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Life is traumatic. Everyone will go through difficult periods. Your parents will die. Friends will kill themselves. You will be in serious car accidents. You will be assaulted and robbed. You'll leave your kids in the backseat on a hot day and you'll fall and hit your head on the concrete in a weird way that causes paralysis. 

This is unavoidable. Life is full of these types of events and while you certainly won't get to experience all of them you are bound to experience some.

Lacan says when your subjective perspective on life is shattered, you've felt "the Real" up close. This is traumatic- your psyche breaks and you need time to heal these cracks. They'll never be quite the same.

Let's say I'm a young professional woman. I take a self defense class and have a good job and a nice boyfriend. I have a set of beliefs about the world. For example, most people are good. I have bodily autonomy. I am strong and can defend myself.

Then one night a male stranger pulls me into a dark alley, beats the shit out of me and raped me. All of a sudden, it turns out not everyone is good. I cannot defend myself effectively against a male and he can totally take away my bodily autonomy. 

All these beliefs shattered- I have experienced trauma. As Ben Finegold would say- the truth hurts. 

It doesn't have to be so dramatic. Any event can shatter these beliefs. I could get a D on the essay I spent so hard working on. I thought I was a straight A intelligent student.. but then when I put my heart into something, I fail.

Belief shattered - maybe I'm not so smart. Trauma. Different scales, same phenomenon. 

Tldr: yes, trauma is inherent to life. It's part of our psyche. 
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