[header] How to stop living in fear [title] Label your fear to reduce its ambiguity. [step] If your fear is vague, the lack of definition could be making it seem larger in your head. Clearly define your fear in simple terms. 
This might sound like, " i am afraid of being in a relationship because i think i will be abandoned. " [substeps] You'll need to bring your fear to the surface so you can label it.