`` i apologize for missing pre-dinner drinks , '' she said with as little sarcasm as she could muster but a great deal seemed to ooze out of her because of the unfairness of the accusation , `` but since you did n't tell me that drinks were to be served , you have n't had this little tradition for the past several days and did n't inform me of the change in plans earlier , then i do n't believe this tirade of yours is fair or appropriate . ''