[header] How to tell a man he has hurt you [title] Spend some time trying to understand your feelings. [step] Before you rush off to confront the man who hurt you, ponder the situation and your feelings about it. Has something like this happened before? Could you be over-reacting? Spend some time reflecting on the situation and your feelings. 
[substeps] This may work better through a journaling or free-writing exercise. Set a timer for 10 minutes and write down everything that comes to mind about the situation.