[header] How to know if your friend is really a friend [title] Spend time with your friend. [step] Spending time together is a normal and expected part of friendship. Begin here as it is the best clue as to whether or not your friend is willing to make an effort in the friendship. 
Here are things to consider about how your friend reacts to you wanting to spend time together : [substeps] If your friend makes the time, that's a good sign. Friends make time for each other and don't act squeamish or as if they'd rather be somewhere else.