[header] How to make sex last longer [title] Relax and encourage yourself. [step] Anxiety and self-doubt are major mood killers, so try to be optimistic. Approaching sex with confidence, self respect, and a positive attitude can make all the difference for both you and your partner. 
[substeps] Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts about your performance, think to yourself, " sam, finishing fast is common and you shouldn't get down on yourself. You can deal with this! " referring to yourself by name can be more effective when practicing positive self-talk.