[header] How to cope with hurtful insults [title] Speak to the person privately. [step] Oftentimes, it is beneficial to privately address the individual who has insulted you. Speaking privately is best to avoid the situation from escalating in front of others and to lessen the insulting person's likeliness of becoming embarrassed or defensive. 
Before speaking with the individual, take a deep breath, and calmly ask the person to speak with you privately. [substeps] Once alone, let the person know that you did not appreciate his insult, and inform him of your expectations and what action you'll take it happens again.