[header] How to resolve disputes between a surviving spouse and children of another marriage [title] Talk to the other party. [step] Since mediation is a voluntary process, it's essential that the other party is willing to attempt mediation to resolve the dispute. Emphasizing the benefits of mediation over litigation can help persuade them. 
[substeps] Mediation is a collaborative process designed to help both parties find a mutually acceptable solution to their dispute. You have a lot of freedom to be creative with your solution, including finding a compromise that would not be available if you had a judge resolve the matter through traditional litigation.