Their marriage remained unconsummated, and Oldenburg was believed by family and friends to be homosexual. Two years after their marriage, Olga met a cavalry officer her own age, Nikolai Kulikovsky, member of Russian-Moldavian Kulikovsky noble family, to whom she was attracted.
Their union remained unfulfilled, and Oldenburg was perceived by relatives and acquaintances to be gay. Two years after their marriage, Olga encountered a cavalry officer of her own age, Nikolai Kulikovsky, a member of the Russian-Moldavian Kulikovsky noble family, to whom she was drawn.