[header] How to avoid victim blaming [title] Accept that the world is not fair. [step] Oftentimes, people want to believe that good things happen to good people, which can lead them to also believe that bad things only happen to bad people. It's important to recognize your tendency to rationalize suffering in this way and actively work to change it. 
[substeps] Try to change the way you think about all kinds of misfortune, not just crime victims. For example, many people who blame the victims of sexual assault also blame people who are afflicted by poverty or disease.