[header] How to date a widow [title] Acknowledge the deceased spouse's place in your partner's life. [step] Your significant other loved (and still loves) her departed spouse. The loss will always maintain some level of presence in her life. 
If you are going to be in a relationship with her, you will have to keep mindful of this fact, cope with it, and learn how to support her as best you can. [substeps] Understand that it's okay to be uncomfortable at first.