[header] How to forgive a mother after she has passed [title] Write down in detail exactly what it is that you resent about your mother. [step] We have to name it to claim it. We can't just keep saying " i resent my mother ", or " i hate my mother ", or " it's all my mother's fault ". 
We can't be vague, or speak in generalities. Once you have named a specific type of behavior, or even one specific event of your mother's, we now have something to work with.