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Now , the size of this can of worms depends on how you measure can size ;-) If you measure it in terms of the potential complexity of the entire problem space , you 'll find that it is pretty darn big . Instead , viewing yourself as a problem solver , you should try to elicit from the other party their underlying concerns , interests , preferences , and needs .