[header] How to handle older relatives who have lost their filter [title] Respond to the remarks. [step] You might be shocked or surprised to hear your relative saying something outrageous or crude. When your relative loses their filter, don't react in shock, anger, or even ridicule. 
Gently let your relative know that their behavior is inappropriate and move on. There's no need to bring up an incident once it has passed and you've dealt with it in the moment.