kathy , '' he said quietly , and the sound of the nickname that he alone had ever dared to use was almost as devastating to her as the way he absently brushed her hair off her shoulder with his wrist , `` you wanted to go to college right after we got married , not because you were shallow or spoiled , but because you had some crazy notion that you 'd screwed up the rightful order of things by marrying me first instead of after you got your education at that fancy eastern school .