[header] How to forgive for your own mental health [title] Talk to the person, if you can. [step] Forgiving someone does not mean that you are also forgetting what happened. You can choose to forgive someone's actions when you feel ready, but it may take much longer to forget what happened. 
Deciding to forgive is something you do for yourself and you don't always have to tell the person who wronged you that they are forgiven. However, you may find that speaking about the incident gives you the closure you need to move on.