[header] How to leave an abusive spouse [title] Keep a record of the abuse. [step] As soon as you've made up your mind to leave your spouse, start documenting their abuse. Keep a journal and write down the details of any incidents that occur, including time, place, and the specifics of what happened. 
In addition, save any other evidence you have, such as text messages, photos of injuries, and medical records. [substeps] Store your journal and other materials somewhere your spouse can't find them, such as at a neighbor's house.