[header] How to write a eulogy [title] Decide on the tone. [step] How serious or lighthearted do you want the eulogy to be? A good eulogy does not need to be uniformly somber, just appropriate. Some eulogy-writers take a serious approach, others are bold enough to add humor. 
Used cautiously, humor can help convey the personality of the deceased and illustrate some of his or her endearing qualities. [substeps] The tone can also be partially determined by the way the deceased passed away.