[header] How to foster parent with respect [title] Let friends and family know, in advance, that you are welcoming a new child into your family and that you expect them to treat them equally. [step] This way, when it's time for introductions you can introduce them by name, not family ranking. Do not say something like " these are my real kids, gina, donna, and gary. 
" the foster kids may not be your biological children, but they are very real. [title] Treat them equally and provide the same incentives.