[header] How to cope with your friend or relative dating your crush [title] First off, make sure that your relative or friend is going out with your crush. [step] Don't ask their friends but go to the source. Ask the crush or the relative. 
Sending an email asking them is always good. If they aren't then no sweat! [title] Now that you are sure, try to find out if this is a one off fling or something a bit more long-term.