Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal.
Everyone
,
please
think
of
your
biggest
personal
goal
.
For real - you can take a second.
For
real
-
you
can
take
a
second
.
You've got to feel this to learn it.
You
've
got
to
feel
this
to
learn
it
.
Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay?
Take
a
few
seconds
and
think
of
your
personal
biggest
goal
,
okay
?
Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it.
Imagine
deciding
right
now
that
you
're
going
to
do
it
.
Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do.
Imagine
telling
someone
that
you
meet
today
what
you
're
going
to
do
.
Imagine their congratulations and their high image of you.
Imagine
their
congratulations
and
their
high
image
of
you
.
Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?
Does
n't
it
feel
good
to
say
it
out
loud
?
Don't you feel one step closer already, like it's already becoming part of your identity?
Do
n't
you
feel
one
step
closer
already
,
like
it
's
already
becoming
part
of
your
identity
?
Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut, because that good feeling now will make you less likely to do it.
Well
,
bad
news
:
you
should
have
kept
your
mouth
shut
,
because
that
good
feeling
now
will
make
you
less
likely
to
do
it
.
Repeated psychology tests have proved that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.
Repeated
psychology
tests
have
proved
that
telling
someone
your
goal
makes
it
less
likely
to
happen
.
Any time you have a goal, there are some steps that need to be done, some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.
Any
time
you
have
a
goal
,
there
are
some
steps
that
need
to
be
done
,
some
work
that
needs
to
be
done
in
order
to
achieve
it
.
Ideally, you would not be satisfied until you had actually done the work.
Ideally
,
you
would
not
be
satisfied
until
you
had
actually
done
the
work
.
But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality".
But
when
you
tell
someone
your
goal
and
they
acknowledge
it
,
psychologists
have
found
that
it
's
called
a
``
social
reality
''
.
The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.
The
mind
is
kind
of
tricked
into
feeling
that
it
's
already
done
.
And then, because you felt that satisfaction, you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.
And
then
,
because
you
felt
that
satisfaction
,
you
're
less
motivated
to
do
the
actual
hard
work
necessary
.
So, this goes against the conventional wisdom that we should tell our friends our goals.
So
,
this
goes
against
the
conventional
wisdom
that
we
should
tell
our
friends
our
goals
.
Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this and in 2009, he did some new tests that were published.
Peter
Gollwitzer
wrote
a
whole
book
about
this
and
in
2009
,
he
did
some
new
tests
that
were
published
.
It goes like this: 163 people across four separate tests - everyone wrote down their personal goals.
It
goes
like
this
:
163
people
across
four
separate
tests
-
everyone
wrote
down
their
personal
goals
.
Then, half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room, and half didn't.
Then
,
half
of
them
announced
their
commitment
to
this
goal
to
the
room
,
and
half
did
n't
.
Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work that would directly lead them toward their goals, but they were told that they could stop at any time.
Then
everyone
was
given
45
minutes
of
work
that
would
directly
lead
them
toward
their
goals
,
but
they
were
told
that
they
could
stop
at
any
time
.
Now, those who kept their mouths shut worked the entire 45 minutes, on average, and when asked afterward, said that they felt that they had a long way to go to still achieve their goals.
Now
,
those
who
kept
their
mouths
shut
worked
the
entire
45
minutes
,
on
average
,
and
when
asked
afterward
,
said
that
they
felt
that
they
had
a
long
way
to
go
to
still
achieve
their
goals
.
But those who had announced it quit after only 33 minutes, on average, and when asked afterward, said that they felt much closer to achieving their goals.
But
those
who
had
announced
it
quit
after
only
33
minutes
,
on
average
,
and
when
asked
afterward
,
said
that
they
felt
much
closer
to
achieving
their
goals
.
So audience, next time you want to tell someone your goal, what will you say?
So
audience
,
next
time
you
want
to
tell
someone
your
goal
,
what
will
you
say
?
(Silence) Exactly - well done.
(
Silence
)
Exactly
-
well
done
.
Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal. For real - you can take a second. You've got to feel this to learn it. Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay? Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it. Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do. Imagine their congratulations and their high image of you. Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud? Don't you feel one step closer already, like it's already becoming part of your identity?  Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut, because that good feeling now will make you less likely to do it. Repeated psychology tests have proved that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. Any time you have a goal, there are some steps that need to be done, some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it. Ideally, you would not be satisfied until you had actually done the work. But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality". The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done. And then, because you felt that satisfaction, you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary. So, this goes against the conventional wisdom that we should tell our friends our goals.  Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this and in 2009, he did some new tests that were published.  It goes like this: 163 people across four separate tests - everyone wrote down their personal goals. Then, half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room, and half didn't. Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work that would directly lead them toward their goals, but they were told that they could stop at any time. Now, those who kept their mouths shut worked the entire 45 minutes, on average, and when asked afterward, said that they felt that they had a long way to go to still achieve their goals. But those who had announced it quit after only 33 minutes, on average, and when asked afterward, said that they felt much closer to achieving their goals.  So audience, next time you want to tell someone your goal, what will you say? (Silence) Exactly - well done.