[header] How to avoid codependent relationships [title] Get counseling, if needed to become healthy. [step] In order for a relationship to be healthy you have to be healthy yourself. Get into counseling; find a friend who can help you grow ~ someone you trust to tell you the truth. 
Although they might be tougher to hear from, a non-friend works well here. [title] Give 100% to the relationship and expect nothing in return.