[header] How to ask your girlfriend to hold hands [title] Don't immediately go for her hand. [step] Holding hands should be something that is enjoyable and brings two people closer. Holding hands for the first time is a special moment because it means you are putting yourself out there. 
Even if you've been thinking about it for a long time, if you decide to ask her to hold hands, it shouldn't be the first thing that comes out of your mouth when you see her. This may come across as abrupt as opposed to romantic.