Tannen asserts that most women avoid conflict in language at all costs, and instead attempt to resolve disagreements without any direct confrontation, to maintain positive connection and rapport. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to use confrontation as a way of resolving differences and thereby negotiating status.
According to Tannen, women typically steer clear of conflicts in language whenever possible, opting instead for peaceful resolutions that preserve positive relationships and mutual understanding. Conversely, men tend to employ confrontational tactics when addressing disagreements, aiming to establish or reinforce their social standing.