[header] How to handle defeat [title] Keep your cool. [step] You can keep your cool in a losing situation by forgiving yourself, and your teammates (if applicable). Tell yourself, " as long as i put forth my best effort, it's ok that i lost. 
I tried really hard, but the other person had an advantage. " you can also reassure yourself that it is not the end of the world, and that there will be more opportunities for you to win.