[header] How to change someone else's behavior [title] Identify the behavior. [step] Pinpoint the exact behavior that you want to change about the person. If you want the person to just " be less annoying " or " text me more often, " you will not get the results you want. 
Pinpoint the exact behavior you want to change and mark exactly how you want it to change. [substeps] For example, rather than saying that you want your friend to " be less annoying, " plan to say that you want your friend to " stop interrupting conversations she's not a part of.