[header] How to attract a goth girl [title] Understand what it means to be gothic. [step] A better understanding of the subculture will help you to be respectful of her beliefs. Understanding will also help you to connect with her and find common ground between her beliefs and your own. 
What it means to be gothic might change from group to group and region to region, but there are three basic components to goth culture: the social scene, the personality, and the music. [substeps] The gothic social scene provides places for like minded individuals, in this case goths, to come together as a community and share ideas.