sensing that filbert was wavering but that intimidation alone would never get him to talk freely , jordan poured some port into a glass and in an action that would have knocked society onto its collective face , the duke of hawthorne held the glass toward a lowly footman and invited in a man-to-man voice , `` now then , since i apparently hurt your mistress-unintentionally-suppose you have a drink and tell me how i 'm like her father .