photos of their trip to paris and pleas for hadley to get involved , all signed with an overzealous `` xxoo '' ( as if one x and one o were n't sufficient ) -it 's been exactly one year and ninety-six days since hadley decided that she hated her , and it will take much more than an invitation to be a bridesmaid to cancel this out .