[header] How to spot signs of victim mentality [title] Look for signs of blame. [step] A major indicator of the victim mentality is the tendency to place blame on outside sources for the state you are in. Maybe you blame your spouse because you stopped going out with friends and ended up feeling socially isolated. 
Maybe you blame your parents for not exposing you to certain opportunities in life that would ensure your future success. [substeps] No matter where blame is directed, it's essentially useless.