[header] How to tell if a guy is playing with your feelings [title] Pay attention to how he is affectionate with you. [step] Typically if a guy is playing you, he will become very affectionate or physical when he has a chance to have sex with you. At that point, he probably goes from 0-60 pretty quickly. 
But up to that point, he was probably not very affectionate. He would not have seemed interested in holding your hand.