I'm sure your parents love you and would love you even if you didn't live up to their expectations, They are probably setting the bar as high as possible, so that you will aim high, That's right, but you need some confidence that they'll be there to catch you--and love you just the same--if you try and fail to achieve all their goals, Because what they're doing now could lead to some unexpected results .and not good ones.
I
'm
sure
your
parents
love
you
and
would
love
you
even
if
you
did
n't
live
up
to
their
expectations
,
They
are
probably
setting
the
bar
as
high
as
possible
,
so
that
you
will
aim
high
,
That
's
right
,
but
you
need
some
confidence
that
they
'll
be
there
to
catch
you
--
and
love
you
just
the
same
--
if
you
try
and
fail
to
achieve
all
their
goals
,
Because
what
they
're
doing
now
could
lead
to
some
unexpected
results
.and
not
good
ones
.
Giving you a lecture for achieving an A is a big mistake, Your parents might think they're giving you the motivation for succeeding, but all this pressure is making you feel like you can never be good enough, The risk is that you'll stop trying anything unless you are sure you'll be the best at it.
Giving
you
a
lecture
for
achieving
an
A
is
a
big
mistake
,
Your
parents
might
think
they
're
giving
you
the
motivation
for
succeeding
,
but
all
this
pressure
is
making
you
feel
like
you
can
never
be
good
enough
,
The
risk
is
that
you
'll
stop
trying
anything
unless
you
are
sure
you
'll
be
the
best
at
it
.
And that can actually cause your grades to fall downwards, creating the opposite effect than you parents indeed.
And
that
can
actually
cause
your
grades
to
fall
downwards
,
creating
the
opposite
effect
than
you
parents
indeed
.
Show your parents this letter that you wrote to me, Tell them that you love them so much, and you worry they won't love you if you don't achieve what they want, and how you suspect you may not be up to the challenge, Explain that you have other qualities that you wish they would value you for--such as your kindness, your sense of humor, your willingness to try and try again, and so on.
Show
your
parents
this
letter
that
you
wrote
to
me
,
Tell
them
that
you
love
them
so
much
,
and
you
worry
they
wo
n't
love
you
if
you
do
n't
achieve
what
they
want
,
and
how
you
suspect
you
may
not
be
up
to
the
challenge
,
Explain
that
you
have
other
qualities
that
you
wish
they
would
value
you
for
--
such
as
your
kindness
,
your
sense
of
humor
,
your
willingness
to
try
and
try
again
,
and
so
on
.
Have an honest talk with your parents about how all this pressure to be perfect is affecting you, If he talk doesn't go the way you hope, you might want to schedule a meeting between you, your parents and a counselor at school, The counselor can certainly help your parents understand how this kind of unhealthy pressure can lead to negative results, and give them advice about how to better encourage you to be all that you can be, at school and outside of it.
Have
an
honest
talk
with
your
parents
about
how
all
this
pressure
to
be
perfect
is
affecting
you
,
If
he
talk
does
n't
go
the
way
you
hope
,
you
might
want
to
schedule
a
meeting
between
you
,
your
parents
and
a
counselor
at
school
,
The
counselor
can
certainly
help
your
parents
understand
how
this
kind
of
unhealthy
pressure
can
lead
to
negative
results
,
and
give
them
advice
about
how
to
better
encourage
you
to
be
all
that
you
can
be
,
at
school
and
outside
of
it
.
I'm sure your parents love you and would love you even if you didn't live up to their expectations, They are probably setting the bar as high as possible, so that you will aim high, That's right, but you need some confidence that they'll be there to catch you--and love you just the same--if you try and fail to achieve all their goals, Because what they're doing now could lead to some unexpected results .and not good ones.  Giving you a lecture for achieving an A is a big mistake, Your parents might think they're giving you the motivation for succeeding, but all this pressure is making you feel like you can never be good enough, The risk is that you'll stop trying anything unless you are sure you'll be the best at it. And that can actually cause your grades to fall downwards, creating the opposite effect than you parents indeed.  Show your parents this letter that you wrote to me, Tell them that you love them so much, and you worry they won't love you if you don't achieve what they want, and how you suspect you may not be up to the challenge, Explain that you have other qualities that you wish they would value you for--such as your kindness, your sense of humor, your willingness to try and try again, and so on.  Have an honest talk with your parents about how all this pressure to be perfect is affecting you, If he talk doesn't go the way you hope, you might want to schedule a meeting between you, your parents and a counselor at school, The counselor can certainly help your parents understand how this kind of unhealthy pressure can lead to negative results, and give them advice about how to better encourage you to be all that you can be, at school and outside of it.