[header] How to get a paternity test when the mother refuses [title] Talk to the mother of the child. [step] Let her know your concerns and that you want to establish paternity of the child. Pursue the paternity test, if possible, without having to file a paternity lawsuit and request a dna test. 
Remember to remain calm, friendly, and non-threatening. [substeps] Find out why the mother does not want to submit herself or the child for a paternity test.