[header] How to use respeak in your relationship [title] Understand that communication is filtered through your own perceptions. [step] When you are having a conversation, it is important to understand that everything you hear is filtered through your own perceptions. This means that what you actually hear is your perception of their words. 
For example, you may think, " my partner rudely asked me to calm down. " if you use respeak you would think, " my partner asked me to calm down and i perceived it as rude.