[header] How to become a better person in a relationship [title] Encourage each other. [step] It's difficult to grow and become a better person in an unhealthy relationship. If you're with someone who is verbally, physically, or sexually abusive, ask yourself if this person is helping you grow. 
If you're with someone who hurts you or someone who engages in unhealthy habits, it's likely that you may get pulled down into bad habits or negative emotions. Focus on being in a healthy relationship and with a partner who encourages you to grow and better yourself.