[header] How to have fun in bed with your partner without sex [title] Know what being abstinent means to you. [step] Does it mean everything but sexual intercourse? Does it mean kissing and cuddling, but nothing else? Having clearly defined boundaries will make it easier for you and your partner to hold off on having sex until you're both ready. [title] Explore your own feelings about the relationship. 
[step] You might find it helpful to write these down on a piece of paper, in your journal, or in a text document on your computer. This is just for you, so don't be afraid to be completely honest.