There's a fundamental dilemma in, on the one hand, thinking 'How can I intrude on these people at the moment of exquisite agony?' and, on the other hand thinking 'My God, I'm sitting on a terrific story!
There's a core issue in, on one hand, pondering 'How can I intrude upon these people during their most agonizing moment?' and, on the other hand, musing 'My God, this is an extraordinary narrative!