[header] How to choose a private arbitrator [title] Talk to the other party. [step] Generally, both parties must agree to submit a dispute to arbitration. If your dispute isn't related to a contract that contains an arbitration clause, you'll need to get the other party's permission before you start looking for private arbitrators. 
[substeps] If there is an arbitration clause in a contract that governs your dispute, both parties already have agreed to arbitration by signing the contract. However, many disputes have nothing to do with a contract.