`` so , '' he said slowly as his thumbs rubbed gentle circles into the backs of her hands , `` if you do n't want me to give up touring and i do n't want you to give up your career in seattle , but neither of us wants to be apart- '' `` then i suppose we 're just going to have to figure it out one thing at a time , even if it means i have to give up a few big deals along the way- '' `` and i skip playing some stadiums- '' `` and we miss a few family dinners if we have to . ''