[header] How to combat learned dependency [title] Reconsider your interpretations of events. [step] People with learned dependency often believe that, when things go wrong, it's because of their incompetence or inadequacy. Start challenging these thoughts when they arise. 
Look at situations from an objective point of view and see if you can come up with a more logical explanation for the things that happen to you. [substeps] For instance, if you don't get a job after an interview, your first thought might be, " i'm obviously unemployable.