[header] How to forgive someone who hasn't forgiven you [title] Stop viewing this as a blame game. [step] If you're waiting for the other person to offer forgiveness first, then you will likely be waiting a long time. Ironically, it's probable that you're maintaining the reason for a lack of forgiveness, in that it's competitive or about proving you're right after all. 
You'll need to step back and remove the blame aspect of it. [title] Realize that you cannot make anyone feel something you want them to feel.