[header] How to overcome fear of abandonment [title] Accept your emotions as your responsibility. [step] Recovering from a fear of abandonment requires finding healthy ways to cope with your anxieties. The first step towards finding healthy coping mechanisms is to take responsibility for the way you feel. 
Even though your emotions might be triggered by other people's actions, realize that the way you respond to them is up to you. [substeps] For example, if someone insults you and it makes you mad, you have to recognize that, even if the remark was degrading or humiliating, you have a choice about how to react.