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1: Be civil and nice.
2: Try not to excessively repost, as a rule of thumb, wait at least 2 months to do it if you *have* to.

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Come here. Hug time. And I'm the type of hugger who will accidently pin your arms to your side so you can't hug back. I'm very sorry to hear what you have been through. I have a neighbor whose child passed when it was an infant. They have told me a lot of the things you've said here. They also didn't want to try for another child. I don't know if they feel secret guilt they don't share with others.  But I will say that I can see that they make the most out of each day and are deeply devoted to each other. They live good, happy lives, and it would be wrong for anyone to tell them they should live their life differently.

Your choices are your own. You don't have to explain anything to family/friends if you don't want to. 

&gt; how do you come to accept these feelings without feeling guilty?

I may not be qualified to answer this, but let me say this. In life, there is loss. We will all lose someone we love. All we can do is go on living. It's all we've got. The people who've passed would not want us to wither the rest of our lives away in grief, shame or guilt. They would want us to go on living however we wanted/needed to. Perhaps change your line of thinking from "giving up on parenthood" to "devoted our lives to each other."  "Giving up" is what quitters do. You didn't quit, you kept on going, just decided to go down another road.
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