[header] How to let go of anger without hurting people [title] Watch for physical signs of anger. [step] Notice warning signs that you're getting mad and might let your emotion get out of control. Pay attention to an increase in heart rate or pounding heartbeat. 
You may also notice clenching your fists, clenching your teeth, or tension in your neck or shoulders. People respond differently to anger, so pay attention to your unique signs.