[header] How to heal from narcissistic abuse [title] Don't blame yourself if things aren't working. [step] If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important not to beat yourself for the challenges that you face in your relationship. Your partner is dealing with a mental disorder that you have no control over. 
What you do have control over is who you are in a relationship with, and your expectations for how you should be treated. [substeps] Do not dwell on how things have changed, or think that the changes have been brought on by something you have done.