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1: Be civil and nice.
2: Try not to excessively repost, as a rule of thumb, wait at least 2 months to do it if you *have* to.

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&gt; I don't know if I should be mad, or just pretend like I do not know about it, because it's all in the past.

If she had told you the truth about their relationship before, you could have let her handle it. She didn't though. She lied right to your face and trickle-truthed you about their past. Pretending you don't know about is because "it's all in the past" is the worst possible way to handle this - his flirtations aren't the past, they're happening now. Her continued interactions with him aren't in the past, they're happening right now. Pretending nothing's going on is a quick way for you to get hurt.

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As younglins mentioned, you'll need to establish boundaries around him. You already told her you were uncomfortable with their relationship, and she basically blew you off. Clearly she's enjoying the attention from this supposed "annoying" guy, and isn't stopping this to comfort her partner (you). It's disrespectful, and she's being a poor GF because of it. He knows it. She knows it. You also know it.

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So, it's time to draw up firmer boundaries. Sit down with her and start calmly communicating. Express to her that whatever they have is absolutely not a friendship. He's chasing after her. She's not stopping him. And you're extremely uncomfortable because of it. Trust has already been broken here. Tell her it's causing strain in the relationship - and it's because he's trying to sabotage your relationship with her. What good can come of it? Be firm and calm in your tone, and tell her that she'll need to choose. Very clearly say that you don't control her actions or what she does, she's free to do what she likes. But if she prefers keeping him in her life, then it's probably best that you and her both part ways. Then see what she does. If she refuses to drop that useless guy, break up with her on the spot. Do this and mean it. And never get back with her again. Wish her well, and then go no contact.
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