[header] How to recognize signs of an abusive man [title] Be wary of men who seem perfect. [step] Obviously, not everyone who seems perfect is abusive. But some men who are abusive care about outward image and popularity, and make it a point to have many friends. 
He may be so concerned about his image that he will be less concerned about maintaining a healthy relationship. [substeps] This is also related to a tendency for abusers to be very controlling; they control their own image very carefully.