[header] How to tell someone you are not ready to have sex [title] Choose when to have sex based on what you want. [step] You need to first realize that the decision to have sex is personal. You have every right to choose when, where, how, and with whom that takes place. 
If you decide to have sex, determine and analyze your reasons. Make sure they don't include pleasing others while disregarding your own comfort with the decision.