[header] How to help loved ones with borderline personality disorder [title] Discuss your limits. [step] When you are helping a loved one with bpd, you need to set up strict boundaries for your relationship. Your loved one will likely be going through an emotional rollercoaster at any point and can take it out on you. 
Have an honest discussion about what your personal limits are and what you won't take from your loved one. [substeps] For example, tell your loved one, " if you start verbally abusing me, i am going to walk away.