[header] How to let go of control in a relationship [title] Take a few deep breaths when you feel anxious about losing control. [step] Focusing on breathing is one of the best ways to bring yourself fully into the present moment. When negative situations arise with your partner, try taking a slow, deep breath in as you count to 5. 
Exhale as you count to 5 once more. Focus only on your breath as you take it in and push it out of your lungs.