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To have a voice in choosing those by whom one is to be governed , is a means of self-protection due to everyone , though he were to remain for ever excluded from the function of governing : and that women are considered fit to have such a choice , may be presumed from the fact , that the law already gives it to women in the most important of all cases to themselves : for the choice of the man who is to govern a woman to the end of life , is always supposed to be voluntarily made by herself . To the general public these are only cold statistics , but to their families and friends even one death by suicide means a profound sense of loss , dreams that will never be realized , and future plans that are abruptly ended . This plea came home to his reason , who had been sobered by his wife 's rage , the fury of which fell on him when I was out of her reach , and he sent the boy to me with half-a-guinea , desiring him to conduct me to a house , where beggars , and other wretches , the refuse of society , nightly lodged . And so " anyone " becomes , as the poem unfolds , the lost and insular self of anyone , indeed - - whom no one loved anymore . And that is why , as I discovered , we end up feeling not only a sense of loss , but also of guilt , if we are among the mothers-to-be who turn out to be mothers-not-to-be ; or at least , not for the time being . Individualization requires freedom from bias and prejudice , an avoidance of labeling and stereotyping , a recognition and appreciation of diversity , and knowledge of human behavior .