and can I choose a funeral director?
of course you may want to choose a funeral director to help you plan the funeral. Then you or the funeral director can call the National Cemetery Programming Office at 800 - 535 - 1117 to request a burial.
What if the person's spouse died previously and was buried in a VA national cemetery, what information will they need?
You will need the spouse's full name, as well as the cemetery section and the number of the site where they were buried.