[header] How to cope when a long lost sibling refuses to meet you [title] Let yourself grieve. [step] Being rejected by a sibling is a particularly painful experience. You likely envisioned that your long-lost sibling would be excited to meet you and that you would develop a loving relationship. 
Because of this, their refusal to meet with you hurts deeply. Along with disappointment, you will likely feel other emotions like sadness and anger.