(ROOT (S (NP (PRP You)) (VP (MD must) (VP (VB have) (VP (VBN been) (VP (VBN troubled) (PP (IN by) (SBAR (WHADVP (WRB when)) (S (VP (TO to) (VP (VB say) (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP love) (NP (PRP you)))) ('' '')))))) (SBAR (IN because) (S (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VBZ is) (NP (NP (CD one)) (PP (IN of) (NP (NP (DT the) (JJS greatest) (NNS puzzles)) (PP (IN in) (NP (PRP$ our) (NN life))))))))))))) (. .)))
You must have been troubled by when to say "I love you" because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
nsubj:pass
Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
You
PRON
PRP
aux
VerbForm=Fin
must
must
AUX
MD
aux
VerbForm=Inf
have
have
AUX
VB
aux:pass
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part
be
been
AUX
VBN
root
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
trouble
troubled
VERB
VBN
case
by
by
ADP
IN
obl:agent
PronType=Int
when
when
ADV
WRB
mark
to
to
PART
TO
acl
VerbForm=Inf
say
say
VERB
VB
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
ccomp
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
love
love
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
mark
because
because
SCONJ
IN
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advcl
NumForm=Word|NumType=Card
one
one
NUM
CD
case
of
of
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
amod
Degree=Sup
great
greatest
ADJ
JJS
nmod
Number=Plur
puzzle
puzzles
NOUN
NNS
case
in
in
ADP
IN
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Number=Plur|Person=1|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
our
our
PRON
PRP$
nmod
Number=Sing
life
life
NOUN
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (NFP  ))
root
PUNCT
NFP
(ROOT (FRAG (WHNP (WP What)) (SBAR (IN if) (S (S (NP (PRP you)) (VP (VBP say) (NP (PRP it)) (ADVP (RB first)))) (CC and) (S (NP (PRP$ your) (NN partner)) (VP (VBZ does) (RB n't) (VP (VB love) (NP (PRP you)) (ADVP (RB back))))))) (. ?)))
What if you say it first and your partner doesn't love you back?
root
PronType=Int
what
What
PRON
WP
mark
if
if
SCONJ
IN
nsubj
Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
advcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
say
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
NumType=Ord
first
first
ADV
RB
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
your
your
PRON
PRP$
nsubj
Number=Sing
partner
partner
NOUN
NN
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
do
does
AUX
VBZ
advmod
not
n't
PART
RB
conj
VerbForm=Inf
love
love
VERB
VB
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
advmod
back
back
ADV
RB
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (CC Or) (SBAR (IN if) (S (NP (PRP they)) (VP (VBP do) (VP (VB say) (NP (PRP it)))))) (CC but) (S (NP (PRP you)) (VP (VBP do) (RB n't) (VP (VB feel) (SBAR (S (NP (PRP they)) (VP (VBP mean) (NP (PRP it)))))))) (. ?)))
Or if they do say it but you don't feel they mean it?
cc
or
Or
CCONJ
CC
mark
if
if
SCONJ
IN
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs
they
they
PRON
PRP
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
do
do
AUX
VBP
advcl
VerbForm=Inf
say
say
VERB
VB
obj
Case=Acc|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
cc
but
but
CCONJ
CC
nsubj
Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
do
do
AUX
VBP
advmod
not
n't
PART
RB
root
VerbForm=Inf
feel
feel
VERB
VB
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs
they
they
PRON
PRP
ccomp
Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
mean
mean
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (S (VP (VBG Being) (NP (NP (DT the) (JJ first)) (SBAR (S (VP (TO to) (VP (VB declare) (NP (PRP$ your) (NN love))))))))) (VP (VP (MD can) (VP (VB be) (ADVP (RB never)) (VP (VBG racking) (CC and) (JJ risky)))) (CC and) (VP (MD can) (VP (VB leave) (S (NP (PRP you)) (VP (VBG feeling) (ADJP (ADJP (RB as) (JJ vulnerable)) (PP (IN as) (NP (NP (DT a) (NN turtle)) (PP (IN with) (NP (DT no) (NN shell))))))))))) (. .)))
Being the first to declare your love can be never racking and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell.
cop
VerbForm=Ger
be
Being
AUX
VBG
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
csubj
Degree=Pos|NumType=Ord
first
first
ADJ
JJ
mark
to
to
PART
TO
csubj
VerbForm=Inf
declare
declare
VERB
VB
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
your
your
PRON
PRP$
obj
Number=Sing
love
love
NOUN
NN
aux
VerbForm=Fin
can
can
AUX
MD
cop
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
advmod
never
never
ADV
RB
root
Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part
rack
racking
VERB
VBG
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
conj
Degree=Pos
risky
risky
ADJ
JJ
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
aux
VerbForm=Fin
can
can
AUX
MD
conj
VerbForm=Inf
leave
leave
VERB
VB
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
xcomp
VerbForm=Ger
feel
feeling
VERB
VBG
advmod
as
as
ADV
RB
xcomp
Degree=Pos
vulnerable
vulnerable
ADJ
JJ
case
as
as
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
a
DET
DT
obl
Number=Sing
turtle
turtle
NOUN
NN
case
with
with
ADP
IN
det
no
no
DET
DT
nmod
Number=Sing
shell
shell
NOUN
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (SQ (CC But) (VBZ is) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN person)) (SBAR (WHNP (WP who)) (S (VP (VBZ says) (S (NP (PRP it)) (ADVP (RB first)) (ADVP (RB really)) (PP (IN in) (NP (NP (DT a) (NN position)) (PP (IN of) (NP (NN weakness)))))))))) (. ?)))
But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness?
cc
but
But
CCONJ
CC
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Sing
person
person
NOUN
NN
nsubj
PronType=Rel
who
who
PRON
WP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
NumType=Ord
first
first
ADV
RB
advmod
really
really
ADV
RB
case
in
in
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
a
DET
DT
root
Number=Sing
position
position
NOUN
NN
case
of
of
ADP
IN
nmod
Number=Sing
weakness
weakness
NOUN
NN
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (SQ (VBZ Does) (RB n't) (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VB pay) (S (VP (TO to) (VP (VP (VB hold) (PRT (RB back))) (, ,) (VP (VB play) (NP (PRP it)) (ADJP (JJ cool))) (CC and) (VP (VB wait) (SBAR (IN until) (S (NP (DT the) (JJ other) (NN half)) (VP (VBZ has) (VP (VBN shown) (NP (PRP$ their) (NN hand)) (ADVP (JJR faster))))))))))) (. ?)))
Doesn't it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand faster?
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
do
Does
AUX
VBZ
advmod
not
n't
PART
RB
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
root
VerbForm=Inf
pay
pay
VERB
VB
mark
to
to
PART
TO
advcl
VerbForm=Inf
hold
hold
VERB
VB
advmod
back
back
ADV
RB
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
conj
VerbForm=Inf
play
play
VERB
VB
obj
Case=Acc|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
xcomp
Degree=Pos
cool
cool
ADJ
JJ
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
conj
VerbForm=Inf
wait
wait
VERB
VB
mark
until
until
SCONJ
IN
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
amod
Degree=Pos
other
other
ADJ
JJ
nsubj
NumForm=Word|NumType=Frac|Number=Sing
half
half
NOUN
NN
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
have
has
AUX
VBZ
advcl
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part
show
shown
VERB
VBN
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Number=Plur|Person=3|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
their
their
PRON
PRP$
obj
Number=Sing
hand
hand
NOUN
NN
advmod
Degree=Cmp
fast
faster
ADJ
JJR
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (NFP  ))
root
PUNCT
NFP
(ROOT (SINV (`` ``) (S (NP (DT A) (ADJP (RB really) (JJ good)) (NN relationship)) (VP (MD should) (VP (VB be) (PP (IN about) (S (VP (VP (VBG being) (ADJP (JJ fair))) (CC and) (VP (VBG being) (ADJP (JJ equal))))))))) (, ,) ('' '') (VP (VBZ says)) (NP (NN psychologist) (NNP Sidney) (NNP Crown)) (. .)))
"A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal," says psychologist Sidney Crown.
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
A
DET
DT
advmod
really
really
ADV
RB
amod
Degree=Pos
good
good
ADJ
JJ
nsubj:outer
Number=Sing
relationship
relationship
NOUN
NN
aux
VerbForm=Fin
should
should
AUX
MD
cop
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
mark
about
about
SCONJ
IN
cop
VerbForm=Ger
be
being
AUX
VBG
ccomp
Degree=Pos
fair
fair
ADJ
JJ
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
cop
VerbForm=Ger
be
being
AUX
VBG
conj
Degree=Pos
equal
equal
ADJ
JJ
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
nsubj
Number=Sing
psychologist
psychologist
NOUN
NN
flat
Number=Sing
Sidney
Sidney
PROPN
NNP
flat
Number=Sing
Crown
Crown
PROPN
NNP
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (`` ``) (CC But) (NP (NN love)) (VP (VBZ is) (ADVP (RB seldom)) (ADJP (JJ equal))) (. .) ('' '')))
"But love is seldom equal."
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
cc
but
But
CCONJ
CC
nsubj
Number=Sing
love
love
NOUN
NN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advmod
seldom
seldom
ADV
RB
root
Degree=Pos
equal
equal
ADJ
JJ
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
(ROOT (S (`` ``) (S (NP (DT All) (NNS relationships)) (VP (VBP go) (PP (IN through) (NP (NN power) (NNS struggles))))) (CC but) (PRN (, ,) ('' '') (S (NP (PRP he)) (VP (VBZ says))) (, ,)) (`` ``) (S (SBAR (IN if) (S (NP (DT a) (NN love) (NN imbalance)) (VP (VBZ continues) (PP (IN for) (NP (NNS years)))))) (, ,) (NP (DT the) (NN rot)) (VP (MD will) (VP (VB set) (PRT (RP in))))) (. .) ('' '')))
"All relationships go through power struggles but," he says, "if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in."
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
det
all
All
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Plur
relationship
relationships
NOUN
NNS
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
go
go
VERB
VBP
case
through
through
ADP
IN
compound
Number=Sing
power
power
NOUN
NN
obl
Number=Plur
struggle
struggles
NOUN
NNS
cc
but
but
CCONJ
CC
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Masc|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
he
he
PRON
PRP
conj
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
mark
if
if
SCONJ
IN
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
a
DET
DT
compound
Number=Sing
love
love
NOUN
NN
nsubj
Number=Sing
imbalance
imbalance
NOUN
NN
advcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
continue
continues
VERB
VBZ
case
for
for
ADP
IN
obl
Number=Plur
year
years
NOUN
NNS
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Sing
rot
rot
NOUN
NN
aux
VerbForm=Fin
will
will
AUX
MD
ccomp
VerbForm=Inf
set
set
VERB
VB
compound:prt
in
in
ADP
RP
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
(ROOT (S (S (NP (NP (DT That) (NN feeling)) (PP (IN of) (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP 've) (ADVP (RB always)) (VP (VBN loved) (NP (PRP you)) (ADVP (RBR more))))) ('' ''))) (VP (MD may) (VP (VB be) (VP (VBN subverted) (PP (IN for) (NP (DT a) (NN time))))))) (, ,) (CC but) (S (S (NP (PRP it)) (ADVP (RB never)) (VP (VBZ goes) (ADVP (RB away)) (ADVP (RB completely)))) (CC and) (S (NP (PRP it)) (ADVP (RB often)) (VP (VBZ emerges) (PP (IN in) (NP (NN squabbling)))))) (. .)))
That feeling of "I've always loved you more" may be subverted for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling.
det
Number=Sing|PronType=Dem
that
That
DET
DT
nsubj:pass
Number=Sing
feeling
feeling
NOUN
NN
mark
of
of
ADP
IN
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
have
've
AUX
VBP
advmod
always
always
ADV
RB
acl
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part
love
loved
VERB
VBN
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
advmod
Degree=Cmp
more
more
ADV
RBR
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
aux
VerbForm=Fin
may
may
AUX
MD
aux:pass
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
root
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
subvert
subverted
VERB
VBN
case
for
for
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
a
DET
DT
obl
Number=Sing
time
time
NOUN
NN
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
cc
but
but
CCONJ
CC
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
never
never
ADV
RB
conj
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
go
goes
VERB
VBZ
advmod
away
away
ADV
RB
advmod
completely
completely
ADV
RB
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
Degree=Pos
often
often
ADV
RB
conj
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
emerge
emerges
VERB
VBZ
case
in
in
ADP
IN
obl
Number=Sing
squabbling
squabbling
NOUN
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (PP (IN In) (NP (NN love))) (, ,) (ADVP (IN at) (JJS least)) (, ,) (NP (DT the) (JJ silent) (, ,) (NN withholding) (NN type)) (VP (VBZ is) (RB not) (ADVP (RB always)) (NP (DT the) (ADJP (RBS most) (JJ powerful)))) (. .)))
In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful.
case
in
In
ADP
IN
obl
Number=Sing
love
love
NOUN
NN
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
advmod
ExtPos=ADV
at
at
ADP
IN
fixed
Degree=Sup
least
least
ADJ
JJS
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
amod
Degree=Pos
silent
silent
ADJ
JJ
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
amod
Number=Sing
withholding
withholding
NOUN
NN
nsubj
Number=Sing
type
type
NOUN
NN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advmod
not
not
PART
RB
advmod
always
always
ADV
RB
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
advmod
Degree=Sup
most
most
ADV
RBS
root
Degree=Pos
powerful
powerful
ADJ
JJ
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (SINV (`` ``) (S (NP (NP (DT The) (JJS strongest) (NN one)) (PP (IN in) (NP (DT a) (NN relationship)))) (VP (VBZ is) (ADVP (RB often)) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN person)) (SBAR (WHNP (WP who)) (S (VP (VBZ feels) (ADJP (JJ confident) (RB enough) (S (VP (TO to) (VP (VB talk) (PP (IN about) (NP (PRP$ their) (NNS feelings))))))))))))) (, ,) ('' '') (VP (VBZ says)) (NP (NML (JJ educational) (NN psychologist)) (NNP Ingrid) (NNP Collins)) (. .)))
"The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings," says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins.
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
The
DET
DT
amod
Degree=Sup
strong
strongest
ADJ
JJS
nsubj
Number=Sing
one
one
NOUN
NN
case
in
in
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Ind|PronType=Art
a
a
DET
DT
nmod
Number=Sing
relationship
relationship
NOUN
NN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advmod
often
often
ADV
RB
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
ccomp
Number=Sing
person
person
NOUN
NN
nsubj
PronType=Rel
who
who
PRON
WP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
feel
feels
VERB
VBZ
xcomp
Degree=Pos
confident
confident
ADJ
JJ
advmod
enough
enough
ADV
RB
mark
to
to
PART
TO
advcl
VerbForm=Inf
talk
talk
VERB
VB
case
about
about
ADP
IN
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Number=Plur|Person=3|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
their
their
PRON
PRP$
obl
Number=Plur
feeling
feelings
NOUN
NNS
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
amod
Degree=Pos
educational
educational
ADJ
JJ
nsubj
Number=Sing
psychologist
psychologist
NOUN
NN
appos
Number=Sing
Ingrid
Ingrid
PROPN
NNP
flat
Number=Sing
Collins
Collins
PROPN
NNP
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (NP (NML (JJ Psychosexual) (NN therapist)) (NNP Paula) (NNP Hall)) (VP (VBZ agrees)) (. .)))
Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees.
amod
Degree=Pos
psychosexual
Psychosexual
ADJ
JJ
nsubj
Number=Sing
therapist
therapist
NOUN
NN
flat
Number=Sing
Paula
Paula
PROPN
NNP
flat
Number=Sing
Hall
Hall
PROPN
NNP
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
agree
agrees
VERB
VBZ
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (`` ``) (NP (NP (DT The) (NN one)) (PP (IN with) (NP (DT the) (JJ upper) (NN hand)))) (VP (VBZ is) (ADVP (RB often)) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN person)) (SBAR (WHNP (WP who)) (S (VP (VBZ takes) (NP (DT the) (NN initiative))))))) (. .) ('' '')))
"The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative."
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
The
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Sing
one
one
NOUN
NN
case
with
with
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
amod
Degree=Pos
upper
upper
ADJ
JJ
nmod
Number=Sing
hand
hand
NOUN
NN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advmod
often
often
ADV
RB
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
root
Number=Sing
person
person
NOUN
NN
nsubj
PronType=Rel
who
who
PRON
WP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
take
takes
VERB
VBZ
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
obj
Number=Sing
initiative
initiative
NOUN
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
(ROOT (S (PP (IN In) (NP (NN fact))) (, ,) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN person)) (SBAR (WHNP (WP who)) (S (VP (VBZ says) (S (`` ``) (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP love) (NP (PRP you))) (`` '')))))) (ADVP (JJ first)) (VP (MD may) (ADVP (RB also)) (VP (VB be) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN one)) (SBAR (WHNP (WP who)) (S (VP (VBZ says) (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP 'm) (ADJP (JJ bored) (PP (IN with) (NP (PRP you)))) ('' ') (ADVP (RB first)))))))))) (. .) ('' '')))
In fact, the person who says "I love you" first may also be the one who says "I'm bored with you' first."
case
in
In
ADP
IN
obl
Number=Sing
fact
fact
NOUN
NN
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Sing
person
person
NOUN
NN
nsubj
PronType=Rel
who
who
PRON
WP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
ccomp
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
love
love
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
punct
''
''
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Degree=Pos|NumType=Ord
first
first
ADJ
JJ
aux
VerbForm=Fin
may
may
AUX
MD
advmod
also
also
ADV
RB
cop
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
root
Number=Sing
one
one
NOUN
NN
nsubj
PronType=Rel
who
who
PRON
WP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
say
says
VERB
VBZ
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
'm
AUX
VBP
ccomp
Degree=Pos
bored
bored
ADJ
JJ
case
with
with
ADP
IN
obl
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
punct
'
'
PUNCT
''
advmod
NumType=Ord
first
first
ADV
RB
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
(ROOT (S (NP (NNP Hall)) (VP (VBZ believes) (SBAR (IN that) (S (NP (JJ much)) (VP (VP (VBZ depends) (PP (IN on) (S (WHADVP (WRB how) (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP love) (NP (PRP you)))) ('' '')) (VP (VBZ is) (VP (VBN said)))))) (CC and) (S (NP (NP (DT the) (NN motivation)) (PP (IN of) (NP (DT the) (NN person)))) (VP (VBG saying) (NP (PRP it)))))))) (. .)))
Hall believes that much depends on how "I love you" is said and the motivation of the person saying it.
nsubj
Number=Sing
Hall
Hall
PROPN
NNP
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
believe
believes
VERB
VBZ
mark
that
that
SCONJ
IN
nsubj
Degree=Pos
much
much
ADJ
JJ
ccomp
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
depend
depends
VERB
VBZ
mark
on
on
SCONJ
IN
advmod
PronType=Int
how
how
ADV
WRB
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
advcl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
love
love
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
aux:pass
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
advcl
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
say
said
VERB
VBN
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nsubj
Number=Sing
motivation
motivation
NOUN
NN
case
of
of
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nmod
Number=Sing
person
person
NOUN
NN
advcl
VerbForm=Ger
say
saying
VERB
VBG
obj
Case=Acc|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (SQ (VBZ Is) (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VBN said) (SBAR (WHADVP (WRB when)) (S (NP (PRP they)) (VP (VBP 're) (ADJP (JJ drunk)))))) (. ?)))
Is it said when they're drunk?
aux:pass
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
Is
AUX
VBZ
nsubj:pass
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
root
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
say
said
VERB
VBN
advmod
PronType=Int
when
when
ADV
WRB
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs
they
they
PRON
PRP
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
're
AUX
VBP
advcl
Degree=Pos
drunk
drunk
ADJ
JJ
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (SQ (VBZ Is) (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VBN said) (SBAR (SBAR (IN before) (S (NP (PRP$ their) (NN partner)) (VP (VBZ flies) (PRT (RP off)) (PP (IN on) (NP (NN holiday)))))) (, ,) (CC and) (S (SBAR (WHNP (WP what)) (S (NP (PRP it)) (ADVP (RB really)) (VP (VBZ means)))) (VP (VBZ is) (`` ``) (S (INTJ (UH Please) (VB don) (`` ') (PRP t) (VP (VB be) (ADJP (JJ unfaithful) (PP (IN to) (NP (PRP me))))))) ('' ''))))) (. ?)))
Is it said before their partner flies off on holiday, and what it really means is "Please don' t be unfaithful to me"?
aux:pass
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
Is
AUX
VBZ
nsubj:pass
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
root
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
say
said
VERB
VBN
mark
before
before
SCONJ
IN
nmod:poss
Case=Gen|Number=Plur|Person=3|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs
their
their
PRON
PRP$
nsubj
Number=Sing
partner
partner
NOUN
NN
advcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
fly
flies
VERB
VBZ
compound:prt
off
off
ADP
RP
case
on
on
ADP
IN
obl
Number=Sing
holiday
holiday
NOUN
NN
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
cc
and
and
CCONJ
CC
nsubj:outer
PronType=Rel
what
what
PRON
WP
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
really
really
ADV
RB
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
mean
means
VERB
VBZ
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
discourse
please
Please
INTJ
UH
conj
Mood=Imp|VerbForm=Fin
don
don
VERB
VB
punct
'
'
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
t
t
PRON
PRP
cop
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
xcomp
Degree=Pos
unfaithful
unfaithful
ADJ
JJ
case
to
to
ADP
IN
obl
Case=Acc|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
me
PRON
PRP
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (PP (IN By) (S (VP (VBG saying) (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP I)) (VP (VBP love) (NP (PRP you)))) ('' '')))) (, ,) (NP (PRP they)) (VP (VBP are) (ADVP (RB really)) (VP (VBG saying) (`` ``) (SQ (VBP Do) (NP (PRP you)) (VP (VB love) (NP (PRP me)))))) (. ?) ('' '')))
By saying "I love you", they are really saying "Do you love me?"
mark
by
By
SCONJ
IN
advcl
VerbForm=Ger
say
saying
VERB
VBG
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
I
PRON
PRP
ccomp
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
love
love
VERB
VBP
obj
Case=Acc|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
nsubj
Case=Nom|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs
they
they
PRON
PRP
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
are
AUX
VBP
advmod
really
really
ADV
RB
root
Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part
say
saying
VERB
VBG
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
aux
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
do
Do
AUX
VBP
nsubj
Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs
you
you
PRON
PRP
ccomp
VerbForm=Inf
love
love
VERB
VB
obj
Case=Acc|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs
I
me
PRON
PRP
punct
?
?
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
(ROOT (S (SBAR (IN If) (FRAG (ADVP (RB so)))) (, ,) (MD would) (RB n't) (NP (NP (PRP it))) (ADVP (RB just)) (VP (VB be) (ADJP (RBR more) (JJ honest) (SBAR (S (VP (TO to) (VP (VB say) (NP (DT that)))))))) (. .)))
If so, wouldn't it just be more honest to say that.
mark
if
If
SCONJ
IN
advcl
so
so
ADV
RB
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
aux
VerbForm=Fin
would
would
AUX
MD
advmod
not
n't
PART
RB
expl
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
advmod
just
just
ADV
RB
cop
VerbForm=Inf
be
be
AUX
VB
advmod
Degree=Cmp
more
more
ADV
RBR
root
Degree=Pos
honest
honest
ADJ
JJ
mark
to
to
PART
TO
csubj
VerbForm=Inf
say
say
VERB
VB
obj
Number=Sing|PronType=Dem
that
that
PRON
DT
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (NP (NNP Collins)) (VP (VBZ agrees) (SBAR (IN that) (S (NP (NN intention)) (VP (VBZ is) (NP (NN everything)))))) (. .)))
Collins agrees that intention is everything.
nsubj
Number=Sing
Collins
Collins
PROPN
NNP
root
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
agree
agrees
VERB
VBZ
mark
that
that
SCONJ
IN
nsubj
Number=Sing
intention
intention
NOUN
NN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
ccomp
Number=Sing|PronType=Tot
everything
everything
PRON
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (`` ``) (S (NP (PRP It)) (VP (VBZ 's) (RB not) (SBAR (WHNP (WP what)) (S (VP (VBZ is) (VP (VBN said))))))) (, ,) (CC but) (SBAR (WHADVP (WRB how)) (S (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VBZ 's) (VP (VBN said))))) (. .)))
"It's not what is said, but how it's said.
punct
``
``
PUNCT
``
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
It
PRON
PRP
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
's
AUX
VBZ
advmod
not
not
PART
RB
root
PronType=Rel
what
what
PRON
WP
aux:pass
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
acl:relcl
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
say
said
VERB
VBN
punct
,
,
PUNCT
,
cc
but
but
CCONJ
CC
advmod
PronType=Int
how
how
ADV
WRB
nsubj:pass
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
aux:pass
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
's
AUX
VBZ
conj
Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass
say
said
VERB
VBN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
(ROOT (S (SBAR (WHNP (WP What)) (S (NP (PRP it)) (VP (VBZ comes) (PP (RB down) (PP (IN to)))))) (VP (VBZ is) (NP (NP (DT the) (NN sincerity)) (PP (IN of) (NP (DT the) (NN speaker))))) (. .) ('' '')))
What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker."
nsubj
PronType=Rel
what
What
PRON
WP
nsubj
Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs
it
it
PRON
PRP
acl:relcl
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
come
comes
VERB
VBZ
advmod
down
down
ADV
RB
obl
to
to
ADP
IN
cop
Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin
be
is
AUX
VBZ
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
root
Number=Sing
sincerity
sincerity
NOUN
NN
case
of
of
ADP
IN
det
Definite=Def|PronType=Art
the
the
DET
DT
nmod
Number=Sing
speaker
speaker
NOUN
NN
punct
.
.
PUNCT
.
punct
''
''
PUNCT
''
You must have been troubled by when to say "I love you" because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.  What if you say it first and your partner doesn't love you back? Or if they do say it but you don't feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be never racking and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn't it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand faster?  "A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal," says psychologist Sidney Crown. "But love is seldom equal." "All relationships go through power struggles but," he says, "if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in." That feeling of "I've always loved you more" may be subverted for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling. In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. "The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings," says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees. "The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative." In fact, the person who says "I love you" first may also be the one who says "I'm bored with you' first." Hall believes that much depends on how "I love you" is said and the motivation of the person saying it. Is it said when they're drunk? Is it said before their partner flies off on holiday, and what it really means is "Please don' t be unfaithful to me"? By saying "I love you", they are really saying "Do you love me?" If so, wouldn't it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees that intention is everything. "It's not what is said, but how it's said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker."