[header] How to make divorce less traumatic for your kids [title] Make a plan and talk to your kids with your former spouse, if possible. [step] Do your best to have a civil conversation with your former spouse about informing your child. Decide what you'll say, and schedule a time (sooner rather than later) to break the news together. 
[substeps] Informing your child with your former spouse can show that you both love your child and will be there to support them. Make an agreement with each other to keep your emotions in check and to avoid blaming each other when you discuss the divorce with your child.