When a friend is sad about a tragedy, it's hard to know how to comfort him/ her.
When
a
friend
is
sad
about
a
tragedy
,
it
's
hard
to
know
how
to
comfort
him/
her
.
But the worst thing you can do is say nothing.
But
the
worst
thing
you
can
do
is
say
nothing
.
It could mean that you don't care.
It
could
mean
that
you
do
n't
care
.
You don't have to say much.. A single supportive phrase doesn't require absolutely perfect words to break the ice.
You
do
n't
have
to
say
much..
A
single
supportive
phrase
does
n't
require
absolutely
perfect
words
to
break
the
ice
.
Here are some conversation starters when life difficult situations
Here
are
some
conversation
starters
when
life
difficult
situations
1.
1
.
A friend loses his baby.
A
friend
loses
his
baby
.
Don't say: "Don't worry.
Do
n't
say
:
``
Do
n't
worry
.
You're so young.
You
're
so
young
.
You'll have another baby."
You
'll
have
another
baby
.
''
Do say: "I'm so sorry.
Do
say
:
``
I
'm
so
sorry
.
I can't begin to imagine what you are going through, but if you want to talk about it, call me anytime."
I
ca
n't
begin
to
imagine
what
you
are
going
through
,
but
if
you
want
to
talk
about
it
,
call
me
anytime
.
''
2.
2
.
A guy deserts your friend.
A
guy
deserts
your
friend
.
Don't say: "I never liked that rat bastard anyway!"
Do
n't
say
:
``
I
never
liked
that
rat
bastard
anyway
!
''
(If the couple winds up reconciling, you could end up losing your friend.)
(
If
the
couple
winds
up
reconciling
,
you
could
end
up
losing
your
friend
.
)
Do say: "Breaking up is always hard to deal with, but I'm here for you, whatever you need."
Do
say
:
``
Breaking
up
is
always
hard
to
deal
with
,
but
I
'm
here
for
you
,
whatever
you
need
.
''
3.
3
.
A friend has a death in the family.
A
friend
has
a
death
in
the
family
.
Don't say: "It's God's will."
Do
n't
say
:
``
It
's
God
's
will
.
''
or "I know exactly how you feel."
or
``
I
know
exactly
how
you
feel
.
''
Do say: "I'm sorry about your loss.
Do
say
:
``
I
'm
sorry
about
your
loss
.
What can I do to help?"
What
can
I
do
to
help
?
''
4.
4
.
A friend loses a job suddenly.
A
friend
loses
a
job
suddenly
.
Don't say: "Work is always boring.
Do
n't
say
:
``
Work
is
always
boring
.
Those bosses didn't suit you!"
Those
bosses
did
n't
suit
you
!
''
Do say: "I'm sorry for that, but I know there's an even better job waiting for you there.
Do
say
:
``
I
'm
sorry
for
that
,
but
I
know
there
's
an
even
better
job
waiting
for
you
there
.
Let's think about possibilities."
Let
's
think
about
possibilities
.
''
5.
5
.
Someone's pet dies.
Someone
's
pet
dies
.
Don't say: "Gee!
Do
n't
say
:
``
Gee
!
It was only a cat!"
It
was
only
a
cat
!
''
or "My roommate doesn't like her dog and she is getting rid of her dog.
or
``
My
roommate
does
n't
like
her
dog
and
she
is
getting
rid
of
her
dog
.
Do you want it?"
Do
you
want
it
?
''
Do say: "I'm sorry, she was such a great cat.
Do
say
:
``
I
'm
sorry
,
she
was
such
a
great
cat
.
How long did you have it?"
How
long
did
you
have
it
?
''
When a friend is sad about a tragedy, it's hard to know how to comfort him/ her. But the worst thing you can do is say nothing. It could mean that you don't care. You don't have to say much.. A single supportive phrase doesn't require absolutely perfect words to break the ice. Here are some conversation starters when life difficult situations  1. A friend loses his baby.  Don't say: "Don't worry. You're so young. You'll have another baby." Do say: "I'm so sorry. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through, but if you want to talk about it, call me anytime."  2. A guy deserts your friend.  Don't say: "I never liked that rat bastard anyway!" (If the couple winds up reconciling, you could end up losing your friend.) Do say: "Breaking up is always hard to deal with, but I'm here for you, whatever you need."  3. A friend has a death in the family.  Don't say: "It's God's will." or "I know exactly how you feel." Do say: "I'm sorry about your loss. What can I do to help?"  4. A friend loses a job suddenly.  Don't say: "Work is always boring. Those bosses didn't suit you!" Do say: "I'm sorry for that, but I know there's an even better job waiting for you there. Let's think about possibilities."  5. Someone's pet dies.  Don't say: "Gee! It was only a cat!" or "My roommate doesn't like her dog and she is getting rid of her dog. Do you want it?" Do say: "I'm sorry, she was such a great cat. How long did you have it?"