[header] How to ask for what you want [title] Decide what you want. [step] If you don't know what you want, you can't ask for it. Think about your desires until you are no longer ambivalent or confused about what you want. 
[title] Make sure someone can give you what you want. [step] If the thing you want is subjective, such as " a fulfilling life, " you cannot ask someone else to provide it for you.