[header] How to deal with your mother [title] Make the first move. [step] You may feel justified in expecting your mother to reach out to you, but don't be afraid to initiate contact. Your mother may want to reach out to you but not know how, or she may share similar feelings of fearing rejection. 
If you keep waiting for her to make the first move, don't be surprised if your relationship remains stuck. [substeps] Before you decide to reach out, decide what you want to discuss first, and how you want to discuss it.