[header] How to heal painful wounds and charges from the past [title] Seek to understand what's going on. [step] You were wounded in some way and you created a set of beliefs. These are the beliefs that you can now explore by looking at the story you tell yourself about your wounding. 
When young and/or inexperienced, you would have had limited understanding of life and your environment, and survival was paramount. As such, you lacked the experience and knowledge needed to interpret the events that you would likely be able to deal with in a reasoned way now.