[header] How to react if you learn your partner is married [title] Find a private place to talk. [step] If you decide to talk to your partner about the issue, you should arrange a time to discuss it in a private, quiet place. You may choose a neutral spot, such as a coffee shop or a park bench. 
Or you may invite your partner over to your home when you are alone so you can have a private conversation one on one. [substeps] If possible, give yourself some time between when you find out the news and having this conversation.